Category: The Overcoming Believer

That space between nolonger there & not yet there.

Vanessa Moonkie

So I’m one of those people who hate travelling… well, not travelling itself, I actually love it. What I hate is being in transit. I don’t enjoy sitting in a car or bus for hours, and planes? The heights still make me nervous. I just want to arrive. If teleportation was an option every time I have to travel? I’d happily sign up for that but not that teleporting they do at your village. 😂 One minute the granny is in her hut, two minutes later she’s in the UK disturbing your sibling. Not that kind of teleportation o.

I do enjoy adventurous travel once I get there; it’s just the long journey that gets me. I think a lot of it comes from an accident I was in years ago. One of the things I’ve learned about transition seasons is that they often come just before the breakthrough. When a woman is in labour, she is in transition into motherhood. It is painful, uncomfortable, and often one of the most difficult assignments given to man yet she keeps pushing and pushing until the baby is fully delivered. That’s what transition looks like.

I always tell you guys about my sister Valerie when she was pregnant, right? Well, here’s a new story, new episode is now showing on YieldedTv lol . As she got closer to her due date, she’d often say, “The belly is heavy.” She would put her hand underneath it as if she was helping her body carry the weight. Her walk changed. Her body changed. Her weight changed. Her face changed… ehhhh. 😂 that one yhooo! It changed butttttt despite all of that, I would see her waking up early to check the baby’s clothes. She would fold them over and over again.

The child had not yet been born, yet she was preparing, even though her current condition was uncomfortable and heavy. I’m telling you this story to make this point akshually, your transition season will be uncomfortable, but it will still require you to prepare for what is coming. So you’re crying while preparing. You’re tired but still preparing. You want to give up but you’re still preparing. You feel like it’s all too much, but you’re still there, waiting. I’m sure that by the third trimester many pregnant women are already exhausted, yet they don’t tell the doctor, “I want to deliver today.” They understand there is an appointed time.

I believe it’s closer than you think. I know we’ve heard words like that so many times that sometimes we don’t even believe them anymore. Just think of it this way, when you’re on a plane, the pilot knows the route and often even shares the flight map with you. God, on the other hand, will most likely not show you the map, but He knows exactly how much longer you need to persevere. This reminds me of something that happened when I was in primary school. After school, we had to catch a bus home. We’d buy a ticket and then wait for a specific bus because it was the only one that used our route.

One day, something must have happened because from 1 p.m., when school ended, until 5 p.m., that bus never came. My sisters and I waited as we watched everyone else leave. We were so Bhod! We were hungry, and your sister here had anger issues. 😂 I got so frustrated that I tore my bus ticket in half, fully intending to chew the paper out of annoyance. I wanted to chew it thinking I’m spitting the bus company. The moment I was about to put it in my mouth… the bus pulled into the station. My sisters screamed and laughed. “We told you the bus would come! We will leave you here!” Ehhhh bazalwane.

By then, I had already convinced myself I was going to walk home. Mind you, I was a short, skinny, hungry primary school child. I was just a shildren. Home wasn’t impossibly far, but it definitely wasn’t close enough for that to be a sensible plan. I didn’t care anymore. I had made up my mind when I tore the ticket that l would walk. As everyone queued to board the bus, I stood there regretting the last five minutes of my life. My sisters were already waving at me , laughing so much. Thankfully, one of our friends cheated a little on my behalf, and by questionable means, I still managed to get onto the bus and get home. But you know what? Let’s continue this story tomorrow. For now, I’ll leave you to think about your own journey and whether it feels anything like mine did. Selah.

If you read my blogs but have never met this  Wonderful Jesus that I’m always writing about,  you’d love to get to know Him, Or you know The Lord but have found yourself drifting far from Him, I would love to talk with you. Please send me an email  on yieldedcwcenter@gmail.com or simply comment, and I will reach out to you

Happy new week, my Yielded people. Today I woke up thinking about the coming of our Lord and Saviour, Jesus Christ. I found myself thinking deeply about evangelism, about those who are still “deciding” whether to give their lives to Him, those who still don’t “feel” like going to church for reasons that don’t even make sense, those with one foot in and one foot out, those who mock the things of God and call believers all sorts of names, those who laugh at Scripture and blaspheme against the Holy Bible, and those who love sin and pursue it wholeheartedly without any conviction to turn away.

