Category: The Overcoming Believer

It’s yet another week people of God, I’m expectant for what God will do for you and l this week. It’s the last week of March which means we are three months done with 2026, see how time flies? We will arise and occupy on time in Jesus Name. Today l want us to discuss the internal affairs that may propel or stop us from occupying. The beginning of any great revolution starts in the mind. Let’s discuss a bit.

“We can demolish every deceptive fantasy that opposes God and break through every arrogant attitude that is raised up in defiance of the true knowledge of God. We capture, like prisoners of war, every thought and insist that it bow in obedience to the Anointed One.”

2 Corinthians 10:5 (The Passion Translation, TPT).

I need you to read to understand. Inside your head there is something called a brain, as you already know. Your brain is one of the most vital parts of your body. In fact, when your brain is affected, your life is affected, your body is affected, everything is affected. In your brain, amazingly, there are cells that God in His creativity made to receive and capture information. As of now, the things you know, where are they stored? The things you have read, watched, and listened to, the reason you can recall lyrics to a song or remember what one plus one is even though you learned it many years ago, where is that information stored? In your brain.

Your brain is like a moving library. It moves around with you. Whether you’re in Johannesburg or Ghana, you travel with your brain, which means you travel with the information in it. I hope we are all in understanding so far. When we fellowship with God, He also uses our brains to give us ideas, instructions, and direction. This is why you cannot allow things like anxiety and depression to suppress your mind. You need to guard your mind against any form of corruption, ensuring that you are not storing negative information, and protecting your mind from places and people that can make it unhealthy.

The way you view the world and the people in it is a reflection of your mindset. A mindset is essentially how your mind is set, the makeup of your mind, how it functions, and the decisions it is inclined to make. While we all have brains that, in a healthy state, should function similarly, our mindsets differ. The brain performs its role, but the mindset gives it direction. Your mindset is unique to you. Do you realize that we do not all think the same way or even agree on the same things? That is the difference in mindset.

I’m explaining all these things that may seem boring to you so that we can understand that to occupy, you need a certain mindset. That means your mind must be set to occupy. Metaphorically, it’s like setting your alarm to 06:30, as long as your phone is functioning well and charged, it will ring at 06:30. We call it “setting an alarm.” We go to sleep fully confident that it will ring. Some of you don’t even wake up , your own needs fasting and prayer because exsquuueze me? Anyways, that’s the same approach we should have with our minds. You must set your mind like an alarm, deciding that by December you will have occupied ABC.

The alarm does not set itself, and your mindset will not change by itself. Many people who keep asking “why this, why that” are simply people who have not made up their minds. Have you made up your mind to occupy? Because mindset gives direction, and where there is no direction, the mind has not been set. The brain may be there, but it is under-functioning because the mindset that gives direction has not been developed.

I will stop here so that we understand the connection between your brain and your mindset. You have a brain, and you need a mindset because the mindset gives direction. Where your mind goes, your body will follow. Today, make up your mind that you want to occupy, that you truly want to. You are not “bluetoothing” the vision from anyone; you are choosing, for yourself, to focus and to change any thought pattern that is contrary to this one.

If you read my blogs but have never met this  Wonderful Jesus that I’m always writing about,  you’d love to get to know Him, Or you know The Lord but have found yourself drifting far from Him, I would love to talk with you. Please send me an email  on yieldedcwcenter@gmail.com or simply comment, and I will reach out to you.

One of the things many of us struggle with is emotional intelligence. The fact that it’s called emotional intelligence means that it’s separate and different from your intellectual intelligence. Someone may be intellectually gifted but still be very dull emotionally. I’ve met brilliant people, got A’s all through school, got and still get academic prizes but emotionally? They are in a rollercoaster at Gold-reef City. To be wholesome you need to have both.

There are many reasons why you must be emotionally balanced. One of them is that in your journey or quest to occupy , you will meet people. People are the main causes or influences in our emotional health. The fact that there are people around you, best believe your emotions will be affected either negatively or positively. Your emotions must be in check. To think that you will never have an emotional reaction to things or life is to plan to exist outside the world. It is only dead people who would not be affected.

We will look at the ways to build emotional maturity as on the photo above throughout the Reflection Fridays. One of the effective ways to regulate emotions is to calm down. Calm down first before sending the message. Cool down before you pick up the call. Cut off any noise or anything that might make you react or respond in a way that might cause a burst in emotions. You have to learn to ignore some people, their messages and their calls. It’s not everything that needs your reaction or response.

