Category: The Overcoming Believer

Hello Yielded Family. If you’re in winter season please stay warm, I caught a flue that has been messing me up! Abeg, be warm! Today l want us to talk about dealing with disappointments, how to handle them & how to move on from them.

In this season of my life, my eyes have been opened to many things. I’ve come to realise that situations are revealing. They uncover your true strength, expose the nature of your surroundings and circle, and even test the depth of your faith and the condition of your heart.

There are lessons joy won’t teach you, lessons reserved for adversity. What I didn’t learn in times of peace, I was forced to learn in times of battle.I never truly understood how to handle disappointment until I faced it, repeatedly. Disappointment came through people I believed would stand by me no matter what. But in that, I learned, grew, and saw more clearly. I saw my heart.

I saw how it beat on a frequency that didn’t match the rhythm of certain people around me. I saw how hands that once offered warmth and words of love quietly held hidden knives disguised in smiles, cloaked in familiarity. I saw the unfairness… how you can pour out your all, give your 100; while someone else offers only 10, and walks away feeling justified, even blind to the imbalance.I saw how progress, opportunities even love sometimes flow by the currency of favour, not faithfulness. It broke my heart. And then came the question: Now that I’ve seen all this how do I deal with the weight of disappointment?

If you voice it, they’ll call you petty. If you speak on it, some will say you’re carrying offence. When really, it’s just the sting of disappointment… Because you never saw it coming.You just didn’t expect them to be the ones. But It happens everywhere, In marriages. In friendships. In the workplace. I remember one colleague of mine who was smiling and laughing with me all day only to report me to the manager that I don’t do my work properly & l lost my job that very day because he was trusted and l faced many months of struggle. How do you deal with that? Because every time theres no food in my fridge l remember him, laughing then backstabbing me.

People distance themselves from family not out of hate, but because someone used a lunch break to casually tear their name apart on long phone calls. Some hearts shut down not out of bitterness, but from the realisation: “I never had a place in theirs.”And family… here’s the hard part: How do you deal with it? How do you breathe through the moment when the same hand that hugged you Turns around and hands your enemy the gun whispering, “Shoot him. He’s unarmed.”

And the answer? It’s unexpected. Forgiveness. Yep, you heard me right. Forgiveness. It shatters pride and invites humility. It softens the heart and opens the door to healing. When you truly forgive, you stop demanding explanations. You stop rehearsing the pain.You’re no longer holding grudges or carrying silent offence. Instead, you find yourself in a place of surrender. A place where God becomes the One who heals and restores. Where peace replaces confusion, and grace flows freely.

So, surrender that disappointment to God. Give it up. Release it. Let Him hold what’s too heavy for you. I have so much more to say, but we’ll continue tomorrow. Keep moving forward. Keep shining. Keep winning.

I love you! ❤️

“Give all your worries and cares to God, for he cares about you.”
‭‭1 Peter‬ ‭5‬:‭7‬ ‭NLT‬‬

The Holy Bible

🌼Hey family. Happy Monday 🌼

I’ve been slowing down a bit lately to give myself a likkle ease just enough to manage fatigue and avoid burnout. BUT hallelujah, I’m back in the groove and rhythm! Thank you all so much for the book purchases, I’m deeply grateful for your support.

I truly believe that every person, regardless of race, gender, or religion, needs support whether from family, friends, community, church, or religious groups. Every person desires support, but even more than desire, we need it. I’m so glad I got yours. That means the world. It’s special and these days, quite rare. 💛.

Just a short blog to start your week.

What is not fixed is highly likely to worsen.Be it a problem in a relationship, an illness, an issue with your laptop system, a tear on your favourite dress, or an electrical problem in your apartment what is not fixed or treated will worsen.What this means is: every problem left unsolved becomes a worsening problem, with the potential of becoming the worst problem.

