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The fear of man (1)

“Then Jesus said, “Be brave and don’t be afraid. I am here!””
‭‭Matthew‬ ‭14‬:‭27‬ ‭TPT‬‬

Fear is an emotion caused by the belief that something or someone poses a threat to us. I remember growing up watching African movies, you guys know Patience Ozokwor movies yes? I’d always be scared because I thought oh she’s gonna show up and mince me up. The Blood Sisters scenes would play in my head – as a kid – l really thought dead people have more power than the living – now I realise , fear also comes from not knowing TRUTH. Had I known what I know now, I’d have really slept like a baby. What a waste man! 🙃

The spirit of fear causes us to weaken our resolve and shrink back. Let’s discuss types of fear;

  • The fear of man

Part of the after effects of the fall was the fear of man—a sinful craving for approval and status. We say things like ,”I fear to fail my parents, I want to be accepted by so and so , I’m afraid they will leave . I’m afraid of being different in my community/family” . We have threats like social media saying , “Everyone here wears almost nothing. You can’t dress modestly here. Nobody will accept you.” And so because we fear not having a “following” we start to become like the world . Like chameleons, we change our conduct to blend in with the new “man” you fell in love with , you compromise because if you don’t , he threatens to leave. The fear of man.

The bible has examples of men who were feared by the people. The parents of the blind man feared the Pharisees so they refused to be witnesses. One wrong word and the Pharisees would ban them from having anything to do with the synagogue. They had a lifetime of social interaction to lose, so they just claimed him as their son and said, “He is of age; ask him.” Imagine how they felt – not being able to celebrate their sons healing because of fear. We fear telling our friends we prayed for the blessing and we just tell them “I hustled” – to look cool yes? We can’t post about Jesus because we fear that people will call us “holier than thou”. People will say “You’re too serious about church, you’re boring!” Anytime we fear people , we rob ourselves from the liberty of living as God wants us to.

It’s easy to say “oh his parents should’ve just spoken up!” But what about us? Do we speak up against what is wrong? Do we tell the world the truth about Jesus? I know people who will never go to the streets to evangelise because they’re afraid their buddies who know them for other things will be shocked. Have you ever remained silent when you should have said something? Have you watered down your talk in order to not offend? You don’t want to offend your friends so you tag along to a wild party?

Do you go to church on Sunday but keep it a secret from those you meet on Monday? Are you afraid to go to a church that boldly proclaims the gospel because you’re afraid you’d have to drop your other life and risk losing your lifestyle that is funded by that life? There are people who can’t be trusted with big visions because they will compromise and a big number of people will fall with them. Big vision is for bold people like the blind son. He boldly spoke about his healing. The people you’re afraid of can be addressed. Someone will address them!

We have no idea,” they answered. “We don’t know what happened to our son. Ask him, he’s a mature adult. He can speak for himself.” (Now the parents were obviously intimidated by the Jewish religious leaders, for they had already announced to the people that if anyone publicly confessed Jesus as the Messiah, they would be excommunicated. That’s why they told them, “Ask him, he’s a mature adult. He can speak for himself.”)
‭‭John‬ ‭9‬:‭21‬-‭23‬ ‭TPT‬‬

What did their son say?

I tell you, if this man isn’t from God, he wouldn’t be able to heal me like he has!”
‭‭John‬ ‭9‬:‭33‬ ‭TPT‬‬

So their son was not afraid of being chased out of the temple. Their son was not afraid of being questioned. He wasn’t afraid of confrontation. Many people are afraid of confrontation. They will mize the questions even if they know the answer. The world will confront you about your beliefs – who will answer? He says I sought for a man! You can say there are many men but which man is ready to be used? Who is the Elijah who will confront Ahab?Who is the Moses who will confront Pharoah? The world is filled with many “men of “ God who are like the parents of the blind man – afraid of “men of the world” … if you still want to look cool you’re not ready to be a witness of Christ! If you still fear being cut off by your family or friends – you’re not ready! The bible says we ought to love Him even more than our own family! Yes! If my mother says not to worship God anymore, I will honour her all my life but my obedience is to God first before anyone in this world. The fear of man is all over the church! We fear man so we don’t talk about same sex marriages, we don’t talk about the filthy happenings of Sodom and Gomorrah being validated by the government! We are quiet! We don’t want to speak up against rape because we know some rapists sit in parliament! We are mute! Scared to be jailed! I love John the Baptist! Let’s talk more on the fear of man tomorrow. We will study the fearless prophets. Ah I’m already excited!

