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If I told you to delete all the pornographic files on your phone, clear your browsing history, block certain websites, and gave you a list of things to do today to break the habit, we both know that alone probably wouldn’t work. You may have done those things many times before, only to find yourself downloading or searching for the same content again. I’ve come to realise that the way into addiction is often easy, but the way out is hard. The entrance is usually wide open, but freedom requires intentional effort.

Simply deleting files or avoiding certain content often deals with the surface, not the root. Roots are what keep things alive, whether good or bad, and if you truly want lasting freedom, you have to be willing to dig deeper. That takes honesty, patience, and hard work. As a Christian counsellor, I believe one of the strongest places to begin is with prayer and fasting. You have to deal with it spiritually and also do the practical steps. It’s pointless to just delete a video only to download it again in less than 2hours.

Many people who are bound and struggling to find freedom face two major problems, ignorance and spiritual laziness. Ignorance says, “Don’t read,” or “Don’t watch videos about how to be free.” A person can spend hours watching Netflix, scrolling on social media, or consuming all kinds of content, yet never pick up a single book that addresses the very struggle they’re facing, not even the Bible. Some people have never read any scripture to help them with this. You’ll do almost anything except intentionally focus on what can help bring healing.

Ignorance also tells you that the problem will eventually disappear on its own. My love, it won’t. If nothing changes, nothing changes. Spiritual laziness sounds different. It says, “I’ll pray about it later,”but your has become two years. “I’ll fast about it one day,” but that day is probably gonna be at the day of judgement. If you can set time aside to fast for a job, a breakthrough, or an opportunity, why not also fast for your freedom? We often say, “Pray for me,” and there’s nothing wrong with asking others to pray. But what if they forget? Why not pray for yourself first, and then invite others to stand with you in prayer?

In Matthew 17:19–21, after the disciples failed to cast out a demon, they asked Jesus privately, “Why couldn’t we drive it out?” Jesus explained that “this kind does not go out except by prayer and fasting.” Some battles are too heavy to fight them in the flesh. There is a kind of battle. A kind of spirits. Those ones require another level of sacrifice. They require spiritual discipline. There are bondages that will not break until you fast and pray prayer. Please use this strategy. It works.

Because there are many strategies I would like to share with you, and I’ll be writing about a different topic next week, I’ll leave you with a practical list of things you can start doing today. First, consider having an accountability partner. Walking this journey alone is difficult, and having someone to check in on you can make a real difference. Unfortunately, I cannot personally be an accountability partner at the moment outside of a counselling relationship. Choose someone who has integrity not a gossip who will tell the nations lol

Also, read books that address this struggle. If you’d like recommendations, you’re welcome to email me and I’ll gladly suggest a few. Watch sermons on YouTube that teach about purity, freedom, and renewing the mind. Begin reading your Bible systematically, not occasionally. As you fill your mind with God’s Word, you leave less room for thoughts that feed lust. Scripture renews the mind. Keep away from Mills & Boon novels and all those books you like that narrate sexual sin.

Another important step is to stop isolating yourself. Sexual sin often thrives in secrecy and isolation. People don’t usually masturbate in the middle of a busy street, except ai I dunno, they are crazy. They go to private rooms and hidden places. The same is often true of fornication and adultery they do it in secrecy. In hiding. If you notice the temptation beginning while you’re alone, don’t stay there hoping it will pass. Get up immediately. Go where other people are. Take a walk. Sit in the living room. Visit a friend. Call someone even a video call if necessary.

Change your environment before the temptation grows stronger. There are many practical ways to protect yourself, and sometimes the simplest decision to leave the room. Joseph left that lady. He ran. If he stayed there, he’d have ended up changing his mind Athi “Okay okay just one time! It must never happen again.” That one time would’ve ended up being a daily thing. You have to stop the temptation before it becomes an action.

