Category: Dealing with self

Preparation precedes opportunities. Preparation precedes certain outcomes.

When a woman is pregnant, she begins to prepare. I’ve seen it with my siblings and others, they start buying pretty little clothes, nappies, little boots, and little socks. Cute somethings. The child hasn’t even been born yet, but the anticipation of what is coming compels them to prepare. Some start as early as four months, once they know the gender. They prepare the nursery, filling it with toys and everything they will need to care for the baby.

What we see there is preparation for what is to come. Have you been preparing for what you’ve been praying for? You asked God for a miracle. Have you been preparing to receive it? This reminds me of the wedding at Cana. They needed wine, and there were jars at the venue. Imagine Jesus saying, “Okay, let me help you,” but there were no jars available. Where are your jars?

What have you prepared that will position you for the open doors you’ve been praying for? Have you prepared your emotional intelligence? Have you worked on your mind? Have you developed your character? Have you acquired the skills you need? What do you have in your hands? You have been praying for the opportunity, but have you prepared for what the opportunity will require of you?

There are doors that will open that will scan you at the entrance. You will be scanned for capacity. You will be scanned for your mindset. Your Christian life will be scanned. Have you been preparing? “I want to go to the nations!” Are you ready if God said, “By this time tomorrow”? Have you seen a counsellor about that issue since you’re praying for elevation or marriage? I think we underestimate the importance of preparation. Do we remember the story of the ten virgins? What was the issue there? It was a lack of diligent preparation. It’s not called laziness in that story; it’s called foolishness.

Instead of getting enough oil, praying some more, fasting some more, and reading more books, you will find someone who is supposedly going to minister all over the world sleeping like there’s no tomorrow. I was having a conversation with someone, and they said to me, “You have so many talents and so much capacity. I wish big doors would open for you.” I said to them, “One thing I know is that capacity and preparation position you for open doors. If you just keep pushing, it’s only a matter of time.” You can’t be a fisherman without a net and talk about the great catch of fish you will have. Where will you put the fish?

Think about this, the ten virgins. Everyone knows what is happening and what to do, but five actually act and prepare accordingly. The other five are too casual about the whole thing. Too chilled. Too relaxed, like many of us. You’re just too laid-back for what’s happening in the spirit right now. That’s why, even in a group, some will progress and some won’t because of the seriousness they give to preparation.

I think some people became witches because they were envious of people who got what they thought they should have gotten, but they didn’t because they didn’t work hard enough. That’s how you will clap for others who are busy preparing for opportunities right now. Please believe me when I say people are busy in their rooms building capacity. You meet them on social media and laugh, thinking you’re all laid-back. This is how most of my high school friends failed and I passed. We were playing together, but when I got home, I locked in. I had no choice. My parents are not jokers.

Don’t think every virgin has no oil like you. Don’t think everyone is sleeping on destiny. Don’t think that, as friends, you’re all just moving at the same pace. I was talking to my best friend the other day, and I said, “There are things that I will not wait for you on. I will leave you behind if you joke about them.” I think we were discussing fasting. Luckily, she’s locked in. Very seriously. But my point was and is, I’m the one who knows how much I need God right now. I’m well aware of my shoes, so if we do things in a group, you will think you and other people’s destinies are the same.

You carry on like someone whose parents fought battles for them, yet you’re the first serious believer in your family. If they’re not fasting, fast! The wise virgins said, “No, we can’t give you our oil. We didn’t buy it for you. Go and buy yours.” To show you that when push comes to shove, and the Bridegroom comes, and the opportunity comes, it’s your own preparation, your own certificates, that will be required. You cannot borrow.

Start preparing for where you’re going. Start reading the books. Get the understanding. Learn the eloquence. Fine-tune your skills. I’ve been blogging for almost three years now, and it may look like I was born able to write, but I fine-tune it by reading. If you spend even a day with me, you will see that I’m not lying. I read. I read my Bible. I read books. I learn new words. I ask questions to people who spark my brain. I study. I’m not giving you a to-do list that I myself am not doing. Where l lack, I intentionally look for enlightenment.

