Category: The Yielded Believer

Masturbation is the act of stimulating your own genitals for sexual pleasure. People may do it with their hands, fingers, or other methods, and it may or may not lead to sexual climax. It is a common behaviour among people of many ages and genders. For most people, masturbation is a normal part of human sexuality. Around 80–95% of men and 60–80% of women report masturbating at some point in their lives.
Some do it many times daily, weekly, often or never. It has the potential of becoming an addiction.

We started on this topic yesterday, and my plea with you is this: after you read, please share the link with someone. This is not about bringing me more readers because we already have many readers; it is simply because this particular topic needs to be spoken about more often so that people may be enlightened. I do not promise to bring you freedom that will come from your own desperation and decision to break free. I simply want to give you information that may help you begin the journey. Again, help someone by sharing the link.

We have come to understand from part one that the body of a Christian does not belong to him/her, but to God, who has placed His Spirit within us, turning the body into a temple. We also came to understand that temples are sacred and should not function like ordinary places. If a temple begins to operate like a brothel or a restaurant, then it loses the distinction that makes it a temple, because temples are set apart in both purpose and operation. I trust that so far we are following the same line of thought?

According to the definition of masturbation, we also find something quite interesting. But before that, out of curiosity, I searched to find out who exactly started it or where it can be traced in human history. I found that historical records contain references to masturbation in some Asian civilisations, Ancient Egypt, Ancient Greece, and Rome. This shows how people can start a trend, make it appear normal, and over time it becomes accepted by the world and eventually becomes a daily part of many people’s lives. Your next chain of slavery could easily be hidden in the trends society normalises. Be very careful.

Interestingly, much of its historical origin can be traced within pagan societies and cultures. One could therefore argue that people may unknowingly participate in practices rooted in paganism through the use of their own bodies. Of course, this is open for discussion, but I am simply sharing my thoughts and observations. To use God’s temple to practise pagan activities, who even knows the gods behind these things, sounds like the gods of temple prostitution in the book of Deuteronomy 23.

Part of pagan worship in the Old Testament included a great deal of sexual immorality. People argue about whether or not masturbation falls under sexual immorality, but if it is truly so normal and righteous, then why do most people hide it even from their closest friends? Why is it treated like a top secret? Why is pornography watched in hiding? If masturbation were truly holy and acceptable, would you comfortably play pornography on the lounge TV with your entire family sitting there? Of course not, because even society recognises that there is something immoral and shameful about it.

It is not considered normal or right for someone to stand publicly and begin caressing themselves. Even before bringing in the Word of God, ordinary society itself does not accept such behaviour openly. And if man naturally recognises something as shameful, should we not carefully examine whether God approves of it? We must be intentional in tracing some of these things carefully. If there were truly nothing wrong with masturbation, why is it such a shameful topic for so many people? Why do people often feel trapped, guilty, secretive, and even emotionally exhausted by it? Some would be devastated if others discovered how chronic the struggle has become.

I am writing to people who are tired of it and genuinely desire freedom. If you are still only interested in arguing, then perhaps you have not yet come to the understanding that God has no part in such activities. The very definition says you “pleasure” yourself. Okay then, how does the Holy Spirit benefit from that? Who truly benefits , the flesh or the spirit? The answer is clear: it is the flesh. The flesh says, “Satisfy me!” while the Spirit says, “No, live a holy life.” Many people ignore the latter. They have lost control over their own bodies.

If it is truly so satisfying, why do so many people testify that it drains them, leaves them feeling weak, ashamed, exhausted, and desperate to break free? True satisfaction should not leave you feeling trapped afterwards. I think it is similar to drugs in many ways. A person takes them expecting satisfaction and escape, only to discover that the effects and bondage become worse than the temporary pleasure itself.

Why should you stop masturbating? Because the origin of it is questionable. Why should you involve your body in practices of pagans to worship gods you do not know? Is it serpent gods? Is it water gods? Is it idols and statues involved in sinister activities? You should question it. You should wonder. According to the character of God revealed in Scripture, does this look like something God is a part of?

