Category: The Yielded Believer

One of the hardest spirits to fight is the spirit of lust. Both the married and the single battle with it daily. Men and women. Young people and adults. The spirit of lust is relentless; it will chase after you, but you have to run faster. You have to be like Joseph. We do not negotiate with lust. We do not entertain conversations with lust. We do not flirt with lust. We do not give attention to anything lust says because, the moment we give lust an ear, we begin to walk into slavery.

What a sad reality that Christ came to give us freedom, yet many choose slavery instead. “Nobody chooses to be a slave, that’s absurd!” Well, welcome to a lust-filled world where people make a daily choice to hold onto what enslaves them rather than walk in the liberty found in Christ. Another mystery under the sun, just as Solomon would write. It’s rare to find someone who struggles with masturbation and is completely free from it becoming a habit or a form of addiction.

For many, pornography or sexual fantasies become part of feeding that desire. This can be a result of lust taking control to the point where someone feels they have lost authority over their own body. No self control whatsoever. For many people, masturbation begins to control them it demands their attention, consumes their time, and becomes a strong influence over their actions to the extent that they give in without resistance. The urge comes, and instead of fighting it, they automatically respond by seeking self-pleasure. The battle is no longer just a moment of temptation; it becomes a pattern where the person is continually controlled.

There are issues of erectile dysfunction that some men experience after years of excessive masturbation. Some men struggle to perform healthily within their marriages because of patterns they developed and reinforced during their younger years. Many of these things begin in isolation. They begin in secret. Sin thrives in secrecy and darkness. Some women also struggle to be satisfied by their partners because they have conditioned their bodies and minds through masturbation to respond to a certain standard that no person can meet. Nobody can measure up to what a toy or fantasy can create, and this can cause some women to move from one relationship to another saying, “He doesn’t satisfy me!” But the question is, compared to what, Ma? An unrealistic standard?

Some of these struggles begin with curiosity. Curiosity about what sex feels like, especially among teenagers. There are many people who are still virgins yet struggle with masturbation, and for some, it begins with simply wanting to understand what the experience feels like without engaging in the actual sexual act. For those who have had sexual experiences before, it can come from memories of what they have experienced and the desire to continue feeling that pleasure. The challenge is that an addicted person’s desire for sexual satisfaction can continue growing, and eventually nothing seems enough.

People have gone from just imagination to hands to toys to rape, abuse, believe or not, to animals to same sex relationships, yho guys, it is never satisfied. It’s grows !!! Masturbation is sexual addiction. You are addicted to sex but with yourself. Many people who masturbate find themselves trapped by their own desires. Caged. The truth is, they enjoy the experience even though it’s a cage. More like, having fun in prison. The devil is wicked!

We’ve established that the Holy Spirit is not the inspiration behind this act. So, for believers, masturbation is not something we should continue to practise, because it goes against the life of holiness we are called to live. This means we must be honest about what we are dealing with and recognise it as sin. Let’s also examine ourselves: how many people who masturbate judge those who fornicate? How many people who are trapped in pornography judge those who commit adultery? How many people who battle lust every day think they are better than others who struggle with 🏳️‍🌈 ?

Do you know what is common? Sin. Sexual immorality. Ah even those who entertain lust in their hearts and minds. Remember, holiness is what? WHOLESOME! The same root, different expressions. Same paint, different brush. Under the same roof, just in different rooms. The purpose of this conversation is not to condemn people, but to bring us all to a place of humility, repentance, and freedom in Christ. Why should you stop masturbation? Not only because of the spiritual battle involved, but because of the impact it can have on your mind, body, and relationships. Some may say, “I will stop when I get married.” My darling, there are married men and women who still struggle with masturbation daily.

There was a story shared by a woman who said she discovered her husband repeatedly masturbating in the bathroom, to the point that she eventually involved their parents because she did not know how to handle it anymore. A mess. You would think, “When I get married, I will have a lot of sex, so this will stop,” but self-control is learned now.

Some people even continue masturbating after intimacy with their spouses because they have developed an unhealthy hunger for self pleasure. They begin trying to make another human being measure up to the standard created by their own hands and toys or the two pornstars they just watched. Your spouse is not a pornstar! People of God, this is a serious issue in our society. It is affecting individuals, breaking homes, and revealing the seriousness of the battle with lust.

