Emotional stability (1)

We’re baaaack! It’s been a whole two weeks without a blog, our longest break yet. Last week, I decided to take intentional rest, and guess what? I had writer’s block too, soooo it was cheering on my decision to pause. Honestly, I didn’t mind. I’ve come to appreciate that writer’s block isn’t forever; sometimes all you need is a little spark of inspiration to get going again. And now that the spark “she’s” back, let’s goooooo! Today we’re talking about: emotional stability.

Emotional stability is the ability to remain calm, balanced, and in control of your emotions especially in stressful or challenging situations. It doesn’t mean you don’t feel strong emotions, but that you don’t let them control you or lead to impulsive decisions. This means that emotional instability is the opposite of what you’ve just read. Many people who struggle with emotional instability often find it challenging to sustain meaningful relationships. Why? Because instability unsettles the relationship. It becomes difficult to connect, to build trust, and to grow together. Keeping up with someone whose emotions constantly shift can feel exhausting and understanding them can feel nearly impossible at times.

There was a time, I can’t remember if I was teaching or writing but I clearly remember saying this: if you’re emotionally unstable, people can usually see it, and they may start to distance themselves from you. And honestly? It’s not that deep. People naturally think about protecting themselves first.

Don’t believe me? Picture this: a dog starts chasing you and your friends. Are you really going to say, “Guys, run ahead! Let the dog get me , I’ll be the sacrifice!” Be honest. You’re probably grabbing onto the fastest runner without realising you’re slowing them down too! It just goes to show self-preservation kicks in fast. That’s why the sacrifice of Christ is such a big deal. He chose to be the sacrifice. Receive Him today. We all like to think we’re sacrificial, but let’s be real there are levels to it.

Now that you’ve admitted you’d also run for your life, you can probably understand this: when your emotional life is all over the place, people might start running too. Think about it, how many different moods are you planning to have in one week? “I won’t even smile today. They must feel that something’s wrong, today today today!” You plan your dramatic scenes.

Listen darling, believe me when I say this, people are going through a lot, and sometimes their “lot” doesn’t include babysitting your emotional rollercoaster. When I counsel people, I always tell them the truth. Why? Because the real danger is when we lie to ourselves. That kind of self-deception doesn’t protect you it slowly harms you over time.

What does emotional stability actually look like?

It looks like managing anger you can’t go around punching walls. Your fingers will bruise. They’ll break. And guess what? The wall won’t care. It looks like facing sadness and anxiety without letting them drown you, because the enemy’s plan is often to trap you there to keep you spiralling until something small becomes a mountain of depression.

It looks like bouncing back from setbacks with resilience. Do you know how many people give up every day? It’s heartbreaking. A “no” from a company isn’t the end of your life. Please, I’m begging you, don’t let rejection convince you that your life has no value. Suicide is not the solution. It will never be! Emotional stability is staying consistent in your mood and behavior making wise, thought-through decisions instead of reacting on impulse.

Sweetheart, you can’t break up five times a week. You can’t block someone every time there’s a disagreement. “I’m all for peace!” No baby, that’s not peace. That’s emotional instability especially because we know you’re unblocking them again before 8pm.

I have a lot to say but can we wrap it up here today? We will do part two tomorrow. Well, it does feel like a counselling session lol. I got a scripture below

“If you live without restraint and are unable to control your temper, you’re as helpless as a city with broken-down defenses, open to attack.”
‭‭Proverbs‬ ‭25‬:‭28‬ ‭TPT‬‬
THE HOLY BIBLE

Guess what? We all have moments when our emotions get the best of us it’s part of being human. But the good news is, we don’t have to stay there. Tomorrow, we’ll dive into practical ways to stay positive and calm even in tough days and seasons.You know I love you forever. Have an amazing day! And remember: if you cool down, and you’ll find yourself gaining control over the situation and things will turn out so much better!

Okay BYE! ❤️