I want us to find the real culprit behind this. By the time we finish this topic, you will make the an informed decision. When we find who is responsible, we will know what their motive is, and then we choose whether we yield or reject it. According to what you know about God, the Holy Spirit, and Jesus Christ, do you suppose masturbation comes from heaven? I pray that the Holy Spirit gives you the answer to that. Selah.

“The cravings of the self-life are obvious: sexual immorality, lustful thoughts, pornography, chasing after things instead of God.”

Gal5:19a TPT

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I have had the privilege of counselling a number of people who have been caged by one spirit or another, one of which is masturbation. You would do well to reshare or repost this particular blog because many who struggle with it will never openly say so. It is one of those spirits that thrives in secrecy, and because it is seen as “shameful,” many people hide it until it becomes chronic. Personally, I would rather someone opens up before it gets worse, because even the counselling process is not the easiest in such situations. I pray that today we receive the understanding needed to truly set us free.

When your body reaches puberty, we all know that many things begin to change, including your hormones. Your body changes, you begin to feel differently, and you start growing into adulthood. One of the things that often comes with this stage is sexual maturity, for lack of a better word. If you look closely, many people started masturbating during their teenage years and simply continued into adulthood. That is many years of slowly building iron bars around themselves until it eventually becomes a cage.

No addiction starts off as an addiction. It begins gradually and subtly; you hardly notice it until it becomes a daily occurrence. And guess what? That is exactly what the devil wants. He wants you to discover it late, because by then, coming out of it often takes warfare. We do not like these kinds of conversations because we are often adamant about hiding and pretending.

A child eats sugar and keeps hiding it, wiping their mouth so nobody notices, until one day their stomach gets fed up with all that sugar and they end up having the worst experience in the toilet. That child is many people. You are battling to come out of something, and you have already done all you know to do. Let me help you a little.

Many believers argue about whether this is a sin or not. “It’s not written in the Bible!” because often we look for whatever justifies or satisfies the flesh. I have seen posts claiming that it is “good” for you, and even ministers saying that as long as it is not the “real” sexual experience, it does not count. But I want to ask you something, what do YOU think? What is your honest take on this issue?

I will tell you what I know. The Bible speaks about everything, including masturbation, when it addresses sexual impurity and immorality. If sex was created for two married people, how then does one young man or woman end up having it alone? Are they really alone. Do spiritual principles change that easily? How is it that even elderly men and women still struggle to stop? In purity there is no constant battle to be free because freedom is already there. It is only in darkness that souls struggle to find light. Long story short, masturbation is a sin against your own body. Maybe let us read scripture.

“Do you not know that your bodies are temples of the Holy Spirit, who is in you, whom you have received from God? You are not your own.”

1 Corinthians 6:19 NIV

“Do you not know? Are you not aware?” God is breaking the ignorance we may have by saying, “Listen, you should know this.” That body you call “yours” is actually no longer yours. It belonged to you before you came to Christ, but ownership changed when you gave your life to Him. This means the world cannot teach us how to use our bodies because they use their own bodies, but we do not. We no longer have authority to do whatever we want with these bodies because they are no longer just bodies; they are temples.

Think about your church building for a moment. Imagine people having sexual relations there, opening bottles of vodka, smoking, or doing whatever they please inside the church. Does it look right? No. Why? Because temples are sacred. That is exactly what your body is before God. So when Scripture says, “you are not your own,” it means your body now belongs to Him.

If someone took my leftover food without permission, I would be annoyed because they took what did not belong to them. Don’t try that one. In the same way, many people take and use what no longer belongs to them, while the world and even science say, “Explore your body before marriage.” Those words have affected a generation that could have been on fire for God.

Why should you stop masturbating? First things first, that body is no longer yours. That body is a temple of the Holy Spirit, not a playground for demons. I am going to explain this further, even using a story told by a man I know will help many people understand. You need to be free. You need to stop. And yes, it is possible.

