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The Yielded Believer

Pray about it first

Happy new week, my people! By God’s grace, my new book The Seer In The Hills will be out today by 16:00 hrs on my website, which I’ll embed at the foot of this page. My other book, A Thing Called Time, is also available, and you can purchase either a hard copy or a soft copy. I’m excited to share that A Ticket To Tarshish will be published by the last week of November, and that will wrap up my releases for 2025 (lol).

To those who loved my novels on Wattpad, I have news for you , all those books will be taken down and rewritten to reflect and suit the transformed believer I am today. My purpose in writing has shifted; it’s no longer just about inspiring people, though that’s a beautiful thing to do. I’ve come to understand the power of words, both written and spoken, and I now desire to use that power to minister to hearts. Through writing, I have the privilege of speaking my voice and being heard in your heart (not with your ears) You don’t have to see me to hear me you just need to read what I wrote. So yes, get ready for many, many more books. Now, let’s talk about something very important!

I’ve been thinking lately about the prayer life of a believer, about my prayer life. Why do I pray, and what has prayer truly accomplished in my life? This reflection came during a season of warfare, when I found myself facing decisions that would eventually shape my destiny in significant ways. My mind had already begun to feel crowded with noise, and I said to myself, I must pray about this.

But why was prayer necessary? Why not just make a decision and move on? Because through prayer, we discern the will of God and align ourselves with it in yieldedness. Let me just say this: I know the weight of decisions I once made without praying and they almost killed me.

Do not take a step without prayer. Do not make a decision without prayer. Don’t even start overthinking without prayer. I honestly don’t care what people say, what your friends think is best, or what any prophetic word declares , go to God first! Nobody has a plan for your life better than God does. In Jeremiah 29:11, God was not trying to excite us with comforting words. We often quote that verse, but we overlook what comes next ; the part that says we must seek Him. The plan exists, yes, but you must seek it from God through prayer.

Even if the most anointed person tells you, “I feel you should buy the green dress,” still go to God and ask, “Lord, should I really buy the green dress?” I always tell people even if I give you a word, go to God and confirm if it’s truly from Him. Why? Because we live in a world driven by emotions.

People make destiny-defining decisions simply because they fell in love. Then they end up marrying someone who does not align with the purpose of God over their lives. I’ve had to tell myself firmly: nobody will pressurize me because of age to marry. I will marry only when God says it’s time, and only the person He has chosen for me.

We live in an emotional world that says, “It’s exciting, it’s beautiful, it’s appealing , just take it!” But don’t you remember Eve? The fruit may actually have been the tastiest, and she could have said, “Ah, it’s in the garden, so it must be meant for me.” What she needed to do was run to God and ask for clarity: “Lord, I’m confused. Something in me is saying this is the fruit I need, but I came to ask You should I eat it?” Then God would have reminded her of what He had already said or given her a new word altogether.

Oh, what about those times we think God said something just because we liked it? “I heard God , He said you’re my husband.” I recently saw that comment under two celebrity posts, and I couldn’t help but think how often people say “God said” when, in reality, He didn’t. You were simply led by a crush maybe you fancied the idea of being married to Minister Ebuka so much that you convinced yourself God had spoken, when in fact, it was you speaking to yourself in a voice of deception. This is why it’s so important to pray before making any decision no matter how small it seems. Even if it’s a move to a different city, pray first. Don’t move before God speaks. Move only after He has spoken.

I give you this advice today, pray about it. Tell God about it. Before you move in any direction, ask Him first. When you pray, you don’t just receive divine alignment and leading; you also protect yourself from the vulnerable state you’d find yourself in if you moved without God. So pray about that issue today. Don’t rush. Let God lead.

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Dealing with self

Reflection Friday

Okayyy, here’s the mirror.

Who is this person who is so powerful? When you stand in front of the mirror, who do you see? Is it normal or even possible to stand there and see another person? Another man or woman? No. The mirror reflects what is before it, and to a degree, what’s in the corners depending on where it’s placed and how big it is. It is true that the mirror only reflects what stands before it. It shows what’s really there , not who you wish to be or who others think you are. Welcome to Reflection Friday.

If someone who desires a body shaped like a number 8 stands in front of a mirror, knowing very well they are a size 10, yet expects the mirror to show what they wish to see instead of the truth, that person is not so smart. You get angry that the weight isn’t going down when you’re not doing anything about it? Or expect someone to compliment a lie? Think of the times we’ve lied to ourselves, trying to change the image we saw in our reflection. Anyone who refuses to believe their own reflection is either mentally unstable or simply ignorant.