If you are the kind of person who always acts on emotions , you will act on impulse. An example would be, in a marriage , you have a conflict with your spouse then you start packing bags. You lack emotional intelligence. A teacher in school says something that offended you, you drop his or her class. People act on anger that would’ve subsided. Listen, even if they broke your heart, you cannot cut their tyres and set their house on fire.

How have you been emotionally? What are some situations that could’ve been avoided if you were not so emotionally unstable? Who are the people you could’ve kept in your life had you not ran to block them? In your home, could your relationship with your siblings been better if you or they could just control their emotions which in turn controls speech! Most emotionally unstable people have the worst speech. They can impulsively call someone a pig or a cow. They can impulsively cuss or swear. They can just punch someone or break furniture. As Christians , we must ask God to help us. We need to be stable emotionally so that we can even deal with one another.

I can tell you for free that some of us here are difficult to love because of the issue of unstable emotions. Some people are the hardest to be friends with, they being so much drama and emotional manipulation that people stay far from them. There are some who cannot keep a relationship because they have the most childish ways of dealing with things. How will you occupy with such emotions?

See you on Monday. I love you 💕

If you read my blogs but have never met this  Wonderful Jesus that I’m always writing about,  you’d love to get to know Him, Or you know The Lord but have found yourself drifting far from Him, I would love to talk with you. Please send me an email  on yieldedcwcenter@gmail.com or simply comment, and I will reach out to you.

It’s Worship Wednesday, and I was scrolling on Threads when I saw a post by a lady saying she intentionally gets to church late just to skip praise and worship because she’s only there for the Word. She prefers to walk in and find the man or woman of God already on the pulpit teaching. I just thought to myself, “Ma’am, what kind of half-baked Christian mindset is this?” I kept reading, and honestly, the comments said exactly what was on my mind. One man even asked, “So what do you plan to do in heaven when we’re worshipping God? Stay home and tend a garden? Do you even plan on going to heaven? It might be boring for you.”

And it really got me thinking, there are people who deliberately avoid praise and worship but still desire heaven, where the Bible says we will worship God day and night. You want to hear the Word of a God you don’t worship? That just doesn’t add up. It’s clearly part of Scripture, yet we pick and choose what we feel like doing, then go on social media to post these grey-area statements to people we’re supposed to be leading to Christ. Anyone following that example will end up thinking it’s okay to give God only half of what He asks.

That being said, please be careful about what you post on social media. Stop sharing things that can lead people astray. “It’s my phone!” Yes, we know, but the thousands following you are God’s targeted sheep. All these emotional outbursts, the slander against believers and churches sometimes it’s better to stay away from the keyboard. You won’t die if you don’t comment on that tweet or post. If you feel the urge, switch off your phone and come back when you’re in a better state of mind. Please, I’m begging you, yielded people, wisdom is profitable to direct, so let it guide your speech and what you choose to post.

Don’t chase followers at the expense of the Kingdom. This Kingdom is too important to be misrepresented by those who claim to be part of it. “It’s not that deep” no, it is. It’s very deep. Infact it’s deeper than the ocean. It really is. Let’s worship God the way He wants to be worshipped. Let no one create their own way or set of rules. This Kingdom already has a path, let’s follow it. Let’s do things by the Spirit and by the Word. I truly hope we understand this, because it needed to be said so we don’t get carried away by wrong doctrines and unprofitable ways of living.

We’re still on the topic of occupying through parenting, and I’m honestly amazed at how many parents and even soon-to-be parents have connected with this. I’m so blessed reading your comments. I do hope, though, that you’ll move from commenting on WhatsApp or Instagram and share your thoughts here too, there’s a comment box right at the bottom of the page. Anyhoo, I was reading the book of 1 Kings last night and guys… King David’s sons? I had to clap my hands and shout hallelujah, hosanna! I shout hallelujah 57.5 times! Excussssssssssssse moi?

I was shocked to discover he had yet another son who was just as problematic, but this time the Bible makes it clear that his father played a role in shaping that character. David himself contributed to it. Let’s read it before you think I’m just adding spice to my blog, LOL.

“Now his father, King David, had never disciplined him at any time, even by asking, ‘Why are you doing that?’ Adonijah had been born next after Absalom, and he was very handsome.”  1 Kings 1:6 (NLT

Please read the passage if you can. This boy went and practically ordained himself as king while his father was still alive. Do you know where that kind of confidence came from? “Nobody will question me. Nobody will tell me I’m wrong.” His father had never corrected him. That mindset of “my child is fine, leave my child alone” can be dangerous because before you know it, the child begins to rot in their thinking and even desires to take your place. Do you realise that you can be a good person and still raise children who end up giving you a bad name?