Today I came to give you a newsflash, or rather a reminder, you cannot do whatever you want with something that does not belong to you. “My body, my choice” is the language of the world and the unsaved, not the believer. You are the righteousness of God in Christ Jesus. Let’s continue tomorrow.

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Good morning, everyone, and welcome to my blog. Another week, another dollar, as they say. I pray that you all have a beautiful and productive week ahead. Above all, I pray that we become more intentional with our gifts, our talents, and our skills intentional about building platforms, creating structures, dominating in our areas of assignment, being fruitful, multiplying, and most importantly, walking in purpose.

I truly believe that many people struggle to find the drive to build their lives or pursue meaningful work because they lack a sense of purpose. Purpose gives direction. It gives clarity. It gives you a reason to wake up and keep going even when things become difficult. This week, I want to encourage you to pray and seek understanding about your purpose. Ask God to reveal why you are here and what you are called to do.

Once you begin to understand your purpose, so many things start to make sense. Your decisions become clearer. Your goals become more intentional. Your path becomes more defined. Even your friendships and the person you choose to marry begin to align with where you are going. However, when you do not know your purpose, you end up moving without direction. You find yourself doing everything, following everyone, and chasing whatever comes your way without order or clarity. Anyways, let’s get into today’s topic “What About the Leftovers?”

First, let me tell you a story.
So, I went through a season where I lost my job and not just any job, guys, it was a good job. You know when life is comfortable, your salary is salaried-ing, and then suddenly everything changes? Yeah. That kind of job loss. When you lose something that once gave you stability, you enter a completely different season. A season where you genuinely have to depend on God for provision. Not just for the big things like rent or bills, but for everything. I mean everything. Food, transport, airtime, toiletries… everything.

Now ladies, you already know toiletries are not just “a few things, “ the list never ends. Being a woman is honestly a full-time expense. Which is why I want to quickly encourage you guys, if you can, please support the pad drive by Sinothando Global Impact that’s S-I-N-O-T-H-A-N-D-O Global Impact. If you click the highlighted text, it’ll take you directly to their page where you can donate & get a girl a pack of pads. Anyways, back to the story.

So there I was, in this season of needing provision, and my prayers started sounding very… specific. Every prayer became about what I needed.

“Lord, please provide for this.”
“Lord, I still need money for that.”
“Lord, don’t let me forget to pay this.”
“Lord, I need groceries.”
“Lord, remember my account details are still the same. You can use world remit, PayPal, you can even put the money under my pillow.” Eh l was calling currencies not Zim dollar but yeah, you catch my drift don’t you?

God was still providing for me, honestly. In ways I didn’t even expect sometimes through strangers. While He was providing, He also started teaching me. He started reminding me of certain things. He began showing me lessons that were much deeper than just money. I honestly did not expect Him to address my cooking. Yep.

“When they had all had enough to eat, he said to his disciples, ‘Gather the pieces that are left over. Let nothing be wasted.’”

John 6:12 (NIV)

He said to me, “I provide food for you every month. I make sure you have groceries but I want you to pay attention to the story of Jesus feeding the five thousand. What did they do with the leftovers?” Because if I’m honest, sometimes I freeze leftovers… and most times I throw them away. Then God challenged me further “Why do you cook more than you need?” He was right. He’s always right. Btw, sometimes I’m a chef eh. You eat & dance at the same time because Sister V, you have done signs & wonders!

Why was I cooking like I was feeding an entire neighbourhood when there were only a few people in the house? Why was I using the biggest pot in the kitchen, filling it up with what would end up in a dustbin? The thing is, overcooking doesn’t just lead to waste. It causes your groceries to finish much faster. The rice finishes quickly. The mealie meal disappears quickly. The meat is gone quickly. Not because people actually ate all of it, but because half of it eventually ends up in the bin or sitting in the fridge becoming something nobody wants to touch anymore.

