Authenticity in relationships

Two friends in their peak years have plans to become great in their different careers and areas of purpose. They have frequent meetings with each other and they have no doubt that surely in the next 3-5 years they will be tangible results of their hardwork. Let’s talk about authenticity in relationships. Friendship, family, even marriage does not erase the importance of authenticity. If these two friends are not authentic to their individual unique paths, they will end up tagging each other along to a dead end. What I mean to say is, you can have the same goals to become great but always remember that you were not called to copy and paste destiny not even with your best friend . Greatness can be for all, in what way? Is unique to you.

I have friends who I know will be great on the land and so will l, but you would never find us trying to copy and paste our different instructions from God. If God tells me to fast 21 days for a particular thing, I will not expect Siwe to do the same. If God tells her to move to France, we can discuss it and pray about it, but guess what? She’s moving to France alone. There are obviously times when we get the same nudge but I’m driving at the fact that, if you don’t know how to stay in your lane you will end up in locations that will destroy your destiny.

The fact that your friends are doing it doesn’t mean you should. I’m very careful on this because in an attempt to lift each other up and wish each other well, we may end up influencing each other to take up a path that seems right but leads to destruction. A perfect example would be Ruth and Orpah. The two are in the same situation. They are both widows, a chance to relocate has come and while Orpah loves Ruth and Naomi, I’ve said this a couple of times, there is no Boaz for Orpah in Bethlehem. Learn to not tag along into projects and things God has not led you to. I have quite prophetic friends but I know when the word is not for me. I know when an instruction is for them. I know when I’m supposed to tag along to Bethlehem & when I should kiss them goodbye.

If you don’t have an identity or anything that drives you, you will end up living out someone’s destiny. You will be in competition with people when you were supposed to be focusing on your own path. May l even say this? A group of friends can desire marriage and God will give a word but it doesn’t mean it’s for everyone. So sometimes we say “God is in the neighbourhood,” and we assume we’re about to step into something when God actually came for the neighbour. I don’t mean to discourage anyone but be careful of living someone else’s life.

”Let’s do ABC.” Yes sure we can ONLY if God has also led me to. We should be able to love each other enough to allow each other to choose what we want to do. Love that forces the other person to do what you’re doing is dangerous. Your friends should be able to choose their own paths even if it’s different from yours. Authenticity. Be real. If God says turn left, you don’t choose to go right because three of your friends have gone right. Friendships and other relationships should never be a place where destiny is choked.

Purpose is not a one size fits all. You don’t have to do anything I’m doing, do what YOU have to do. You don’t have to buy the same house , drive the same cars, and live in the same neighbourhood. Do l wish to live with my friends in the same house? Yes. But I know we have different interests and instructions. Some people don’t even know how they started dressing up in a certain way, it was their attempt to look like someone else. Be authentic in your beliefs. Your relationships should be built on authentic principles. People should know that no matter how much you love them in those relationships you will not bow to idols & serve other gods. I am authentically Christian!

Today l want us to understand that we each have a unique purpose. For some, your husband will come from Greece & God says move, your family should not stand in the way. For some, God will lead you to build a school, don’t take that and make it a corporate word. Know when things are to be done by you only. I believe that authenticity simplifies our walk with God. There are people God is still waiting for in Bethlehem but they are in Egypt because they tagged along. What has God said to you about your destiny? Stay in that lane and fulfil purpose.

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