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Nothing changes until you change

Happy New Month, people of God.

I hope we are all excited and expectant for the things God will do in this month of June. Many people are starting to feel discouraged because they have not achieved certain things they hoped for. Some are looking at their goals and saying, “I thought by now I would have done A, B, and C.”

And honestly, it is okay to feel that way. But we also need to have honest conversations with ourselves. While some people are truly waiting on God, others are the reason things have not changed in their lives. Not every delay is spiritual. Sometimes it is inconsistency, fear, procrastination, lack of discipline, or failure to act. There is no pity party. There is no candy to hand out for excuses. Let’s talk about that a little.

Let’s use an example metaphorically. Imagine there is a young person praying and trusting God for a big opportunity. And while that person is waiting, God tells them, “Study this course. Learn this skill. Prepare yourself in this area because this is where I am going to lift you.” The young person starts the course excited, but somewhere along the way, they lose discipline. They start skipping classes. They stop taking it seriously. Instead of studying, they spend hours on social media, TikTok, entertainment, and everything else except the very thing God instructed them to focus on. A year or two passes.

Then one day, God finally sends a destiny helper. Someone comes and says, “I heard you studied in this field. I would love for you to join my company. Send me your certificate so we can proceed.”And the young person says, “Um
 I actually started the course, but I never finished.” Then the opportunity passes to someone else. After that, the same young person goes back to God frustrated


“Lord, I’ve been fasting.”
“Lord, I’ve been praying.”
“Lord, I’ve been faithful in church.”
“Why are things not working?” And they weep all day and night until they are pink in the face.

Meanwhile, heaven can clearly see that it was not a spiritual attack. It was a lack of preparation. Opportunity came. A destiny helper came.
But the opportunity did not meet a prepared person. Sometimes we turn things into spiritual warfare when in reality it is poor stewardship, inconsistency, laziness, or lack of discipline. When you were supposed to study, you did not.
When you were supposed to build your portfolio, you delayed. When you were supposed to create your CV, you procrastinated. Now the application closes in five minutes, and suddenly that is when you rush to Canva or one other app.

Preparation matters. Like I said before, there is no candy for laziness. I’ve been seeing many posts saying, “We are already in the second half of the year,” but technically we are not there yet. The second half begins after June. But anyway, seeing those posts made me think about something important. Before we even address the anxiety of not achieving goals my first question is,
What did you do with the first five months?

And this question is for all of us, including me. Because even as I write this, there are things I know I was supposed to have done by now. Do you realise that for some people, the vision board will become the same vision board next year? We can do 21 days of fasting at the beginning of the year.We can enter the year with fire, motivation, declarations, and excitement.But halfway through the year, we are still the same people, with the same habits, the same inconsistency, and the same excuses.

There’s a saying that goes:
“Nothing changes until you change.”I have found that to be very true. At some point, you have to face yourself and face the truth.

“Oh, my spiritual life is not growing.”
But God has been telling you to pray.

“Oh, I know God called me to do this”
But someone who heard the same call yesterday has already started moving.

When I started doing the school projects, many people came to me saying, “God told me to do this too.” And my response is this, If you truly understood the level of pain, confusion, and struggles those students are facing in classrooms every day, you would have started the moment God told you to. Even I cannot carry the burden of these school projects alone. That is one of the reasons I started Link Up Africa to raise more people who are willing to respond to these problems.

When God tells you to do something, there is always a reason. Do you think God speaks randomly?Do you think He gives assignments “just because”? Nothing in the Bible happened without purpose.There’s a reason Ruth went to Bethlehem with Naomi. There’s a reason Mordecai had a niece called Esther. There’s a reason David was in the field before the palace. There’s always a reason why. So when God tells you to do something, do it.

God already knows that by June, some people will begin crying, praying, and asking why things are not working, while ignoring the instructions they were given months ago. Many times (not all the time), but many times when things are not working, it is because we did not do the work. Maybe we need to go back to those vision boards. Maybe we need to pause the crowd, the noise, and the endless group projects, and go back to ourselves as individuals. Ask yourself, How far do I actually want to go? Where do I want to go? Who am I becoming? Because sometimes we gather too many people around a vision, and the truth is, nobody is moving. Everyone is talking, planning, discussing, strategizing, but nothing is actually happening.

