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Giving birth 🤱🏽

Sending you holy hugs!❤️❤️❤️

I just opened this blog after two weeks away, and I couldn’t help but smile. I truly missed it, missed writing, missed reflecting, and even missed simply browsing through. We all have something we’re passionate about, something that fuels us from the inside out. For me, writing is more than just a passion, it’s part of my purpose . People often ask me, “What inspired you to write this?”

My answer is: God.

Every gift is meant to produce a harvest. Every talent, every skill should yield fruit should change lives, beginning with your own. That’s what this space is about: impact, inspiration, and living a yielded life.

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I don’t know how many of you attended the Ownership Conference whether on-site or online but let me just say this: it was life-changing. One of the best conferences I’ve ever experienced in my entire life. Can we take a moment to acknowledge the impact the men of God had on us? Now, pause and imagine for a second… what if they had never discovered their purpose? What if they had ignored the call, silenced the gift, or walked away from the process?

More than 10,000 people attended that conference. That’s more than 10,000 destinies that could have been disadvantaged if those men had not aligned with God’s will. That’s how serious this is. That’s how urgent purpose is. So again, I say to you: Discover purpose early. Let’s talk about giving birth. The men of God spoke to us powerfully about travailing, the painful, intense, often lonely process of pushing through in prayer, in obedience, in surrender. But here’s a question. When you finally give birth… then what?

So, I’ve never given birth naturally, yet. I will soon… when I get married, of course, soon 😊 But this I know for sure: the journey doesn’t end with giving birth. If anything, that’s where the real journey begins. Whatever you give birth to becomes 100% your responsibility. Normal mothers don’t give birth and then walk away. They don’t leave their newborns at the hospital and expect doctors to raise them. ( l said normal ones. Not those who throw babies in rivers or dustbins, God help them.)

When a woman gives birth, the baby is immediately placed on her chest. Why? To connect. It’s a sacred moment, an exchange of love, identity, and responsibility. It’s the same in the spirit. You must give birth to something that’s connected to your spirit. But oh… how I’ve seen people walk away from their own vision . They start something they swore “God told me to do this” and a few months in, they dump it. Then they say, “God told me to leave it.”

God? Really?

Does God start things randomly, impulsively, just for fun? No, He is intentional. So if you travailed, if you pushed through to bring something into existence, why would you walk away from it the moment things get tough? Yes, you birthed a good marriage but now there’s conflict, and suddenly you’re ready to turn your back on your spouse and children?

Did you not travail for this? Here’s the problem: People give birth and forget the pain of travail. Today, I just wanted to show up and say this to you:

👉🏽 When you give birth, connect with your child.

👉🏽 Love the child.

👉🏽 Let it become part of your life.

Even if the baby cries… he’s still yours. Even if the vision struggles… it’s still yours. Even if the journey gets heavy… stay connected. Because in the day of adversity, when pressure hits, it’s your connection that will keep you from jumping ship. I do some work at an orphanage, and let me tell you, some of those kids have parents who are alive and well, living comfortably. But they gave birth and forgot their children.

God is counting on you. He entrusted you with something. Be responsible for what you’ve birthed. It does not end at just travailing and giving birth.

I love you.

See you tomorrow. 💛

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The Women In Scripture

🌺Tabitha

Hello family! 🌸 First of all, I’d like to thank everyone who took the time to check up on me. I’m doing well now praise the Lord! 🙌 Thank you for all your love, care, and prayers.

We’re continuing with our study on women in Scripture, and very soon I’ll be creating a study plan in PDF format which I’ll upload on my website. It will be a resource to help you study deeper into the Word and grow in knowledge and understanding. Today, we’re looking at Tabitha, also known as Dorcas. And if you’re thinking, “Who’s that?” well, you’re just about to find out! 😉

“There was a believer in Joppa named Tabitha (which in Greek is Dorcas). She was always doing kind things for others and helping the poor.”

