Sit still, my daughter, until you find out how the matter will turn out; for the man will not rest until he has concluded the matter this day.”
Ruth 3:18
One of the most common struggles today is the woman in waiting, waiting while the man takes forever to commit, often due to one issue or another. I love how Naomi advises Ruth in such a season: Be still. Be patient. Yes, I know, you’ve done your part. You’ve worked on your character. You’ve prayed. You’ve positioned yourself. You’ve aligned your life not only for marriage but for every opportunity God may bring your way.
Now, sit still. Now, let God do the rest. Let the Holy Spirit move and do what only He can do. There’s only so much you can do. You are responsible for obedience, but the outcome, that’s in God’s hands. There were times I knew I had done my part, prayed, obeyed, aligned myself and yet, it frustrated me to still have to wait.
I imagine Ruth may have thought, “Surely Boaz will follow me home and take action right away.” But Naomi speaks with wisdom: “Wait, my daughter. He will not rest until he has settled the matter, today.” Maybe not in your timing, but in God’s timing. It is true , that our readiness doesn’t guarantee immediate results. Just because you’re prepared doesn’t mean the door opens instantly. But God is always working behind the scenes.
I love how Boaz responded, he took the matter seriously, just as Naomi said he would. And so will God. He is aware. He knows you need that breakthrough. He knows you’re trusting Him for provision, for help, for marriage, for clarity. He sees the weight you carry and the desires in your heart. And like Boaz, He will not rest until the matter is settled.
Do you realize Boaz didn’t just respond to silence or inaction? Ruth took initiative. Now, I’m not saying you should go out and say, “Marry me now, I love you.” No, that’s not the point. But be active. Be intentional. Be prayerful. Be visible. You want to be found, but your page is blank? God must bring someone to… what? A ghost profile?
Let’s be honest people of God, some expectations are just ridiculous. Nobody knows you write because you never post. When I write, I share my links myself. Why? Because people need to know this is what I do. I’m positioning myself for the opportunities I’m praying for. Doors open when there’s something to open them to. This “ghost mode” we love so we seem mysterious, deep, hidden… and then we still expect people to support us? Support what, exactly? Boaz only saw Ruth in the field not hiding in Naomi’s house. So stop hiding. Work your field. Be seen. Be active. Position yourself. Faith is not passive, it moves, prepares, and shows up. Shall we take some prayer points?
- Father help me to move from my Moab, my past, , to move on from a place of hopelessness and trust you with my future…
- I pray for divine alignment. I pray for discernment. May I be found at the right field, at the right time
- If you are single – Lord l pray that my spouse will hear a good report about me
- If you are single – Lord l pray that my spouse will see me, identify me and not waste time.
- If you are married – Lord l ask that you protect my husband and children, may our fields never run dry, may our marriage never fail.
- If you are seeking for the fruit of the womb – Lord the same way you gave Ruth a son, give me my own son
- If you are divorced or widowed – The God of Ruth who restores completely, restore my life.
- Lastly, Lord l pray for the ability to discern the right relationships and to nurture them well.
I want you to show up tomorrow for reflection Friday. There are some questions we need to answer to help us as we continue to live in purpose. If you have a prayer request, drop it in the comment section, let someone agree with you.
By the way, congratulations on your wedding! 💃❤️
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