Author: Vanessa Moonkie

One of the most important things that we must urge women to do is to take care of themselves, particularly in their heal, mental health, emotional health, physical well-being, etcetera. I pray we have not adopted a form of the gospel that erases taking medicine because of a bottle of water from the sea that you got from a prophet. Many women are unwell, but because they are mbokodos (a Zulu term for strong women), they sit there with their “leprosy” until they die. My darling, you need to be healthy to function at the best of your ability and at all times.

The woman with the issue of blood was ill for 12 years, but guess what? She was seeking help. Her money finished because she was intentional about her well-being. She wanted to be well, even though she had to spend money to pursue her healing. Scripture tells us that she had spent all she had on physicians, and yet she did not give up. Even later, we see her desperation when she reaches out and touches the garment of the Lord. How many women are desperate for their healing, or are we simply walking through life as long as no one sees that we are bleeding?

Do we dress up and smell nice, but underneath the clothes is a heart that is crying because it has never offloaded all that it has been carrying? We must learn to care for the woman beneath the appearance. God wants you healed and whole. If He didn’t, Christ could have stopped the healing power from flowing to her, I hope you know He could. But He didn’t. He allowed the power to flow and heal her. Woman, how is your mind? Do you even sleep at all? Who have you told about those hidden struggles? And what about your heart? Has it healed? Are you willing to be healed?

As I always say, being numb does not mean you are healed. Sometimes people are simply numb, and they confuse numbness with, “I’ve forgiven them,” or, “I’m healed.” Meanwhile, they remain stuck in the rut of pain, carrying wounds they have never truly dealt with. Healing is not pretending it never happened. Healing is allowing God to touch the places you have spent years trying not to feel. I know some women were molested, neglected, abused and so it feels like they are always going to be a victim. You can be a Victor with any story you tell.

Your physical wellness is also very, very important. Look, if you don’t take care of your body, the truth is, you may die sooner, contrary to the long life you could have been given. People drink themselves to powder, people eat anyhow mixing foods that shouldn’t be mixed, people smoke many boxes of cigarettes a day, the whole thing o, people sleep around without protection, being disobedient to God in the first place.

What about those who are now taking antidepressants? Some have accidents but never get checked up. You see, your body is the only legal means through which you can function on earth. If you keep neglecting it, it will eventually check out. And yes, even if you are a prayer warrior, if you are careless with your body, you can still fall asleep.

Let me also say this. you shouldn’t be fasting for 100 days without the leading of the Spirit. Your body will eventually start fighting you. A fast should never become a means of harming yourself. Fast, but be wise. Your reproductive health matters too. Women need to stop allowing just anyone to have access to their reproductive organs. There are so many diseases and infections circulating, so we need to be intentional about protecting ourselves and taking care of our bodies.

There are probiotics and other forms of supplements for your health; it is not wrong to use them when appropriate. Pregnant women, please take care of yourselves. Eat well, rest well, attend your check-ups, and listen to your body. Caring for yourself is stewardship. In mental health it’s even worse. The neglect is so bad. People are walking around with brokenness you can almost touch it with your hands. Bitterness and anger strong enough to start a fire. Ah!

Many of our parents never went through any healing, and that is why they were sometimes harsh. If you don’t do something about your own load, your children and the people around you will suffer too. To the woman reading this, take good care of yourself. Touch the hem of His garment. Let Him in. Let Him embalm the wound and bandage it well. I pray for the day you smile and it is genuinely from a healed place. And to those who are whole and have already walked through the healing journey, I say, keep going. Keep choosing wholeness. Life is so beautiful with you in it.

I love you🌹

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Women are beautiful. They are all so different, yet each is uniquely made. Some are tall and have used their height as an advantage to take over the modelling industry. Some are short. Some are Black, some are White, some are Indian, and others come from countless other backgrounds. Some have dimples. Some wear glasses. Some are athletes, musicians, and career women. Some are vendors selling on the street corner, while others are on television, starring in one show or another.

Some proudly wear their natural hair, while others love their braids and wigs. Some enjoy wearing makeup, while others embrace their natural faces. Some are lipstick girls, some could finish the entire stock of lip gloss in the beauty aisle, (like some people I know) and some? They effortlessly rock both. There is so much that can be said about women, but one thing is certain, one thing for sure, women are beautiful.

When God created Eve, He placed something unique within her, a womb. A woman is the only human being created with a womb, and it is one of the distinguishing features of womanhood. God designed the womb to nurture life, making women the only God-ordained gateway through which every human being enters this world. So if l saw a pregnant man I’d be shocked, because how sir? Leave that to the ladies please. Every person born has come through the womb of a woman.

