The wounded heart

While l was in prayer the other day, God gave me a new book title. l like to pray and when I’m done, I remain still in the presence of God and wait to hear Him speak. This is what He said to me; The Wound. I quickly wrote it on a piece of paper. He said, “Many people have ignored wounds and that’s why they keep losing. Attend to the wound.” This is how many of us are right now;

There’s no getting around it: healing is going to take some time and effort. There’s no pressure to become like your friend who bounced back quickly, or fictional characters in movies and books who heal and are back with tidy endings in two hours. Your wound is your wound. It is best known by you. You know what happened and how long you’ve been bleeding. If you have healed l bless God for your sake but if you know that deep down that you put a bandage and never checked if the bleeding stopped, this is for you.

Why would God say this? Is it that He has seen how we are on the field stretching hearts that are barely surviving? I have shared my story before , many times; l grew up a very broken girl. I was the kind of child that would isolate in the toilet because my family is big so you can’t “cry in your own space” because you don’t even have your own space. I would stay in the toilet and weep. My relationship with God also grew from those moments. Without healing I became an angry child, always fighting. I am saying to you, I know what a wound can do to a good person. I know how a wounded soul can change a once-was-sweet person.

You are not the same person you was before. No. The wound changes you. Just as physical wounds need to be treated in a physical way, so heart wounds – with hidden symptoms that often go unrecognized – need to be treated in a heart (emotion-centric) way. You look fine but you are limping emotionally. Infact you are on life support. The biggest lie ever told on this is, “I’m okay.” We get used to the pain and we embrace the wound as part of us. We then fool ourselves to believe that we have scars when we have wounds. Scars don’t hurt. Wounds do. You’re still hurting because you never healed. They’re not “your scars” they’re “your wounds”

The question is not necessarily whether we come from broken homes or not‚ as a large majority of people do. It’s not whether we fell in love and got burnt or not, most of us have. Eh l have shame, big big burn. More suitable questions are…did those experiences damage us? Change us? And‚ if so‚ how has the emotional damage become a part of us, and does it still manifest itself in our daily lives? Wounded hearts breed wounded hearts. Dysfunctional homes breed dysfunctional homes. If we do not choose to accept and work through our wounds‚ even though the wounds were not our fault‚ it is very likely we will repeat the very behaviours‚ in some form or another‚ that wounded us. Pain can be recycled and oh boy does it breed itself in the most horrific ways! Someone can become a serial killer because they watched their father beat their mom. You ever watch the crime channel? The wounds that never heal create a numb person .. numb people are dangerous people. Out of touch with reality, out of touch with God, out of touch with everything.

Denying the reality doesn’t change it. If you need help sweetheart, get it. What does it help to be a wounded soldier ? If an arrow is shot at you right now you could die. You can’t compete with healthy soldiers who seem to have their footing , fit and ready to conquer. You don’t have to. The wound needs your attention . I’m not saying drown in a pool of pity or depression, I’m saying address it.

I probably would play better football than a fractured Ronaldo. They even remove them from the field and replace them with other players who are in good condition. Even if the new player can’t play as good as Ronaldo, the reality is, Ronaldo cannot be in the field . However, the fact that he got a fracture and couldn’t finish the game doesn’t mean you won’t see him in the field again. Best believe he will be back like he never left. If he forces himself and plays anyways with that kind of leg, he risks never being able to play again. Not only does he play ineffectively, he will cause the whole team to lose.

The wound cannot go into marriage. You cannot keep playing games that poke the wound. Remove the bandage , it is giving you false belief of healing, let’s get that stitched instead. And beloved , give it time. God is saying to us, “Inorder to live effective lives we need to deal with what’s causing us to be ineffective.” The good news is, the wounds heal eventually.

“He heals the wounds of every shattered heart.”
‭‭Psalms‬ ‭147‬:‭3‬ ‭TPT‬‬

Tell Abba today , “Help. My heart is broken.”