Category: The Overcoming Believer

I don’t know about you, but I absolutely hate goodbyes. I remember back in primary school when our friendship group slowly fell apart because one friend had to relocate, then another, and eventually we all ended up at different high schools. Because I’m a lover girl, I wrote so many letters to my friends. By the way, I still love the old kind of love where we leave notes, write letters, and nobody feels the need to be nonchalant.

These days, they say if you love people, don’t call them so they can miss you. Don’t show them you care. Don’t reply too fast. Don’t be too available. Don’t do this, don’t do that. A whole list of exhausting rules that somehow turn love into such a wearying task. I hate it. Back then, I’d write letters promising my friends that we’d grow up and stay friends forever. Of course, that didn’t happen, but looking back, I think that was just my little way of grieving goodbyes.

We grieve goodbyes. Sometimes we grieve before they happen, sometimes during, and sometimes long after they’re over. I’ve said goodbye to a lot of people at different stages of my life. For some, I won’t even lie, it felt like a relief program. I was sooooo relieved we had to part ways because the toxicity was stronger than a scorpion’s poison . Actually, they were scorpions. Scorpion Kings.. Toxicity Pro Max. Full bars. Strongest network but if I’m being honest, some goodbyes absolutely wrecked me.

Because I’m a lover, I’m also a crier. So yes, I cried. On the flip side, we don’t only say goodbye to people. We say goodbye to places, jobs, seasons, and whatever must be left behind. The truth is, at some point, we’ll all have to wave goodbye to something or we’ll be the ones being left behind or doing the leaving. What have you said goodbye to? How did you feel? Was it a person? A location? Was it a relief program or the wrecking goodbye?

I’m reminded of Abraham and Sarah. Remember, Abraham had no plans to leave home until God told him to. Imagine just chilling with your family, your favourite cousins, your friends. You know your city inside out, you’ve got a job there, life is life-ing, and then one day God says, “Pack up.” Mind you, you’re not packing to come back in a few months. You’re packing to turn your back on everything familiar and leave it behind. That’s a serious goodbye. As in the one that if you wrote a letter you’d end up writing a book.

When the only option on the table is to leave, and God has told you to, darling, you do what Abraham did. You pack up and go. I’ve had my fair share of moving houses, and let me tell you, I looooved our previous apartment. It had the most beautiful mountain view and the best balcony ever. I spent so many evenings out there, staring at the stars and simply enjoying time with the Lord. So when it was time to move, I felt that grief of detachment. It wasn’t just the apartment either it was the walkways, the familiar corners, the little things that had quietly become part of me.

In the same way, when we grieve people, we grieve every part of them, their smile, their voice, their scent, their little habits, their everything. After all is said and done, when it’s time to leave, we still have to pack up and go. What about the onions of Egypt? What about the spices and the cucumbers? God factored all of that in when He told you to leave. He knew you loved the spices, yet He still said, “Get out of there.” To God, your love for the spices was never more important than your journey into the new. This also means my darling that your attachment to that relationship is not more important than His plan to lead you to the right person.

Your comfort is not more important than your calling. God has already weighed what you’re leaving against what He’s leading you into, and He knows the latter is far greater. Oh, so you’ll miss the food from Egypt? Then trust that there’s food where you’re going. When it’s time to leave, excuses won’t move God. He sees what you can’t yet see, knows what’s truly important, and will faithfully leads you there. When the only option on the table is to leave, I wish there was another way, I even wish there was another option or alternative but there’s none. You just pack up and leave.

There is a Scripture that says, “The glory of the latter house shall be greater than that of the former.” We remember the laughter, the view, the people, the memories, and we convince ourselves that nothing could ever compare to the former but God isn’t asking you to leave because the former was bad. Sometimes He asks you to leave because what lies ahead carries greater glory. The latter house isn’t better because the former had no value; it’s better because God’s presence, purpose, and promise are waiting there. So don’t let your attachment to yesterday rob you of the glory prepared for tomorrow. See you tomorrow

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I’ve always wondered why some people take pride in being loners. You often hear, “I don’t do friends,” or “I’m okay alone. I’m not a friends person,” as though isolation is something to celebrate. As though doing life alone is a good thing . While everyone has different personalities and social needs, I believe we were never created to do life completely alone. Even in Scripture, God valued relationships, and Abraham was called God’s friend. Imagine, God HAD and HAS friends.