Now, in the context of our lives, the many things we “ignore” will sooner or later pop up with even more intensity. Something like depression, anxiety, past pains… a sore knee… or even an issue you could easily sort out now but you postpone it to a date unknown.Do you know that in five years, that unforgiveness could turn into anger and resentment? Yep. It grows too. That apology you owe someone why not do it now? If it’s not fixed, the relationship will break. Some issues don’t disappear, they silently worsen. You think it’s sorted but it’s growing muscle.

Every rising issue that is kept under the blanket yes, even that bad character trait everyone keeps warning you about, will grow. And you’ll give the enemy room to capitalise on it. All I’m saying today is: fix it! It’s not scriptural, but I can’t help but wonder did Ananias and Sapphira already have a lying problem? And did it grow until they lied to the Holy Spirit?

That person who thinks lust and pornography will just remain at the level they’re at? No, darling. Some people never made it out they made it in deeper. Neck deep. The issue of alcohol? Solve it now. Because later might be too late. Everything grows. Appetites too.

I wrote on my status last week that, if a person wants to avoid transformation, they start by lying to themselves that they don’t need it; then they avoid everyone who they may be accountable to. This means that many people have isolated with their problems and they think they are safe because the person to call you out has been blocked or you started distancing yourself. You are not safe. Day by day, every moment that passes, that thing you’re refusing to address , is addressing you. You don’t want to find out later, find out now, fix it now.

Like l said, I came with a short blog to tell you, get counselling if need be. Get help. Fix the things. Deal with the problem. Running will not stop the storm Jonah. Face the facts, you must go to Nineveh. And some of you, need to stop and face God. He’s the One you’re running from and you don’t realise, it’s killing your spiritual life day by day. Why? Everything that’s not fixed ????? Exactly.

Have a great Monday. Order your book today and let’s get reading!

We are officially 6 months in! I still have a list of to-do’s but I’m most grateful for the gift of life. Life is a gift. Without it, all those 55 things you planned to do this year are useless. You must be alive to do, to plan, to build, to create, to even accumulate that wealth you dream about or that wonderful kingdom spouse. I feel like we easily downplay the fact that right now, our hearts are beating and in this every moment, we have a chance to do what we’ve never done before. You have a chance to dream, to envision and to put that into action. 6 months in, what has been accomplished?

People hate that question. Sometimes it’s because it demands an answer for time that may have been carelessly spent. It calls us out on our laziness & procrastinations. Sometimes it’s because people just don’t like confrontation. I’ve since discovered that confrontation is necessary for growth. If you were sick and went to the doctor and he gave you medication to take for a couple of days. You go back after you’re done with the medication and he asks you, “Did you take the medication? How are you feeling?” Would it be wise for you to get agitated and refuse to answer? No. Why? Because the answer you give will give him an idea of how to help you further. We need some questions even though they seem to make us uncomfortable. How have you spent your time the past 6months?

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To purchase a copy please contact me or just comment below. Remember, the same way you spent the first 6 months can repeat itself if you don’t change somethings. I wish you all the best!

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One thing this season has taught me is this, God is the only God. We may not say it out loud, but many times, we’ve placed man on a throne that doesn’t belong to them. And we’re quick to say, “Oh no, not me!” Really? Look at how we prioritize people over God. We run after man’s approval, crave their validation, chase their hearts… and forget about chasing God’s.

We shower man with compliments, celebrate them day and night, yet when it comes to God, we go silent. Worship feels like a task. Heavy. Forced. We need to be pushed to lift our hands, to sing, to adore Him yet we’ll dance and sing for man without even being asked. But not anymore. I’ve learned: only God sits on the throne of my heart. That seat is His and His alone. I will serve no foreign god.

When man has come through for us, helped us, supported us, stood by us we show gratitude, not worship. There’s a clear line, and it must never be blurred.

I’m reminded of Peter, when he entered the house of Cornelius. As Cornelius bowed to worship him, Peter quickly rebuked him, saying, “Stand up; I too am just a man.” And this was no ordinary man this was a man God Himself had endorsed, a man God spoke to Cornelius about in a vision! He was walking in power, doing miracles, signs, and wonders. Yet he remained just that, a man. Exploits and greater works don’t make us equal with God. No. Never.

