Yesterday’s post on friendship really touched a lot of hearts and I realised just how true it is: the enemy distorts what God created to be beautiful. It was never God’s design for “friends” to break homes, compete in secret, or even go as far as bewitching one another. In the beginning, it was not so. God Himself walked closely with Adam ; they shared time, intimacy, and trust, until the enemy crept into the garden and ruined what was pure.
I want to encourage you today: even if a friend hurt you deeply, forgive them. No, you don’t have to rebuild the relationship. No, you don’t have to pretend it didn’t hurt. But you must forgive. “But they hurt me so bad.” I understand , I truly do. A friend of mine once said something that’s never left me:
“Forgiveness is not optional.”
Let God heal your heart. Let go, and let Him restore you. This Worship Wednesday, may we release the pain, and make room for the beauty God intended.
Today, I want us to plug each other with our favourite playlists but before we do that, I have something to share that could literally change your life.
The bestestest friend you could ever have is the Holy Spirit.
Yes, I’m very serious! Holy Spirit is funny! He makes jokes, He gives advice, He comforts, He corrects, and He’s always present. Literally everything we long for in a true friend is found in Him. Choose to be His friend today because He has already chosen to be yours.
Say this with me:
“Precious Holy Spirit, thank You for choosing to be my friend. I’d love to be Your friend too. I know this is a new friendship, but I’m willing to work on it, I’m willing to commit to it, and I’m more than willing to become best of friends with You. I’m excited to have a friend I can talk to all day, anytime I want ; no blue ticks, no network issues, no ‘I’m too busy for you.’ Thank You, I really needed a friend like You.”
From today, be conscious of your friendship with Him. Include Him in your moments small and big. It will change your life, I promise you.
Now… let’s plug each other with those playlists! What’s your current go-to worship song? Don’t you leave this comment section without giving us a song. Here’s my Worship Wednesday jam
Before I dive into today’s blog, I just want to encourage you, work on your gift, your talent, and your skill. Whether you’re an artist, a musician, a writer, a nail tech, or anything in between, keep sharpening your craft. It may not seem like much right now, but if you stay consistent and committed, you’ll become so good at it that it will open doors you never imagined.
Your gift will bring you before kings, but to be honest kings don’t entertain mediocrity. David wasn’t just anointed; he was excellent. He didn’t just play the harp; he played it well. There might’ve been a whole group out there called The Harp Players, but David stood out because he carried both skill and anointing. Kings don’t make time for noise. So work on it, refine, improve, practice, and grow. God gave you something for a reason. Honour it with your effort. I keep writing here because I’m also working on mine, go on and work on yours. Let’s go!
The topic of friendship is actually quite sensitive because many have ended up in pits like Joseph, simply because they were surrounded by the wrong people. In a world full of relationships, cutting yourself off completely is not the solution. Saying “I don’t need anyone” may sound bold, but truthfully, it’s a disadvantage. We do need people whether we admit it or not. If you truly didn’t, you could survive in a zoo…but you wouldn’t last a day. You’d actually start calling or texting people before the end of the day. Friendship is of God. Did you know that God Himself has friends? Abraham was called a friend of God. Even me 😂 I’m actually serious.
We need friends for companionship, plain and simple. God designed us to do life with people. We need likeminded, equally yoked individuals who can challenge us, teach us, laugh with us, watch movies together, pick out outfits, reflect on the past, dream about the future, and most importantly, pray and dive into the Word with us. There’s so much joy and growth that can happen in genuine friendships.
The Bible says, “A man who has friends must himself be friendly” (Proverbs 18:24). That means there’s an energy, a posture, a vibe you carry that either attracts or repels people. Some people wonder why they’re always alone but if you’re cold, rude, and walking around with a constant poker face, what kind of atmosphere are you creating?Friendship isn’t just about wanting too many people around it’s also about being someone others want to be around. So before you say, “no one wants to be my friend,” ask yourself, “am I showing myself friendly?”
