Heyyyy YIELDED FAMILY! I hope you’ve had a beautiful week so far. I am super excited about our upcoming event. I hope to see you there !!! Okaaay …Let’s get to it!
“This is what the Lord Almighty says: “Give careful thought to your ways.”
Haggai 1:7 NIV
How has your week been? WERE YOU KIND TO YOURSELF?
Many times we seek to understand others, to make them feel heard and loved. Over-functioning and codependent behaviour will eventually lead to feeling empty and bitter because at the end of the day there is nothing left for you. I hope you understand, I am not teaching selfishness but rather self awareness where – you are conscious of the fact that you also matter. Yes you do.
We often sacrifice self-care because we’re too busy trying to save everyone else. Sometimes people have to learn their own lessons in life, however painful that is. I’ve learned that self neglect is VERY REAL. I see it in parents particularly mothers . I see it in breadwinners. I see it in leaders. I also see it in relationships. One will forget they exist to make others feel like they exist .While we are taught to be selfless, self neglect is not right.
Give careful thought to it. What did you do to appreciate the small wins from this week? How many cups did you pour into while yours was running empty? Did you take the break you needed? Did you rest? You asked everyone if they’re okay but ARE YOU OKAY? You cannot run while limping. We teach people how to treat us by our own actions and attitude toward ourselves. By putting signs out there that you are a rescuer and will do anything to “save” everyone, you attract the sort of people who want to be rescued and for whom it has to be all about them—not a balanced relationship. Give it a more careful thought.
Ultimately, it boils down to the fact that we think others are worth more than us. If we are confident in our love for ourselves and treat ourselves as if we are worthy, then that is what we will attract back. That’s what will give us confidence in rooms that seek to threaten us . That will create in us, healthy feelings towards our own selves.
Again, give this a more careful thought. 🩷