I once watched a video where a man shared that he had been bound by this struggle for 24 years , 24 years of battling masturbation. Another person shared that they were introduced to it by friends as early as Grade 4. Some said they have even done it in church toilets. Others shared that they could be listening to worship music or a sermon, and the urge would come, and they would find themselves doing both simultaneously. During fasting, some people still struggle with it. During prayer, some fall, then return in repentance. Haaa! We need to have these conversations so that those who feel hopeless can know there is a path to redemption, healing, and restoration.

Shall I tell you something? Many people who struggle with sexual dreams and spiritual battles connect them to sexual experiences and wounds from the past. Some people feel trapped by patterns that began through sexual sin, while others were introduced to sexual things through painful experiences like molestation, and I am truly sorry for anyone who has gone through that. Breaking free from these struggles can be difficult. Never think that something the enemy uses to trap you will be easy to walk away from.

Have you ever seen people who commit crimes serve their time, come out, and return to the same behaviours shortly after? It shows how powerful patterns and bondage can become when they are not addressed. My darling, if you are struggling, you must fight for your freedom. You have to be intentional, determined, and willing to take the steps towards healing and restoration. I will show you how to, but I need you to be serious about wanting change. Freedom is possible. Like I said before, bring other people with you. All you have to do is repost the link. Whoever is struggling will find themselves here.

“ How will I break free? I’ve tried so much. I’m frustrated and l want to live in freedom.” I have an effective answer for you below.

“Suddenly there was such a violent earthquake that the foundations of the prison were shaken. At once all the prison doors flew open, and everyone’s chains came loose.”  

Acts 16:26 (NIV)

I can’t wait to meet the free you! Show up here again tomorrow and let’s get started. Please remember that advanced stages of this addiction require counselling.

If you read my blogs but have never met this  Wonderful Jesus that I’m always writing about,  you’d love to get to know Him, Or you know The Lord but have found yourself drifting far from Him, I would love to talk with you. Please send me an email  on yieldedcwcenter@gmail.com or simply comment, and I will reach out to you

If I were in love with someone, I would want to know their likes and dislikes for the sake of the relationship. If I remain ignorant of the needs of this imaginary partner, I risk losing a relationship that could have been beautiful. In any healthy relationship, it is important to understand the other person’s love language because love is proven , not just spoken. It is reflected in the way we nurture, honor, and respond to one another. Your relationship with God is no different. It has its guidelines, its dos and don’ts, and the things that please His heart. If we truly love Him, we should desire to know what He loves and what He dislikes so that we can walk in a way that honors Him. Do you understand now?

Let me also say that I know some of us here genuinely love God and have sincerely tried to stop, but the urges seem stronger than your willpower. I want you to know that God loves you, and things can change. Yes, you may rise and fall, and it may feel as though the cycle will never end, but it will. Freedom is possible. I do not want you to feel judged or to believe that you are the dirtiest person in the world. You are not. You are loved by God, and His grace is still available to you. So don’t give up yet. Oya let’s go!

Some years ago, I read a book series in which the author shared a section on the topic of masturbation. In that excerpt, he described what took place in the kingdom of darkness to influence people toward masturbation and what, according to his account, happened spiritually when a person engaged in the act. I found his perspective thought-provoking and worth reflecting on as someone who wrote from a true story.

When I had my Spiritual googles, I had discovered that Masturbation was actually having sexual intercourse with an invisible being. It was still fornication. “

At work, Chinaza had told me about masturbation as a great sperm collection avenue. She told me if I could get the teenagers and youths to masturbate, my sperm collection would increase, as masturbation was a strong habit. She told me a lot of young girls and boys could masturbate several times a day, releasing their semen countless times a day. This was the strategy I planned on initiating in the new school which was a mixed school.