Some people are naturally friendly, and that’s beautiful but the danger lies in befriending everyone. That right there is a very serious issue. Not everyone is meant to be in your inner circle. Even God, who is love Himself, didn’t call everyone His friend. He specifically called Abraham His friend yet there were thousands of people alive at the time. Why? Because true friendship has parameters. Boundaries. Standards.
If we are not equally yoked, bye! Forget Shem! Friendship shouldn’t be based on vibes alone. You’ve got to know yourself first before you can choose good friends. If you don’t know who you are or what you stand for, you’ll end up attaching yourself to people who have no business being in your life.Be careful of making friends based on faces. “Oh, she’s so cute, I just love her vibe my new bestie!” Or, “He’s my male bestie,” but that male bestie is actually scouting you like prey and doesn’t even know Jesus. You’ll keep ending up in friendship heartbreaks because you didn’t ask God to choose your circle for you.
The whole street cannot be your friend, eh! You will cry. Ask God to help you meet the ones who truly fit those who align with your life’s purpose and vice versa. You don’t need a hundred friends. You just need a few good and GODLY ones. Yes, they may be good to you, but are they godly? Do they live by the Word or by the world? By whose standards do they move, Jesus or trending influencers? If it’s not Christ-centered, you have to ask yourself: is this connection helping or hindering me?
“Oh, but we’ve been friends for 15 years!” That means nothing if the friendship is unequally yoked. Longevity does not equal alignment. This is serious because your heart is involved. And from the heart flow the issues of life. Many of the choices you’ll make, you’ll first consult with friends. Imagine moving through life with people who secretly resent you, who backstab or mislead you… and you’re busy celebrating them, not knowing they’re carrying knives behind their backs. Btw, sometimes YOU are the bad friend. ☺️
Pray. Ask God to handpick your friends. You need people but you need God-sent people. Friends who build, sharpen, protect, pray with you, and keep you rooted in truth. Choose wisely. There’s so much I wanna say but let’s continue tomorrow. Remember what I told you yesterday, don’t take unnecessary rest or naps, get to work!
Hey family! I have something to share that might just help you get closer to your goals or even achieve them altogether! So, back in January, I worked on a project and finished it in just a few days. I was like, “Whew, it’s done!” and decided to take a little break… which turned into weeks of resting. The project was done, yes but it wasn’t perfected. And still, I rested.
Now tell me, why did I do that?
So many times, we take a break simply because we feel like we’ve accomplished something. But that’s not how God operates. When God created the world, He didn’t rest the moment He finished He looked over all He had done, evaluated it, and only then did He rest. And what did He say, believers? “It is good.” But there I was, resting… when the work was done, but it wasn’t good yet. So don’t rest just because it’s done. Rest when it’s good. When it’s aligned with excellence. When it reflects the standard God has set in you.
Someone might say, “Oh, but I rested because I was tired.” That’s acceptable rest is necessary! But let’s be honest: you can’t take a week-long nap. You can’t wash the dishes and then rest for six hours. Your rest should match the measure of the work you actually put in. Otherwise, we’re not really resting we’re just basking in laziness. And trust me, it’s only a matter of time before a spirit takes over or takes advantage of that open door.
Back to my story so I eventually realised, “Wait a minute… this project was supposed to be perfected by now.” I found someone to help me bring it to completion, and guess what, bazalwane? I rested again! Only for me to look at the project yesterday, and in just two hours, I completed everything that still needed to be done. Two hours! What I could’ve done in two focused hours dragged and dragged! Please don’t ask me how long it took me in total, I won’t even answer you. I’m shy!
Now think about this, if I had just done the work in January, I would’ve had three full months of good profit by now. Three months! That’s three months that could’ve changed my life. But because I chose to rest when I should’ve been putting in the final touches, I lost that time and opportunity.