I also found myself thinking about my own life, my own mistakes, and the gray areas I still need God to work on. More than anything, I am thinking about our eternity. Where will we spend it? I usually leave this conversation for the very end, but today I felt led to bring it to the attention of what they call “lazy readers” who only ever read the first part of anything and leave the rest for “thorough readers”.

The most painful reality is that when you die or when Christ returns, nobody can speak on your behalf. Your tears will not help you then. Shall I tell you the gospel truth? Even your grandmother’s prayers cannot secure your place in heaven. Is that shocking? Not even simply attending church can save you. Salvation is personal. We must repent. We must rededicate our lives. We must live for God. If you have not given your life to Christ or you want to recommit your life to Him, today is the day. Be saved today. Comment below, and I will gladly lead you to Christ.

So, people of God, amidst everything happening in today’s world, the chaos, what we call the evil days, and all that is under the sun, God is still good, and He is still doing good things. God is still casting visions, giving people dreams, using people to build nations, bringing people into marriage, moving people to new places, blessing families with children, answering prayers, and allowing new things to begin. You will often find that a yielded and aligned believer is moving from an old season into a new one, that is what we call transition but what does transition mean?

Transition is the process of moving from one stage, season, place, or condition to another.”

Transition is a process; it is not the destination. Think of it this way, if you are travelling from Bulawayo to Harare and you are currently in Gweru, you are in transit. You have not yet arrived where you are going, but you are also no longer where you came from. You are not in Harare, yet you are no longer in Bulawayo. Did you catch the drift? Another example is when you are travelling to New York and your flight has a stopover to connect to another one. Even if you have to wait at the airport for an hour, you are still in transit. Even if you are told that the next plane has been delayed because its engines need to be checked and you have to wait even longer, you do not decide to settle in that country simply because you have been there for a while. You do not belong there.

Exodus 12:41–42 (The Message, MSG):

41 At the end of the 430 years, to the very day, all the troops of God left Egypt.

In the same way, transition is not a destination it is simply the process God uses to move you from one place, season, or level to another. The fiancé stage is a transition, it is not the marriage itself. The same applies to the talking or dating stage. You do not simply move into a man or woman’s house because you like each other or because you met on Instagram. “Moving in with wifey!” If I catch you “hubby”.. There is a process. You get to know each other, involve your families, pay lobola or dowry where it is part of your culture, prepare for marriage, and then get married. Those stages are all part of the transition.

The interview stage is another example of transition. No matter how well your interview went, you do not walk into the office the next day and announce, “I’ve arrived. I’m here to take over.” As who my brother? You wait for the recruitment process to be completed. HR still has to deliberate, make a decision, and issue an offer if you have been successful. Why? Because every destination you want to reach has its own unique process, timing, distance, requirements, and experiences. Transition prepares you for the place you are praying to enter.

Many people are in a season of transition and do not even realize it. In the realm of the Spirit, they should be preparing, packing their bags, and getting ready to catch the bus to their destination, yet they are still chatting with the neighbours and have not even taken a shower. Like those pink gown ladies all over social media. Someone whose transition is leading them to a place of greatness has not even begun to prepare. No suitcase. Nothing. They do not even have a passport yet.

Someone whose transport is scheduled to leave at 14:00 is still looking for a travel outfit at 13:59 and has not even booked a ticket. Do you see how important a season of transition is in the life of a believer? More often than not, it is the answer to a prayer, yet it finds many of us unaware, unprepared, and unconcerned. Totally unbothered. It finds us too relaxed.

The transition process you may be in is not the end of the journey. It is not the place where you receive the rewards. At times, you may not even be able to see the destination clearly, but you trust the Driver who is taking you where you are meant to go. Stop trying to arrive in Australia in three minutes, except you use a broom as transportation. Stop trying to unpack at the wrong place. Keep your suitcase closed, wrapped and safe. You are not there yet.

Let’s continue this conversation tomorrow. I love you. Take care of yourself.

Happy Friday, my Yielded People! 😄 Every day I wake up, it’s a new month, new this, new that. I honestly don’t know how you guys are coping, but life is giving climbing a mountain in high heels, wearing a long maxi dress, with no water bottle in sight. Anyhoo, today we’re wrapping up our topic on masturbation.