Why do people go to the gym? Why do they spend time and money just to achieve a certain shape? It’s because of something they saw in the mirror that they didn’t like. Guess what? You can change what you don’t like , you just have to choose to. I spent my morning listening to different speakers from across the globe at a summit. Why? Why stress myself? Because I want to change my understanding. Why? Because I am not satisfied with the level of illumination I currently have. This means embracing discomfort, losing sleep sometimes, and pushing through the hard parts because change is difficult, but most times, it’s necessary.

Before you blame companies for not hiring you, ask yourself what level of competence do you have? Even heaven has a standard for workers. Scripture says that if you put your hand to the plough and look back, you’re not fit for the Kingdom. There’s a fitness requirement. There’s a level of readiness expected. It’s the same in every aspect of life. I learned a painful fact, if you’re not what they want, they have a right to reject you.

“They must like me. I have potential.” Baby, people don’t believe in potential anymore , they want to see results. You look in the mirror and discover your skin is dry and patchy, yet you expect people not to notice? They will. They have eyes. The only real change comes from you.

I’ll continue this particular blog next week because there’s more we need to unpack. Why should an investor invest in your business? Because you prayed? Yes, prayer is powerful but if you think that’s all it takes, then you haven’t read your Bible carefully. Why should someone propose to you? Because you have a good heart, but you’re always untidy? Think again and think McCain.

All I’m saying is, you have what it takes to change. The person in the mirror deserves it. Give it to them. And when you do, proudly clap your hands for them. Every effort counts. See you on Monday.

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The Yielded Believer

Worship Wednesday

Helluuuuur! ☺️🥰

I hope you joined Day 1 of the Hallelujah Challenge, it was so powerful! As always, God moved. But we go again tonight. And I truly pray you’ll sacrifice these 25 days and show up.

Let me share something I’ve learned: To get what you’ve never had, you must do what you’ve never done. Yes, it may disrupt your sleep. Yes, it may stretch your energy. Yes, dancing and shouting praises in the AMs can be uncomfortable for some . But it’s necessary either for this season or for the next level God is calling you to. We’ve been talking about birthing, and here’s the truth:

Can a woman in labour say, “I won’t push because it’s painful?” No. Why? Because in that moment, pain is part of the process. Refusing to push can cost both her and the baby their lives. This is a word for the comfortable ones , those who never go the extra mile in prayer, fasting, or giving. You will remain limited. Some things only break open when you stretch beyond your normal. Even if a woman avoids natural birth because of pain, a C-section still comes with its own pain, stitching, recovery, etc. One way or another, the baby must come out.

No one stays pregnant forever. After 9 months, anything beyond that is no longer normal. It becomes dangerous , even an abomination. That’s what some people are carrying: Overdue pregnancies in the spirit. Visions from 2020, assignments from 2019… still not birthed because we avoid the discomfort of obedience. It’s time to PUSH. It’s time to SACRIFICE. It’s time to BREAK OUT of comfort zones.

I’m saying all this to encourage someone, you’ve done warfare and all, now praise and worship, see what God will do.

Share one song you listen to all the time the one that never gets old for you and tell us the story behind it. Maybe it was during a tough season… Maybe it reminds you of a breakthrough… Or maybe it just stirs something deep in your spirit every single time. Let us know in the comments , we want to hear your testimony or how that song made you feel the first time you heard it.

(And yes, it must be gospel 😂)

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The Yielded Believer

Uniquely yours

We grew up wanting to be like celebrities. We had songbooks and photos cut from magazines. We wanted to be the famous people we dressed like them, tried to sing like them. We fooled ourselves into thinking one day we’d become Beyoncé 2.0. Boys thought they would be John Cena or Ronaldo.

We had idols.

“When I grow up, I want to be like…” and someone would write Halle Berry. Meanwhile, you didn’t even know how to act! We hadn’t even discovered our own dreams, yet we wanted to live other people’s lives. By the way, I’m sorry I’m late with this. I am actually writing it during a 10-minute break, straight from the top of my head, so please forgive me if it doesn’t flow the way it should.

Fast forward, we grew up and started wanting to be like our friends. We began talking like each other, dressing alike, even dreaming of doing life on the same timeline: getting married at the same time, having babies at the same time. As my apostle would say, “Story, story, storrry.” I’ve come to realise that what you birth is uniquely yours. I adore my nieces and nephews, honestly, I think I love them even more than I love my sisters but the truth is, they’re not my biological children. What you birth is yours. Stop checking someone else’s “baby” to see if yours is measuring up. A matching vision, a matching logo, matching this and that… but how will you ever stand out if all you do is mimic others?