Please also stop sexting. Those conversations that begin with, “If you were here…” or “What are you wearing?” are not as innocent as they “seem.” Some Christian couples are so relieved that they are not fornicating, yet they spend hours sexting and stirring up sexual desire in one another. My brother, my sister… it’s still leading you into sin. The Bible says, 2 Timothy 2:22, “Flee also youthful lusts.” It doesn’t say negotiate with them. It says flee. Run.

“You have cute lips ?” My sister… commot. 😂 You know that the man of God will start feeling feelinnnzz. Before you know it, “I can’t wait for our wedding night” turns into a detailed discussion of everything you plan to do on that night. At that point, your body has already joined the conversation, it’s participating with. Then both of you end up masturbating while proudly telling yourselves, “At least we’re keeping ourselves pure.” No, you’re simply feeding the same fire from a different angle.

Please dress wisely during your video calls too. If you’re courting, don’t be on video calls with cleavage on full display while the brother is sitting there shirtless, saying he’s “just feeling hot.” Hot indeed. 😂 Don’t unnecessarily tempt each other. You already know what attracts the other person. You are both unmarried, the call lasts three hours in very inappropriate dressing , and now everyone is wondering why temptation suddenly appeared. It didn’t suddenly appear, you invited it in. Infact you video called it.

Protect your eyes as well. The eye is a gate into the soul. Sometimes one careless glance at a sisters bum bum can stay in your mind far longer than you expected, one full month you’re still thinking of her. Guard what you watch, what you scroll through, and what you stare at. If you know something awakens lust in you, don’t entertain it. Protect your heart by protecting your eyes. Keep your courtship pure. Be each other’s keeper, not each other’s stumbling block. God honours purity, and your future marriage will benefit from the boundaries you choose today.

Let me stop here for today so that you can teeenk about these things. We’ll meet again on Friday, by God’s grace, and wrap this series up. God bless you.

If you read my blogs but have never met this  Wonderful Jesus that I’m always writing about,  you’d love to get to know Him, Or you know The Lord but have found yourself drifting far from Him, I would love to talk with you. Please send me an email  on yieldedcwcenter@gmail.com or simply comment, and I will reach out to you

If you study this well, you will notice that the very beginning of an addiction is rarely the most harmful part. It simple. It easy. It begins with something almost everyone does, thinking. You just think like this and next thing, your body starts peppering you. The root of every addiction is found in our thoughts. Before you engage in self-pleasure, you first thought about it. It is not merely thinking about it that becomes the bigger problem, but dwelling on those thoughts long enough for them to translate into action. That’s why I refuse to believe that people just fell into cheating. Wena! Don’t lie to us. Your mind cooked it before o.

Many people follow their minds, but only on rare occasions does the mind follow them. In other words, you become what you think. You go where your mind goes, and you follow where your thoughts lead. Scripture gives us light on this when it says, “As a man thinks in his heart, so is he.” The addiction to masturbation begins in the mind. When your thoughts entertain certain images, your body eventually follows with an action. If you look at the image above, you will notice that immediately after a thought comes a complying action. You can’t be thinking about women’s curves and men’s six packs and think you won’t feel fire in your bones, you will o. Hot fire will soon catch up with you.

People rarely rebel against their own minds. The natural person finds it difficult to control their thoughts, which is why the Word of God teaches that the mind we need in order to live a godly life is the mind of Christ. If you want to stop masturbating, start by checking your thoughts. The thing about thoughts is that they grow if they are continually entertained. If you do not stop a thought the moment it suggests something to you, it rarely stays at that level. It may begin with imagining a naked person, but if you continue feeding that thought, it can progress to, “Why are you only thinking about it when you can actually watch it?”

From there, many people are drawn into pornography, and for some, unchecked lust can develop into increasingly harmful and destructive behaviours like rape. People have raped children because they couldn’t stop thinking about sex. Sin has a way of escalating when it is repeatedly entertained. It always escalates . The longer you contemplate something, the stronger the desire to act on it can become. Sexual thoughts are harmful if you continue feeding them, they often intensify and create a stronger urge to seek gratification. This is why the battle must be won in the mind before it ever reaches your actions. “But I’m a grown man obviously I will …” my brother go and marry. “Hmm they say ovulation at this age, so it’s just science,” my sister, that body should be subjected to the Holy Spirit.