One thing about me is this: if I start something and invite people into it, the moment I realise there is no seriousness, urgency, or consistency, I will continue without them. I do not mean that emotionally or bitterly. I just understand that progress cannot wait forever for people who are undecided. If we said we are building something together and you keep dragging your feet, I am not going to bury the vision because of that. I will continue alone if I have to. You will catch up later o!

Some of you are delaying your own destiny because you are too attached to moving as a group. You wanted to start a business with six friends, but nobody is pushing except you. Go do it alone. You wanted to write the book together, but everyone keeps postponing meetings. Write it alone. There are no sentiments when it comes to purpose and progress.

Maybe that is one thing many people are afraid of doing things alone. I have realised that sometimes there is too much advice, too much planning, too much discussion, and too little movement. The whole year cannot be strategy meetings. Imagine if God delivered the children of Israel from Egypt, and every few steps they stopped again to “re-strategise.” Imagine moving for three days, then stopping for another week to discuss the route. Moving one day, then holding another conference about the journey. At some point, God would simply say, “Move already.”

Some of you already have enough advice. You already have enough wisdom. You already have enough confirmation. But you keep asking more people. One confirmation after another. One opinion after another. One prophetic word after another. And now you are confused because too many voices are speaking into something God already settled.

Is confirmation bad? No. Confirmation can bring clarity and peace. But some people have camped at the bus stop of confirmation for three years and still have not moved. At that point, it is no longer about confirmation. It becomes fear. It becomes procrastination. It becomes laziness disguised as spirituality.God called Samuel, and Samuel responded as a young man. He did not spend the next six months waiting for twenty more confirmations before obeying. Sometimes the things we fear doing the most are the very things God already told us to do. We are just afraid to move.

That is why some people enter a new year and leave it the exact same way. No growth. No movement. No evidence that they even responded to what God placed inside of them. And by the way, having a job or running a business does not automatically mean you are fully walking in purpose. There is more inside of you. There are gifts you have ignored, ideas you have postponed, talents you have buried, and assignments you keep delaying. Some people are productive in survival, but inactive in purpose. And God is still waiting for you to move. Anyways, e don cast. Happy new month. Do you best o.

If you read my blogs but have never met this  Wonderful Jesus that I’m always writing about,  you’d love to get to know Him, Or you know The Lord but have found yourself drifting far from Him, I would love to talk with you. Please send me an email  on yieldedcwcenter@gmail.com or simply comment, and I will reach out to you

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Building against all odds 2 đŸ§±

The truth is, I’ve never been a small dreamer. Once I decide I want to do something, I think from the end to the beginning. Sometimes my own dreams challenge me. My plans even make me worry sometimes lol, just because of how far ahead I’ve already gone in my mind. One of my biggest challenges has always been telling people about the things I want to build. You can see the doubt in their faces. You can almost hear them thinking, “Girl, I think this time you’ve gone too far.” But honestly, I can’t help it.

When you’re building, you will meet people who don’t understand your vision. They will hear your dreams and still have something negative to say. That’s normal because not everyone will see things the way you do. It’s YOUR vision after all. It’s very difficult to find people who truly understand your vision, especially in the early stages. Most people do not believe in raw materials. They only start believing when they can finally see the structure standing.

Some won’t even believe the structure itself. They want to see the finished house, painted, furnished, complete before they support it or believe in it. There are buildings being constructed right now that only look like bricks and cement to the average eye, but in the mind of the visionary, a mansion is being built. The final result cannot yet be seen physically, but the architect already has confidence in what it will become. So don’t be discouraged by people who only see bricks and stone. As long as your vision is growing, progressing, and being built with purpose, it will come out great.