We were designed to live in community, to support and be supported. Why carry everything alone when God can place genuine friends in your life to walk the journey with you? Independence has its place, but healthy friendships are one of God’s beautiful gifts to us. I want us to talk about journeying through life with friends but I had to first talk to those of us who have chosen a life of shutting people out, you need people. You need friends. Any other thing that whispers otherwise is the voice of deception because God wants you to have friends.

I’m not excusing the fact that people are imperfect and by people, I hope you know I mean both you and me. I think we’ve made a mess of relationships by expecting perfection from others when we ourselves are far from perfect. Sometimes our standards become so unrealistic that even the most genuine, loving friends eventually walk away. Along the way, many of us have lost incredible friendships, that could’ve been repaired, but because we didn’t know how to nurture them, we cut each other off.

Are there people with harmful character whom you genuinely needed to let go of? Absolutely. But it’s also worth remembering that no matter how good you think you are, you have flaws too and despite those flaws, some people have still chosen to love you, stay with you, and call you a friend. While on this journey, you will journey with friends. Sometimes God will give you and a friend the same assignment, and other times He will give each of you unique instructions.

One of the mistakes we make is assuming that because we are friends, our journeys must look the same. More often than not, they won’t. God leads people differently, according to His purpose for their lives. This is something we need to talk about.
There have been times when God told me to fast and pray about something, but I never texted my friends and said, “Come let’s , God said we must,” because I understand that some instructions are personal.

There are things on this journey that are unique to you. You could even be on the same flight, yet God tells you to separate at the airport. You could be sitting next to each other on the same bus, but along the way God says one should go east and the other west. That doesn’t mean the friendship is over, that’s not the time to fight and start silly arguments over, it simply means the assignments are different. It’s so simple. You can remain genuine friends while faithfully pursuing different callings.

The mistake we often make is trying to tag-team every prophetic word and every instruction, assuming what God says to one person must automatically apply to the other. Sometimes, it doesn’t and that’s okay. Most times it doesn’t and it’s very okay. The journey may even require that one friend leaves earlier and arrives first while the others follow later. This is another challenge that friendships face when one person steps into their breakthrough before the rest. Those who are still waiting may begin to feel as though they are behind in destiny, but it’s important to remember that friendship does not necessarily mean walking the exact same path at the exact same pace.

Sometimes it simply means God has brought you together because you complement one another well in destiny. Friends are not spouses. Let me say that again for those with jelly in their ears, your friend is not your husband or your wife. Let friends play the role of friends. Sometimes we place expectations on our friends that they were never meant to carry, and in doing so, we push them away. We all need people, someone to help carry our bags, someone to take us to the airport, someone to share our Uber trip details with, someone to rejoice with us and stand beside us. Today, take some time to appreciate your friends.

As friends, we also need to the transformation of the heart. Many disappointments and betrayals have come through friendships, and the stories we see on social media about friends hurting one another are so messssssy. . So perhaps the better question is not, “What kind of friends do I have?” but, “What kind of friend am I?” How easy is it for people to journey with you? Are you always moody, expecting everyone to constantly beg or reassure you? Are you bossy, making your friends feel like they have to tiptoe around you?

Are you the friend who is always asking for help but is rarely available to help others? Are you so guarded that you know everything about everyone else, yet no one truly knows you? Always interested in other people’s journeys while your own life remains a mystery? Secrecy has its place, l totally get it but friendship also requires trust and healthy vulnerability. Are you a good friend to your friends?

The same kindness, loyalty, and grace you expect from others, do you extend it to them? Can they trust you with their weaknesses without fearing gossip? Can they depend on you? Can they call you late at night and ask you to pray with them? And do you pray for them even when they don’t ask? I will tell you for free, you’re probably not the best person to answer the question of what kind of friend you are, your friends are. Yep. That “I’m the very best” is your own version o.

You need people to do life with. Ask God for them. Tell Him you need genuine, godly friends. By God’s grace, I have good friends, and they are an answered prayer. That said, I don’t call everyone my friend. I know many people, but not everyone has access to that close place in my life. Friendship is something I take seriously. Not everyone is your friend. Be careful. Be discerning. But by all means, nurture the relationships God has entrusted to you, and be the kind of friend you hope to find.

My prayer is that you and your friends will journey well together and arrive at your God-given destinations still standing side by side. May your friendships be sustained through seasons of joy, hardship, distance, and change because change will come. Above all, be a friend of God. See you on Thursday ❤️

If you read my blogs but have never met this  Wonderful Jesus that I’m always writing about,  you’d love to get to know Him, Or you know The Lord but have found yourself drifting far from Him, I would love to talk with you. Please send me an email  on yieldedcwcenter@gmail.com or simply comment, and I will reach out to you

Happy New Week my yielded people. I trust that we are all well. I’d like us to continue on the topic of transition, I want us to talk about roadblocks. What is a roadblock? A simple definition would be;

A roadblock is anything that hinders, delays, or prevents you from moving forward toward your destination .