How do you stop masturbating? Arrest the thought the moment it arrives. Deal with it immediately. Listen, you won’t get to pornography, fornication, or even masturbation if you learn to take your thoughts captive before they take you captive. Na survival of the fittest. Who is going to win, you or your thoughts? I just gave you a challenge. I dare you to win. Look at Potiphar’s wife. Sis couldn’t let it go. She kept looking at that fine Hebrew bobo and probably saying, “Yoh… this boy is too fine. Fine man, no pimple, he don katch my eye.” (Joseph was probably my type but ok ok) Instead of shutting the thought down, she kept feeding it until she went the extra mile and tried to sleep with a man who wasn’t her husband. You just keep looking at that sister. Hehe. You will soon sin against your own body.

I think The devil is a salesman. He is definitely into marketing. The guy at the call centre who sells anything and people buy. Hehhh one time l worked at a call centre, guys? It’s not my gift. I can’t sell anything, I can create the product that can be bought but to sell it to you? I will just say “Buy right now, don’t bore me.” lol! Anyways, the devil. He never starts with, “Let’s make this a ten-year addiction.” No, he says, “Just do it once.” That “once” has become ten years of bondage for many people. Every single day during those ten years began with the same lie, “Why are you just thinking about it? Go ahead and do it.” “Just do it!” Nike!

If you want to break the cycle, don’t wait until you masturbate.Win the battle while it’s still just a thought. This part may be harder for some people because the longer you’ve been in bondage, the more it has become a mindset. Your mind has been trained to think that way for so long that it has almost never been challenged. So don’t be surprised when you start fighting back and your mind fights you too. In fact, in the first few days it may even seem louder than before. That’s normal. Fight anyway. I told you before, nobody breaks free from an addiction without a fight.

There’s people who go to rehab, come out, and some relapse. It means they lost the battle to the addiction again . It reminds me of Lot’s wife. She had already started the journey. Ai kodwa lomama. God had made a way of escape for the family. Everything was moving according to His plan, but she still had ties to what she had left behind. She looked back. Maybe she had lots of besties or clothes. It would be my clothes for me because why should they be burnt. My prayer is that you won’t look back. I pray that you will break every tie you have with this habit and keep moving forward.

Now I want you to do a likkle exercise for me, well for yourself. Every day this week that you don’t masturbate, open the Notes app on your phone and write, “Monday – ✅.” If you fall, write, “Monday – ❌.” We’re going to start keeping score. Your goal every week is 7/7. If your score is lower than that, don’t quit, make it your challenge for the next week to do better. Please take this seriously. Nobody is going to keep tabs on you. This is a fight you have to win for yourself. Every day you choose to fight is another step away from bondage and another step toward freedom.

If you read my blogs but have never met this  Wonderful Jesus that I’m always writing about,  you’d love to get to know Him, Or you know The Lord but have found yourself drifting far from Him, I would love to talk with you. Please send me an email  on yieldedcwcenter@gmail.com or simply comment, and I will reach out to you

Happy new week, my Yielded People. In this new week, we will be taking up a new topic as a continuation of our series on masturbation. If it’s your first time here, I’d encourage you to start with the five-part series we began with, as it will provide the foundation for what we’ll be discussing going forward. As a disclaimer, everything we discuss here may not be enough to help someone who is chronically addicted. In such cases, you may need counselling or to expose yourself to more resources such as sermons, books, and other biblical teachings.

We eat according to our hunger. If your hunger is greater, you find more food. All I’m asking from everyone is intentionality and a genuine level of seriousness as we journey through this together. Shall we?

“Before you can break out of prison, you must realise you are locked up.”