I’d love to share some resources that may help you on your journey, so please feel free to email or DM me if you’d want more. As I mentioned before, for those struggling with addiction, this can be a longer journey that may require counselling and additional resources not because a level of understanding often comes before lasting change. My prayer is that you walk in freedom. I truly believe you will conquer, because you were built to. ❤️

We’ll be starting a new topic next week, but before we move on, I want to take this opportunity to thank everyone who shared the links and encouraged others to read. You may think you did something small but you helped someone. The stigma surrounding this issue makes it incredibly difficult for people to open up and seek the help they need, but I truly believe that this time around, many people found hope and support because the statistics were honestly amazing.

To everyone who has supported my blog in one way or another, thank you. I truly appreciate every single one of you. As you continue scrolling, you’ll find some invaluable books, articles, and links to help you on your journey. Download them, have a listen, read through them, and soak yourself in the information. When you know better, you do what? Exactly mzalwane! You do berrer. So desire to know better. I’m rooting for you, and I can’t wait to hear how you conquered. Your testimony will be beautiful, in Jesus’ name. ❤️

For the purity challenge (very effective) please email. 

1. Apostle Joshua Selman – Click here
2. Apostle Femi Lazarus – Click here
3. Apostle Michael Orokpo – Click here
4. Pastor Vlad Savchuk – Click here
5. Apostle Michael Orokpo – Click here
6. The Purity Challenge Audios – Click here
7. Stephanie Okafor – Click here
8. Apostle Isi Igenegba – Click here
9. Apostle Arome Osayi – Click here
10. Apostle Judge Dube – Click here

I love you and l wish you a beautiful Christ filled life. See you on Monday 🩷

“Now unto him that is able to keep you from falling, and to present you faultless before the presence of his glory with exceeding joy,
To the only wise God our Saviour, be glory and majesty, dominion and power, both now and ever. Amen.”

The Epistle of Jude 1:24–25 (KJV):

If you read my blogs but have never met this  Wonderful Jesus that I’m always writing about,  you’d love to get to know Him, Or you know The Lord but have found yourself drifting far from Him, I would love to talk with you. Please send me an email  on yieldedcwcenter@gmail.com or simply comment, and I will reach out to you

If I told you to delete all the pornographic files on your phone, clear your browsing history, block certain websites, and gave you a list of things to do today to break the habit, we both know that alone probably wouldn’t work. You may have done those things many times before, only to find yourself downloading or searching for the same content again. I’ve come to realise that the way into addiction is often easy, but the way out is hard. The entrance is usually wide open, but freedom requires intentional effort.

Simply deleting files or avoiding certain content often deals with the surface, not the root. Roots are what keep things alive, whether good or bad, and if you truly want lasting freedom, you have to be willing to dig deeper. That takes honesty, patience, and hard work. As a Christian counsellor, I believe one of the strongest places to begin is with prayer and fasting. You have to deal with it spiritually and also do the practical steps. It’s pointless to just delete a video only to download it again in less than 2hours.

Many people who are bound and struggling to find freedom face two major problems, ignorance and spiritual laziness. Ignorance says, “Don’t read,” or “Don’t watch videos about how to be free.” A person can spend hours watching Netflix, scrolling on social media, or consuming all kinds of content, yet never pick up a single book that addresses the very struggle they’re facing, not even the Bible. Some people have never read any scripture to help them with this. You’ll do almost anything except intentionally focus on what can help bring healing.

Ignorance also tells you that the problem will eventually disappear on its own. My love, it won’t. If nothing changes, nothing changes. Spiritual laziness sounds different. It says, “I’ll pray about it later,”but your has become two years. “I’ll fast about it one day,” but that day is probably gonna be at the day of judgement. If you can set time aside to fast for a job, a breakthrough, or an opportunity, why not also fast for your freedom? We often say, “Pray for me,” and there’s nothing wrong with asking others to pray. But what if they forget? Why not pray for yourself first, and then invite others to stand with you in prayer?

In Matthew 17:19–21, after the disciples failed to cast out a demon, they asked Jesus privately, “Why couldn’t we drive it out?” Jesus explained that “this kind does not go out except by prayer and fasting.” Some battles are too heavy to fight them in the flesh. There is a kind of battle. A kind of spirits. Those ones require another level of sacrifice. They require spiritual discipline. There are bondages that will not break until you fast and pray prayer. Please use this strategy. It works.