I started teaching using a lot of sexual examples . I noticed a boy was trying self-excite himself…. Exactly what I wanted. Yes! He got into it too… but my specs revealed something else to me, as Eric was trying to masturbate, I saw a dark smoke in form of a female body enter into the room and was caressing him. It dawned on me, that no one could have sex on their own, Masturbation was not actually self Sex as widely proclaimed, but Sex with an invisible irritating creature…

The black smoke-like demon was all over him caressing him, and behaving like a woman. Eric couldn’t see her, maybe if he saw the dark and smelly smoke-like demon he was having sex with, he would never embrace the idea of masturbation in his life.. I noticed the trickle down his school uniform shorts and just like normal Sex, I saw stars expelling out of his body. He had wasted his sperm, so he had to lose some stars and obviously just like the norm, the smelly invisible creatures came in, licked off his sperm and swallowed the evaporated stars…The sight was highly irritating and sad… everytime you masturbate, you lose your virtue, you lose your stars. No wonder you feel dull and weak afterwards.

I told Eric the usual lie , “It’s ok to release some sperm, it’s normal. Many boys are doing it.” So brought some of his friends and I was able to indoctrinate them all into Masturbation. I started receiving notifications on my spiritual calculator of victims that Eric and his friends were daily releasing sperm into the sperm collection bank, through their constant Masturbation.Sometimes they would watch pornographic movies to arouse them and they would masturbate.

However, Mercy, the female rat I wanted to capture was posing as a threat. She was too much of a spiritual girl and unfortunately for me, she was the Assembly prefect. She was always leading powerful prayers during assembly. Anytime she led prayers, I always felt a burning sensation all over my body…I knew I had to quench that fire in her…through the same way. Boys struggle more from this than girls but some girls struggle just as much as boys do.” Snippet from Teacher Chuks1

You see, life is spiritual. Do you think the enemy would simply sit back and not use masturbation as a bait for believers? I don’t think so. If there were no spiritual battle attached to it, 70% of young people would not find themselves fighting the same struggle day after day. Oh even elders. Elderly men and women are battling. Remember what I shared in Part 3? Sexual sin can open doors to spiritual influences that were never meant to have access to our lives. It is giving access to spirits that now wage war within your soul.

The book excerpt I shared touched on this. Would you willingly sleep with a man you do not know? Or a woman you do not know? Then why allow spirits to make your precious body a playground and steal your invaluable virtues? Sex is far more than a physical act, it is a profound mystery. I am not trying to control what you do with your body, they say “my body , my choice!” I say “My body, God’s temple, God’s choice!” If we listen to these carnal mottos of the world, my Yielded people, we will not have the best of relationships with God.

I want us to finish this series tomorrow and then start a new series, How to Stop Masturbating. I had to start with the “why” because I realised that many of us never had the sex talk at home. In many cases, we do not even have it at church. People are simply told, “Stop!” but they are never told “Why?” and “How?” Understanding both is important. Knowing why you should stop and how you can stop helps you become more intentional and committed to the decision.

My people, I need you to take this seriously. Be intentional about your purity. Be intentional about your relationship with God. Do not settle for living in cycles that Christ died to set you free from. Your body is valuable, it is God’s temple, and it was never created to be a playground for demons. Imagine that while you think you’re having sex alone & you’re probably having the time of your life, a wicked spirit is have free fun with you. Remember this before you drop your underwear again. Who is this invisible partner? Cannot be Holy Spirit!

“God wants you to live a pure life. Keep yourselves from sexual promiscuity. Learn to appreciate and give dignity to your body, not abusing it, as is so common among those who know nothing of God.”

1 Thessalonians 4:3-5 (MSG)

Give dignity to your body. See you tomorrow. Bring a friend.

If you read my blogs but have never met this  Wonderful Jesus that I’m always writing about,  you’d love to get to know Him, Or you know The Lord but have found yourself drifting far from Him, I would love to talk with you. Please send me an email  on yieldedcwcenter@gmail.com or simply comment, and I will reach out to you

Hey my people. My apologies for the inconsistency. Something happened lastweek that caused another thing to happen, and in the end something else happened that led to me being unable to blog but you understand, don’t you?