Anonymous

When you have a headache, you know it. When you have a runny tummy, you know it. How do you know? Because you feel the pain and the discomfort. Nobody has to tell you that you have a headache. Nobody has ever had to tell me that I have period pains, I’m the one who tells them because I’m the one wearing the shoe, so I know how tight it is. In the same way, whether you masturbate or not is something only you truly know. I can’t tell you that.

Whether you’re addicted or whether you do it often, I honestly don’t know. You are the one who has to come to that truth, which is why on Reflection Friday last week I asked everyone to confront themselves. But how many people actually did that?The best thing you can do is take action about your situation. Do you know that some people could have been free a long time ago? But as I said before, when sin is enjoyable, we make excuses for it.

If you simply sit down trying to figure out why you got the headache or how you could have avoided it, while doing nothing about it, you’re wasting valuable time. The bottom line is that you have the headache, so you get painkillers as soon as possible. Likewise, you won’t stop masturbating simply because you read about it on this blog. You will stop because you want to because you’ve become honest about the effects it has had on your life. You have to stop avoiding your struggle.

Understanding why you should stop masturbating is the foundation, learning how to stop is the action. Last week I was talking to my little niece, and she told me she had cried so much because she had been given some flu syrup that tasted “terrible”. Even though she had a bad flu, a blocked nose, and all the discomfort that came with it, she didn’t want to take the medicine because of its taste. As I thought about that, I realised that some treatments are painful, unpleasant, and difficult to take. What I loved, though, is that she still took it, even while crying. Imagine if she had refused it simply because it tasted bad, she would have remained sick.

In the same way, I’m saying to you that the treatment for the “masturbation flu” may be difficult. It may require sacrifice, discipline, accountability, and you may even cry through the process. But if you refuse the treatment because it’s uncomfortable, you will remain in the condition. You’ll continue to experience the symptoms and the consequences. We all know that, if left untreated, the flu can become serious and, in some cases, people kick the bucket. Don’t allow yourself to suffer from a curable disease. Sometimes victory starts with warfare, the “bitter taste.”

If you are reading this, you maybe seeking freedom from masturbation but for some, if you think you are not addicted to masturbation, think of it this way. Fish don’t know they’re in the water. If you tried explaining it, they’d probably say, “Water? What’s water?” What that simply means is, you could’ve done it too long that it’s your natural habitat. You don’t see anything unusual about it, so you don’t even know if you’re addicted or not. It’s just become a lifestyle, no conscience, no repentance, just vibes right?

To stop masturbating, there has to first be confrontation and diagnosis. Imagine getting ARVs for a a toothache? Or getting medlemon for an eye problem. The more the pain, the stronger the medicine. The weaker the pain, the weaker the medicine. Are you addicted? Don’t rush to finish reading. Read that part again. Answer these questions please. Answer in all truth and honesty

• Are you addicted?
• On a scale of 1-10 how bad is it?
• How many times do you do it a day?
• What’s the time you usually do it?
• Where do you usually do it?
• Do you watch porn?
• Were you introduced to porn or you discovered it yourself?
• Have you ever been molested?
• When did you start masturbating?
• Do you want to be free?
• Do you enjoy it?
• How do you feel afterwards?
• Are you willing to put in the work?

Our first step is self introspection & confrontation. If you lie there, guess what? You’re lying to yourself. If you’re honest and actually answer those questions, I can tell you for free, you’re off to a good start. Bring someone here by reposting the link to your status or groups. I love you.

If you read my blogs but have never met this  Wonderful Jesus that I’m always writing about,  you’d love to get to know Him, Or you know The Lord but have found yourself drifting far from Him, I would love to talk with you. Please send me an email  on yieldedcwcenter@gmail.com or simply comment, and I will reach out to you

Topic of Reflection : Why you should stop masturbating Pt1-5

It’s Reflection Friday! It feels like the days go by so fast, we literally just started a new week. Nevertheless, we thank God for the gift of life and for the lives of our loved ones. Today, I’d like us to pause, look into the mirror, and reflect on a few of the things we’ve discussed over the past week. Then, by God’s grace, on Monday we’ll begin a new topic: How to Stop Masturbating.