You know that container at the back of the fridge? The one everyone keeps opening, staring at, and closing again? Exactly. Those icecream lunchtime in every African home. God began teaching me that stewardship is deeper than just how you spend money. Stewardship is also about what you do with the things you spent the money on. You can buy groceries, pray over them, thank God for them, and still mishandle them. You can pray for provision while wasting what was already provided.

That was such a difficult truth for me because sometimes we enjoy the receiving, but we do not enjoy the responsibility of taking care of what remains. Yho. After everyone had eaten and was full, Jesus instructed the disciples to gather the leftovers. Why? Because God is not wasteful. Think about it, Jesus could multiply bread and fish every single day if He wanted to. He was not lacking in power or provision but even in abundance, there was still an instruction to gather what remained.

That means the fact that God provides daily does not give us permission to waste daily. God is abundant, yes but that you will fry 15 drumsticks and kill your self with gluttony because you just got promoted. “I’m a foodie.” Beautiful! But let’s actually Selah. The last time God provided, what did you do? “I paid tithe so it’s cool.” God is also interested in what you do with the rest of the money. You complain about weight gain but you are in restaurants daily & now you have to pay more money for the gym & herbal teas because you don’t want a potbelly but you ate 11 kfc’s a day, driving through. You see now? We have to tell each other the truth.

The bread & fish that He gave you, either you pack the left overs & actually eat them or you cook what is enough. I believe this is also for someone. Stop being wasteful. Stop it immediately. Social media is full of people who waste & they do it for views. Food that someone is crying for. We may think it’s not that important but if it wasn’t, why is it in the bible? Do things responsibly. Don’t forget that God wants an account for all He has given you. God bless you and see you tomorrow.

If you read my blogs but have never met this  Wonderful Jesus that I’m always writing about,  you’d love to get to know Him, Or you know The Lord but have found yourself drifting far from Him, I would love to talk with you. Please send me an email  on yieldedcwcenter@gmail.com or simply comment, and I will reach out to you

Today we are wrapping up the topic of “Can God show you your spouse?” and I just want to narrow it down to the question that many singles ask ,”Where is she?” “Where is he?” “When is he going to find me?” “Where is she going to come from?” “Is this the one?” “Should l keep waiting?”

You know, John was so discouraged that he sent his disciples to ask Jesus, “Are You the One, or should we wait for another?” because they had been waiting, and it was almost like, “I’m still in prison, so are You really the One?” These are the kinds of questions discouraged people ask. And today, I just want us to wrap this up, and I pray that God gives us peace concerning this topic and this entire discussion.

Now, the waiting season for marriage and the length of it is not the same for everyone. The people who got married at 21 or 25 there is really no set age in the Bible where it says, “By 30 you must be married.” Those are standards we often place on ourselves or standards we inherited from our families. Maybe your parents are saying, “You are already 28, where are my grandchildren?” and you’re wondering where exactly you are supposed to get these grandchildren from when no one is even saying hi to you. Your DM don turn into a desert.

The age at which people get married, the length of the waiting season, and all these things are going to look different for each and every one of us. And because that is true, I think we need to ease into that truth and accept it. You are not going to get married at the same time your friend gets married. You are not going to get married at the same time your neighbor gets married. Sometimes people are married for five years before you even meet your person, and only God knows why.

Sometimes there are still things you need to work on. Sometimes the other person is also not ready. Sometimes there are just many different factors involved. But whatever the case may be, the journey is unique to each and every one of us.

I feel like sometimes we become impatient and emotional because we are constantly comparing our journey to someone else’s journey. We are trying to catch up with friends, trying to keep pace with people around us, almost like there is this silent social media competition happening. I’m asking you, by the grace of God, to stay in your lane and remain committed to your own journey and your own path with God, especially when it comes to marriage SO THAT you don’t kiss frogs hoping they turn into princes & princesses.

Then there’s also a group of people who are like, “But where is he? Because God… really, where is he?” And someone may say, “But there are so many men around you.” No, that’s not the point. Where is he? Where is she? Where is my husband? Where is my wife? Where is the bone of my bones and the flesh of my flesh?