I’m writing to you, church in the Yielded City LOL do not take unnecessary naps! Don’t scroll away your destiny. Don’t postpone a task just to get on a call and chit-chat about nothing. Ask me. Ask sis Dolly. I had to learn this the hard way, and I said noooooo l can’t keep this lesson to myself I must share it with you guys!
Start by getting a to-do diary. Write down your tasks. Allocate time to them and then actually stick to those times. I’ve even gone as far as scheduling when I write for Yielded, and when I must be done. That’s how discipline is built. Not overnight, but step by step. And by God’s grace, I’m committing to keep showing up.Let’s stop resting from what isn’t finished.
Finish the task. You sweep for two minutes, then park the broom and say, “Ah, let me just check TikTok real quick.” Next thing? You’re resting for two hours. It seems small, right? But those are the little foxes those tiny decisions that keep us stuck in delay. Sometimes, delay isn’t spiritual warfare, it’s personal choice. A decision we make every day.
Spirits take advantage of our routines . We push today’s project to next week, and we’re trying to wrap up 2024 assignments in 2025. Who’s the problem here? It’s not the devil. It’s not your boss. It’s you and me. So yes, rest if you must, my dhiye, but understand: time is not waiting for you to finally feel ready. It’s been moving. It’s beeeeeen time, even if your feelings haven’t caught up. Even if you’re sleepy after just reading one chapter of the Bible. You say “Ah I’ve read shame!” After reading John 11:35 the shortest verse! Laziness.
Ask yourself, what exactly have you done today that deserves that kind of nap? As for me? Oh, I’ve changed, o! Best believe I’m fixing this, on purpose. I’ll give you an update soon, and trust me, it’s going to show. I’m being intentional about this now. Let me stop typing, time is up!
Happy Wednesday, people of God! I just want to take a moment to thank each of you for showing up to read Yielded Blogs, for the reposts I see on your statuses, the shares of my counseling service adverts, the comments, and every bit of support you give; thank you! You are truly a gift to me, and I’m so grateful to continue serving both God and you.
Worship is one of the essential things you must learn if you want to build a lasting kingdom vision. I don’t know about you, but true worship breaks something within me, it strips away self and begins to fill me with more of God. In worship, it’s never about us; it’s all about GOD and GOD ALONE! Just listen to what David says in the Psalms:
“It does not belong to us, Lord. The praise belongs to you because of your love and loyalty.” Psalms 115:1 ICB
It does not belong to us! It is not ours! The glory belongs to the Lord. So worship is not about you and your list of things you want before the end of the day. It is for Gods glory! Anytime you try to take the glory, remember there’s a man in the bible who died because of it! “On a chosen day Herod put on his royal robes. He sat on his throne and made a speech to the people. Herod did not give the glory to God. So an angel of the Lord caused him to become sick. He was eaten by worms and died.” The Acts 12:21, 23 ICB Here’s a song ;
“I will praise the Lord at all times. I will constantly speak his praises.” Psalms 34:1 NLT
Can you dance? I know you probably just said no. But what if I told you… it’s not about how well you dance? It’s not about mastering the moonwalk or nailing a breakdance routine. Praise isn’t about performance it’s about the posture of your heart.
Praise can be expressed in any “appropriate” dance, yes, but hear me: you don’t have to be the best dancer to glorify God. Look at David, he danced with all his might! Not with all his perfect choreography, but with all his heart, his passion, his intentionality. It wasn’t a show, it was surrender.
Sometimes you’ve got to lock yourself in your room and have your own Hallelujah Challenge. Dance. Shout. Cry. Praise! Not just on Sundays, but at all times! So… are you ready?
Let’s continue from yesterday’s blog, where we began discussing how to not only build but also nurture the kingdom visions God has entrusted to us. I shared four points in that post, and today, I’ll be adding four more. I pray these words continue to inspire and empower you as you pursue His purpose.
I’ve come to understand that whether you’re building an organisation, a ministry (which I’m still learning about), or even a business you must pray. Prayer isn’t optional for the believer; it’s essential. Scripture says, “Men ought always to pray and not faint” that’s not a suggestion, it’s a divine instruction.
