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It also isn’t always ugly either.

Happy Friday my Yielded people! I am so grateful to the Lord today because I am healed! I had quite a week but God has healed me and restored my health.

How’re you?

How’s your heart? How’s your mind? I know you just read through quickly but pause for a moment and answer the questions. How’s life lately? You know, sometimes we avoid answering because we hate confrontation but it is necessary to come face to face with these things so that we can find a way forward.

I’ve realised that many of us have never been truly validated in how we feel, and because of that, we tend to shy away from expressing our emotions. Maybe no one ever said to you, “I’m proud of you,” or “You’ve done well.” Perhaps you’ve never heard the words “I love you” spoken genuinely, with no strings attached. As a result, your natural response to such words might be,

I’m sure you don’t really mean that.”

We’ve carried this mentality for the 20-plus years we’ve lived—or however old you are—and because it’s been with us for so long, we start to believe it’s right. But the length of time spent believing something wrong doesn’t make it right. Being abused for 5 years doesn’t make abuse a good thing. In the same way, you can’t hold on to a mindset of negativity forever because guess what? It can be changed. Mindsets can shift, but only if you’re willing to let them.

Anyway, it’s Reflection Friday, and I’ve got an exercise I want us to do together. But before we dive into that, I need a quick favor. Help me out by sharing my counseling links with your friends! Tell them, “Hey, no need to commit suicide, put the rat poison away. It’s called rat poison because it’s for rats and you’re not one. I know a Christian counsellor.” Seriously though, let them know they can find hope and healing.

Here’s the link below—share it like you’re spreading gossip (the good kind)! Oh, and kindly remind them to read the service info carefully before booking. Let’s save lives , one session at a time!

Counselling Slots

Here’s today’s exercise. Remember, this is entirely for YOU. Choosing not to do it is also your decision. But sometimes, you are the best person to speak to yourself. Take some time and complete this exercise with your whole heart.

“May the Lord smile on you and be gracious to you.”
‭‭Numbers‬ ‭6‬:‭25‬ ‭NLT‬‬

Hey family!

I trust we’re all doing well! I’m resting, lol—I knew I needed to because my body was doing the most. I’ve learned it’s foolish not to rest because even God Himself rested. Who sets a better standard than God? Sleep when you need to. Put away that laptop; you don’t need it at 3 a.m. Don’t harm your body in the name of “I’m a hard worker.” Yesterday, my best friend said, “Your body is a temple, and you need it for territorial influence.”

While the concept of work is of God, since creation, Adam was created and given an assignment to tend to (work on) the garden, rest is also very important. Toil is work under a curse and I believe many of us are toiling and we think it’s wise to do so. “I have to, I have bills to pay.” Yes, but you need your body to operate on earth. Spirits don’t go to work at FNB or wherever you work. Once you die, you’re illegal on earth. Even if you’re a soul winner, even if you’re a pastor, if your body is overworked it’ll be overwhelmed and it’ll eventually report it to you and if you ignore it, it will leave the scene. Your body can abandon you.

BTW, this blog is not for those who rest more than they work. Your body is also begging you to get busy with studies or some work. I’m addressing those who don’t even take a few mins to sleep because they want to be busy bodies. Please get it from me on this very lovely Thursday or you will learn the hard way. What happened to me these past couple of days ehnn? I kept telling myself “I will do better.” Today I’m soooo tempted to just do 3 things that I know will take up most of my day BUT guess what, I’m chilling. I’m laying down , reading my bible because my dhiyeeee, I can’t keeee myself.

This is a good time to meditate on your dreams. What have l done since the year begun? What are my next steps? Start dreaming again. Think of how far you wanna go, design your company in your head, sometimes fantasising triggers the creative part of our minds . It doesn’t cost anything to think. That’s all I’m doing today. Studying the word and thinking. Everything else? No. Wisdom says I can do all things but I can’t do all of them in one day. Work well under pressure but if it’s like that daily? You’re slaving away. Rome wasn’t built in a day.

Here’s a book you can read today ;

Ever thought because someone is doing it you can do it too?

Happy New Week Family!🌸

when I grow up, I want to be a nurse.” No, wait—“When I grow up, I want to be a teacher.” Actually, scratch that—“When I grow up, I want to be a lawyer!” That was us, wasn’t it? Back in primary school, high school, and every moment in between, dreaming big dreams like the world was one giant career fair.

And let’s not forget those English compositions we all wrote: “When I Grow Up.” I bet some of us had ten careers lined up in one essay. “I’ll be a singer… and an actor… but also a doctor. Oh, and a judge on the weekends!” The dream buffet was open, and we were just loading up our plates.