Because there are many strategies I would like to share with you, and I’ll be writing about a different topic next week, I’ll leave you with a practical list of things you can start doing today. First, consider having an accountability partner. Walking this journey alone is difficult, and having someone to check in on you can make a real difference. Unfortunately, I cannot personally be an accountability partner at the moment outside of a counselling relationship. Choose someone who has integrity not a gossip who will tell the nations lol

Also, read books that address this struggle. If you’d like recommendations, you’re welcome to email me and I’ll gladly suggest a few. Watch sermons on YouTube that teach about purity, freedom, and renewing the mind. Begin reading your Bible systematically, not occasionally. As you fill your mind with God’s Word, you leave less room for thoughts that feed lust. Scripture renews the mind. Keep away from Mills & Boon novels and all those books you like that narrate sexual sin.

Another important step is to stop isolating yourself. Sexual sin often thrives in secrecy and isolation. People don’t usually masturbate in the middle of a busy street, except ai I dunno, they are crazy. They go to private rooms and hidden places. The same is often true of fornication and adultery they do it in secrecy. In hiding. If you notice the temptation beginning while you’re alone, don’t stay there hoping it will pass. Get up immediately. Go where other people are. Take a walk. Sit in the living room. Visit a friend. Call someone even a video call if necessary.

Change your environment before the temptation grows stronger. There are many practical ways to protect yourself, and sometimes the simplest decision to leave the room. Joseph left that lady. He ran. If he stayed there, he’d have ended up changing his mind Athi “Okay okay just one time! It must never happen again.” That one time would’ve ended up being a daily thing. You have to stop the temptation before it becomes an action.

Please also stop sexting. Those conversations that begin with, “If you were here…” or “What are you wearing?” are not as innocent as they “seem.” Some Christian couples are so relieved that they are not fornicating, yet they spend hours sexting and stirring up sexual desire in one another. My brother, my sister… it’s still leading you into sin. The Bible says, 2 Timothy 2:22, “Flee also youthful lusts.” It doesn’t say negotiate with them. It says flee. Run.

“You have cute lips ?” My sister… commot. 😂 You know that the man of God will start feeling feelinnnzz. Before you know it, “I can’t wait for our wedding night” turns into a detailed discussion of everything you plan to do on that night. At that point, your body has already joined the conversation, it’s participating with. Then both of you end up masturbating while proudly telling yourselves, “At least we’re keeping ourselves pure.” No, you’re simply feeding the same fire from a different angle.

Please dress wisely during your video calls too. If you’re courting, don’t be on video calls with cleavage on full display while the brother is sitting there shirtless, saying he’s “just feeling hot.” Hot indeed. 😂 Don’t unnecessarily tempt each other. You already know what attracts the other person. You are both unmarried, the call lasts three hours in very inappropriate dressing , and now everyone is wondering why temptation suddenly appeared. It didn’t suddenly appear, you invited it in. Infact you video called it.

Protect your eyes as well. The eye is a gate into the soul. Sometimes one careless glance at a sisters bum bum can stay in your mind far longer than you expected, one full month you’re still thinking of her. Guard what you watch, what you scroll through, and what you stare at. If you know something awakens lust in you, don’t entertain it. Protect your heart by protecting your eyes. Keep your courtship pure. Be each other’s keeper, not each other’s stumbling block. God honours purity, and your future marriage will benefit from the boundaries you choose today.

Let me stop here for today so that you can teeenk about these things. We’ll meet again on Friday, by God’s grace, and wrap this series up. God bless you.

If you read my blogs but have never met this  Wonderful Jesus that I’m always writing about,  you’d love to get to know Him, Or you know The Lord but have found yourself drifting far from Him, I would love to talk with you. Please send me an email  on yieldedcwcenter@gmail.com or simply comment, and I will reach out to you

If you study this well, you will notice that the very beginning of an addiction is rarely the most harmful part. It simple. It easy. It begins with something almost everyone does, thinking. You just think like this and next thing, your body starts peppering you. The root of every addiction is found in our thoughts. Before you engage in self-pleasure, you first thought about it. It is not merely thinking about it that becomes the bigger problem, but dwelling on those thoughts long enough for them to translate into action. That’s why I refuse to believe that people just fell into cheating. Wena! Don’t lie to us. Your mind cooked it before o.