If God answered that prayer for a wife, are you ready to live with a woman as her priest and covering, or are you still dealing with three other girls? Three strongholds. What about the millions you’re praying for, yet this whole year you haven’t given one coin? Preparation is sacrificial. It’s not easy. It takes faith. It takes courage to even believe the opportunity is coming, so you stay positioned.

Stay prepared. The Bridegroom didn’t come when they expected Him to. It was when they had all fallen asleep. Then suddenly! Suddenly, the offer will come. Suddenly, you will be called to the office. Suddenly, you will meet that person. There won’t be time to borrow or even buy oil. What’s coming may not give you enough time to put a certificate together. They will just say, “We want people with Maths.” LOL! Oh my God, help me with Mathematics! Then automatically, they will chuck me out because Maths and I need a rematch. Maths Maths Maths, who are you unto me? I want to write a poem about Maths. Im traumatised.

Do your best to stay ready. The baby will be born soon; you need to prepare the little hat and everything else needed to welcome it. It doesn’t matter how far along the pregnancy is; faith drives us to prepare. Boy or girl, prepare. Some people have been positioned to birth twins, prepare! You don’t prepare for twins the way you prepare for one child. You know how big your dreams and prayers are. Figure this out quickly. It may happen tomorrow (not the twins obviously, the opportunity LOL) cos some of you are single.

If you read my blogs but have never met this  Wonderful Jesus that I’m always writing about,  you’d love to get to know Him, Or you know The Lord but have found yourself drifting far from Him, I would love to talk with you. Please send me an email  on yieldedcwcenter@gmail.com or simply comment, and I will reach out to you

Hey my Yielded People! 🌹

Today l have quite a bittle little something to share and it’s about missed opportunities. Have you ever awakened and realised you missed an opportunity, an open door, a notification to attend something very important, a guy you could’ve said yes to two years ago, a good lady you could’ve wedded but you counted stars until that open door closed? I think a good number of us have. Maybe just maybe, out of a hundred people, a proper ninety-five of us have been on this boat. Let’s talk about it.

A couple of weeks ago , l was scheduled to do an interview with an organisation for something on mental health. We set the date & mind you, I landed on this opportunity by GRACE! You know those doors that open by GRACE? Not the ones you bribed yourself into or begged or used some diabolical tactics to break into. By diabolical, I mean as far as buying good luck soaps from weird people all over social media. “Good luck soap” and you really buy it? Someone with a degree? Let me leave you alone. Back to my story …

The organisers reach out , we set a date to do the what? Exactly. I love that you’re following the story. The day comes & my network is soooooo bad that we couldn’t even get past the greetings. We reschedule twice. We try other means. Things just happened that led me to think , “Let me email them & cancel this whole thing. Clearly it’s not gonna work. What do I need this for anyways? Bla bla blaaaessst bla!” You know when you start talking yourself out of something, it reasonates , it sounds good. Like you’re really onto something.

While I was on that thought, a counter thought came to mind. “Let’s try one more time.” I email them and they are more than excited to what? Reschedule. We’re still together right? The day comes & we do the interview. As I was busy answering questions, things were going so well guys. I was thinking to myself , so l almost missed an opportunity to share my experiences & expertise on such a big platform because of small silly things? A bit of annoyance. Giving up. Eh girl? But let me put it to you that many of us have done the very same thing maaaaaany times in life. Doors open, you shut them. I go lie for you?

One sweet lady comes your way, you play with her , she leaves you, years later you see her photo , she’s happy then something , a wicked something starts telling you, “Message her & write (Hey stranger)” .. Hey stranger??? Someone who you fumbled & toyed with when you had the chance. We miss opportunities that could help our lives because they didn’t come with money. An opportunity to be in the palace with kings & the first thing you ask is “How much are they paying?” Am l saying don’t charge for your talents? No. I’m saying access to the room is equally important. Do not miss opportunities because of foolishness.

Make the most of every opportunity.

