Hey Family,
Welcome to a brand-new week! May this be the week you step boldly into pursuing that God-given dream. May it be the week you find the courage to become the best version of yourself. I am always praying for you, praying that you continue to yield to the leading of the Holy Spirit. My dear yielded people, know that you are loved deeply. Let’s make this week extraordinary!
Borrowed Dreams. Last week, we touched on the idea of borrowed dreams and how we sometimes adopt other people’s dreams and try to make them our own. Often, it is because we are afraid to face the reality of our own lives, so we copy and paste someone else’s path, hoping to achieve the same results they are getting. But in doing so, we forget one critical truth: we are all uniquely gifted, with distinct callings and purposes.
So ,
Whose dream have you borrowed?
Whose life are you living or trying to live?
Whose purpose are you following?
Whose life are you mimicking?
Borrowed dreams are like wearing a mask and you’ve hidden your true self behind a face that doesn’t belong to you. The good news is, you can take the mask off and reclaim your identity. However, the challenging part is that those who have only ever known the masked version of you may struggle to recognise the real you.We often borrow other people’s dreams when we don’t think much of ourselves. In truth, borrowed dreams are often a sign of low self-esteem.
So, what is low self-esteem?
Low self-esteem is a negative perception of oneself. It’s when you feel inadequate, unworthy, or incapable. It manifests in self-doubt, comparing yourself to others, and the inability to see your God-given value and purpose. It often leads to mimicking others because you don’t believe your own path is good enough. The antidote? Begin to see yourself through God’s eyes as fearfully and wonderfully made (Psalm 139:14), loved beyond measure, and equipped with unique gifts and a purpose that no one else can fulfil.
While some people borrow dreams by simply copying and pasting, others do so by assuming that what worked for someone else will automatically work for them.When I ventured into biblical counselling, many people approached me to learn how I did it. I was happy to share, but I always emphasized the importance of discerning whether they were truly called to it. Just because it seems like a good career doesn’t mean it’s s your God-ordained path.
This same mindset is why we see so many counterfeit churches today. Someone observes a successful ministry, like that of Apostle Felix, and assumes, that if he can do it, so can I.They forget that God’s s call is not a one-size-fits-all approach.Think about it: how many faces are there on earth? Can you use my passport to travel? Of course not. If you try, you will be arrested for impersonation and identity theft. Similarly, when you attempt to live someone else’s s life or purpose, you are stepping out of alignment with your own identity and calling.
It’s crucial to take time to discover what you can and cannot do. Knowing your strengths, gifts, and limitations is a vital guide to understanding your God-given purpose. Only then can you walk authentically and confidently in the path prepared just for you. You can’t be everything. It means you have failed to be one thing, which is yourself.
In families, it’s not uncommon for people to try to impose their dreams on you. For example, if an uncle wanted to be a pilot but didn’t t succeed, he might insist, “Go and become a pilot.” But have they checked that dream with God? Likely not. Instead, they’re handing you their unfulfilled dream, hoping to live it out through you.
While advice and career guidance can be helpful, the most important step is seeking God’s direction for your life. Only He knows the plans He has for you (Jeremiah 29:11) and the unique purpose He created you to fulfil. So, let me ask you: do you have a dream? Your own dreamnot a copy, paste, or photocopy of someone else’s aspirations. Not something you borrowed because you don’t believe in yourself.
If not, take the time to identify it today. Seek God’s guidance and trust Him to reveal the vision He has for you. You were created for a purpose, and your own dreams are rooted in His plan – is waiting to be discovered.
Tomorrow we will discuss how people borrow your dream without you knowing. For now, take the mask off and return the borrowed dream. ❤️