Many people follow their minds, but only on rare occasions does the mind follow them. In other words, you become what you think. You go where your mind goes, and you follow where your thoughts lead. Scripture gives us light on this when it says, “As a man thinks in his heart, so is he.” The addiction to masturbation begins in the mind. When your thoughts entertain certain images, your body eventually follows with an action. If you look at the image above, you will notice that immediately after a thought comes a complying action. You can’t be thinking about women’s curves and men’s six packs and think you won’t feel fire in your bones, you will o. Hot fire will soon catch up with you.

People rarely rebel against their own minds. The natural person finds it difficult to control their thoughts, which is why the Word of God teaches that the mind we need in order to live a godly life is the mind of Christ. If you want to stop masturbating, start by checking your thoughts. The thing about thoughts is that they grow if they are continually entertained. If you do not stop a thought the moment it suggests something to you, it rarely stays at that level. It may begin with imagining a naked person, but if you continue feeding that thought, it can progress to, “Why are you only thinking about it when you can actually watch it?”

From there, many people are drawn into pornography, and for some, unchecked lust can develop into increasingly harmful and destructive behaviours like rape. People have raped children because they couldn’t stop thinking about sex. Sin has a way of escalating when it is repeatedly entertained. It always escalates . The longer you contemplate something, the stronger the desire to act on it can become. Sexual thoughts are harmful if you continue feeding them, they often intensify and create a stronger urge to seek gratification. This is why the battle must be won in the mind before it ever reaches your actions. “But I’m a grown man obviously I will …” my brother go and marry. “Hmm they say ovulation at this age, so it’s just science,” my sister, that body should be subjected to the Holy Spirit.

How do you stop masturbating? Arrest the thought the moment it arrives. Deal with it immediately. Listen, you won’t get to pornography, fornication, or even masturbation if you learn to take your thoughts captive before they take you captive. Na survival of the fittest. Who is going to win, you or your thoughts? I just gave you a challenge. I dare you to win. Look at Potiphar’s wife. Sis couldn’t let it go. She kept looking at that fine Hebrew bobo and probably saying, “Yoh… this boy is too fine. Fine man, no pimple, he don katch my eye.” (Joseph was probably my type but ok ok) Instead of shutting the thought down, she kept feeding it until she went the extra mile and tried to sleep with a man who wasn’t her husband. You just keep looking at that sister. Hehe. You will soon sin against your own body.

I think The devil is a salesman. He is definitely into marketing. The guy at the call centre who sells anything and people buy. Hehhh one time l worked at a call centre, guys? It’s not my gift. I can’t sell anything, I can create the product that can be bought but to sell it to you? I will just say “Buy right now, don’t bore me.” lol! Anyways, the devil. He never starts with, “Let’s make this a ten-year addiction.” No, he says, “Just do it once.” That “once” has become ten years of bondage for many people. Every single day during those ten years began with the same lie, “Why are you just thinking about it? Go ahead and do it.” “Just do it!” Nike!

If you want to break the cycle, don’t wait until you masturbate.Win the battle while it’s still just a thought. This part may be harder for some people because the longer you’ve been in bondage, the more it has become a mindset. Your mind has been trained to think that way for so long that it has almost never been challenged. So don’t be surprised when you start fighting back and your mind fights you too. In fact, in the first few days it may even seem louder than before. That’s normal. Fight anyway. I told you before, nobody breaks free from an addiction without a fight.

There’s people who go to rehab, come out, and some relapse. It means they lost the battle to the addiction again . It reminds me of Lot’s wife. She had already started the journey. Ai kodwa lomama. God had made a way of escape for the family. Everything was moving according to His plan, but she still had ties to what she had left behind. She looked back. Maybe she had lots of besties or clothes. It would be my clothes for me because why should they be burnt. My prayer is that you won’t look back. I pray that you will break every tie you have with this habit and keep moving forward.

Now I want you to do a likkle exercise for me, well for yourself. Every day this week that you don’t masturbate, open the Notes app on your phone and write, “Monday – ✅.” If you fall, write, “Monday – ❌.” We’re going to start keeping score. Your goal every week is 7/7. If your score is lower than that, don’t quit, make it your challenge for the next week to do better. Please take this seriously. Nobody is going to keep tabs on you. This is a fight you have to win for yourself. Every day you choose to fight is another step away from bondage and another step toward freedom.

If you read my blogs but have never met this  Wonderful Jesus that I’m always writing about,  you’d love to get to know Him, Or you know The Lord but have found yourself drifting far from Him, I would love to talk with you. Please send me an email  on yieldedcwcenter@gmail.com or simply comment, and I will reach out to you