Colossians 4:5b NLT

What about opportunities we miss because of friends? You advise each other on wrong things now you lost a business you fasted & prayed for. “My mental health can’t take this!” Ok but can it take the stress of poverty? I bet not. God opens doors but they look too small to the carnal mind so we duck out. I don’t know about you but I’ve seen how one small door can lead to one big door. I wouldn’t be doing justice to this topic if I didn’t mention that people are doors toooo! Nehemiah is planning to rebuild the walls of Jerusalem & guess what? The king writes him a letter of advantage. Who can write you a letter like that? Nobody, because you cut them off & burned the bridge.

People can open doors for you. Eh! I’m telling youuuu. People can open one door & it will change your life forever. You just never know who’s connected to who that can help you. Some doors close forever, some opportunities never come again. I don’t know if the organisers would’ve asked us to reconsider if I had sent that email but I’m glad I didn’t send the email. You sent a text, a voice note, you called & shut a door that will never open again, at least not for you. People of God, we need wisdom to handle such matters.

There are calls you can’t miss. I remember one time I missed a call from my spiritual father. He’s such a busy person. He definitely wouldn’t just call. I saw my phone and I was like, “Yhoooo x 55 billion.” When I tried to call back, he was busy. A call you cannot afford to miss. A call that could change your future. Beneficial to your entire career!

The devil will just give you an urge to put the phone on silent right at the moment the destiny helper is calling. You were literally in that place five minutes ago, then you hear the person you’ve been trying to meet just passed there. The mayor or great woman you’ve been praying to speak to comes to your city for an hour , but you decided to go hike in Pretoria. Randomly. Now you can’t even rush back except you teleport lol , you don’t even like hiking!!

Many avoidable or unavoidable things can happen when opportunities come. A girl you planned to ask out on Wednesday, one other guy does it on Sunday and that’s it, from and to Mrs. What were you waiting for exactly? A book you wanted to publish. A song you planned to write. Something you even had capacity for but because of one reason or another, you miss it. Like I said before, some opportunities don’t come around the second time. Even warfare cannot bring back the person who has now married someone else. God will not break them up for you.

Stop missing opportunities. Stop missing opportunities to showcase your skills at work. “I’m shy, let others do it. I like my shell.” If I catch you? I will burn that shell. Stop missing opportunities to pray and catch what God is saying. Stop being a sleepy head. Things are happening all around. Be at the right place, at the right time, doing the right thing with the right people. That said, let’s meet tomorrow to talk about how to prepare for opportunities. I love you, bye🌹

If you read my blogs but have never met this  Wonderful Jesus that I’m always writing about,  you’d love to get to know Him, Or you know The Lord but have found yourself drifting far from Him, I would love to talk with you. Please send me an email  on yieldedcwcenter@gmail.com or simply comment, and I will reach out to you

“So listen to me, you young men. You’d better take my words seriously! Control your sexual urges and guard your hearts against lust. Don’t let your passions get out of hand and don’t lock your eyes onto a beautiful woman. Why would you want to even get close to temptation and seduction, to have an affair with her? She has pierced the souls of multitudes of men— many mighty ones have fallen and have been brought down by her.”
‭‭Proverbs‬ ‭7‬:‭24‬-‭26‬ ‭TPT‬‬

A significant number of statistics highlight the extent to which people consume sexual content daily from children to adults. A child who understands how to navigate the internet can easily fall prey to explicit videos and images. Teenagers are drowning in pornography like stones sinking into deep waters. Adults, on the other hand, can take their cravings further by acting them out. And while children may not have the opportunity to engage in sexual encounters, adults often can. Even within the church, many people are battling these issues in silence. The question then becomes. How do we address this problem effectively?

By God’s grace, several people have opened up to me about this struggle, and I can tell you many of them are exhausted. I often hear, “I’ve tried everything… Are you sure people can actually live a sexually pure life?”

My answer is simple: Yes, it is absolutely possible.

The world will insist that sexual purity is unrealistic or unattainable. I recently came across an article where a lady claimed she challenged herself to masturbate daily “for scientific discovery.” But we know that what she engaged in was not scientific exploration it was a deeply spiritual activity. She just wasn’t aware and that’s how the devil likes it, you not knowing the effects of what you’re doing. And she didn’t just discover “science”; she opened the door to spiritual darkness. I believe there is a reason I am focusing on this topic this week. Someone needs help, and they will receive it but through knowledge.