Another thing, be careful who you share your vision with and who you do not. Some people should not even know that you are building. Others should never know what you are building or when you plan to build it. Not everyone is a witch, but some people truly have a master’s degree in discouragement. I personally do not keep company with people who constantly speak doubt. The ones who say, “Hmm
 I don’t think you have what it takes.” Madam, please step aside. “I can do all things through Christ who strengthens me.” Your building season is too sensitive to allow just anyone access to the construction site of your vision.

If you are building a house, you do not ask a doctor how to lay bricks. You go to architects, plumbers, builders, and painters, people who understand the assignment. If you are painting, why would you ask a carpenter for painting advice? You understand? Do not surround your vision with random opinions from people who have no understanding of where you are going. Be intentional about who you allow to speak into your building season.

Do not get excited and team up with people who cannot lift a tool. Whatever you are building, you need hardworking people around you. I am very strict about productivity. I cannot bring into my team people who will sing lullabies while important tasks are not getting done. If someone takes responsibility for the interior of a building, there should be progress. There should be urgency, preparation, and results. Why should the interior still look like a wilderness after such a long time?Build with builders.

Do not build with people who only love the idea of building but do not want to put their hands to work. Those kinds of people become dead weight. They slow the work down. They drag their feet. They miss deadlines. They keep postponing. They are always unprepared. You constantly have to chase after them just to get things done. You cannot build something meaningful with people who lack consistency and discipline. If you are a musician and your band is constantly disorganised, they can destroy your career before it even begins. You need solid builders people with skill, zeal, discipline, and capacity. People who understand that great things are built one brick at a time, with consistency.

Lastly for today, put sentiments aside when building. Am I saying become a robot? No. But when you are building something serious, there will be meetings, decisions, deadlines, and responsibilities. Unfortunately, tears are not the language of the boardroom. Emotions alone cannot produce results or productivity. Sometimes you and your team will need to put feelings aside and focus on the work.

If the majority agrees on a direction and one person insists on something different without a solid reason, the team cannot stop everything because of emotions or threats to resign. Building requires maturity. And let me tell you my people, if you want to survive in the marketplace, you cannot be overly sensitive to noise. The marketplace is noisy. There will be pressure, opinions, criticism, competition, and challenges. If every bit of noise throws you off emotionally, then the marketplace will frustrate you.

Train yourself to stay focused despite the noise, or you will lose opportunities and business. Put sentiments aside when necessary. If a friend is not meeting deadlines, address it honestly. If a friend is inconsistent, speak about it directly. The vision cannot collapse because people are afraid to have difficult conversations. Building requires accountability, discipline, and emotional maturity. Let me leave you with that for today. See you tomorrow.

If you read my blogs but have never met this  Wonderful Jesus that I’m always writing about,  you’d love to get to know Him, Or you know The Lord but have found yourself drifting far from Him, I would love to talk with you. Please send me an email  on yieldedcwcenter@gmail.com or simply comment, and I will reach out to you

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Building against all odds đŸ§±đŸ’ȘđŸŸ

People ask me questions about how I’m able to do two or three things simultaneously, how I can write a book and still do this and that. Sometimes it’s actually people who remind me of all that I’m doing because it has become so much a part of me that I’ve eased into it naturally. Some people tell me they struggle to even do one thing and finish it, or they can’t seem to find enough confidence to step out and pursue a dream or goal. First of all, my biggest, biggest secret is GOD.

I’m one of those people who, if you took God away from them, not only would they die, they would be completely destroyed. I live and breathe God. Anything else I share after this is not nearly as important as GOD. Have a relationship with God, and I’ll tell you why that’s important when it comes to building against all odds. People of God, there is only so much you can do without God. I’m sharing this with you because many of us want to dare and build without God. The bible has a message for such people;

“Unless the Lord builds the house,the builders labor in vain. Unless the Lord watches over the city,
the guards stand watch in vain.”

The Book of Psalms 127:1 (NIV)

I have no desire to build without God. Not a business, not a career, not a marriage, not a friendship not even my own social media page and l am very serious. I have realised that everything without God is nothing, but one with God is majority. That vision you have will turn to dust and carry no impact for a generation if you do not involve God in it.

