Happy new week, my Yielded People. In this new week, we will be taking up a new topic as a continuation of our series on masturbation. If itâs your first time here, Iâd encourage you to start with the five-part series we began with, as it will provide the foundation for what weâll be discussing going forward. As a disclaimer, everything we discuss here may not be enough to help someone who is chronically addicted. In such cases, you may need counselling or to expose yourself to more resources such as sermons, books, and other biblical teachings.
We eat according to our hunger. If your hunger is greater, you find more food. All Iâm asking from everyone is intentionality and a genuine level of seriousness as we journey through this together. Shall we?
“Before you can break out of prison, you must realise you are locked up.”
Anonymous
When you have a headache, you know it. When you have a runny tummy, you know it. How do you know? Because you feel the pain and the discomfort. Nobody has to tell you that you have a headache. Nobody has ever had to tell me that I have period pains, Iâm the one who tells them because Iâm the one wearing the shoe, so I know how tight it is. In the same way, whether you masturbate or not is something only you truly know. I canât tell you that.
Whether youâre addicted or whether you do it often, I honestly donât know. You are the one who has to come to that truth, which is why on Reflection Friday last week I asked everyone to confront themselves. But how many people actually did that?The best thing you can do is take action about your situation. Do you know that some people could have been free a long time ago? But as I said before, when sin is enjoyable, we make excuses for it.
If you simply sit down trying to figure out why you got the headache or how you could have avoided it, while doing nothing about it, youâre wasting valuable time. The bottom line is that you have the headache, so you get painkillers as soon as possible. Likewise, you wonât stop masturbating simply because you read about it on this blog. You will stop because you want to because youâve become honest about the effects it has had on your life. You have to stop avoiding your struggle.
Understanding why you should stop masturbating is the foundation, learning how to stop is the action. Last week I was talking to my little niece, and she told me she had cried so much because she had been given some flu syrup that tasted âterribleâ. Even though she had a bad flu, a blocked nose, and all the discomfort that came with it, she didnât want to take the medicine because of its taste. As I thought about that, I realised that some treatments are painful, unpleasant, and difficult to take. What I loved, though, is that she still took it, even while crying. Imagine if she had refused it simply because it tasted bad, she would have remained sick.
In the same way, Iâm saying to you that the treatment for the âmasturbation fluâ may be difficult. It may require sacrifice, discipline, accountability, and you may even cry through the process. But if you refuse the treatment because itâs uncomfortable, you will remain in the condition. Youâll continue to experience the symptoms and the consequences. We all know that, if left untreated, the flu can become serious and, in some cases, people kick the bucket. Donât allow yourself to suffer from a curable disease. Sometimes victory starts with warfare, the âbitter taste.â
If you are reading this, you maybe seeking freedom from masturbation but for some, if you think you are not addicted to masturbation, think of it this way. Fish don’t know they’re in the water. If you tried explaining it, they’d probably say, “Water? What’s water?” What that simply means is, you couldâve done it too long that itâs your natural habitat. You donât see anything unusual about it, so you donât even know if youâre addicted or not. Itâs just become a lifestyle, no conscience, no repentance, just vibes right?
To stop masturbating, there has to first be confrontation and diagnosis. Imagine getting ARVs for a a toothache? Or getting medlemon for an eye problem. The more the pain, the stronger the medicine. The weaker the pain, the weaker the medicine. Are you addicted? Donât rush to finish reading. Read that part again. Answer these questions please. Answer in all truth and honesty
- Are you addicted?
- On a scale of 1-10 how bad is it?
- How many times do you do it a day?
- Whatâs the time you usually do it?
- Where do you usually do it?
- Do you watch porn?
- Were you introduced to porn or you discovered it yourself?
- Have you ever been molested?
- When did you start masturbating?
- Do you want to be free?
- Do you enjoy it?
- How do you feel afterwards?
- Are you willing to put in the work?
Our first step is self introspection & confrontation. If you lie there, guess what? Youâre lying to yourself. If youâre honest and actually answer those questions, I can tell you for free, youâre off to a good start. Bring someone here by reposting the link to your status or groups. I love you.
If you read my blogs but have never met this Wonderful Jesus that Iâm always writing about, youâd love to get to know Him, Or you know The Lord but have found yourself drifting far from Him, I would love to talk with you. Please send me an email on yieldedcwcenter@gmail.com or simply comment, and I will reach out to you