I truly believe many people have been helped so far, and the testimonies have been encouraging. May God continue to give you the grace and strength to keep fighting and walking in freedom. Oya, let’s go.The topic of masturbation is quite broad & it is a real life thing. I think of it like a plague, your covid 19 kind of plague. If it finds you vulnerable, without a mask, without maintaining your distance, without quarantining yourself, without eating a good diet, without getting a vaccine of prevention, this virus will eat on your soul & kill your relationship with God.

It is safe to say that it is one of the greatest fire quenchers in the life of a believer. A person can be a prayer warrior, fasting, faithfully serving in church, and passionately pursuing God, yet the enemy waits for them in the privacy of their bedroom. Once they get there, regardless of how much spiritual fire they carry, the whisper comes: “Just do it one more time.” Beloved, that “one more time” is rarely the last time. Many people know this from experience. How many last time’s have you done? Was it the last time?

I want you to honestly think about your life in relation to this struggle. Are you truly happy? You may be surprised to know that some people are comfortable remaining in it. As long as they can say, “God, I’m sorry,” they don’t feel the urgency to break free. One of the most dangerous places a believer can be is living in habitual sin to the point where it becomes comfortable and is justified by saying, “There’s grace.” I have a verse for you.

Think about it. Every time you masturbate, do you truly want to keep living that way? For how long will you continue feeding with the pigs? This reminds me of the story of the prodigal son. He left his rightful place, just as many people leave the place of righteousness, and squandered his inheritance. In the same way, sexual sin causes us to squander what God has entrusted to us, our bodies, our purity, and our fellowship with Him. Before long, we find ourselves feeding among the pigs, living in the filth of lust.

Lust is a filthy spirit. It has reduced men to crumbs of who they were created to be, turned women into objects of seduction, torn families apart, and even killed countless lives. If you were to ask me, after everything we’ve learned this week, whether some people still went back to it, my answer would be yes. They did. That is why these teachings are not meant to be read only once. Una dey do view once 😂. Read them again and again until you confront yourself . Understanding why you must stop will help you in how to stop.

People pride themselves in Lust. I’ve seen shameful acts of social media of people advising others to do it. That’s why we are having our own private family gathering on these blogs so that us who belong to the family of Christ can also advise each other to stop. Your issue is you want to take advise from people who are outsiders. You sit and watch TikTok’s of sexual activity knowing very well you’re single and burning with passion, what exactly do you suppose will happen thereafter? Na to masturboot.

Today, I want you to confront yourself. Yes, confront yourself. Sit down and have an honest conversation with yourself. Admit that you’re struggling if you are. Then ask yourself, “How long am I going to keep living like this?” There comes a time when enough is enough. I believe that time is now. Put your foot down, make a decision before God, and say, “This cycle ends here.”

Unfortunately for many people, the hardest thing for them is this very part. Confrontation & Admission. They avoid addressing the wound until it smells. Here is a visual representation of what masturbation has done to people. Dress well look good and all nice but deep down? Eaten and devoured daily .. can you relate?

What decision will you make today? You have to make that decision so that by the time we start with the hard part, you are in it for real. The good thing about this is that nobody will force you or run aftee you. Nobody will impose. Nobody will make the decision for you or bully you into stopping . It’s a you versus you kind of thing. It’s you for you.

By the way, this is for addicts and even those who do it occasionally. I’m saying l want to help you remove it from your life completely by Gods power. Are you with me? Choose today and if you don’t know why you should? Go back and re read all the other blogs. When we meet here on Monday , we are in boots & helmets, ready to fix someone’s destiny & rebel against the devil. Think about all these things, don’t just read them … really think.

If you read my blogs but have never met this  Wonderful Jesus that I’m always writing about,  you’d love to get to know Him, Or you know The Lord but have found yourself drifting far from Him, I would love to talk with you. Please send me an email  on yieldedcwcenter@gmail.com or simply comment, and I will reach out to you