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The Women In Scripture

🌸Ruth [1]🌸

Happy Women’s Month, ladies!

Anddddd a warm welcome to the men who’ve joined us too. This month, we’re diving into the lives of women in the Bible, some you know well (like Hannah), and others you may not have heard of (like Philip’s daughters). We kick things off with one of our favourites : Ruth! Let’s get some background from Gugu!

Ruth: Background According to Researchers

The story begins with a famine in Bethlehem that drives Naomi, her husband Elimelech, and their two sons into Moab for survival. Ruth was originally a Moabite woman, a Gentile from Moab, a nation that was actually very hostile toward Israel. Yet Naomi’s sons marry them anyways. After ten years in Moab, Naomi loses her husband and both sons, including Ruth’s husband, Mahlon. Ruth was widowed & childless.

I know we always reference Ruth in relation to Boaz but her life didn’t begin there. Like many of you, she was married and living at home. Life must have seemed stable. Then tragedy struck: first her father-in-law, then her husband and her brother-in-law passed away. What seemed like a secure home became unstable and uncertain. The three women Naomi, Ruth, and Orpah are left widowed and without children. What did the future of this family look like? Hopeless right?

Allow me to say, gentlemen: women deeply value the protection, presence, and provision that you bring. Without that masculine presence , Ruth, Orpah, and Naomi found themselves exposed and vulnerable, like a walled city whose defences have been torn down. They were widows without sons, without security.. Those of who say men aren’t needed, lf I katch you? I will pinch you.

In Ruth 1:8–18, Naomi decides to return to her homeland after losing her husband and both of her sons. Part of her plan is to send her daughters-in-law back to their own families so they can remarry and rebuild their lives. She says to them, “Go back, each of you, to your mother’s home… Even if I thought there was still hope for me, if I had a husband tonight and then gave birth to sons, would you wait until they grew up?”

Orpah is willing to go back home, but Ruth is different, she seems to be a covenant woman. She says no. In saying no, Ruth wasn’t just rejecting Naomi’s suggestion, she was saying no to a “new life” that could have been easier. There was no promise of a husband waiting for her, no prophecy of a brighter future in Bethlehem. In human terms, it made no sense to stay. But Ruth was willing to give up her own comfort, opportunities, and dreams simply to remain with Naomi and follow her God.

Think about that, she had the chance to marry again, yet she said no. She had the chance to return to her people, yet she said no. She chose instead to live with an aging widow in a foreign land. I don’t know if I could’ve done that. It’s easy to say “ I am a Ruth,” when you’re looking for Boaz but are you also the Ruth who chooses God boldly?

It’s the same choice believers face today. You might have the chance to date someone who doesn’t share your faith, someone “good” by the world’s standards but staying in covenant with God means saying no. Ruth rejected what could have been good for her in the natural just to stay with Naomi.

Would you do that?

There’s so much we could say here, but let’s pause and think: What are you willing to give up to follow God? Peter said to Jesus, “We have left everything to follow You.” Are you only willing to be Ruth when there’s the promise of a husband or are you also willing to be the Ruth who makes God her first priority? Ruth was broken, hurt, widowed, and yet she still chose God. She was never told about Boaz. She didn’t have a prophecy to hold on to. She simply valued covenant and relationships.

Some women don’t care about relationships, they cut people off, they live in isolation, and they move only when they get a full prophecy about their lives . But Ruth teaches us something different. She shows us what it means to choose God, not because of a reward, but because of love and loyalty. Would you still follow God if there was no Boaz prophecy?

This is the Ruth we all claim to be. And this Women’s Month, let’s truly learn from her and other women of faith. In the face of many “freedoms” the world offers us, may we still choose to prioritise God. See you tomorrow as we finish the study on Ruth ! If you can, please read the book of Ruth.

🌸 l love you.🌸

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The Yielded Believer

Worship Wednesday

The habit I want us to unlearn today is this: worshipping only on Sundays.

From Monday to Saturday, we’re soaked in worldly songs and entertainment, and we console ourselves by saying, “At least Sunday is coming.” We spend the whole week immersed in idol worship not necessarily of statues or wooden images but idols like WhatsApp, Netflix, gossip, or endless scrolling.

Then Sunday comes, and we say, “I hope the worship team sings my favourite song.”

But let me tell you something: God misses you.He misses you, the one who used to worship with tears, who couldn’t wait to sit at His feet and just tell Him how good He is. Now? A minute in worship feels like 24 hours. You’ve lost the fire. You need to be jumpstarted to lift your hands, to say something or anything to Jesus. Can you imagine? The One who gave everything for you… Waiting all week just to hear your voice?

Let’s talk about the habit of distracted worship. Many of us are in this troubled boat. We’ve mastered partial worship , physically present, but spiritually absent. Here… but also there. Doing this… but also doing that. In this moment… but also mentally in another place. We lift our hands in church, but our hearts are bowing elsewhere. We sing, but we’re also replying to texts. We kneel before God, but emotionally we’re kneeling before a notification, a lover, a conversation that feels “urgent.” And somehow, we convince ourselves:

“At least I worshipped , others don’t even try.”

That’s self-righteousness in wrongdoing. You gave God what was left over after you had given your attention to everything and everyone else. Since when did the King of Kings have to compete for your focus? Since when did Jesus have to wait His turn while you entertain distractions on His time?Worship isn’t about showing up, it’s about showing up fully. Heart, mind, body, and soul. Let’s stop giving God fractions and calling it faithfulness.

Shall we worship Him today?

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Dealing with self

Comparing yourself to others

Hey family! Welcome to Habits to Unlearn – Part 2.

