One of the hardest spirits to fight is the spirit of lust. Both the married and the single battle with it daily. Men and women. Young people and adults. The spirit of lust is relentless; it will chase after you, but you have to run faster. You have to be like Joseph. We do not negotiate with lust. We do not entertain conversations with lust. We do not flirt with lust. We do not give attention to anything lust says because, the moment we give lust an ear, we begin to walk into slavery.
What a sad reality that Christ came to give us freedom, yet many choose slavery instead. “Nobody chooses to be a slave, that’s absurd!” Well, welcome to a lust-filled world where people make a daily choice to hold onto what enslaves them rather than walk in the liberty found in Christ. Another mystery under the sun, just as Solomon would write. It’s rare to find someone who struggles with masturbation and is completely free from it becoming a habit or a form of addiction.
For many, pornography or sexual fantasies become part of feeding that desire. This can be a result of lust taking control to the point where someone feels they have lost authority over their own body. No self control whatsoever. For many people, masturbation begins to control them it demands their attention, consumes their time, and becomes a strong influence over their actions to the extent that they give in without resistance. The urge comes, and instead of fighting it, they automatically respond by seeking self-pleasure. The battle is no longer just a moment of temptation; it becomes a pattern where the person is continually controlled.
There are issues of erectile dysfunction that some men experience after years of excessive masturbation. Some men struggle to perform healthily within their marriages because of patterns they developed and reinforced during their younger years. Many of these things begin in isolation. They begin in secret. Sin thrives in secrecy and darkness. Some women also struggle to be satisfied by their partners because they have conditioned their bodies and minds through masturbation to respond to a certain standard that no person can meet. Nobody can measure up to what a toy or fantasy can create, and this can cause some women to move from one relationship to another saying, “He doesn’t satisfy me!” But the question is, compared to what, Ma? An unrealistic standard?
Some of these struggles begin with curiosity. Curiosity about what sex feels like, especially among teenagers. There are many people who are still virgins yet struggle with masturbation, and for some, it begins with simply wanting to understand what the experience feels like without engaging in the actual sexual act. For those who have had sexual experiences before, it can come from memories of what they have experienced and the desire to continue feeling that pleasure. The challenge is that an addicted person’s desire for sexual satisfaction can continue growing, and eventually nothing seems enough.
People have gone from just imagination to hands to toys to rape, abuse, believe or not, to animals to same sex relationships, yho guys, it is never satisfied. It’s grows !!! Masturbation is sexual addiction. You are addicted to sex but with yourself. Many people who masturbate find themselves trapped by their own desires. Caged. The truth is, they enjoy the experience even though it’s a cage. More like, having fun in prison. The devil is wicked!
We’ve established that the Holy Spirit is not the inspiration behind this act. So, for believers, masturbation is not something we should continue to practise, because it goes against the life of holiness we are called to live. This means we must be honest about what we are dealing with and recognise it as sin. Let’s also examine ourselves: how many people who masturbate judge those who fornicate? How many people who are trapped in pornography judge those who commit adultery? How many people who battle lust every day think they are better than others who struggle with 🏳️🌈 ?
Do you know what is common? Sin. Sexual immorality. Ah even those who entertain lust in their hearts and minds. Remember, holiness is what? WHOLESOME! The same root, different expressions. Same paint, different brush. Under the same roof, just in different rooms. The purpose of this conversation is not to condemn people, but to bring us all to a place of humility, repentance, and freedom in Christ. Why should you stop masturbation? Not only because of the spiritual battle involved, but because of the impact it can have on your mind, body, and relationships. Some may say, “I will stop when I get married.” My darling, there are married men and women who still struggle with masturbation daily.
There was a story shared by a woman who said she discovered her husband repeatedly masturbating in the bathroom, to the point that she eventually involved their parents because she did not know how to handle it anymore. A mess. You would think, “When I get married, I will have a lot of sex, so this will stop,” but self-control is learned now.
Some people even continue masturbating after intimacy with their spouses because they have developed an unhealthy hunger for self pleasure. They begin trying to make another human being measure up to the standard created by their own hands and toys or the two pornstars they just watched. Your spouse is not a pornstar! People of God, this is a serious issue in our society. It is affecting individuals, breaking homes, and revealing the seriousness of the battle with lust.
I once watched a video where a man shared that he had been bound by this struggle for 24 years , 24 years of battling masturbation. Another person shared that they were introduced to it by friends as early as Grade 4. Some said they have even done it in church toilets. Others shared that they could be listening to worship music or a sermon, and the urge would come, and they would find themselves doing both simultaneously. During fasting, some people still struggle with it. During prayer, some fall, then return in repentance. Haaa! We need to have these conversations so that those who feel hopeless can know there is a path to redemption, healing, and restoration.
Shall I tell you something? Many people who struggle with sexual dreams and spiritual battles connect them to sexual experiences and wounds from the past. Some people feel trapped by patterns that began through sexual sin, while others were introduced to sexual things through painful experiences like molestation, and I am truly sorry for anyone who has gone through that. Breaking free from these struggles can be difficult. Never think that something the enemy uses to trap you will be easy to walk away from.
Have you ever seen people who commit crimes serve their time, come out, and return to the same behaviours shortly after? It shows how powerful patterns and bondage can become when they are not addressed. My darling, if you are struggling, you must fight for your freedom. You have to be intentional, determined, and willing to take the steps towards healing and restoration. I will show you how to, but I need you to be serious about wanting change. Freedom is possible. Like I said before, bring other people with you. All you have to do is repost the link. Whoever is struggling will find themselves here.
“ How will I break free? I’ve tried so much. I’m frustrated and l want to live in freedom.” I have an effective answer for you below.
Acts 16:26 (NIV)
“Suddenly there was such a violent earthquake that the foundations of the prison were shaken. At once all the prison doors flew open, and everyone’s chains came loose.”
I can’t wait to meet the free you! Show up here again tomorrow and let’s get started. Please remember that advanced stages of this addiction require counselling.
If you read my blogs but have never met this Wonderful Jesus that I’m always writing about, you’d love to get to know Him, Or you know The Lord but have found yourself drifting far from Him, I would love to talk with you. Please send me an email on yieldedcwcenter@gmail.com or simply comment, and I will reach out to you