Acts of the Apostles‬ ‭9‬:‭36‬ ‭NLT‬‬

In the book of Acts, we find the story of Tabitha (Dorcas). It’s such a short story, yet so rich in meaning. The very first things we learn about her are her name and her impact. She wasn’t just Tabitha by name , she was Tabitha, known for kindness. She was Tabitha, known for helping the poor.

That makes me pause and ask: What am I known for? What are you known for? Apart from where you work or the title you hold, is there a testimony of your character? Think about it: when people talk about you, the mention of your name carries weight. They describe your attitude, your heart, and the way you made them feel.

Because let’s be honest, at funerals, people lie. They say nice things to comfort the family, but often they’re not the truth. Sometimes all they can mention is where the person was employed: “Oh, James worked at Absa.” But what kind of person was he? When they see that he wasn’t a good person they start to tell people about a James that is totally different from the one everyone knew.

With Tabitha it was different. She was remembered for her impact on the community. She was not ignorant of people’s struggles she cared enough to step in. She used what she had to help those around her. How many situations could you have solved, but didn’t? How many people could you have helped, but instead said, “Someone else will do it. I’m not the only person in the world!” How many lives could’ve been lighter with you in the picture, but instead, they remained heavy? And when they cried out to God, God was like , “But l put Vanessa in your life for that reason.”

While we’re still on this, let me highlight something important. One-sided kindness is the reason why many kind people eventually stop. Some people only know how to take, and they never reciprocate. As we study the life of Tabitha, you’ll realise that reciprocated kindness matters. All the people who consistently show up for you may eventually grow tired if you’ve never even taken time to do something in return.

My mom is often a victim of this. She will go all out for people, but on the other side, there’s nothing just empty space. If you live like that, not remembering those who helped you, it’s only a matter of time before you find yourself living a very lonely life. Kindness doesn’t mean people should tolerate anything. If you cannot reciprocate it, you may never experience it again.

Ask yourself: What has been done for me? How can I show the same kindness to that person? How can I show my gratitude to God for all He has done for me? Think about these things. Don’t wear people out of their kindness toward you. Instead, cultivate a principle of give and take, take and give. That’s the heart of true community.

The very next verse tells us that this wonderful woman, Tabitha, became ill and sadly, it ended in death. Her body was washed, prepared for burial, and laid in an upper room. And you may ask, “But why would that happen to such a kind person?” Maybe you thought only wicked people end up in hospital. But that’s not how life works. At some point, we will all face death unless, of course, we rapture on the 24th! 😂 All the best with that, my darling.

But listen: Tabitha, with all her goodness and generosity, still got sick. I want to pull us out of the entitlement mentality where we throw tantrums at God saying, “But I’m a good person, why am I going through this?” Don’t forget Jesus was the best person who ever lived, yet He also suffered.

Being good does not exempt us from the troubles of life. I know many good people who are in pain right now. Some have died. Some can’t even put food on the table. Some don’t know how they’ll make it to the end of this year. And yet, they are kind, selfless, and loving. You may say, “But I’m a Christian!” Yes even so, life can still get hard. And often we compare: “Why me? Why not my aunt? She’s not nice, yet she’s living her best life.” But again, life doesn’t always work that way.

Our good deeds are precious, and they matter, but they don’t guarantee a trouble-free journey. Tabitha was kind, yet she still fell sick. And I’m sure people prayed, pleaded, and reminded God of all her kindness but still, she died. Sometimes, what happens to the wicked also happens to the good. But that doesn’t mean we should stop doing good.

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Have a blessed day further and above all, be kind. 🌸

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Reflection Friday

Have you ever woken up just not feeling well? That’s me today. My whole body aches, and like Samson I thought, “I’ll just get up and shake myself as usual.” But it didn’t go as planned. Please keep me in your prayers, pray for me as often as you can. I need them more than you may think. I am planning something different with our Special Edition Thursdays, so let me cook.