How can God give you a vision or a project and then you run with it without Him? Why are you so caught up trying to get men to give you direction on a God-given vision? I’m telling you exactly how I live. I discipline myself to put God in everything. It is a discipline. People will say all sorts of things about how you “spiritualise everything,” but life is spiritual. Nobody gets to the top without the backing of a spirit, and for us believers, we have GOD. We build with GOD.

People will say, “Oh, this is business, we will talk about God later.” “Why involve God in everything?” “We are talking about your sports career, where does God fit in?” “We are discussing marriage, if I love you and you love me, where does God fit in?” “Stop being so caught up with this Bible thing. Stop all this prayer.” My people, don’t listen to such foolish advice. You need God in everything.

I was so inspired listening to Folorunso Alakija, the wealthiest woman in Africa and one of the wealthiest in the globe. She brings God into every interview, every room, whether there are unbelievers there or not. In her words, “God wants to be involved even in your cooking. He has to be your major stakeholder in that company.” Do you finally get it? Without God, you will build, oh you will build, but it will be in vain. Now let’s talk about other things that keep me going against all odds.

I didn’t grow up with a silver spoon and glass shoes. As a matter of fact, my parents gave me God. At first, it felt like a burden because we were forced to go to church and all, but eventually I fell in love with God. When I did, I never asked God why we didn’t have ABC. I was more than happy with God, although deep down I knew I was called for great things. And let me tell you two things, great things are not only for people who grew up in mansions and glass houses with billionaire parents. Great things are also for the people who, even though their background wasn’t fabulous enough to get a simple birthday cake, still carried a knowing deep inside them that they were called for greatness.

I want to ask you something because it’s very important in this “lesson” I’m trying to teach us: when you look at yourself in the mirror, what do you see? Your answer will either fuel your fire or pour water over it. This is where many people fail, they don’t think much of themselves. What you think of yourself is what you become. Motivational speakers will tell you, “Arise, you are a lion,” or “Shake yourself, you’re an eagle.” But I say, if you have never seen yourself as such, we can call you all the animals in the jungle and you still won’t become that. How many people are constantly told they are beautiful yet still doubt it? The issue is not always the world , sometimes it’s you.

When you look at yourself, do you see a great woman or man who is going to become a dynamic leader and impact a generation, or do you just see someone who wants a job so they can buy KFC at month-end? Do you see city, country, continent, or globe? Because some people cannot see beyond “house.” They only want to make it so they can eat McDonald’s and clear their Shein cart. They always say, “I’m not asking for much.”

One thing about me? I am asking for much

. Some of you have been asking me to tell you “how.” This is my how. Find your own how too. I said I ask for much, and when I do, I don’t care even if I only have 200 rand to my name, I still see greatness. Great people ask for much. Lord, give me MUCH. Have you heard of the evangelists who asked God for nations? Someone said “Give me Scotland!” And you are fine with nothing? There’s contentment then there’s comfort in smallness. Know the difference.

I will stop here and we continue tomorrow. You can truly be that great man or woman, but if we have to beg you to see it in yourself, I don’t see it working. You must break out of that shell and think much of yourself. Some of you really don’t think much of yourselves. You are always running behind people like a tail, yet scripture says you are the head! You act like a shadow and I wonder why. People full of talents, gifts, greatness, ah! You better wake up because tomorrow’s blog will require you to carry tissue. We must deal with some things o, but I love you still. Bye!

If you read my blogs but have never met this  Wonderful Jesus that I’m always writing about,  you’d love to get to know Him, Or you know The Lord but have found yourself drifting far from Him, I would love to talk with you. Please send me an email  on yieldedcwcenter@gmail.com or simply comment, and I will reach out to you

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Obedience

It’s been a while my people, I trust you’re all well. I’ve been spending my brain writing another book, so I haven’t really had the inspiration to write to you lately. Today however, I woke up thinking about something. We often talk about obedience and we preach about it, but have we truly learned the ways of obedience? What does it really mean to obey God, and why should we? If He gave us free will, shouldn’t we just do what we want? I don’t know about you, but I’ve had moments where I knowingly didn’t obey. It wasn’t a “mistake” I was fully aware that I wasn’t obeying. Sometimes I obeyed, but only in my own timing. Sometimes I delayed. Sometimes I questioned why. Sometimes I threw tantrums.

