Author: Vanessa Moonkie

Hello Yielded Family. If you’re in winter season please stay warm, I caught a flue that has been messing me up! Abeg, be warm! Today l want us to talk about dealing with disappointments, how to handle them & how to move on from them.

In this season of my life, my eyes have been opened to many things. I’ve come to realise that situations are revealing. They uncover your true strength, expose the nature of your surroundings and circle, and even test the depth of your faith and the condition of your heart.

There are lessons joy won’t teach you, lessons reserved for adversity. What I didn’t learn in times of peace, I was forced to learn in times of battle.I never truly understood how to handle disappointment until I faced it, repeatedly. Disappointment came through people I believed would stand by me no matter what. But in that, I learned, grew, and saw more clearly. I saw my heart.

I saw how it beat on a frequency that didn’t match the rhythm of certain people around me. I saw how hands that once offered warmth and words of love quietly held hidden knives disguised in smiles, cloaked in familiarity. I saw the unfairness… how you can pour out your all, give your 100; while someone else offers only 10, and walks away feeling justified, even blind to the imbalance.I saw how progress, opportunities even love sometimes flow by the currency of favour, not faithfulness. It broke my heart. And then came the question: Now that I’ve seen all this how do I deal with the weight of disappointment?

If you voice it, they’ll call you petty. If you speak on it, some will say you’re carrying offence. When really, it’s just the sting of disappointment… Because you never saw it coming.You just didn’t expect them to be the ones. But It happens everywhere, In marriages. In friendships. In the workplace. I remember one colleague of mine who was smiling and laughing with me all day only to report me to the manager that I don’t do my work properly & l lost my job that very day because he was trusted and l faced many months of struggle. How do you deal with that? Because every time theres no food in my fridge l remember him, laughing then backstabbing me.

People distance themselves from family not out of hate, but because someone used a lunch break to casually tear their name apart on long phone calls. Some hearts shut down not out of bitterness, but from the realisation: “I never had a place in theirs.”And family… here’s the hard part: How do you deal with it? How do you breathe through the moment when the same hand that hugged you Turns around and hands your enemy the gun whispering, “Shoot him. He’s unarmed.”

And the answer? It’s unexpected. Forgiveness. Yep, you heard me right. Forgiveness. It shatters pride and invites humility. It softens the heart and opens the door to healing. When you truly forgive, you stop demanding explanations. You stop rehearsing the pain.You’re no longer holding grudges or carrying silent offence. Instead, you find yourself in a place of surrender. A place where God becomes the One who heals and restores. Where peace replaces confusion, and grace flows freely.

So, surrender that disappointment to God. Give it up. Release it. Let Him hold what’s too heavy for you. I have so much more to say, but we’ll continue tomorrow. Keep moving forward. Keep shining. Keep winning.

I love you! ❤️

🌼Hey family. Happy Monday 🌼

I’ve been slowing down a bit lately to give myself a likkle ease just enough to manage fatigue and avoid burnout. BUT hallelujah, I’m back in the groove and rhythm! Thank you all so much for the book purchases, I’m deeply grateful for your support.

I truly believe that every person, regardless of race, gender, or religion, needs support whether from family, friends, community, church, or religious groups. Every person desires support, but even more than desire, we need it. I’m so glad I got yours. That means the world. It’s special and these days, quite rare. 💛.

Just a short blog to start your week.

What is not fixed is highly likely to worsen.Be it a problem in a relationship, an illness, an issue with your laptop system, a tear on your favourite dress, or an electrical problem in your apartment what is not fixed or treated will worsen.What this means is: every problem left unsolved becomes a worsening problem, with the potential of becoming the worst problem.

Now, in the context of our lives, the many things we “ignore” will sooner or later pop up with even more intensity. Something like depression, anxiety, past pains… a sore knee… or even an issue you could easily sort out now but you postpone it to a date unknown.Do you know that in five years, that unforgiveness could turn into anger and resentment? Yep. It grows too. That apology you owe someone why not do it now? If it’s not fixed, the relationship will break. Some issues don’t disappear, they silently worsen. You think it’s sorted but it’s growing muscle.

Every rising issue that is kept under the blanket yes, even that bad character trait everyone keeps warning you about, will grow. And you’ll give the enemy room to capitalise on it. All I’m saying today is: fix it! It’s not scriptural, but I can’t help but wonder did Ananias and Sapphira already have a lying problem? And did it grow until they lied to the Holy Spirit?

That person who thinks lust and pornography will just remain at the level they’re at? No, darling. Some people never made it out they made it in deeper. Neck deep. The issue of alcohol? Solve it now. Because later might be too late. Everything grows. Appetites too.

I wrote on my status last week that, if a person wants to avoid transformation, they start by lying to themselves that they don’t need it; then they avoid everyone who they may be accountable to. This means that many people have isolated with their problems and they think they are safe because the person to call you out has been blocked or you started distancing yourself. You are not safe. Day by day, every moment that passes, that thing you’re refusing to address , is addressing you. You don’t want to find out later, find out now, fix it now.

Like l said, I came with a short blog to tell you, get counselling if need be. Get help. Fix the things. Deal with the problem. Running will not stop the storm Jonah. Face the facts, you must go to Nineveh. And some of you, need to stop and face God. He’s the One you’re running from and you don’t realise, it’s killing your spiritual life day by day. Why? Everything that’s not fixed ????? Exactly.

Have a great Monday. Order your book today and let’s get reading!

We are officially 6 months in! I still have a list of to-do’s but I’m most grateful for the gift of life. Life is a gift. Without it, all those 55 things you planned to do this year are useless. You must be alive to do, to plan, to build, to create, to even accumulate that wealth you dream about or that wonderful kingdom spouse. I feel like we easily downplay the fact that right now, our hearts are beating and in this every moment, we have a chance to do what we’ve never done before. You have a chance to dream, to envision and to put that into action. 6 months in, what has been accomplished?

People hate that question. Sometimes it’s because it demands an answer for time that may have been carelessly spent. It calls us out on our laziness & procrastinations. Sometimes it’s because people just don’t like confrontation. I’ve since discovered that confrontation is necessary for growth. If you were sick and went to the doctor and he gave you medication to take for a couple of days. You go back after you’re done with the medication and he asks you, “Did you take the medication? How are you feeling?” Would it be wise for you to get agitated and refuse to answer? No. Why? Because the answer you give will give him an idea of how to help you further. We need some questions even though they seem to make us uncomfortable. How have you spent your time the past 6months?

Now let me promote my book 😂 you need to get a copy. It’ll help you in wise time spending. Each copy is R150 and it’s both in hardcopy & ebook. The next 6 months of your life will be different, I promise you. Those of you who have a copy, it’s not just to support me, read that book. Don’t shelf it and then go and waste time. We have many books that are in our possession that if we just read, we’d be better than yesterday.

To purchase a copy please contact me or just comment below. Remember, the same way you spent the first 6 months can repeat itself if you don’t change somethings. I wish you all the best!

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