Today, I’d like us to pause and reflect on fruitfulness. What does it really look like? How fruitful are you right now, and how fruitful do you desire to be?

I’ve realized that the very first step to true fruitfulness is abiding in Christ. He said, “Those who abide in Me shall bear much fruit.” That made me stop and ask myself: Am I truly abiding? What fruits can I point to in my life? What impact am I having in my family, in the lives of those around me? When people look at me, do they see fruitfulness so evident that they cannot help but see Christ through me?

How fruitful have you been this week?

What did you achieve? Remember, we are called to be fruitful and to multiply. That talent, that skill, that gift in your hands, it was never meant to remain hidden. It’s meant to bring impact to your generation.

You have to occupy the space God has given you and give it your very best. No one supports a vision you yourself are not willing to defend. So let me ask you: What’s your vision? You can’t expect people to support something you haven’t even defined. Impact is the result of fruitfulness it’s what you’ve done with what God entrusted to you. Unless you want to remain a champion only in your own house, you must strive to be fruitful. Do you have a business? Start advertising. Start thinking empire. Start using that gift.

Sometimes fruitfulness is not about money. It’s about who you’ve blessed with what you carry. Maybe being fruitful for you looks like going into communities and teaching for free. If you can do hair, teach someone less privileged. If you do makeup, find someone in your neighborhood who is unemployed and willing to learn. It won’t kill you to do it for free ; it will create impact, and your legacy begins right there.

Selah.

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Worship Wednesday

Praise the Lord!

This morning while I was still asleep, a sermon was playing in the background. As I woke up to check the date, I clearly heard the words: “You don’t praise like you used to.” I knew that was God speaking.

I remembered how I used to lock myself in my room almost every day, just to dance and praise Him. Now, I only do it once or twice a week. And it struck me, God really delights in our praise! Those dancing moves that may not look good to anyone else, He rejoices over them. Those shouts of joy, lifted hands, and clapping, they all matter to Him. Don’t forget how the walls of Jericho fell, not through battle, but through a shout of praise. That must’ve had a significance in the spirit!

So today I repent. I ask myself and I ask you how is your praise and worship? Is it still the same as it once was? God desires us to remain authentic and consistent in our praise. Shall we wrap up this week’s topic… before we put on our dancing shoes? 💃🙌

“Then Jesus stood up again and said to the woman, “Where are your accusers? Didn’t even one of them condemn you?” “No, Lord,” she said. And Jesus said, “Neither do I. Go and sin no more.” ‬‬

John‬ ‭8‬:‭10‬-‭11‬ ‭NLT‬‬

God knows exactly how to handle the pressures we face in this world, the noise, the condemnation, the abuse, the mess we sometimes find ourselves in (whether we caused it or not). And here’s the good news: He knows how to pull us out. That alone is a reason to praise Him! To remember: I could have died, I could have lost my mind, I could have gone through so much… BUT GOD STEPPED IN!

That’s the phrase right there. But God stepped in.

When I remember what the Lord has done, I can boldly declare: “I will never go back anymore.” Shall we use that song to worship today? 🎶 I don’t know exactly what He saved you from, but I know this. He didn’t just save me from the fangs of Satan. He saved me from myself. I was a danger to my own life, but He showed me the safer, better way of living. Where Are Your Accusers?

Where is the heartbreak? Where is the pain? Where is the sickness? Where are the very things that once looked like they would finish you?Someone may say, “But I still see the issue in my life.” Yet I tell you this the issue has brought you to Jesus. And who is this Jesus? He is Lord over all.

He still says:

  • Go and sin no more.
  • Go and worry no more.
  • Go and cry no more.
  • Go and fear no more.

