Category: The Overcoming Believer

🌼Hey family. Happy Monday 🌼

I’ve been slowing down a bit lately to give myself a likkle ease just enough to manage fatigue and avoid burnout. BUT hallelujah, I’m back in the groove and rhythm! Thank you all so much for the book purchases, I’m deeply grateful for your support.

I truly believe that every person, regardless of race, gender, or religion, needs support whether from family, friends, community, church, or religious groups. Every person desires support, but even more than desire, we need it. I’m so glad I got yours. That means the world. It’s special and these days, quite rare. 💛.

Just a short blog to start your week.

What is not fixed is highly likely to worsen.Be it a problem in a relationship, an illness, an issue with your laptop system, a tear on your favourite dress, or an electrical problem in your apartment what is not fixed or treated will worsen.What this means is: every problem left unsolved becomes a worsening problem, with the potential of becoming the worst problem.

Now, in the context of our lives, the many things we “ignore” will sooner or later pop up with even more intensity. Something like depression, anxiety, past pains… a sore knee… or even an issue you could easily sort out now but you postpone it to a date unknown.Do you know that in five years, that unforgiveness could turn into anger and resentment? Yep. It grows too. That apology you owe someone why not do it now? If it’s not fixed, the relationship will break. Some issues don’t disappear, they silently worsen. You think it’s sorted but it’s growing muscle.

Every rising issue that is kept under the blanket yes, even that bad character trait everyone keeps warning you about, will grow. And you’ll give the enemy room to capitalise on it. All I’m saying today is: fix it! It’s not scriptural, but I can’t help but wonder did Ananias and Sapphira already have a lying problem? And did it grow until they lied to the Holy Spirit?

That person who thinks lust and pornography will just remain at the level they’re at? No, darling. Some people never made it out they made it in deeper. Neck deep. The issue of alcohol? Solve it now. Because later might be too late. Everything grows. Appetites too.

I wrote on my status last week that, if a person wants to avoid transformation, they start by lying to themselves that they don’t need it; then they avoid everyone who they may be accountable to. This means that many people have isolated with their problems and they think they are safe because the person to call you out has been blocked or you started distancing yourself. You are not safe. Day by day, every moment that passes, that thing you’re refusing to address , is addressing you. You don’t want to find out later, find out now, fix it now.

Like l said, I came with a short blog to tell you, get counselling if need be. Get help. Fix the things. Deal with the problem. Running will not stop the storm Jonah. Face the facts, you must go to Nineveh. And some of you, need to stop and face God. He’s the One you’re running from and you don’t realise, it’s killing your spiritual life day by day. Why? Everything that’s not fixed ????? Exactly.

Have a great Monday. Order your book today and let’s get reading!

We are officially 6 months in! I still have a list of to-do’s but I’m most grateful for the gift of life. Life is a gift. Without it, all those 55 things you planned to do this year are useless. You must be alive to do, to plan, to build, to create, to even accumulate that wealth you dream about or that wonderful kingdom spouse. I feel like we easily downplay the fact that right now, our hearts are beating and in this every moment, we have a chance to do what we’ve never done before. You have a chance to dream, to envision and to put that into action. 6 months in, what has been accomplished?

People hate that question. Sometimes it’s because it demands an answer for time that may have been carelessly spent. It calls us out on our laziness & procrastinations. Sometimes it’s because people just don’t like confrontation. I’ve since discovered that confrontation is necessary for growth. If you were sick and went to the doctor and he gave you medication to take for a couple of days. You go back after you’re done with the medication and he asks you, “Did you take the medication? How are you feeling?” Would it be wise for you to get agitated and refuse to answer? No. Why? Because the answer you give will give him an idea of how to help you further. We need some questions even though they seem to make us uncomfortable. How have you spent your time the past 6months?

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One thing this season has taught me is this, God is the only God. We may not say it out loud, but many times, we’ve placed man on a throne that doesn’t belong to them. And we’re quick to say, “Oh no, not me!” Really? Look at how we prioritize people over God. We run after man’s approval, crave their validation, chase their hearts… and forget about chasing God’s.