Fast forward to today—some of those dreams have shifted, grown, or even been forgotten. But you know what? The dreams God placed in your heart are still there, waiting. This series is about rediscovering them, chasing them, and walking boldly into the future He has for you. You, me, and the Holy Spirit—we’re in this together. Let’s do this!

So Yielded Family, what is a dream? A dream is a vision, hope, or aspiration that lives in your heart and mind, often inspired by your deepest desires, passions, or purpose. It’s that picture of the future that excites you, motivates you, and makes you feel alive. Dreams can be as simple as achieving a small goal or as grand as changing the world. I know mine are always grand 😂 I really stretch it!

From a Christian perspective, dreams often align with God’s purpose for our lives. They’re not just random wishes; they can be divine seeds planted by the Holy Spirit, pointing us toward the plans God has prepared for us. As Proverbs 16:9 says, “In their hearts humans plan their course, but the Lord establishes their steps.” I love writing so l have lots of diaries full of dreams. Some of which were not my purpose and not in my path of life. I really hope that this series helps those who have disconnected to reconnect with those visions.

When we know where we’re going we feel more alive. I don’t know any confused “happy” person. As the men of God have taught us, speed in the wrong direction often leads to destruction. How can we move in the right direction? We start by defining who we are. 

So who are you? 

Dreams are both a challenge and a gift—they push us to grow, trust, and take action. Whether it’s a career, a calling, or a personal milestone, a dream is your heart’s way of saying, “There’s more.”

Let’s start by looking within. Who is this person that is reading this? What’s your name?

“being confident of this very thing, that He who has begun a good work in you will complete it until the day of Jesus Christ;”
‭‭Philippians‬ ‭1‬:‭6‬ ‭NKJV‬‬

Have you ever set out on a journey only to turn back before reaching your destination? Or perhaps encountered an accident along the way? Maybe you even changed your mind mid-journey? I’ve experienced all three. When we plan a trip, we don’t anticipate failing to arrive. We’ve all heard stories of planes crashing, and we think of the passengers—each of them had plans, dreams, and expectations of arriving safely. If they had known what was to come, they likely wouldn’t have booked the ticket at all.

Have you ever started a new relationship and couldn’t wait to share the news with your friends? Maybe you told them, “I’ve met the one,” and they immediately started planning your bridal shower. Or, as a man, you were certain she was the woman you’d marry. When we enter relationships, we don’t plan for failure or heartbreak—we envision the best and build hopes for the future. Only someone with toxic intentions would think otherwise. If we could foresee how many of these relationships would end, we likely wouldn’t have entered them in the first place.

Have you ever started a new business or tried cooking a meal from scratch? You probably picked out the best ingredients, thinking, A dash of curry here, a splash of water there—perfect! Then suddenly, it’s too spicy, too salty, or just plain unrecognisable . In your head, though, the final dish was going to be a masterpiece—at least according to your taste buds. To be real, nobody starts cooking with the intention of burning food or wasting ingredients, especially in this economy! We confidently tell the family, “Don’t worry, I’m about to cook up a storm!”—but halfway through, it hits us: the storm isn’t on the plate, it’s in the kitchen. If we’d known we were about to serve up disaster, we might not have picked up the spoon at all.

Where am I going with this? Sometimes, the road is unpredictable. Other times, it’s predictable, but we still fail. We start things we can’t finish. We enter conversations and stir up feelings we’re not ready to address. We launch businesses, only to abandon them at the first sign of trouble or loss. Our decisions can be so inconsistent. But God isn’t like that. He is the Alpha and the Omega—the beginning and the end. He starts to finish. When He takes off, He arrives. He prepares a table and serves the meal before us, even in the presence of our enemies. What He creates, He sustains for eternity. He doesn’t just do the first step or the last; He completes it all—the 1 and the 100.

Where your confidence lies is where your trust is. Honestly, I’m tired of trusting myself—I don’t want to anymore. As I reflect, I realize I’ve failed because man can only see the present, while the future rests in God’s hands. Apostle Paul reminds us of this truth: “Being confident of this, that He who began a good work in you will carry it on to completion.” I love that Paul calls it a good work. Even when it feels hard—even when you’re crying—it’s still good work. God gives you the A, the Z, and every step in between. The vision will be accomplished. The process, the dreams, the purpose—it’s all in His hands. But let’s be honest: if it’s going to be accomplished, it has to be through the Lord.

Think about it. Do you really want to keep cooking up tasteless meals in your own strength? Why not hand it over to God and let Him do His work in you? God doesn’t help those who help themselves—He helps those who ask.

Lord, You began this good work in me, and I trust You to accomplish it. Amen!