As you go, go in praise because everything that was meant to end you has been turned around! Remember Joseph’s words to his brothers: “You meant it for evil, but God meant it for good.” (Genesis 50:20) They had no idea that God could flip the entire plot! Think about the woman caught in adultery what a turnaround she experienced. From a near-death moment to a brand-new life! And maybe I wasn’t that woman, but I had my own mess too. Yet God saved me. Like the prodigal son, He brought me back home, clothed me in beautiful garments, and said: “Let’s celebrate, my daughter has come back!”

So today, let us praise and worship remembering where we’ve come from and how far God has brought us. He is WORTHY! 🙌🔥

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🌼The adulterous woman [2

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“Teacher,” they said to Jesus, “this woman was caught in the act of adultery. The law of Moses says to stone her. What do you say?” They were trying to trap him into saying something they could use against him, but Jesus stooped down and wrote in the dust with his finger. They kept demanding an answer, so he stood up again and said, “All right, but let the one who has never sinned throw the first stone!” Then he stooped down again and wrote in the dust. When the accusers heard this, they slipped away one by one, beginning with the oldest, until only Jesus was left in the middle of the crowd with the woman.”
‭‭John‬ ‭8‬:‭4‬-‭9‬ ‭NLT‬‬

We’ve already established that these people lived according to the Law of Moses and followed it closely, even up to this point. Interestingly, they were using this woman as a trap to catch Jesus. She wasn’t just their focus Jesus was their real target. Do you realise that when you sin, the enemy is also targeting Jesus? He knows how deeply God feels when His children fall, and he knows how much it matters to God that we live holy lives.

I often wonder what Jesus wrote on the ground that day. The Bible doesn’t tell us, which makes it even more intriguing. Some theologians suggest that the same hand that once wrote the Law of Moses on tablets was now writing on the ground almost as if to say, “You’ve brought My law to Me to trap Me with it, but now I rewrite, not to condemn, but to show mercy.” Whatever He wrote, His action disarmed the crowd and shifted the focus away from the woman’s sin to the inner condition of those who accused her. Please do a study on this as l don’t have conclusive information.

Jesus then said, “Let any one of you who is without sin be the first to throw a stone at her.” In other words, “If you’ve lived perfectly holy foreverrrrr (insert song), then by all means go ahead and stone her.” Those who came boldly to trap Jesus suddenly found themselves being questioned instead. Isn’t it amazing? They were quick to point at someone else’s public sin while hiding their own private sins. That’s how people can be spending hours talking about someone whose sin was exposed, all while carrying heavy secrets of their own.

Some had skeletons in their homes. Others were dealing with “stinking situations” behind closed doors. But when they dressed up and stepped outside, they put on an appearance of holiness until they saw someone with a visible failure and suddenly felt qualified to judge.

I wouldn’t be surprised if there were adulterers in that very crowd, stones in hand, ready to condemn her. The only difference? They hadn’t been caught. And because their sins were hidden, they thought it was fine. But here’s the truth: hidden sins and exposed sins are the same before God. Hypocrisy tries to measure sin on a scale, but in God’s eyes, sin is sin.

One person’s weakness doesn’t make another person’s compromise any less serious.

I’m calling us out of hypocrisy today. Let’s deal with our own hearts before we rush to throw stones at someone else. Lastly, Scripture tells us that the accusers left one by one. And I want to speak to those who have been accused, slandered, or shamed you need to know this: God still loves you.

What your accusers meant for your downfall actually brought you closer to Jesus. They may have thought, “It’s over for her,” but in reality, it was the beginning of something new. Without realising it, they were bringing that woman to the very mercy seat. What the enemy meant for evil. That voice that says you’re condemned , don’t try to pray again, is lying to you .

No matter what you’ve done, Jesus is still saying: “Come. Let us reason together” (Isaiah 1:18). Come as you are, with all the weight you carry. When you stand before Him, I pray you shut out the noise of the crowd , the voices of shame, condemnation, and accusation and lean in to hear only what He has to say about you. His words are mercy. His words are life. His words are your new beginning.

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