Our children are meant to occupy, but they cannot do so if they are never taught how, and if they are never corrected. Some parents hate correcting their children please, send them to my mother, she’ll do it free of charge, lol. My apostle always says if your child doesn’t cry when they are little, you will cry when they are older. Sometimes correction will make your child cry, but it’s far better than allowing behaviour that will mature into something you can no longer control. Why should a child be allowed to sip alcohol at five? “Let him taste!” that’s very foolish. Then at 25, you’re searching for a rehab centre or deliverance.

Please, let’s be careful. We are called to occupy, and God has already instructed us to teach our children His ways so they may know Him. As the Bible says, “Direct your children onto the right path, and when they are older, they will not leave it.” Proverbs 22:6 (NLT). Yes, they may stray even when you’ve done your best, but do your best anyway because what you’ve planted in them will always remain, and they can return to it. I hope you’ve been blessed. I love you. Remember to worship God this worship Wednesday.

If you read my blogs but have never met this  Wonderful Jesus that I’m always writing about,  you’d love to get to know Him, Or you know The Lord but have found yourself drifting far from Him, I would love to talk with you. Please send me an email  on yieldedcwcenter@gmail.com or simply comment, and I will reach out to you.

Ever heard of the saying, “it takes a community to raise a child?” I believe it to be true. Children are brought up by their parents/ guardians, by the grandparents, the teachers , nannies and sometimes the aunts or uncles. However, it’s very important that the parents train up their children as much as they can. They must be the primary influence. This means that in their busy schedule, parents must also be busy “with” not “for” their children.

In the bible there was a King called David who had a son he had never reprimanded. He had never called him out on any wrong. Do you think the boy ended up occupying the throne? No. Why? Because he raped his half sister and even in that situation his father kept quiet. David was aware that Amnon raped his daughter Tamar but he never confronted him. I’m talking to parents who plan for their kids to become presidents and ceos and big people, the ones who are not raised right do not deserve those titles. You cannot give influence to occupy to someone whose parents even struggle to reprimand.

A parent can occupy through their children. Good parenting has the power to raise solution-bearers for the world. If we want strong communities, we need well-raised children and that ultimately shapes good leadership, good governance, and even good presidents. It all begins in the family, because every leader comes from a home and a community. Parents, it is not abuse to teach your children the Word of God or to train them in responsibility through simple house chores.

Why should a twelve-year-old be unable to wash dishes? How can a thirteen-year-old boy not polish his own school shoes? Why is a sixteen-year-old at home watching football on a Sunday morning while the parents are in church, only for them to return and find him waiting for his mother to serve him food? No, people of God, this should not be so. Be firm and intentional in raising your children, so we do not give the world reason to speak against us. Why is it that, at times, it is our children as believers who are caught up in wrongdoing, yet they say, “I believe in my mother’s prayers”? It calls for reflection and responsibility.

It’s not as if Amnon was the only troublesome child, King David had another son, Absalom, who even rose up against his own father in an attempt to take the throne. Here was a good king, yet his children turned out differently. Think about Eli as well, a devoted priest who served God faithfully in the temple, yet his sons were described as corrupt. He was warned to discipline them, but he failed to act, and in the end, their wrongdoing brought destruction upon the whole family. This shows that a parent can be good, yet still raise children who go astray if that goodness is not intentionally taught and enforced.

Samuel, a man of God, had sons whose character disqualified them from following in his footsteps. The truth is, children will either thank you or blame you when they grow older. Some are raised to occupy positions in leadership, in parliament, and in major institutions, while others end up occupying in prisons or dark paths. The question is, the children you are raising now, where will they find themselves? As things stand, what kind of future are they being prepared for?

It is not enough to simply pay school fees. It is not enough to buy clothes, to provide food, or even to give children a home, some parents say, “I give you a home and I pay your fees.” Yes, sir. Yes, madam but what about teaching manners? What about teaching them about God? The world is rapidly decaying, and children need more than a good school down the road or fancy trips. They need solid teaching that prepares them for life. Teachings that will shape them to stand firm like Daniel, who refused to defile himself at the king’s table, or like Joseph, who chose righteousness and said, “How can I do such an evil thing against my God?”

These principles did not appear overnight someone taught those young men. May your children represent you well in the world. Remember, they were given to you as a gift to nurture and groom, and one day, you will give an account to God. I love you, see you tomorrow.