We shower man with compliments, celebrate them day and night, yet when it comes to God, we go silent. Worship feels like a task. Heavy. Forced. We need to be pushed to lift our hands, to sing, to adore Him yet we’ll dance and sing for man without even being asked. But not anymore. I’ve learned: only God sits on the throne of my heart. That seat is His and His alone. I will serve no foreign god.

When man has come through for us, helped us, supported us, stood by us we show gratitude, not worship. There’s a clear line, and it must never be blurred.

I’m reminded of Peter, when he entered the house of Cornelius. As Cornelius bowed to worship him, Peter quickly rebuked him, saying, “Stand up; I too am just a man.” And this was no ordinary man this was a man God Himself had endorsed, a man God spoke to Cornelius about in a vision! He was walking in power, doing miracles, signs, and wonders. Yet he remained just that, a man. Exploits and greater works don’t make us equal with God. No. Never.

I’m so grateful for the people who have stood by me, those who showed up, helped, and carried me through seasons. But they are not my gods. Only the Lord Jesus Christ is. He alone is the One I worship.

I love that David Dam song that says, “Only Yeshua will reign forever!” And it’s true. There may be 10,000 powerful prophets out there, but Only Yeshua! There are fierce intercessors who can pray you into places you never dreamed of, today you’re crying, tomorrow you’re sitting in boardrooms but still, Only Yeshua!

Yes, the blind see. Yes, lost souls are being won. But the glory? Still Only Yeshua.We must understand this: man is still just man helped by God. So what do we do? We recognise the God working through people. We honour them, we celebrate them, but we worship God. Never the other way around. Celebrate man, yes but worship belongs to God alone.

This truth will also help you extend grace when those same men fall. Because if you never placed them on a GOD pedestal to begin with, their mistakes won’t make you abandon your faith in God. You’ll remember they’re just men. Helped by God. And men… fall.

I pray this short message has helped you. And let it also remind you, yes even you, no matter how gifted, anointed, or impactful you become you are a man (or woman) helped by God. Never forget that.We are striving to become like Him but we are and will never be Him. Shall we listen to this wonderful song together?

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One of the main reasons couples don’t last long or end up divorcing is emotional instability. When one person is emotionally mature and knows how to handle their feelings, and the other lashes out breaking things or causing damage when angry that relationship will struggle. Sometimes we quickly say, “It wasn’t meant to be.” Fair enough. But maybe it was meant to be, you just had too much emotional conflict, both within yourselves and between each other, that ended up weighing down what could’ve been something really beautiful.

An emotionally unstable parent is a real danger to their children, I’m not even joking. So many parents had the chance to be their children’s safe place, but instead, they became the very source of their pain. Your kids don’t feel safe around you because your heart is noisy, unsettled, and refuses to embrace peace.

Just two days ago, it was Mother’s Day, and I can’t tell you how many people opened up about this exact thing. “My mom never healed, so she constantly did ABC,” or “I don’t speak to my mom anymore because she’s bitter and always hurts me.” We may judge these people but only they know, the wounds that came from nursing that relationship. The truth is, emotional instability makes it almost impossible to build healthy relationships it always ends up causing destruction instead of connection.

What about the drama? The desperation? The sharp words? The countless days filled with attitude and tension? Let’s be honest , this goes for both men and women. A man who beats his wife is emotionally unstable. He shouldn’t be married. He’s living impulsively, ruled by his emotions, while someone else suffers for his lack of self-control.

There’s a foolishness you pay for because of your own choices, and then there’s the kind you suffer from simply by being around foolish, unstable people. Emotional instability doesn’t always look loud , it can hide in gullibility, naivety, insecurity. But the fruit is the same: damaged relationships, chaos, and pain.So what’s the answer? It’s simple: HEALING.

Heal and be restored. Do the inner work. Build a healthy image of who you are not based on your pain, but on truth. Your mind needs healing too. Learn to think before you speak. Understand that your words and actions carry weight, and they can hurt others deeply. Like I said yesterday, no one can put up with you forever. Nobody. There comes a point when even the most patient person grows tired. Heal before you lose the very people who were sent to love you.

Lastly, Signs of Emotional Stability.

You know when to be silent, when to speak, and when to walk away. You can process disappointment without exploding. You listen more than you react. You are self-aware and take responsibility for your emotions. You give others room to feel, without making everything about you. The Cost of Emotional Instability

• Broken relationships.
• Repeating toxic cycles.
• Missed opportunities.
• Regret and shame after impulsive decisions.
• Hurting the people you love the most.