I’m so grateful for the people who have stood by me, those who showed up, helped, and carried me through seasons. But they are not my gods. Only the Lord Jesus Christ is. He alone is the One I worship.

I love that David Dam song that says, “Only Yeshua will reign forever!” And it’s true. There may be 10,000 powerful prophets out there, but Only Yeshua! There are fierce intercessors who can pray you into places you never dreamed of, today you’re crying, tomorrow you’re sitting in boardrooms but still, Only Yeshua!

Yes, the blind see. Yes, lost souls are being won. But the glory? Still Only Yeshua.We must understand this: man is still just man helped by God. So what do we do? We recognise the God working through people. We honour them, we celebrate them, but we worship God. Never the other way around. Celebrate man, yes but worship belongs to God alone.

This truth will also help you extend grace when those same men fall. Because if you never placed them on a GOD pedestal to begin with, their mistakes won’t make you abandon your faith in God. You’ll remember they’re just men. Helped by God. And men… fall.

I pray this short message has helped you. And let it also remind you, yes even you, no matter how gifted, anointed, or impactful you become you are a man (or woman) helped by God. Never forget that.We are striving to become like Him but we are and will never be Him. Shall we listen to this wonderful song together?

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One of the main reasons couples don’t last long or end up divorcing is emotional instability. When one person is emotionally mature and knows how to handle their feelings, and the other lashes out breaking things or causing damage when angry that relationship will struggle. Sometimes we quickly say, “It wasn’t meant to be.” Fair enough. But maybe it was meant to be, you just had too much emotional conflict, both within yourselves and between each other, that ended up weighing down what could’ve been something really beautiful.

An emotionally unstable parent is a real danger to their children, I’m not even joking. So many parents had the chance to be their children’s safe place, but instead, they became the very source of their pain. Your kids don’t feel safe around you because your heart is noisy, unsettled, and refuses to embrace peace.

Just two days ago, it was Mother’s Day, and I can’t tell you how many people opened up about this exact thing. “My mom never healed, so she constantly did ABC,” or “I don’t speak to my mom anymore because she’s bitter and always hurts me.” We may judge these people but only they know, the wounds that came from nursing that relationship. The truth is, emotional instability makes it almost impossible to build healthy relationships it always ends up causing destruction instead of connection.

What about the drama? The desperation? The sharp words? The countless days filled with attitude and tension? Let’s be honest , this goes for both men and women. A man who beats his wife is emotionally unstable. He shouldn’t be married. He’s living impulsively, ruled by his emotions, while someone else suffers for his lack of self-control.

There’s a foolishness you pay for because of your own choices, and then there’s the kind you suffer from simply by being around foolish, unstable people. Emotional instability doesn’t always look loud , it can hide in gullibility, naivety, insecurity. But the fruit is the same: damaged relationships, chaos, and pain.So what’s the answer? It’s simple: HEALING.

Heal and be restored. Do the inner work. Build a healthy image of who you are not based on your pain, but on truth. Your mind needs healing too. Learn to think before you speak. Understand that your words and actions carry weight, and they can hurt others deeply. Like I said yesterday, no one can put up with you forever. Nobody. There comes a point when even the most patient person grows tired. Heal before you lose the very people who were sent to love you.

Lastly, Signs of Emotional Stability.

You know when to be silent, when to speak, and when to walk away. You can process disappointment without exploding. You listen more than you react. You are self-aware and take responsibility for your emotions. You give others room to feel, without making everything about you. The Cost of Emotional Instability

• Broken relationships.
• Repeating toxic cycles.
• Missed opportunities.
• Regret and shame after impulsive decisions.
• Hurting the people you love the most.

People don’t always realise how much emotional immaturity costs until it’s too late. I hope you do, I hope you have learned from this little lesson that your internal being matters. That heart? Guard it. Diligently so. Remember, somethings can be done for you and some? You do them yourself. Inner work is one of them. See you tomorrow!❤️