According to the book of Proverbs, sexual desire can be controlled that is what Scripture calls self-control. Why is this important? Because when you allow your desires to rule you, you begin digging an early grave for yourself. Many lives have been destroyed simply because people connected themselves to the wrong individuals.

The world has become so spiritually distorted and messsssed up that people don’t even realise they are lying with serpents entering dangerous, demonic, or soul-draining bonds without knowing it. That is why Proverbs warns us clearly, “Do not let your passions run wild. If you do, your soul will be pierced.”

Even the mighty have fallen in this area. The text reminds us not to say, “I am strong; I can never fall.” King David, a man after God’s own heart, a warrior, a leader, anointed and chosen , still fell. If such a man could be brought down by unrestrained desire, then none of us are automatically exempt. We must remain alert, disciplined, and submitted to the Spirit.

I’ve heard many people say they are “celibate,” yet they still engage in masturbation. But listen family, there is no Scripture that calls us to celibacy. None. Why? Because celibacy, as a concept, allows loopholes. It creates space for exceptions. It can make you believe you are fine as long as you’re not engaging with another person and that, right there, is the enemy’s strategy. Scripture does not command us to be celibate; it commands us to be holy.

It calls us to stay away from all forms of sexual impurity whether involving another person or not. So yes, here is the answer to a question you didn’t ask lol, you are not called to celibacy; you are called to holiness. Solomon warns us not even to go near the paths of seduction and temptation. That is where many people stumble. They rely on their own strength , the same strength that has failed them repeatedly. If your strength has not kept you pure all year, then why are you still refusing to set boundaries?

Holiness requires intentionality. It requires distance from triggers, not confidence in broken self-discipline. The issue is not desire alone it is the refusal to guard yourself. So just as a driver must control the steering wheel, you must control your desires. You would never allow a car to move without steering, because the steering determines the direction of the vehicle. If you turn it toward Alberton, that’s exactly where you will end up. If you fail to control it, you risk an accident and those accidents are the very things many of us keep repenting for. The same thing you’re sorry for on Monday , I’m telling you for free, you will be sorry for it again on Friday IF you don’t practise self control.

But I am saying to you, there is a way out, and it begins with the desire to discipline yourself. Proverbs warns us not to let our passions get out of hand. If you do, you will fall. Your “steering” must be directed toward holiness. If not, you will eventually collide with something destructive and you never know whether there will be anyone available to help you recover, or whether you’ll remain stuck there for a long time. Of which many are stuck in something they started at 18. It’s been yearsssss, that’s what the devil wants!

I’m using this metaphor so you can understand that lack of control leads to danger. If you ignore boundaries, you’ll drive through the red lights and the “red robot” is the Holy Spirit saying, Stop right there. But if things get too out of hand, you may not even hear His warning anymore. You’ll drive straight into a ditch, and the truth is, ditches are lonely places. Just like many of you are struggling quietly with no one to talk to. You don’t have to tell me. I’m simply giving you a way out. If this applies to you, take it and use it.

Today I came to tell you to get your hands back on the steering wheel. If you truly listen to everything I will share here, you will come out of this. But you must read to understand not just to add yourself to my reader statistics. I don’t want numbers; I want transformation. I want you to gain the knowledge that empowers real change. We are journeying through the book of Proverbs, and we will stay here for a while, so invite someone who needs this.

Remember what Apostle Paul says: “Flee from every appearance of evil.” So take this step with me today, go and delete that website, block it completely. Something in you will whisper, “Just one last time.” NO! The last time was already the last time. Are you serious about change or not? I’m not here to negotiate with you about deleting it , I am telling you to. Your life, your purity, your destiny are on the line. I cannot afford to soften the tone. Sometimes we need to hear the truth as hard as it is.

See you tomorrow.

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We’ve really come to the end of the year, and I’m already excited about the Choice Biscuits I get to enjoy with my niece we don’t share them with many people o! I’m also excited about the new; I’m always looking forward to it. New clothes, new hair, a new pair of shoes, a new house, a new season… just get me out of the old quickly, lol. Happy Monday and happy new week!