It is within her that a seed is nurtured, developed, and eventually brought forth as new life. To me, it seems that many women have forgotten just how unique, significant, and valuable they are. The ability to carry, nurture, and give birth to life is a remarkable gift that reflects God’s intentional design and should never be taken for granted. Let me just say this to every woman reading this, you should never be taken for granted even by yourself.

I have seen many women who have never truly taken the time to understand their beauty and identity being swayed by society’s demands to look like one particular woman. Do we really think God was incapable of giving us all the same face and the same body if that was His intention? Why, then, are so many striving for one identical image?

“Oh, I must be light-skinned with big curves. Ah, dimples would be nice, add those to my cart. Give me a tiny waist, smaller than my pinky finger. Increase my chest, from lemons to pumpkins, pleaseeeee it’s a “neeed”. Oh, and don’t forget to change my nose. It has to be perfectly pointed. Sharper than a double edged sword. If possible can it point up? Doctor, I can even pay extra to change my whole face.”

Who told women they were ugly?

It reminds me of God asking Adam in the Garden of Eden, “Who told you that you were naked?” (Genesis 3:11). In other words, Who gave you this information? Where did you hear it? Because whenever a belief begins to shape our identity, we must examine its source. We need to find out what the real issue is? Is it external or within? What is the source of what is happening on social media today, where so many people are consumed with looking like a doll only to live with regret later?

Can I be honest with the ladies? Sometimes we don’t take care of ourselves. We are beautiful, but sometimes we don’t even care a little about ourselves. We neglect our mental health, our physical well-being which I’ll talk about tomorrow and even how we present ourselves socially. My sister, why are you in town wearing clothes with soup stains from last Christmas? That shirt could have been ironed. And those braids… four months, my sister? Please wash your hair.

We have to balance the truth, people of God. We have to. I know we sometimes say, “It’s my personal life.” Fair enough. But God’s Word is applicable to our personal lives too. Why are your used sanitary pads lying around everywhere? Sister no. Let’s do better. Why are you at the mall with an unwashed face, speaking at the top of your lungs, yet your toothbrush has been dry for two days? That too, in a sleeping gown.

Oh, we all have those days when we’re tired, overwhelmed, or simply lazy. I have them too. But why must it be every day? Why should it be a norm where people just know you for not being presentable? Wash up during your period. Wash the armpits, yes o. Use deodorant. Brush your teeth. Moisturise your skin. Take care of your hair. Iron your clothes. Smell nice. Present yourself well. This is not about trying to become beautiful. You already are.

You’re not creating beauty; you are maintaining it. God already did the creating. Your assignment is the maintenance. That beauty of yours deserves care. But shall I tell you something? The beauty of your heart deserves even more care. We need hygiene there too. Hygienic words. Some women can talk nonsense, eh! Every word from your mouth cannot be cussing all day. Every conversation cannot be gossip. Every sentence cannot be tearing someone down. My sister, you’re a child of God.

Do you know that many of the things we have made part of our lives are completely against the Word of God? We’ve normalised what God calls us to put away. We’ve become comfortable with attitudes and habits that don’t reflect Christ. “Normalise being rude!” No we won’t my darling. We don’t want to. Where are the loving women with beautiful hearts? Where are the women who can yield to God and be transformed? Where are the women who are intentionally kind? Where are the women who choose gentleness?

Why look like a queen on the outside while carrying a horrifying heart on the inside? Makeup can enhance your face, but it cannot beautify your heart. Lip gloss can make your lips shine, (there’s someone l know) but only the Holy Spirit can make your words life-giving. Dear woman, today I’m saying to you, you are beautiful, inside and out. Maintain the beauty. Tend to your garden. Pull out whatever doesn’t belong there and allow God to cultivate what does.

Never again listen to any other voice that says otherwise. The God who created you is the One who defines you. Walk confidently in the beauty He has already placed within you. To the men, Incase you forgot and needed reminding, women are beautiful.

“Body and soul, I am marvelously made! I worship in adoration, what a creation! You know me inside and out, you know every bone in my body.”

Psalm 139:14 (MSG – The Message):

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In some parts of the world, we still have women being treated like servants. We still have women who are denied education and employment, and all they are expected to do is marry and have children. In some countries, a girl is seen as a woman long before she is ready. At a very tender age, girls are married off to much older men, men who are old enough to have grandchildren and have a few teeth left. These are heartbreaking realities that still exist today. Today, I want us to define who a woman truly is. If you’re interested, smile.

In the book of Genesis, we are introduced to a woman named Eve. One unique thing about Eve is that she was created a woman; she was not born the way you and I were. Because of that, we need to distinguish between Eve’s creation and the journey of every other female born into the world. Unlike Eve, we all begin life as girls before we become women. So before we define what a woman is, let’s first define a girl. What is a girl?