For those of us who have travelled by road, you’ll know that before entering new cities or territories, you will almost always find a roadblock or a tollgate. It’s nearly impossible to travel a long distance without coming across one or the other. As I reflected on this, I began to think about what that means in the journey of life. I realised that for many people, the roadblock or tollgate has become their destination because they don’t have what is required to pass through it. At a roadblock, you may be asked for your driver’s licence, identification, vehicle registration papers, or you may simply undergo a search or inspection for various reasons.

A roadblock can be your character. Remember I said that before you go on a journey, you must meet the requirements. Please refer to the previous blogs. One of the requirements for marriage is character. Another is a strong spiritual life. Many people have started this journey based on feelings. Because they became ignorant of the important things and focused only on the sightseeing part of the journey, they have found themselves at a roadblock. You wonder why there’s one fight after another. You never learned to say, “I’m sorry,” and actually mean it. You say I’m sorry to continue having access not to make room for peace.

You never learned how to submit or how to love, yet when you arrive at the tollgate, that is the very currency required. You don’t have it, babygirl. You don’t have it, man of God. It was supposed to be packed into your bag before you moved in together. You refused premarital counselling. You said people couldn’t tell you anything. Your heart knows what it wants and wants what it wants. You said you had a dream, big mighty dream. You said, “This is the one.” You said you had peace. Now it’s time to present proof at the tollgate, and you don’t even have one rand’s worth of honour for the next person. Guess what? Or should l guess for you? You may not pass through.

For some, your pride is through the roof. You think so highly of yourself that you’ve already ranked yourself above everyone else but maybe your destination is Community service. How will God entrust you with that kind of work if you struggle with people or become easily irritated by their mistakes? You can’t overlook people’s weaknesses. Perfection is the only way someone can earn a place in your life. It means that, for you, loving like Christ is not even optional, it is a requirement.

If we don’t deal with these things , we will eventually come to a roadblock or a tollgate, and we won’t have enough to present for the system to allow us to move forward. The five foolish virgins also reached a tollgate, but they couldn’t pay. They didn’t have the oil that was required, so their journey ended before they reached their destination. Before you begin any journey, ask yourself, Do I have what it takes to make it to the destination? If not, what can l do to prepare myself better?

For some of you, you have many of these things, but you haven’t learned how to speak to people well. I used to be like that too. We call it cash talk, you have a lot of cash to talk! Torn notes of cash but anyways. The lady at the tollgate says, “It’s R10,” and you respond, “You’re a fool! You want to rob me. It was R8 last week!” but who made the rules? The government did. Just pay the R10 and continue your journey. What this means is that you have the requirement, but it’s of a lower standard. You can speak, but your words are of poor quality.

So you meet a business partner who was genuinely sent by God, but you’ve talked them out of the deal. That’s a roadblock. We are the reason we have roadblocks sometimes. Now you go back home to sell to your three inconsistent friends who ask for the price and never buy. You go back home still single and shaking through winter (Yho please my Lord, is enough now) . You go back home crying, wondering why people never stay in your life but how will they stay if you can’t maintain relationships? If you don’t know how to speak to people well?

People of God, these things are learned. Drop the “that’s just how I am” mindset. Know your worth, absolutely, but don’t think of yourself more highly than you ought to. Are you a beautiful woman? Beauty won’t pay at the tollgate. I’ve never seen a tollgate attendant say, “Lower your window so I can see your beauty, then you may pass.” Are you a tall man, the ideal height many people admire? That won’t help at a roadblock either. The police want your licence, not your height. They won’t ask you to step out of the car so they can measure you and say, “You’re six foot one? Wow. Wonderful. Go right ahead.”

One strength does not cancel out another weakness. Gather everything you’ll need for the journey. Carry enough of the right currency to pay at every tollgate until you reach your destination, because you don’t always know how many you’ll find along the way. I will write to you again tomorrow. Till then, receive lots of my loohhhv!

If you read my blogs but have never met this  Wonderful Jesus that I’m always writing about,  you’d love to get to know Him, Or you know The Lord but have found yourself drifting far from Him, I would love to talk with you. Please send me an email  on yieldedcwcenter@gmail.com or simply comment, and I will reach out to you