And hey, I love you. Go and tell your world about Jesus! Fear not, He is with you!

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June dates

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Reflection Friday

Self-reflection is setting aside time to think deeply and evaluate your thoughts, attitudes, motivations, and desires. It’s examining your emotions and behaviors and then asking yourself, “Why do I feel and act this way?” Taking the time to reflect on life might sound like an overwhelming task. Yessssss, self-reflection is a personal process. You can’t self reflect for me – l can’t do it for you. This means that you need to be very honest with yourself. Many of us can’t face the truth so we lie to ourselves , running from the truth. You need to be very truthful with yourself otherwise the whole thing would be pointless.

Making this small change to your day-to-day can improve your well-being, strengthen your relationships, make you a better person and help you become better in your personal and professional development. “Why do l speak like that? Why don’t l like praying anymore? What’s causing me to dislike going to church? Why do people keep leaving me? Why do l hate correction? What can l change? Is my behaviour reflecting the character of Christ? If not, what should l change and what measures am l taking to change this?” All these and more are questions we should ask ourselves. It will help us to stop this thing of always blaming people even for things we did wrong.

Okay what about, “How much have l saved? Do l overspend? Why? It’s six months into the year , what have l achieved?” We hate those ones lol even l feel uncomfortable answering that – but we can’t keep running. Let me go deeper (go deeper papa) LOL, “Why do I attract the same kind of men or women? Why do my relationships break within such and such a time? What am l doing to become better as a spouse or a friend or do l expect people to accept me as l am even if I am rude? Why do I keep chasing after people who don’t love me or don’t reciprocate what I give? Am I broken? Am l too needy? Am I responding to life’s trauma by seeking validation from people all the time?” THE UNCOMFORTABLE QUESTIONS ALSO CULTIVATE US!

Putting pen to paper (or fingers to keyboard) allows you to process feelings and reflect on past experiences from a safe emotional distance. You can also compare how far you’ve come by re-reading past entries to see what’s changed over time. You need to check how far you’ve come. Let’s do this ; get a journal for self reflection Fridays. All the questions asked here, we must make it a point that we answer them. Put a date on it and let’s check progress after every month! Things need to change but they won’t unless or until we change! Change is intentional. Become. You will not walk in childish ways and expect the world to keep embracing you and patting you on the back no! The world does not even care about how much you sulk – change!. People can give you a few months of tolerance for a particular behaviour , then they will start disconnecting from you. I’m glad God stays with us through the whole process!

As that butterfly – transformation comes from us actually wanting to become better. And there you’ll be , once a worm – now a beautiful butterfly. Going wherever your wings take you. That’s beautiful isn’t it? The process is not to harm you. There’s so much beauty on the other side. Let’s put in the work. I love you! God loves you! You’re special!! ❤️ (Look at that picture above again)

“This is what the Lord Almighty says: “Give careful thought to your ways.”
‭‭Haggai‬ ‭1‬:‭7‬ ‭NIV‬

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Chilled Thursday

Happy chilled Thursday my loves! I woke up feeling like l really need a retreat. My ideal life honestly involves a LOT of writing ,serving God, counselling people, toiling is not even a part of it ! I feel like I’ve been toiling hey but it is good to work while it’s day.
How have you been? How’s your heart? I hope you’re kinder to yourself. Sometimes we’re not physically tired – we are emotionally tired from being unkind to ourselves. How so? By harbouring all sorts of evil in our hearts – we self harm. Let it go – chill.

If in this season you’re not locking in on the word , you will fall. If you’re not intentional about your prayer life – you will fall. I know we talk about these things as if they’re just nothing but many people were once great men and women of God but now they can’t even tell right from wrong. It’s not about how long you’ve been a Christian – the devil is still our enemy. It doesn’t get better – it gets worse – it intensifies. We need to keep reminding ourselves – the journey ahead requires that we have enough in our lunch tins. You must always have spiritual hunger. A healthy believer must always be hungry. It’s the opposite of the natural. Spiritual hunger is a sign of believer who will keep growing. You cannot have the “I have arrived mentality”.