The topic of obedience is a serious matter because, if we really think about it soberly, our obedience to God benefits us more than it benefits Him. It is for our own safety. Obedience keeps us within the will of God, and in doing so, keeps us aligned with His Spirit. Let’s look at an obvious example: Abraham. The man had a family, friends, and probably an entire life established in his hometown. Then one day God simply says, “Leave.”

We may read that story and think, what’s so difficult about that? But remember, God didn’t hand him a full proof plan. He said, “I will show you where I’m taking you.” People who have never moved to a foreign land may not fully understand what it takes to start a new life somewhere with nothing but the word and promises of God. Recently, one of my friends got married and relocated to another country. That takes both a leap of faith and obedience. How does a man trust God’s voice without seeing physical proof, get up, pack his life, and leave simply because God said so?

Looking at my own life, I’ve lost money trying to do things my own way. You know, the Bible says the men who were with Jonah on the ship lost their cargo and goods because of one man’s disobedience. The fact that your disobedience can affect your family and even the people around you should be an eye opener to how important obedience truly is. Most of the time, obeying God does not make sense to the natural man because how can Way B possibly be better than Way A? Way A looks perfect. Way B looks rocky. How is it a better option?

How do you obey when God says shut down a business that is bringing profit? How does He say marry the foreigner, marry Ruth? How does He tell David, “You will not build for Me, your son will”? If it were some of us, with our misplaced zeal, we would have argued and insisted, “No, I will build this for You,” thinking it is proof of our love and devotion, when in reality it would be outright disobedience.

What about obedience with our resources? We place demands on God for wealth, yet our ten percent hasn’t made it to church in months, maybe even years. We place demands on God for a spouse, yet we have not obeyed Him with our bodies. We still take His temple to strange beds and lie down with unbelievers. We hear “fast and pray,” yet we choose our own way. We hear “do not,” and we do it anyway. We hear “do,” and we “do not”. It’s even in the way we mishandle the visions and life plans He gives us. God knows why He brought you up in that family and in that specific way. He knows why you had to be from Greece or Zambia. He knows why you had to have those parents. He has it all planned out, and so when He gives a command or instruction, it is fitting for your purpose.

It is painful to want something and not receive it, but it is far better to go without it and remain aligned with God. Obedience, as I have discovered, is often a one man journey with God. God told Abraham, so Abraham could not leave the decision to Sarah or Lot. God tells you, “Start the organisation.” Your friends may advise you, but you still have to keep in step with the Spirit because not every instruction is a group instruction. Learn to discern when an instruction is for you and when it is for a collective. Don’t rush to announce your consecration to everyone around you. Imagine Abraham gathering his entire family and friends saying, “Let’s move,” when God had only spoken to him.

“His mother said to the servants, ‘Whatever He says to you, do it.’”

John 2:5 NKJV

Obey God. Obey God more than man. Obey God more than books, motivational speeches, and quotes. Obey God even when it is painful to leave. Obey God even when it costs you to detach. Obey God in the storm and obey Him in the sunny days. Obey with tears in your eyes or laughter in your mouth. Obey Him when there is only a little flour left for you and your son. Obey Him when He says lead the stubborn people. Obey when He says borrow the jars & borrow not a few. Obey when He says pour the oil. Obey when He says stay, stand, walk, talk, be silent, get up, sing, or dance.

People of God, whatever He says, do it. Mary told the workers, “Whatever He tells you to do, do it.” The key words are, whatever, He, do it. No matter what it is, if He said it, you must do it. “Whatever” means no matter how big or small, hard or easy. Provided God is the One who said it, you must do it. Not contemplate it endlessly, not weigh it against your own opinions, but do it.

