Reflection Friday

l look at myself in the mirror DAILY! Even when I’m not going anywhere. I tone my face in the mirror, oh l even brush my teeth in the mirror, I don’t know why? You do it too don’t you? I know you do. I just know it!

Can I be real with you for a moment? Most days, I’m in front of the mirror. But on the days I have to leave the house? Oh, I go all in checking everything. Hair? Perfect. Foundation? Blended to the T. Brows? Twins, not distant cousins. Earrings? Symmetrical and shining. I even double-check my outfit from every angle. But on days when I know I’m not going anywhere? I honestly couldn’t care less. Hair in a mess? That’s fine. No makeup? Not a problem. Why? Because no one’s going to see me anyway.

I’ll let you sit with that for a moment. Wanna take a guess where I’m going with this? Now here’s the real question: Why do we put in all the extra effort only when we know someone’s watching?

You’d probably say, “Well, I want to be presentable.” You want to fit into the room, to carry yourself well, to not show up at work with wild hair or crusty lips (buy lip balm please) And honestly, I get it. Like my apostle always says: “Dress for the occasion.” And I agree!

I still don’t understand what morning slippers are doing at the mall at 4 PM but hey let’s not go there today. 😅 Here’s the thing though…We go all out to look a certain way in front of others, but we rarely keep that same energy for ourselves. Sweetheart this isn’t about make up, installations and good trims. This is what we do emotionally too.

We wear a facade of strength, hiding heaviness behind smiles just to impress people or appear “put together.” Some of those emotional “looks” hide what we’ve left unfixed for years. Not because we couldn’t, but because we weren’t intentional, for ourselves.

Heal for you. Let go of the anger for you. Work on your heart not to make people think you’re an Angel , but because you matter. Be just as intentional with your heart as you are with your skincare routine. Be just as extra with your mind as you are with that one pair of shoes that must match the outfit perfectly.

Do it for you.

Not the rushed, surface-level healing that happens just because a partner shows up and now we want to “prove” we’re happy. No. This is about deep, lasting, quiet healing that happens even when no one’s watching.As we reflect today, take sometime in the mirror. What it shows you either deserves an applause or fix. Do both, for you.
I love you 🩷

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