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My dear Yielded Family. I just want to express my heartfelt gratitude for your support and love. Thank you for showing up at the event and for being such an amazing people. God bless you. We are back with our blogs. About a week ago , we started the study on a woman in the bible called Leah. If you missed it, l encourage you to search for it on the search bar and read Leah [1]

“When morning came, there was Leah! So Jacob said to Laban, “What is this you have done to me? I served you for Rachel, didn’t I? Why have you deceived me?” Laban replied, “It is not our custom here to give the younger daughter in marriage before the older one.”
‭‭Genesis‬ ‭29‬:‭25‬-‭26‬ ‭NIV‬‬

Jacob has worked for 7 years to get to marry the love of his life Rachel. It must’ve been some form of dowry. I love this about Jacob, he was a doer. Just to declare this, the man God has for you will see your parents and do the needful. No one will come, like you and just play around. Jacob was in love and he did what he had to do to show that he was serious about Rachel. Effort is a reflection of interest and value. Let’s continue. The evidence from studies on Ancient Israel and Biblical history suggests that men were allowed to marry multiple women and that marriage between cousins was common.

Our first verse talks about the wedding night where Laban, instead of bringing Rachel whom Jacob had worked for, brought Leah, the one Jacob did not love. How could Jacob not see that he married Leah? Darkness could have had something to do with it. Laban could have purposefully waited until it was dark to bring Leah to Jacob because he wanted to make sure they could not see each other. A cheat cheated a cheat. Jacob finally met his match. The deceiver deceived. The betrayer betrayed.

It may have been the custom for the consummation of marriage not to occur until after the late evening. Either way, it was dark, a fact that the Bible mentions. In the darkness you cannot see much or at all. Maybe Leah had a veil and that’s why Jacob did not notice. It is also possible that Leah and Rachel looked similar and were generally the same size, and Jacob couldn’t tell them apart. Orrrrr maybe he just did not imagine that his uncle would do that to him, he trusted him. He never thought he’d someday receive his own plate of disappointment like his brother Esau. Whatsoever a man sows, he shall reap.

We know that Jacob did not love Leah. When he discovers that he had been given her and had already made love to her, he felt disappointed, angry, frustrated. Is it possible that when a partner who doesn’t love you has intercourse with you this is how they feel afterwards? His words are too strong , “ What is this you have done to me?” .. the tone we decipher is definitely an angry tone. Now imagine Leah , after losing her virginity, hears such a thing! That the man who just deflowered her is angered by it. This is the second time her rejection is highlighted.

It could be that Leah and Rachel were fooled as well. Perhaps Laban did not tell his daughters about his arrangement with Jacob and Leah assumed that, according to custom, she (as the older daughter) was to marry Jacob that night. Imagine Leah’s shock and sadness when Jacob woke up upset about having married her and then reveals to her that he had been working seven years for her sister. The “you are not supposed to be here with this title, this position, this access because someone else was preferred,” kind of talk.

Although we’re focusing on Leah, l want to highlight that you could go to bed with Rachel and wake up with Leah. Waking up with what you never desired or asked for. I don’t know how Leah felt at this point. She must’ve cried. I know I would have. She must’ve wondered how her father put her in such a mess. She must’ve wondered why Jacob didn’t like her. She must’ve felt rejected and disappointed. To assume you’re not wanted is different from knowing for a fact that you aren’t. Not wanted by your father who knows he’ll have a hard time getting you married so he cheats you in. Not wanted by a man who just took your virginity. Leah could be a man, It could be a guy facing so much rejection.

When realisation of rejection comes , one may walk away. Others bleed inside but stay. Others create an identity around that. In areas of life where you’ve been rejected although you qualified, I want to encourage you by saying, God accepts you. God loves you. You are seen. You are special. You are deserving. You are loved.

See you tomorrow ❤️

Hey guys this week we are looking at what to expect at the event. We will continue with our usual blogs next week.

A DEEP TALK ABOUT HEALING

“So the Lord spoke kind and comforting words to the angel who talked with me.”
‭‭Zechariah‬ ‭1‬:‭13‬ ‭NIV‬‬

Opening up to people is sometimes a daunting task. It can be even more challenging when you have received negativity in exchange for doing so. Finding someone in your life who has a good ear is hard. People do story competition, pain competition, testimony competition all the time. You find that when someone opens up and the moment should be about them, the listener can easily turn it and make it about themselves or say things like ,”That’s nothing, let ME tell you about MY own story.” A listener must be selfless and not (for lack of a better word) steal the show.

You don’t have to share your story at the event. You can talk about general stuff that will make you feel more comfortable , the listening is more important. We will talk about depression, addictions, how demons thrive on our mental health , Gods word to the broken, suicidal thoughts, grief, how to bury the dead in your heart, and many other topics. Being vulnerable is easier said than done. But eventually, you need to learn how to open up to people if you want to maintain good relationships. If people are not aware of how to treat you, they will never say the sorries they must say or give the hugs they must give.

Join our talk on Saturday the 19th. Let’s discuss and have some laughs! Do you have a ticket? Get one today. Here’s the link below;

https://www.quicket.co.za/events/280390-lets-talk-about-it/#

Many people struggle with emotional maturity. Grown women with the emotional maturity of a teenager or a grown man with the emotional maturity of a boy. Some people are just victims of circumstances and so it’ll be unfair to blame them but refusal to own up to it and heal is also a sign of Ignorance.

Pride is one of the things that keeps people in the bubble of emotional immaturity. They often reject reality and best thrive in the emotions and places that help them to avoid looking into the mirror. For example , the ‘naughty corner’ is often used as a behaviour tool help to isolate children to a safe place so they can think about their behaviour. The purpose is to reflect or think so they stay in the naughty corner for a period of time, and if they have not calmed down during the allotted time, they might have to extend their stay. When the time is up, they apologise and carry on with the rest of their day. While this measure is used for children, adults need it too.

We each have a decision to make concerning our emotional, physical and psychological well-being. Unfortunately nobody can do the healing for you. No one will do the work for you. No one can reflect on your behalf. Why do we have so many failed relationships? Because while one invests healthy emotions, they may be too demanding for the one who struggles with regulating theirs. So we find that a man is demanding a woman out of a girl because the physical says this is a grown woman but the inner man says no, I’m still a 7 year old girl,vice versa. You don’t judge emotional maturity by physical appearance.

Yes we don’t judge mental and emotional health by , beard and six pack. The work needs to be done from within. Join us on the 19th as we dive deeper into such issues. Remember , nobody can do the work for you. YOU must surely show up for YOU!

https://www.quicket.co.za/events/280390-lets-talk-about-it/#

“and be renewed in the spirit of your mind,”
‭‭Ephesians‬ ‭4‬:‭23‬ ‭NKJV‬‬
https://bible.com/bible/114/eph.4.23.NKJV