People of God, it’s difficult to stop doing something you like. Ever been in love before? You can see that the relationship has a dead end, but you keep going back for one last dose of an “I love you” that brings you pain and destabilises your life. I see things like masturbation in the same light. You like it, but it’s bad for you. You like that person but they are not good for you. You like the chilli but you know it makes your tummy run. I’m convinced people have an obsession with the wrong things & we tend to like what is always bad for us.

Contrary to what many people think, I believe it can be stopped immediately with the right knowledge. I believe that deliverance of the mind sets many captives free, which is the reason for this series. I genuinely want people to be free.

John 8:31–32 (AMPC)

“So Jesus said to those Jews who had believed in Him, If you abide in My word [hold fast to My teachings and live in accordance with them], you are truly My disciples. And you will know the Truth, and the Truth will set you free.”

Last week l heard a powerful statement by a young man. He said, “The freedom you have is equal to the truth you know!” Ah that blew my mind! In addition Scripture says that you are a slave to whatever you yield yourself to. It is such a pain that many people are slaves to lust. By the way, any addiction to masturbation is driven by lust. That is why dealing only with the habit is often not enough, you must also address the desires, thoughts, and beliefs that keep feeding it. We will discuss this much later.

Why should you stop masturbating? Because it turns you into a slave to lust. Someone may say, “Oh, but I don’t do it every day!” Yet you still struggle to stop doing it. It’s like having a chain on your feet, you try to leave, but then you find yourself being pulled back to the same spot. You keep saying, “Lord, I’m sorry!” But how many times have you apologised in a week for this one thing? Aren’t you tired of apologising for the same thing over and over again?

This blog is not for pretenders who want to act holy; it is for people who genuinely need help and desire freedom. If you have become heavily addicted, please seek help and book counselling as soon as possible. I believe motivation to write this to you is Holy Spirit desiring that you choose the life of the spirit & rebel against the flesh.

Why must you stop masturbating? Because sex is a spiritual activity. Whether it is with another person or done alone, it is still a sexual act. Many people think masturbation is the option that keeps them off the bed of fornication, but shall I tell you something? You are still engaging in a sexual act. The only thing that’s missing is the feelings of another person otherwise you are still having sex.

Some say, “I’m celibate. At least I’m not having sex with someone, but I masturbate to help myself.” That’s not celibacy. It’s like saying, “I don’t eat red apples, but I eat green ones.” It’s like saying, “I’m lactose intolerant, but I take powdered milk.” It’s like saying, “I can run, but I can’t walk.” The form may look different, but the nature of the act remains the same. You do know that Shakespeare still speaks English right? Just a different kind but guess what? It’s still English.

What has God called us to, brethren? Holiness. So would God approve of a type of “holiness” that says no to fornication but says yes to masturbation? Why do people hide their sex toys and the things they use for self-sex? Why is it shameful for people to find out that you do it if you truly believe it is acceptable to God? Should it not be something you are proud of? Good things are supposed to be brought to the light, shouldn’t they?

Who would boldly beat their chest and post, “Hi guys, I masturbate and I like it” Except for unbelievers? I bet many people wouldn’t. Why? Because deep down they know there is shame attached to it, and many genuinely want to be free. They either do not know how to break free or have become ignorant to the bondage they are in. They think “everyone’s doing it!” Shall l tell you a bit of light? Not everyone’s doing it. Don’t ever think otherwise. I want to help you but how can l help you except I’m not living like that?

God has called you to holiness, and unfortunately, holiness cannot be broken down to suit anyone’s fleshly desires. Holiness is wholesome. It is for the mind, just as it is for the eyes, the feet, and even your private parts. It is for me, for you and for the priest on the pulpit. It is for the young people, the elderly people and even for children. It is for the new believers, the old believers & the entire five fold ministry.

I hope that so far you are being helped, and I pray that you will also help someone else by sharing this. Please note that my counselling services are offered at an affordable rate. Unless I have specifically offered otherwise, I do not provide free counselling. To begin your journey please contact me & sign your consent form. Check out the link below.

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If you read my blogs but have never met this  Wonderful Jesus that I’m always writing about,  you’d love to get to know Him, Or you know The Lord but have found yourself drifting far from Him, I would love to talk with you. Please send me an email  on yieldedcwcenter@gmail.com or simply comment, and I will reach out to you