Holding on in difficult times [2]

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Alright, now let’s get into today’s blog.

We often say things like “hold on,” “keep pushing,” or “keep going” as if those things are easy to do. But in reality, they can be incredibly hard especially in seasons where it feels like God is silent or when everything around us seems to be falling apart. Some people genuinely don’t know what to do during those times. And while encouragement is helpful, it’s fair to ask: what are the practical ways we can actually hold on? Are there steps that truly work? Or is it just trial and error? The truth is, not everything works for everyone it’s rarely a one-size-fits-all kind of journey.

The last thing anyone wants is to spend time and energy on things that don’t lead to real peace, healing, or hope. Things that don’t work. Girls would definitely understand this betterlike when you try a new face or hair product that promised visible results in two weeks. You wait, you hope, and after two weeks… nothing. So you add a “grace period” week, thinking maybe … But still, nothing has changed! Like, how dare you waste my time and my money? I still have pimples. My hairline is still receding. Or maybe it’s like a talking stage with someone you’re investing your energy, and suddenly it hits you: why are you wasting my time? Once there’s a clear yes or no, save yourself time. Actually, go and buy A Thing Called Time .

What does holding on really look like when your grip is weak and your faith feels fragile? Is sleeping it through okay? Can you pour yourself some Johnie Walker and just drink up? Or do you climb a mountain and wait on God from there? What exactly can be done when life feels heavy and confusing? Maybe you’re thinking, should I see a counsellor? (By the way, if you need counselling, book with me today 😉). There are so many lists, different things people claim can help us stay afloat, whether they’re proven or not. Social media is overflowing with advice and “coping hacks.” Some even say, just scroll through your phone and watch reels, it’ll make you feel better. But does it really help? Is it actually effective?

The first proven method of holding on is prayer. Scripture says, “Man ought always to pray and not to faint” (Luke 18:1). Prayer isn’t just a last resort , it’s a lifeline. Look at David in the Psalms whether he was rejoicing or completely undone, he kept praying. He encouraged himself in the Lord, he worshipped, he cried out, he poured out his heart but he never disconnected from God. Even when death felt near and enemies were closing in, he stayed plugged into the One who sustains.

But today, many people disconnect from God in hard times and instead, they connect to weed, distractions, or a few friends who honestly don’t know how to help either. David is a good example because his prayers are raw, emotional, relatable, he never stopped seeking God. And then there’s Jesus. Just before facing the most brutal death imaginable, He prayed. He was in deep anguish, but He still prayed. Prayer is a proven strategy. It’s not outdated, it’s not religious performance , it’s honestly another way of survival. You stay afloat by praying. People of God, this is not optional. It’s important.

David sang. Maybe to make this a bit more relatable how many of us have had our hearts broken at some point in life? Don’t even act like you’ve never. I know you! Say it with me, all of us. Now in those moments, how many of us turned to music? I definitely did. Some were deep in those sad songs. Some of you listened to gospel, bless your soul. Even after God clearly told you, “This is not your spouse,” you kept pushing… and when it finally fell apart, your way out was music. Some of you went the Westlife route, that’s me. Others? You turned to Maskandi or Amapiano. And if you chose those heavy instruments for comfort… your heartbreak was on levels. A serious one!

So David had a strategy, he sang. The man knew how to pour out his soul in worship. Scripture tells us to “sing psalms and hymns and spiritual songs, making melody in your hearts to the Lord (Ephesians 5:19). There’s power in singing. There’s healing in worship. So yes burst out in song. Find a Dunsin Oyekan track, connect your AirPods, and worship. You’ll feel lighter. You’ll feel better. And yes, you can do it daily. Don’t wait for Sunday, sing your way through the valley.

Shall I share the last one for today before we continue tomorrow? Dancing. We’re in the middle of the Hallelujah Challenge, and I can’t even imagine how many people this has lifted. People who were drowning in depression got up and danced. You’re not depressed you just haven’t danced for Jesus yet! I know it sounds like a paradox, because how can you tell someone to dance when they’re going through a difficult time? We usually think dancing is for parties or happy moments, right? Wrong. We dance always. We praise always.

You may not feel like dancing, but play some music, start moving, and watch how your joy begins to rise again. It’s not about whether you can breakdance or two-step it’s about reconnecting with joy through praise. Dancing is not just movement; it’s a declaration that God is still good, even here, even now. When l dance at HC? Eh!!! You will think maybe l will break my bones. Kai! I can dance shame l don’t care what you think 😂

I have more strategies to share with you, but for today, let’s focus on these ones. You know I love and celebrate you greatly! 💛 See you tomorrow!!