If you read my blogs but have never met this  Wonderful Jesus that I’m always writing about,  you’d love to get to know Him, Or you know The Lord but have found yourself drifting far from Him, I would love to talk with you. Please send me an email  on yieldedcwcenter@gmail.com or simply comment, and I will reach out to you.

Hellloooo! I trust we are all doing well in this new week. Today’s topic is for parents, guardians, and everyone who aspires to marry and have children. Can you occupy through parenthood? A big YES! You surely can. Parenthood is not just about raising children, it is about intentional guidance and spiritual influence. It means training up your child or children in the ways of God so that your influence over them produces good fruit.

As a parent, your responsibility is to nurture them in such a way that they are not out in the world destroying, but rather building and maintaining the standards of our faith. When you raise your children with Godly principles, you are shaping individuals who will carry those values into the world. Listen, your child or children are meant to occupy.

“Point your kids in the right direction, when they’re old they won’t be lost.”

Proverbs 22:6 (MSG)

What this means is that a child must be trained. Scripture is very clear on this, it says train up a child and point them in the right direction. Training and directing a child is the responsibility of the adult. Your child cannot be the one training you as the parent, and your child certainly should not be the one giving direction in the home. For example, a child may say to their parent, “I’m not going to church.” Ehhh! Yet you may find some parents responding, “Awww baby, it’s okay. You know how they are. When they grow up, they will realise how much they need God.” No. The African in me will not allow anyone to “see later.” You will see now because we are going.

Children must be trained to understand the principles of your household from an early age. Not that a full house with adults is being trained by a 5 year old. Ehhhhhhh! (I need to reduce the number of times l say ehhhh) In many households today, children are the ones leading while parents adopt the world’s notion of “don’t indoctrinate your children.” Meanwhile, other religions intentionally teach their children their beliefs and values, and no one questions it.

Christian parents, your children must learn about your God. When they go out into the world, their testimony should be the beautiful one that says, “My parents taught me about God.” You cannot only teach your child English and leave the rest to television, Ms Rachel and Cocomelon. Some may say, “You’re not a parent yet, you will see.” But I’m not speaking from experience, because experience is not always the best teacher. Experience can sometimes teach us things rooted in trauma or error. The best teacher is the Word of God. The Word teaches us the things that lead to life, a good life. One of those teachings is that children must be given direction.

If the parent says the direction is to study and sleep by 8, why should there be another direction where the child decides they prefer to do everything at 01:00? I have even heard on social media that some parents are now being raised by their children. People post videos of disrespectful behaviour by their children just to gain followers and views, expecting everyone to laugh along. But wait until that child is 16, when what once seemed funny becomes so sour that it brings the parent to tears. Some even post their children doing things meant for adults simply for attention and online popularity. Yet year 21 is coming, and when real consequences arrive, nobody on social media will carry that burden with you. Scripture is too wise to be wrong, even about this.

There should be no way that Ms. Rachel is the only teacher in your house. She cannot become the online nanny while you scroll on Instagram all day reposting memes and commenting on celebrities posts about their own children. So is teaching your child the Word of God? By the age of five, children should at least know a few verses. They should know how to pray for the food and thank God for life. There are Bibles made specifically for children, get them those. Give them colouring books with scripture, Bible stories, and books that teach manners and character.

Why should we wait until someone is 21 to try to build character, when by then swear words are already flowing like a river? Point the direction early. My parents did well in this area. Back then, I sometimes thought, “This must surely be abuse,” and I would get angry. But now? I am so grateful. I am grateful that going to church was never a debate. Serving in God’s house was not up for discussion. Prayer at home, going to school, these were not negotiable. Respect and love were expected at a very high standard . Not to paint a picture of perfection in our household, but Scripture is correct, when they grow up, they will not depart from it.

Now that I am grown, my parents have occupied through me because they taught me things that enabled me to occupy. If one day I were to become a president (maybe start praying for that, President Vanessa Elabashayaaayayaaa) when my mother arrives somewhere, how would she be known? The mother of the president. Has she not occupied that position through parenthood? Or think of the title “father of the bride” is that not being known through what your child becomes? So we cannot only think about occupying right now. Your children will occupy later. The question is, how will they occupy, and where will they occupy? God forbid that any of our children occupy prison. God forbid!

Let’s meet again tomorrow. I love you.

If you read my blogs but have never met this  Wonderful Jesus that I’m always writing about,  you’d love to get to know Him, Or you know The Lord but have found yourself drifting far from Him, I would love to talk with you. Please send me an email  on yieldedcwcenter@gmail.com or simply comment, and I will reach out to you.