You get to a certain stage and you genuinely start wondering, “Okay God, but seriously… where is this person?” Is he hiding? Is she lost? Is she walking all the way from Zimbabwe to South Africa? What is actually happening here? Those questions are real. Sometimes you laugh about it, but deep down you really are wondering. For some people, that waiting season starts making them think maybe something is wrong with them & sometimes there is genuinely nothing wrong with you. You are just in a waiting season. Wait nicely. Wait well.

One of my friends and sisters, Zee, once told me something that really stayed with me. She said, “You have to wait well.” And I thought, wow… that’s so true. Waiting well means continuing to do your work in the field while you wait. Praising God while you wait. Worshipping God while you wait. Serving God while you wait. Healing while you wait. Being restored while you wait. Growing while you wait. All of these things matter in a waiting season.

You also need the right people around you while you wait. People who will encourage you and speak life into you. Not people who are constantly saying, “Ah shame, you’re getting old now, where is your husband?” or “Look, you’re aging without children.” No. Those kinds of voices will only discourage you further. If you ask me where my husband is, I will really bite you.

So maybe before you ask, “Where is he?” or “Where is she?” you first need to ask, “Where am I?” Maybe even, “Who am I?” I’ve had conversations with different people who are also waiting for marriage, and sometimes you quickly realise that someone is still deeply unhealed. It’s there. You can sense it. Someone is still very broken. Someone still hasn’t found a sense of purpose. Someone still doesn’t even know what they want to do with their own life, but they’re already ANGRY at God why He is not releasing Peter.

I think one of the things that really needs to die in the church is the pressure to marry simply because someone is of age or because they look spiritually mature. Just because someone can quote five scriptures & adds bold tongues sounding like a lion does not mean they are emotionally ready for marriage. L There is healing attached to marriage. There is emotional maturity attached to it. There are mindsets, habits, character, and ideologies attached to it.

So while there’s no formula that says, “Once you reach this age, you must marry,” you also have to be careful not to fall into pressure. Don’t force yourself into marriage just because after church everybody is getting into cars with their husbands and wives. Find out who you are. Find out where you are emotionally, mentally, spiritually. Find out where you are going. Build your life. Heal. Grow. Become whole. Trust that the person who aligns with that journey will find you, or however God chooses for you to meet. Desperation has introduced people to unnecessary suffering.

I think maybe we also need to be honest with ourselves. As you are right now, with your attitude, with your level of healing, with the way you respond to people, do you genuinely think you are ready for marriage? Many people will quickly say yes. But do the people who live with you find you easy to live with? Obviously nobody is easy to live with a hundred percent, but at least you should have an awareness of the areas where God is still working on you.

Then there are those people who are like, “No honestly, I think I’m ready.” If that’s you, then keep seeking God in prayer. Keep trusting Him. Keep walking with Him.

If anyone were to ask me where I am with this whole marriage thing, I think my answer now would simply be, I’m at peace. A goood measure of peace. I’m genuinely at peace. I found that when I pursue God and pursue Him wholeheartedly, He gives me assurance. He reassures me that I will get there. He reassures me that I’m in the right place and that He is helping me.

So I’m no longer in that place where I’m panicking and saying, “God, but he must look like this, he must come now, he must be this and this.” I’m not there anymore. I pray all of us get to that place where we just find peace. Peace with the fact that what God has for you will come in its time. Your anxiety concerning this is stealing your koinonia with God.

At the same time, I also want you to be careful, because many people will come. Your DMs will be active. Suddenly everybody has received a revelation about you. Someone once told me they had a dream of their wife in a leopard print top. He explained one of my photos so well, I thought hmm for reaaaaaaalzyyyy? Then I decided to go check my profile if I’ve ever posted that photo. Lo & behold! Ahh he wanted to crook me with dreams. They will tell you the sweetest stories. “I will give you the world” “I’ve never met anyone like you.” “God told me in a dream.” Ah. Discern, my sister. Discern, my brother. Please.