Children born of the same parents sometimes don’t even look alike, so the vision you birth doesn’t have to look like mine. You can show up in your own style, in your own way, not trying to offer the world version 60 of what it’s already seen. This is a season of birthing, and when your “child” doesn’t look like mine or your neighbour’s, it doesn’t mean it’s not a child. It doesn’t mean you kill it. You don’t harbour jealousy, and you reject the spirit of competition. Instead, you nurture your child and uniquely groom it. People say babies get swapped in hospitals number one, it’s a crime; number two, it’s a mental disorder. What the Lord puts in your hand is yours for a reason. Remember that.

Go on and be unique.
See you tomorrow ❤️

“You formed my innermost being, shaping my delicate inside and my intricate outside, and wove them all together in my mother’s womb.”

‭‭Psalms‬ ‭139‬:‭13‬ ‭TPT‬‬

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The Overcoming Believer

You’re responsible for your child 🤱🏽

After giving birth, everything changes. You’re no longer eating for two, the baby now eats on their own. There are diapers to change, tiny clothes to wash, doctor’s visits to schedule, and an endless list of new responsibilities. The mother, often exhausted from breastfeeding through the night, does her best to keep going. The father helps where he can, but everyone in the house quickly learns: there’s a baby now, and that baby needs constant care. Sometimes even the whole neighbourhood knows because newborns cry, loudly and often. But whether the baby cries, screams, needs a diaper change, or falls ill, one thing is true: the baby is the parents’ responsibility.

I remember when Valerie was pregnant, almost due, eh, that girl ate! She ate for 4 but she was carrying 1 ! And she slept a lot too. Started snoring like a tractor! I used to pinch her all night so she wouldn’t break my eardrum, lol! But all that changed once she gave birth. She was not sleeping anymore. I’d wake up and see her walking around in the dark, rocking the baby, trying to get them back to sleep. Eyes heavy, body tired, she was exhausted.. But the baby had come. I saw how it changed her life & routine. She had prayed for that baby to come. And now, the baby was here… with responsibilities.

You see, you want the vision to come to life? You want to build a global ministry? You want that dream, that breakthrough, that next level? The baby comes with responsibility. You don’t just get the blessing, you get the work that comes with it. We sometimes wonder why God doesn’t give us certain things. The truth is, it’s often because we lack the capacity and discipline to nurture a baby. And yes, every vision is a baby that must be nurtured to full maturity.

Yielded Center is a baby. Some of you enjoy the blogs. Some don’t. Some think they’re boring. Whatever the case, I still post here? almost daily. That’s responsibility. Whether the stats say two people read, five commented, or zero… the baby still needs to be nurtured. I still have to show up. I still have to write. I have to take time out of my schedule to feed what I’ve birthed. Right now, I’m planning for the MPG event, another baby. I just finished sending out letters, and I have a pounding headache. But even in that, I have to prepare for Special Edition Thursday Questions for my guest. I have to edit videos. I have to lead Wailing Women Prayers.

What is all this? Responsibility. These are the demands that come with giving birth to a vision. Some people say, “My vision doesn’t look like that person’s vision.” But my question is: How much time have you taken to nurture it? How often do you feed it? How disciplined are you in showing up for what God has given you?

New churches want to be like mega churches. No problem. But are they willing to go through the nurturing process when the baby can’t even feed itself? Can’t bathe on its own? Can’t walk or talk? See, people like grown kids. That’s why most people adopt at age five and up. Very few adopt a two-week-old. Why? Responsibility. A baby requires everything, time, energy, feeding, changing, attention, and constant presence.

You want a fully developed vision, ready to run and take over the world? That’s possible as a miracle but in the norm, you birth a baby… and you groom it to maturity. Yes, I’m travailing. Yes, I’m giving birth. Beautiful. But when you give birth, you must also ready yourself for what’s coming, the time, the money, the energy, the consistency, the sacrifice, and all of it. Whether people help you or not. These are the investments required not just for growth, but for impact. Because visions don’t just grow, they are built. And hear me clearly: Nations aren’t impacted by small things. If you want your vision to reach national or global levels, you must build capacity. You must walk in excellence. You must cultivate discipline. That being said are you truly ready for what you prayed for?

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