YOU CANNOT LET GO OF PAIN WITHOUT HEALING
So, story of my life. I wrote a blog yesterday and saved it, but I can’t find it. Meaning I’ve got to rewrite everything. I’m so bored! One time, I was writing a book and I lost the whole chapter. As in, everythinggggg! That’s one thing I totally hate because I write on the go. Anyways, we muveee!
In this series of letting go, we will discuss different topics that deal with the many things people need to let go of. How do you let go of pain? By healing. There’s no other way. There’s one formula for this one, and it is to HEAL. Maaaany people are harbouring pain from various stages of life, and they are doing life with a limp. I always say this to my clients: We don’t know the real you. You also have never met the real you until you heal. You haven’t met yourself yet.
It’s the healed you that is the true you. The broken you may look a certain way, speak a certain way, and do things a certain way. I really don’t intentionally psychoanalyse anyone. Sometimes, it happens in the middle of a conversation, and I’m like, yeah, this is where the issue is. This kind of talk is coming from this place. Even the things people get angry about or are triggered by can tell you a lot about the pain they carry.
If you harbour pain, you’re no different from a person who has an illness but won’t see the doctor. They have no idea that the symptoms are worsening, but they are. Eventually, they will find out that the earlier they had dealt with it, the better. Listen, the woman with the issue of blood tried for her life until she got healed. We are told that the discomfort of that flow led her to do everything possible until she found the solution. Many people were sick and in pain that day, but they stayed home! They pretended it didn’t hurt.
Stop pretending. Stop acting like you’ve healed. Stop acting like you’re as joyful as everyone else. You’re the one suffering because only you know what’s in that heart. A broken person has a different perspective on life, and even in conversations, their input cannot always be trusted because they could be speaking from a place of pain.
They will say, “I don’t believe in love. All these couples are faking it.” No, my darling. Your pattern of five men doing the same thing to you has left you in pain, and now you have a false perception of love. We cannot trust your input. I’ve seen people take advice from bleeding people. My friend?? It’s like a patient in the hospital giving you a prescription on medicine while the nurse is sitting at the desk. They say, “Bring out a paper. Take two paracetamol, morning and night.” This is someone who is admitted in ICU! My friend, are we serious?
Of course, there are people who have managed to protect their minds, but it takes a lot of work. Heal. Heal because you need to. You really do. I don’t know how else to tell our generation that there’s no romance to depression and PTSD. PTSD can be dealt with. We need to come face to face with the state of our hearts. Whether you are in grief, you got hurt in a marriage, or whatever it may be that is causing you to walk with a limp, please deal with it. I say this to my clients too. People can smell pain off a person. You can almost taste the pain. And in that case, people step back. They don’t want to be burdened by you.
People draw closer to joyful people because, in a way, they are also looking to be influenced by joy. Believe it or not, you will take up the energy of the people you hang out with. Please don’t fool yourself into thinking you will hang out with chickens and not start acting like a chicken. You will not see it, but people who know chicken behaviour will see it. We feed off each other. We offload and upload from each other. Please take your healing seriously. It’s one of the best things you can ask God to do for you. With a limp, you can’t go far. With a limp, you’re less effective.
I’ve always made an example using Ronaldo, the soccer player. He’s the GOAT when he’s okay, but once he gets a fracture, you can cheer for him all you want, stand on seats and blow trumpets, he will not be an effective player. He will be told to get off the field, and someone who may be less talented than him will replace him while he sits and watches from the benches, if he’s not taken to the medical room.
The game will go on without him because of pain. Don’t let the games continue without you. The thing is, he is given immediate care so he can continue his career. You too need that. If he gave up after one fracture and said, “Argh, it’s okay, let me live with the pain,” you’d never see him on the field again, or he would perform way below his usual standard. Why? He didn’t deal with the fracture.
Stop running away from yourself. Stop making a home out of a place that was only supposed to be a temporary season in your life. You deserve to experience life beyond the things that hurt you. You deserve to know yourself outside your pain. You deserve to live, love, laugh and show up without constantly carrying the weight of what happened to you. A word is enough for the wise.
“Is there no balm in Gilead; is there no physician there?” Jeremiah 8:22 (KJV)
There is a Balm in Gilead. There is healing. There is restoration. There is hope. Don’t settle for living with a limp when you can seek healing. HEAL my love❤️.
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