In all of this, I beg you, keep consecrated while you wait. Do not let loneliness push you into compromise. Do not let desperation make decisions for you. Don’t find yourself jumping from one bed to another trying to fill a void that only God can heal. Wait with wisdom. Wait with discernment. Wait with integrity. Zip up. Close up. “It’s winter, l need a blanket with eyes.” Where have you ever seen a creepy blanket like that? Get a hot water bottle & drink tea. Stop entertaining winter lust.

Lastly, hear God for yourself. You will get many people giving you advice on what to do. Some will say, “Go on dates.” Others will say, “Put yourself out there.” Others will say, “You’re too picky.” Ah, everybody will have an opinion. I want you to learn how to hear God for yourself. Don’t assume things. Don’t be emotionally led. The Bible says one of the signs that we are sons of God is that we are led by the Spirit of God.

So if you truly meet someone, pray. Ask God to lead you. Ask Him for discernment. Ask Him for wisdom. People always say a broken courtship is better than a broken marriage, l totally agree. If you’ve seen the red flags, my dear, step out. Stop trying to make a dress out of it. It is red. Leave. But if you’re seeing green flags, then praise God. All the best. Invite us to the wedding.

If there’s someone you like and you want to take your chance and approach them, honestly, there’s nothing wrong with that. Especially for the men , approach the girl. She says no? It’s okay. At least you tried. Imagine missing your wife because you were busy “waiting on the Lord” meanwhile the Lord was waiting for you to say hello. Womennnnnn , I don’t think you should approach men but yeah.

Dress well. Bath. Moisturise. Smell nice. Take care of yourself. The type you are looking for is also looking for a type. As for the question, “Where is the person?” Darling , I don’t know. If you thought I was going to answer that question, think again, think McCain. LOL. Anyways, “Lord, where is he?”

If you read my blogs but have never met this  Wonderful Jesus that I’m always writing about,  you’d love to get to know Him, Or you know The Lord but have found yourself drifting far from Him, I would love to talk with you. Please send me an email  on yieldedcwcenter@gmail.com or simply comment, and I will reach out to you

Interestingly enough, yesterday’s topic had almost a hundred reads in just one day. I received so many messages from people on Instagram, from people on WhatsApp, and many also commented on the blog. I suppose maybe that topic really resonated with a lot of people, and many genuinely wanted answers concerning it. Let’s bring more balance to the conversation today and trust that God will help and guide us all, in Jesus’ name.

So, let’s get into it: Can God really show you a spouse?We said yes. God absolutely can. Throughout Scripture, we see God involved in relationships, marriages, and divine direction. God is not silent concerning the major areas of our lives, and marriage is one of them. I took some time to study people in the Bible who got married, whether by the leading of the Spirit or simply through the ordinary process of marriage because there are also people in Scripture who simply got married, you do know that Lot was married yes? But we hear nothing of his marriage being the leading of God although he was a righteous man..Selah

When the Bible speaks about Rebekah, it says that the servant prayed a very specific prayer “Lord, let the young woman who gives me water and also gives water to my camels be the one.” Many women were coming to the well. You will see many damsels and many handsomes. Eh. God has beautiful children I’m telling you. Guys this servant arrived at the well at the exact time the women were coming out to draw water. So even right time matters otherwise he could have missed her completely.

Timing my people. So we seek God’s guidance even in the journey itself, even in timing. The Bible says Rebekah fit into that prayer because she did exactly what the servant had prayed for. I wanted to encourage people that you can still make those kinds of prayers today. Obviously, we no longer go to wells where women draw water, but there are still places where men and women of God are found.

Something else is important here. The servant observed Rebekah to determine whether the Lord had truly answered his prayer. So yes, the timing aligned. Yes, the woman did what he prayed for but now he wanted confirmation. He wanted to observe carefully whether this woman truly matched what he had prayed for. There is also a role for confirmation and observation. You want to pay attention to how a person speaks, how they treat people, how they carry themselves, their character, their spirit, and the fruit of their life.