That said : From today till Sunday even , lock in on a book of the bible and finish it. Don’t single out one verse after another. Read the whole book (eg Acts, Matthew, Genesis) If you’re currently reading a book by someone, even if it’s a Christian book, put it aside a bit and lock in on the Bible. Some of us know more of Vanessa’s quotes than the bible. More of an author than of the Author and Finisher of our faith. Don’t get me wrong please. I write but don’t exalt yielded more than you read the Bible. Yielded is secondary to the Bible. If you show up here more than you show up in the study of the Word you’re missing the point! Yielded takes from the Bible but it is not the Bible. Same as any other author. Read books but the Bible should be your number one.

Let me know what book you’re reading and what God has taught you on the comments. I’m on the book of Matthew and l found this ;

Jesus called his disciples to him and said, “I have compassion for these people; they have already been with me three days and have nothing to eat. I do not want to send them away hungry, or they may collapse on the way.””
‭‭Matthew‬ ‭15‬:‭32‬ ‭NIV‬‬


Study His Word. You will not be sent away hungry. Nobody spends time with God and leaves hungry. There may be no sign of food but the good Shepherd has seen your needs and He will meet them. Here’s a movie to watch ;

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The heart of Worship

“For your tender mercies mean more to me than life itself. How I love and praise you, God!”
‭‭Psalms‬ ‭63‬:‭3‬ ‭TPT‬‬

A friend of mine said to me yesterday, “You are so strong for still showing up after what happened to you.” I started thinking about it. I stay on words people say to try to understand them or what they meant. So I thought about it. “Am l strong? Am l courageous? Is that what it is?” And honestly I think it’s something else. I’ve had quite a rough life, living in a land that is not so nice to foreigners , not being able to get the job for a long time and many other things I’ve been through that I can’t share now. My focus then was always ME. Why ME? Lord ME. The job for ME. The money for ME. I made myself the centre of it all and so when I was not able to get what I wanted or things went otherwise , it would make me crash. My feelings, my heart , my thoughts, everything would make me crumble. This is true for many people – you are affected and afflicted by the fact that you haven’t gotten what you want – the things that sponsor “ME” – that is why you are a seasonal worshipper.

We have tied our worship to things. If the job doesn’t come , I’m not showing up to serve. If something bad befalls me , I’m done with God. If I lose what/who I love – I’m no longer praying or praising. We have made it about US! The truth is many people have purposed in their hearts – unless God shows up – they’re not showing up. They gave God an ultimatum . They think they can threaten God. “Give me this or I will worship the devil” Silly behaviour. I’m wowed by the verse for the day – another version says – Your love is BETTER than life! What a statement!

For life without the love of God is nothing else than death: a man that has no share in the love of God is dead while he lives; all the enjoyments of life, health, riches, honour, friends, &c. are nothing without the love of God; the meanest temporal blessings. What fuels our worship? Is it the meaningless things that Solomon discovers about life or is it the love of God? Learning to seek God in the dry seasons of our lives shows that we are more than kingdom citizens – we are sons! The heart of worship is the heart of Job. Come what may, stay what may, leave who may, come who may , l will worship! Will you worship if the relationship doesn’t work out? Will you worship while you’re waiting for the contract to be signed? Okay , so what if it takes 5 years to get what you want – does that mean your worship has been suspended for 5 years? See? There is more to worship than “I worship you because you gave me a job!” There is moreeeeeee!

I thank God for growth. From who I used to be. Throwing tantrums, yelling at God (yes l have), angry at God, complaining everyday, refusing to see my life from His perspective, I’ve finally found out the true meaning of worship – it is EVEN SO. Even so – l will worship. To know that God is more concerned about my future more than I will ever be. He is more committed to my success than I will ever be. So why pause our intimacy with God because the world has given us a report that we don’t have enough. We have enough! GOD IS ENOUGH! We praise , we worship no matter what! Remember, prolonged sadness is a choice. Joy is also a choice. Don’t let situations determine your praise! Here’s some links to my current fave!

Worship

Praise