Last week we spoke about a man called Lot, and I’ll wrap that up today so we can continue our study on Proverbs. Do you know why Abraham and Lot separated? Because of their servants there were constant fights over the livestock, and since both men were wealthy, managing their possessions separately became difficult. Those conflicts eventually pushed Abraham and Lot to say, “You know what? Let’s part ways.” But when Lot looked out and saw a beautiful plain, he didn’t enquire of God; he made a major life decision simply because something looked “good.” Some people still make impulsive decisions like that today. I was talking to one of my mamaas over the weekend and she said, “Baby, whatever you do, never rush something like this. Take your time. What you may have missed, let God show you.” And I thought, oh yeah, she’s really onto something. Did God speak or are you just in a hurry to move?

I’m going to be frank with you guys. You don’t rush into marriage just because lust is pushing your destiny, and you don’t move to another country without asking God first. Do you know why Abraham left his home? Because God told him to. GOD SAID SO. “But there are greener pastures.” You might not even have a pasture there in the first place. I’m not over-spiritualising this, scripture is simply a clear guide for how to live: what to do, and when to do it. I always tell the people around me that I’m not a copy and paste person. I’m a single edition God created with a specific plan. Your plans for me are too complicated and messy for me to trust. I follow God’s plan. “Oh, but you’d do well in Germany.” Maybe you’re right, maybe I actually would or could, but did God say so? Or do we expect God to show up in Germany after we completely cut Him out of the decision to move there? We want God to join our plans, but that’s the opposite of Jeremiah 29:11. Who holds the plans? God. So why are you trying to move with two different plans?

Last year taught me a lot you know, life has a way of coming back to test whether you truly learned from your previous season. You’ll be shocked to find yourself fighting the same battle from last year, just in a different context. Like how Indian movies are. Different title but two people will fall in love and they will have issues but they will dance. One thing I learned is this: without God, I’m not doing anything. I have no decision until God has decided for me. You had a vision of me in Dubai? That’s lovely but I’ll wait until God tells me Himself. Imagine my parents needing to speak to me but choosing to tell the neighbours instead. You’re like “But we’re in the same house Dad!” That’s you and Holy Spirit in the same body. Does that make sense? I’m not dismissing any prophetic word I’ve received please read this part VERY carefully. I’m saying you must hear God for yourself too.

Someone once told me that God said he should marry me by the 10th of March… or April, I don’t even remember. But many of you can already see that was his own desire wrapped in a “conviction” that still came from that desire. So what do you do, Lot? You see the plain, it’s beautiful, and the future there looks promising but like David, you go back to God and ask, “Should I pursue?” Remember, David’s wives had been captured. Anyone else would have said, “David, why are you asking God? Run after them man, it’s your wives and children! Don’t over-spiritualise this. Use logic! You people want to always be praying about everything! If l were you, I’d have already caught up with them.” Some would even mock him for calling Abiathar with the ephod for something so personal. Something logic can answer. But David still asked God. Because even when something looks like a good decision logically, you don’t want just a good decision you want a godly one. Be careful of this logic logic thing. Logic can give a good decision but good decisions can have bad results too. A godly one? Never.

So Lot finds himself paying the price for a decision that seemed good. The cities were burned with sulphur. Guess what he lost? All the possessions that made him move in the first place, the servants, his wife. He only came out with two daughters, who later became a seed of abomination. And let me be clear: Lot was a good man. He feared God. He never participated in the evil of that city. He upheld godly standards , scripture even shows that he tried to stop the men of Sodom from entering his house to commit an abominable act and was willing to offer his children to protect righteousness. He was not a bad man, he was a good man who made a good, logical decision. I mean, why wouldn’t anyone move to the USA? It’s a good place; you might not even become bad there. But a day of paying for misalignment can come.

Misalignment has consequences big and small. For Lot, it was huge. For Jonah? Not so much he only lost some ticket money and peace for a little while.And if you’ve already made a decision without consulting God, there’s still a way out. Remember, all things work together for your good. Ask Him, “Lord, in this situation, what do I do?” Repent for ever trying to act without Him while still claiming Him as your Lord. That’s exactly what Jonah did in Jonah 3, he repented and was led to the right shore.