A girl is a female child or young female who is in the process of growing and developing into womanhood. She is not yet a woman,
but a young female person who has not yet reached adulthood. She is in the stage of growth and development , physically, emotionally, mentally, and socially before becoming a woman.

This definition makes it clear that a woman is a female who has grown and reached maturity. She has developed physically, mentally, emotionally, and socially. If these areas of development have not taken place, a female may still be in girlhood, even at the age of 30. In my view, age alone does not determine maturity. However, from a biological perspective, the brain, particularly the prefrontal cortex, which plays a key role in reasoning, decision-making, and self-control continues developing into the mid-twenties, often around age 25.

This is one of the reasons adulthood is associated with greater maturity. In other words, a woman is first a girl and then grows into womanhood. Shall I tell you something? Every woman was once a girl. No one is born a woman; womanhood is entered through growth and development. That said, what then is the confusion on social media about gender? How many genders are there? Scripture clearly says two and nobody on scripture decided at 20 that they wanted to be a different gender and God granted it. Nobody.

So we learn that women are first girls. It is during that girlhood that we are to be taught our identity. You’d be shocked how many little girls now think they are boys and how many little boys think they are girls. Remember yesterday I said we are defining a woman by first connecting her to her creator , God. Anything God has not said or approved , we avoid completely. Some of you who have children, you need to solidify on this because the world is deteriorating and teaching them all the wrong things.

There are women who are still girls. Paradoxically, they have the age and physical appearance of a woman, but their minds remain in a place of girlhood and immaturity, a place of undeveloped identity and incomplete growth. Buffering growth. Still on 43% at 45 years old. Hmmmmm. The truth is, a woman can display childlike or girlish traits from time to time, but a girl cannot act like a woman. Did you catch that? A woman may act girly, but when a girl begins trying to live as though she is already a woman, something has gone wrong.

Welcome to the world we live in today, where many teenagers on social media are rushing into adulthood. They imitate the lifestyles of grown women, pursue relationships with much older men, and carry burdens they were never meant to bear at such a young age. They are in a hurry to enter womanhood, but I don’t know about you, womanhood is not an easy hood. As for me, Yhoo. Yho x 567 billion.

I want to say I’m sorry to every girl who had to grow up too fast. I’m sorry for the responsibilities you carried before you even had the chance to discover who you were. I’m sorry that life forced you to mature when the season simply called for you to be a girl, to play, to learn, to dream, and to be a child. I’m sorry to every little girl who was sent into the homes of older men, where her young, underdeveloped body was exploited for someone else’s gain. I’m sorry that those people are oftentimes, not sorry for hurting you.

I’m sorry to the girls who grew up without the example of a healthy, godly woman to guide them into womanhood. And if you’re reading this blog and you see yourself in these words, my darling, I am so, so sorry. You deserved a childhood. You deserved protection. You deserved the time and space to grow into the woman you were always meant to become. You deserved to be a girl first, enjoying all those colourful hairstyles, Barbie dolls, and so forth.

As a woman myself, I have come to appreciate that God didn’t create everyone the way He created Eve. We all had to be born. Imagine if God had to keep forming each of us from the dust every time! The only part of that I think I would’ve enjoyed is that I’d probably have met my husband immediately. Lol. You just wake up & tadaaaa 🎉

On a more serious note, I want us to be intentional about supporting girls and women. Let us stand for justice for girls who have been abused. Let us buy a pack of sanitary pads for someone who cannot afford them. Let us be a blessing, whether it’s to an orphanage or simply to one girl or woman whose day you can brighten. Are you gonna do it? I’m proud of you already sha.

This month of August, do something kind for another female. Buy a pack of hairpins. Gift someone a pair of earrings. Whether you’re a man or a woman, bless a girl or woman with something thoughtful. Maybe it’s a pair of pink shoes for the little girl who walks the streets in worn-out sandals. Maybe it’s a pair of heels for a woman who would never expect such kindness. It doesn’t have to be expensive, it just has to come from a heart of love. We are all doing it aren’t we? Wooolalahhh! Perhaps a target of 3 women you’d like to give a smile?

This month, I trust that we will become better women by helping another woman or girl become better too. To the girl in you, I’m sending you the biggest hug. To the woman in you, I want you to know this, you are special.

See you tomorrow.💖

If you read my blogs but have never met this  Wonderful Jesus that I’m always writing about,  you’d love to get to know Him, Or you know The Lord but have found yourself drifting far from Him, I would love to talk with you. Please send me an email  on yieldedcwcenter@gmail.com or simply comment, and I will reach out to you