Dealing with disappointments

Hello Yielded Family. If you’re in winter season please stay warm, I caught a flue that has been messing me up! Abeg, be warm! Today l want us to talk about dealing with disappointments, how to handle them & how to move on from them.

In this season of my life, my eyes have been opened to many things. I’ve come to realise that situations are revealing. They uncover your true strength, expose the nature of your surroundings and circle, and even test the depth of your faith and the condition of your heart.

There are lessons joy won’t teach you, lessons reserved for adversity. What I didn’t learn in times of peace, I was forced to learn in times of battle.I never truly understood how to handle disappointment until I faced it, repeatedly. Disappointment came through people I believed would stand by me no matter what. But in that, I learned, grew, and saw more clearly. I saw my heart.

I saw how it beat on a frequency that didn’t match the rhythm of certain people around me. I saw how hands that once offered warmth and words of love quietly held hidden knives disguised in smiles, cloaked in familiarity. I saw the unfairness… how you can pour out your all, give your 100; while someone else offers only 10, and walks away feeling justified, even blind to the imbalance.I saw how progress, opportunities even love sometimes flow by the currency of favour, not faithfulness. It broke my heart. And then came the question: Now that I’ve seen all this how do I deal with the weight of disappointment?

If you voice it, they’ll call you petty. If you speak on it, some will say you’re carrying offence. When really, it’s just the sting of disappointment… Because you never saw it coming.You just didn’t expect them to be the ones. But It happens everywhere, In marriages. In friendships. In the workplace. I remember one colleague of mine who was smiling and laughing with me all day only to report me to the manager that I don’t do my work properly & l lost my job that very day because he was trusted and l faced many months of struggle. How do you deal with that? Because every time theres no food in my fridge l remember him, laughing then backstabbing me.

People distance themselves from family not out of hate, but because someone used a lunch break to casually tear their name apart on long phone calls. Some hearts shut down not out of bitterness, but from the realisation: “I never had a place in theirs.”And family… here’s the hard part: How do you deal with it? How do you breathe through the moment when the same hand that hugged you Turns around and hands your enemy the gun whispering, “Shoot him. He’s unarmed.”

And the answer? It’s unexpected. Forgiveness. Yep, you heard me right. Forgiveness. It shatters pride and invites humility. It softens the heart and opens the door to healing. When you truly forgive, you stop demanding explanations. You stop rehearsing the pain.You’re no longer holding grudges or carrying silent offence. Instead, you find yourself in a place of surrender. A place where God becomes the One who heals and restores. Where peace replaces confusion, and grace flows freely.

So, surrender that disappointment to God. Give it up. Release it. Let Him hold what’s too heavy for you. I have so much more to say, but we’ll continue tomorrow. Keep moving forward. Keep shining. Keep winning.

I love you! ❤️

“Give all your worries and cares to God, for he cares about you.”
‭‭1 Peter‬ ‭5‬:‭7‬ ‭NLT‬‬

The Holy Bible