So what decision are you facing? Are people telling you to pursue something because your “children” have been taken? Or because logically, it seems like a great investment that could bring 5 million? Maybe their calculations are right but have you given God a chance to speak? Oh, He hasn’t answered in a week? I heard a great man of God say this over the weekend.

Ask God. If He hasn’t said anything, He has something to say it’s just not yet time. Wait. Stay put. Don’t move. Don’t become impatient. Stay still. If there’s no response yet, don’t assume it means go ahead. It may mean just wait. So do just that, wait.”

PDL

And that’s all I have for you today. God knows what to do with your life , give Him a chance. Anyone who tries to move you out of alignment is not a destiny helper; they’re a destiny destroyer, even if they don’t realise it. Thank GOD FOR GOD! Thank God for His plans! As Jeremiah 29:11-12 (NLT) reminds us:

“For I know the plans I have for you,” says the Lord. “They are plans for good and not for disaster, to give you a future and a hope. In those days when you pray, I will listen.”

GIVE GOD A CHANCE!

This season, many people find themselves feeling restless. It’s a time when we pause for self-reflection, revisit our vision boards of the year and understandably, that can shake us up. But does it really have to be this way every year?

Have we simply accepted that each festive season, while we celebrate on the outside, we’re disappointed, dissatisfied, and discouraged on the inside? We eat, laugh, and enjoy the moment, yet deep down many adults feel anxious, one year older, yet like Joshua, still facing the “much land yet to be possessed,” anxiety. Is this truly meant to be the experience of God’s people, or have we embraced a worldly pattern without even noticing? And more importantly, does it have to be the same story every year?

I woke up with this on my heart today: I don’t want festive-season anxiety anymore. I don’t want to keep repeating this same pattern year after year. Does it mean everything in my life is perfect right now? No. But I do want to experience real peace and bliss during this time of the year. As I was thinking about this, I was led to Proverbs 4:25–27 (NLT). Let’s read it together.

“Look straight ahead, and fix your eyes on what lies before you. Mark out a straight path for your feet; stay on the safe path. Don’t get sidetracked; keep your feet from following evil.”

‭‭Proverbs‬ ‭4‬:‭25‬-‭27‬ ‭NLT‬‬

“Look straight ahead.” But I’m like, “Lord, all I see are my unsolved problems, JESUS!”

Yet the Scripture reminds me that it’s easy to get sidetracked when we focus on anything other than the vision that still needs to be fulfilled. It’s tempting to say, “I’m not seeing any results… maybe I should just follow the world’s way so I at least have something to show my family.” Family pressure is real.

And while our families genuinely want us to prosper, the truth is that family can also be one of the biggest sources of anxiety, depression, hopelessness and even suicide. I’m telling you the gospel truth. Sometimes their expectations even when they come from a loving place collide with a person who’s already frustrated, and that’s people get sidetracked and thrown off. So this season, may your words, your opinions, and your comments never sidetrack anyone.

So while we reflect on what we didn’t accomplish this year, we must also mark out a straight path for our feet. What does that mean? It means we intentionally clear out the distractions so that as we run into 2026, nothing that tripped us up in 2025 will have the power to trip us again. Stick to the path and stay safe.

Don’t drift into another purpose, another lifestyle, or another identity simply because the pressure feels heavy. Stay with what God told you. The truth is, there is still much land to conquer, so much we haven’t done, and so much still ahead. But sitting in anxiety won’t get us there. Focus will. And for some people, this focus may look different. While others are resting, you, the one who knows how tight your shoes are, might need to be working.

“Oh, but I’m tired.”

Yes… but you’re tired and without results. So stay on the path. Don’t get sidetracked. Don’t let anything cause you to repeat a 2025 mistake in 2026.But above all else, remember this: Be anxious for nothing, the year is not over. Who told you God is done? Rest your ever-anxiously racing heart!❤️

It’s worship Wednesday! Go on and bless the Name of the Lord! So much can still happen in the next three weeks! Congratulations !🥳

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