Over the years I’ve had to separate myself from certain people, places and things. It wasn’t always easy but very necessary. “Abraham leave your country!” Sounds like a painful thing to do yes? Abraham had family there, friends, neighbours whom he probably loved , a lot of things going on for him where he was. God knowing all this still calls him out. “Leave!” I somehow understand Lot’s wife. Leaving people isn’t always easy, breaking the relationship, resigning from the company, leaving the city, coming out of an addiction, these are hard things! New things are desirable but they are hard to adapt to. I’ve heard people say “Oh I’ll meet someone new and they’ll ask what my favourite colour is, that’s so boring!” Because doing it all over again Is exhausting. Abraham building a home all over again can be exhausting, Sarah getting some new dinner plates can be tiring because you had a cute set that you had to leave in the Ur of the Chaldeans but that cannot stop you from living out your destiny – so get out of that place!
“My daughters go back to your people in Moab!” You can almost feel the emotions they felt in that moment. How can you tell them to go back to a place they left as brides only to come back widowed? A place they left with hopes for a great future. How do they go and leave you knowing you’re in pain? Sometimes you have to separate with people even in their pain. It doesn’t mean you’re insensitive but there’s no balm in your hands to help them. Orpah had to separate. Separation does not only mean they’re bad people, cos some of you were cut off and you started thinking “oh I must be a bad person” and the truth is you are not! They just got to go darling!
I have been in relationships where the other person left. I hope you know people can be physically present but they left a long time ago. I would wonder what’s wrong with me? But when you understand the word you realise there was nothing wrong with Orpah. Joseph needed to go to Egypt. Yes he went in the most painful way but at his age he was called to separate from his family. Joseph and Abraham are not the same! Abraham can obey immediately, Joseph must be forced out! That’s how some of us do not separate from things until we are forced out! You won’t leave the man even if he threatens to kill you so the man will leave you! You won’t resign even if they made you work 24hr so they’ll fire you! If you have a turn in destiny that cannot be missed , God Himself will force you out!
God says to Israel, it’s time to leave Egypt! They do so but in them is a print of Egypt. Separation means emotionally detach as much as you physically detach. If you leave the job , emotionally detach from it too. Stop writing on Facebook daily about your colleagues! Stop banking pictures of the relationship. Stop wishing you could take one more glass. Imagine if Abraham was still emotionally attached, he’d be going back there every month. Why are we still hung up on the past? Where you are right now – Is it because you were led or you are at a place you were told you leave?
“So Abram said to Lot, Let there be no strife, I beg of you, between you and me, or between your herdsmen and my herdsmen, for we are relatives. Is not the whole land before you? Separate yourself, I beg of you, from me. If you take the left hand, then I will go to the right; or if you choose the right hand, then I will go to the left.”
Genesis 13:8-9 AMPC
Separate business from pleasure. Separate play time from time to be serious. At some point Abraham separated from Lot. Sometimes God Will have you separate from your own family! Don’t let anyone guilt trip you! God can tell you to stop hanging out with the cousin. You don’t hate them but ehh it’s time to separate. Separation can be an overwhelming time of intense mixed emotions, including sadness, guilt, denial, relief, anger, and fear, to name only a few. I want to say to you , you may separate for a while like Joseph and his brothers but you may separate forever like Ruth and Orpah.
I agree that it’s hard. It’s uncomfortable. It feels unfair. But hear what the word of God says;
“So we are convinced that every detail of our lives is continually woven together for good, for we are his lovers who have been called to fulfill his designed purpose.”
Romans 8:28 TPT
Do not panic , there is a plan working out for your good! ❤️
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My daddy knows best, it’s not always that you are the problem. His protection may come with a lot of hurt but nothing hurts more than staying where you no longer belong, it prolongs the healing process.