See you tomorrow, my yielded people. I love you.

If you read my blogs but have never met this  Wonderful Jesus that I’m always writing about,  you’d love to get to know Him, Or you know The Lord but have found yourself drifting far from Him, I would love to talk with you. Please send me an email  on yieldedcwcenter@gmail.com or simply comment, and I will reach out to yo

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Authenticity in relationships

Two friends in their peak years have plans to become great in their different careers and areas of purpose. They have frequent meetings with each other and they have no doubt that surely in the next 3-5 years they will be tangible results of their hardwork. Let’s talk about authenticity in relationships. Friendship, family, even marriage does not erase the importance of authenticity. If these two friends are not authentic to their individual unique paths, they will end up tagging each other along to a dead end. What I mean to say is, you can have the same goals to become great but always remember that you were not called to copy and paste destiny not even with your best friend . Greatness can be for all, in what way? Is unique to you.

I have friends who I know will be great on the land and so will l, but you would never find us trying to copy and paste our different instructions from God. If God tells me to fast 21 days for a particular thing, I will not expect Siwe to do the same. If God tells her to move to France, we can discuss it and pray about it, but guess what? She’s moving to France alone. There are obviously times when we get the same nudge but I’m driving at the fact that, if you don’t know how to stay in your lane you will end up in locations that will destroy your destiny.

The fact that your friends are doing it doesn’t mean you should. I’m very careful on this because in an attempt to lift each other up and wish each other well, we may end up influencing each other to take up a path that seems right but leads to destruction. A perfect example would be Ruth and Orpah. The two are in the same situation. They are both widows, a chance to relocate has come and while Orpah loves Ruth and Naomi, I’ve said this a couple of times, there is no Boaz for Orpah in Bethlehem. Learn to not tag along into projects and things God has not led you to. I have quite prophetic friends but I know when the word is not for me. I know when an instruction is for them. I know when I’m supposed to tag along to Bethlehem & when I should kiss them goodbye.

If you don’t have an identity or anything that drives you, you will end up living out someone’s destiny. You will be in competition with people when you were supposed to be focusing on your own path. May l even say this? A group of friends can desire marriage and God will give a word but it doesn’t mean it’s for everyone. So sometimes we say “God is in the neighbourhood,” and we assume we’re about to step into something when God actually came for the neighbour. I don’t mean to discourage anyone but be careful of living someone else’s life.

”Let’s do ABC.” Yes sure we can ONLY if God has also led me to. We should be able to love each other enough to allow each other to choose what we want to do. Love that forces the other person to do what you’re doing is dangerous. Your friends should be able to choose their own paths even if it’s different from yours. Authenticity. Be real. If God says turn left, you don’t choose to go right because three of your friends have gone right. Friendships and other relationships should never be a place where destiny is choked.

Purpose is not a one size fits all. You don’t have to do anything I’m doing, do what YOU have to do. You don’t have to buy the same house , drive the same cars, and live in the same neighbourhood. Do l wish to live with my friends in the same house? Yes. But I know we have different interests and instructions. Some people don’t even know how they started dressing up in a certain way, it was their attempt to look like someone else. Be authentic in your beliefs. Your relationships should be built on authentic principles. People should know that no matter how much you love them in those relationships you will not bow to idols & serve other gods. I am authentically Christian!

Today l want us to understand that we each have a unique purpose. For some, your husband will come from Greece & God says move, your family should not stand in the way. For some, God will lead you to build a school, don’t take that and make it a corporate word. Know when things are to be done by you only. I believe that authenticity simplifies our walk with God. There are people God is still waiting for in Bethlehem but they are in Egypt because they tagged along. What has God said to you about your destiny? Stay in that lane and fulfil purpose.

If you read my blogs but have never met this  Wonderful Jesus that I’m always writing about,  you’d love to get to know Him, Or you know The Lord but have found yourself drifting far from Him, I would love to talk with you. Please send me an email  on yieldedcwcenter@gmail.com or simply comment, and I will reach out to you