Another thing, people of God, is that this servant did not arrive at the well and start “networking” romantically with every woman there. Can God lead you to your spouse? Yes. Can there possibly be more than one person in the world you could be compatible with? Maybe. But personally? I really don’t believe in talking to everybody at the same time because what exactly is going on there? Are we finding a spouse or hosting Joyous Celebration auditions?

The servant spoke to ONE woman. Meanwhile, the Bible literally says many women were coming out to the well. Many! Meaning options existed. Fine women existed. Beautiful, lovely personalities, glowing skin everything was there. Fine babes everywhere. Good gents all around but he remained focused. He was a man on a mission. A specific mission. Abraham told him to find “a wife” for Isaac not a wife and a side chick because guess what? The many people you entertain as you date potentially become a door for adultery later. It’s fine if you don’t believe me.

Some of you have reached that well and suddenly developed spiritual confusion. While talking to Rebekah, your eyes are already on the next woman carrying water. “Hmm… but this one also fears the Lord.” Then another one passes, “Wow… even this one prays like this!” Women you too. You cannot be speaking to five people, ten people, twenty people at the same time and still expect clarity. Ah-ah. Relax. Focus. Foooocuss.

When they finally got to the home, the servant explained to the family exactly why he had come. So he didn’t “kidnap” her, or take her to Isaac before doing the right thing. Do things the right way. Stop cutting corners. There’s no scripture that speaks about sleeping over at each other’s houses but let me leave you alone.

Now the Bible says that when the servant began explaining to Rebekah’s family why he had come, he said something very interesting in Genesis 24. He basically says, “If the family refuses to let her come, then I am released from this oath.” Because yes, the Lord may lead you. Yes, you may have confirmations you even dreamt of your wedding. She gave you water. She gave the camels water. He said this and that. She’s from Abraham’s family. The timing aligned. Fine. But if the family says no or if the person says no then that is still their choice.

People of God, God has given human beings free will. Someone can genuinely say, “I actually do not like you.” And that is okay. Rebekah’s family could have refused completely, and the servant would not have forced them. Imagine him standing there shouting, “But can’t you SEE the confirmation?!” No. He understood that people still have a choice.

Some people become very scary with this topic. “God showed me you’re my wife.” Meanwhile the person is hiding behind church chairs after service trying to avoid you. She is literally running from you. You cannot force your prophetic dream onto somebody who genuinely does not want you. Leave room for the possibility that even if God led you toward someone, that person still has the ability to say yes or no.

Some people ask, “But then why would God lead me there?” Well, think about salvation. Christ already died for the world, but people still have the choice whether to receive Him or reject Him. God leads, God reveals, God gives direction but human beings still respond with their own will. Her family was like, “Can she stay ten more days?” Meanwhile Rebekah was already mentally packed and ready to go. Sis said, “Nope, I’m going.” Honestly, I understand her completely. If it were me, I’d probably say, “Please escort me to my husband immediately.” While they are discussing I’m already waiting with the camels outside. Anyway, jokes aside.

The beautiful thing is that everything was still done properly. The process was honourable. There was agreement. There was family involvement. There were gifts given. Lobola was basically entering the chat (my uncle loves lobola negotiations btw). Eh. It’s his favourite event I think. Please don’t start saying, “God led me to you, therefore I will not pay dowry.” Ah-ah. My brother in Christ, you will pay. God bless you, but you will pay.

So yes, God can absolutely lead you to your spouse. But like I said yesterday, I want us to bring balance. The person can say no. And the person can also say yes. Okay see you tomorrow as we wrap up. You will marry don’t worry darling lol. Place your hand on your chest and say, “l will marry and l will marry well.” Amen.

If you read my blogs but have never met this  Wonderful Jesus that I’m always writing about,  you’d love to get to know Him, Or you know The Lord but have found yourself drifting far from Him, I would love to talk with you. Please send me an email  on yieldedcwcenter@gmail.com or simply comment, and I will reach out to you