People don’t always realise how much emotional immaturity costs until it’s too late. I hope you do, I hope you have learned from this little lesson that your internal being matters. That heart? Guard it. Diligently so. Remember, somethings can be done for you and some? You do them yourself. Inner work is one of them. See you tomorrow!❤️

We’re baaaack! It’s been a whole two weeks without a blog, our longest break yet. Last week, I decided to take intentional rest, and guess what? I had writer’s block too, soooo it was cheering on my decision to pause. Honestly, I didn’t mind. I’ve come to appreciate that writer’s block isn’t forever; sometimes all you need is a little spark of inspiration to get going again. And now that the spark “she’s” back, let’s goooooo! Today we’re talking about: emotional stability.

Emotional stability is the ability to remain calm, balanced, and in control of your emotions especially in stressful or challenging situations. It doesn’t mean you don’t feel strong emotions, but that you don’t let them control you or lead to impulsive decisions. This means that emotional instability is the opposite of what you’ve just read. Many people who struggle with emotional instability often find it challenging to sustain meaningful relationships. Why? Because instability unsettles the relationship. It becomes difficult to connect, to build trust, and to grow together. Keeping up with someone whose emotions constantly shift can feel exhausting and understanding them can feel nearly impossible at times.

There was a time, I can’t remember if I was teaching or writing but I clearly remember saying this: if you’re emotionally unstable, people can usually see it, and they may start to distance themselves from you. And honestly? It’s not that deep. People naturally think about protecting themselves first.

Don’t believe me? Picture this: a dog starts chasing you and your friends. Are you really going to say, “Guys, run ahead! Let the dog get me , I’ll be the sacrifice!” Be honest. You’re probably grabbing onto the fastest runner without realising you’re slowing them down too! It just goes to show self-preservation kicks in fast. That’s why the sacrifice of Christ is such a big deal. He chose to be the sacrifice. Receive Him today. We all like to think we’re sacrificial, but let’s be real there are levels to it.

Now that you’ve admitted you’d also run for your life, you can probably understand this: when your emotional life is all over the place, people might start running too. Think about it, how many different moods are you planning to have in one week? “I won’t even smile today. They must feel that something’s wrong, today today today!” You plan your dramatic scenes.

Listen darling, believe me when I say this, people are going through a lot, and sometimes their “lot” doesn’t include babysitting your emotional rollercoaster. When I counsel people, I always tell them the truth. Why? Because the real danger is when we lie to ourselves. That kind of self-deception doesn’t protect you it slowly harms you over time.

What does emotional stability actually look like?

It looks like managing anger you can’t go around punching walls. Your fingers will bruise. They’ll break. And guess what? The wall won’t care. It looks like facing sadness and anxiety without letting them drown you, because the enemy’s plan is often to trap you there to keep you spiralling until something small becomes a mountain of depression.

It looks like bouncing back from setbacks with resilience. Do you know how many people give up every day? It’s heartbreaking. A “no” from a company isn’t the end of your life. Please, I’m begging you, don’t let rejection convince you that your life has no value. Suicide is not the solution. It will never be! Emotional stability is staying consistent in your mood and behavior making wise, thought-through decisions instead of reacting on impulse.

Sweetheart, you can’t break up five times a week. You can’t block someone every time there’s a disagreement. “I’m all for peace!” No baby, that’s not peace. That’s emotional instability especially because we know you’re unblocking them again before 8pm.

I have a lot to say but can we wrap it up here today? We will do part two tomorrow. Well, it does feel like a counselling session lol. I got a scripture below

“If you live without restraint and are unable to control your temper, you’re as helpless as a city with broken-down defenses, open to attack.”
‭‭Proverbs‬ ‭25‬:‭28‬ ‭TPT‬‬
THE HOLY BIBLE

Guess what? We all have moments when our emotions get the best of us it’s part of being human. But the good news is, we don’t have to stay there. Tomorrow, we’ll dive into practical ways to stay positive and calm even in tough days and seasons.You know I love you forever. Have an amazing day! And remember: if you cool down, and you’ll find yourself gaining control over the situation and things will turn out so much better!

Okay BYE! ❤️