One of the issues I’ve noticed is that many people are quick to send out prayer requests, but they don’t pray themselves. They rely on others to stand in the gap while they remain silent. But here’s the truth: what if the person you sent that prayer request to forgets? What if they get busy? Will you let your destiny hang in the balance because you refused to open your mouth and declare life over what you’re building?
You need to pray over your work. Pray into the future. Speak things like, “Lord, even next year shall be good,” because the words you release in prayer are prophetic bricks. Without prayer, even the strongest-looking structure will start to fall apart. The winds will come, and without that spiritual foundation, the whole thing may be blown away.In this kingdom, I don’t know of anything that has truly lasted without prayer.
Number Six: Get Knowledge.
We’re living in a time where some people see a book and immediately switch off. The moment reading is involved, they choose ignorance and that’s a dangerous mindset. Learning should never stop. Every day we’re picking up new information some of it foolish, if we’re honest so why not intentionally learn the things that will shape and prepare you for what God is calling you to build?
How can you expect to build something well when you know nothing about it? Imagine hiring a construction company to build your house, and when they arrive they say, “We don’t actually know how to build… we didn’t study for this, but trust us, let’s all hope for a good outcome.” Would you proceed? Of course not. Why? Because you’re investing too much to let your vision fall into the hands of the unqualified.
It’s the same with your kingdom assignment. You must invest in knowledge. Study the Word. Learn from others. Enroll in courses. Read books. I’ve finished certain courses, yet I keep going back to learn more because I understand that a strong structure requires a well-informed mind. Empty heads don’t build lasting things. And that’s not an insult it’s a reality. No one wants to build with or under someone who doesn’t know what they’re doing. If you have to go back to school, do it. Get the knowledge you need to build well.
The same hours you spend endlessly scrolling on your phone you could be using just two of those to complete an online course. There are 2-hour courses out there packed with wisdom and strategy that could sharpen your vision. Even in the Bible, there are short books you can study deeply in a short amount of time books that carry life-changing revelation. We have to be honest: no one will take a vision seriously if it’s fuelled by nothing but excitement and enthusiasm, yet completely lacking in information. Passion without knowledge is a shaky foundation. People invest in prepared visionaries those who’ve taken time to learn, study, and grow. Don’t just be fired up… be equipped.
Number Seven: Choose Your Companions Wisely.
I honestly can’t stress this enough, your own companions can destroy what you’re trying to build. I’ve seen it happen. Marriages have crumbled simply because one spouse started listening to the wrong friends and stopped co-building their home. Some friendships were meant to stay in primary school, high school, or wherever you left them and that’s okay.
You don’t need to feel guilty for separating from people who can’t walk with you into your next. You’re about to birth and build something so you need people who not only believe in you but are also willing to support you if and when the need arises.
Some of you are wondering why your building isn’t progressing, yet a hidden hand in your circle keeps pulling out bricks. So you think you’re moving at a great speed only to be back to square one. A hand is removing bricks. Someone close to you is quietly discouraging others from supporting your vision. Saying things like, “I told her this was impossible, but she insists , let’s just watch her fail.” And then you defend them with, “But we’ve been friends for 21 years!”
Listen: Years of friendship don’t prove the quality of friendship. Stop hanging around people who discourage, belittle, or sabotage your dreams. You do not need them in your building process. Choose wisely, your destiny depends on it. Many people discouraged us from continuing with MPG. Some even thought it would come to nothing but we are still here because we decided to step away. And if you want to be sure who is really for you? Ask God. Pray the dangerous prayer, He answers those quickly.
I don’t want to overload you with too much information so let’s pause here for today. We’ll continue tomorrow. I truly hope you’re learning something valuable and that you’ll take these lessons and apply them to your own journey. I love you, and I genuinely can’t wait to see what you’re building. Keep going, and keep growing! 🌸