Let’s talk about comparison one of the habits we often carry without even noticing.You walk into a room, and suddenly you feel out of place. Everyone seems “successful,” polished, experienced and you? You’re just getting started. Without even realizing it, your inner voice kicks in: “What am I even doing here? They’re better than me. I don’t belong.”

And just like that, you fold. Your posture changes. Here’s the truth: low self-esteem is loud, but so is confidence. People can read it. In how you speak. How you show up. How you carry yourself. Your body language. Your stature.

They say comparison is the thief of joy. But it’s also the seed of destruction. Don’t believe me? Let’s go back to the Bible. Cain compared himself to Abel instead of learning from him and look what happened. Cain looked at his brother’s offering and thought, “It should’ve been me.” He felt rejected. Not good enough. Instead of learning, he compared, and that comparison led to jealousy, and jealousy led to murder. And in the end? Cain became a vagabond wandering, lost, carrying the weight of a choice born from comparison.

That’s what comparison does it pulls you out of purpose and pushes you into places you were never meant to be. Let’s bring it to today. You’re comparing yourself to someone with 10 years’ experience, trying to match their results after 10 months. You put yourself on a scale with someone who started before you and wonder why you’re “behind.” Even someone who started yesterday has a 24-hour advantage over you. And I won’t even start on marriage. Actually, wait let me start.

You’ve been a “good girl.” A solid young man. You’ve kept yourself, made good choices or at least tried. And yet… you’re still waiting. Meanwhile, you see others maybe not as “good” as you getting married, settling down, posting picture-perfect moments. And deep down, it pains you. Then the comparison starts: You look at your ex’s new girlfriend and think, “What did he see in her that he didn’t see in me?”

You spend 24 hours on her social media, zooming in on photos, checking her captions, scrolling through her friends list hoping to crack some invisible code.And that’s where the self-doubt creeps in. You begin to ask questions like: “What does she have that I don’t? What am I missing?” Let me tell you, you’ve already started comparing, and it’s quietly stealing your joy. You are you. She’s not you. He’s not you. I’m not you. And you’re not me. You’re not them. There’s peace in embracing that. There’s rest in accepting God’s unique plan for your life , not resenting someone else’s because I’m so sure comparison is a seed of jealousy.

Not everyone will have a degree and the earlier you accept this, the better. Now, am I saying drop out of school? Absolutely not. But I’m speaking to reality. Not everyone’s path will follow the same script. Some people won’t graduate and still, God will open doors for them. You don’t come from a rich family accept it. You who’s rich should never look down on someone as well. You’re not better, you’re privileged to get better opportunities.

Stop trying to dress like the rich man’s son when your story is still unfolding. Wear your own shoes with confidence. Not everyone will have the number 8 shape. And guess what? The shape you have is perfect for you. Fearfully and wonderfully made, others have seen doctors to look how they look. Not everyone will get results in 5 yearsYours might come in 6. Or 10. Relax and according to your own season.

Not every woman will have two or more children. Some have one. Some have none. That doesn’t make the next woman better than you. The man driving a Bentley is not automatically better than the one driving a Toyota. You don’t know how he got there. Some people you’re comparing yourself to? They joined cults. They made deals in secret. They sold their bodies. And here you are, trying to match them with clean hands and a pure heart. That’s not just comparison that’s injustice to your own process. Trust your pace. God is not late You’re the one in a hurry.

UNLEARN THIS HABIT.

See you tomorrow 💕

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Dealing with self

Self sabotage

Hey family! It’s sooooo good to be back! I trust you’re all doing well and still yielded. 🙏🏾🩷

I hope by now you’ve all got your copy of A Thing Called Time, o! 😄 We’re about to dive into a new series titled “Habits to Unlearn.”. The heart behind this is simple to expose the little foxes, clear the dusty corners that mess up the room, and remove the tiny stones that keep tripping us up. Shall we begin?

NEGATIVE SELF TALK

For many years, I was self-sabotaging, and I mistakenly called it humility. I told myself I was being “down to earth.” I would constantly downplay my potential. I would recommend others for opportunities I was just as qualified for because, I was afraid I might fail if I took the shot.

The truth is, self-sabotage can wear many disguises. It can look like humility, caution, shyness, or even being “wise” but at its root, it’s often fear. So, what is self-sabotage? Self-sabotage is when you consciously or unconsciously hinder your own success, growth, or healing. It’s when your actions, thoughts, or beliefs work against your own goals and potential , even when you deeply desire progress.

Sometimes, it’s loud and obvious. Other times, it’s silent, subtle, and spiritual. But the result is the same: delay, defeat, and discouragement. In a moment, I’ll list some common signs of self-sabotage and if we’re honest, many of us will see ourselves in at least one of them. I personally know the areas where l frequently self sabotage. Let’s go to the bible and see if there’s anyone who did this.

“But Gideon answered, “Pardon me, Lord. How can I save Israel? My family group is the weakest in Manasseh. And I am the least important member of my family.”

Judges‬ ‭6‬:‭15‬ ‭ICB‬‬

I really love the children’s Bible , it’s so easy and simple to understand. Now let’s talk about Gideon. Would you say he was humble… or was he actually self-sabotaging? I’d say the latter. Gideon carried a mindset of inadequacy long before the Lord even spoke to him. You can tell by what he said. Just like it shows in your words that you don’t think much of yourself.

He had no confidence. He didn’t see himself the way God saw him and let’s be honest, many of us do the same. Let me say this clearly: If you think being shy is helping you… more often than not, it’s not.While you’re holding back, someone more confident not necessarily more skilled is stepping up and walking away with your trophy. We need to unlearn the phrases we’ve rehearsed every time we’re asked to do something:

“I can’t.” “I’m not ready.” “Maybe someone else.”

Then later you regret not taking a chance. Meanwhile, someone else with only 20% of the knowledge, experience, or anointing is saying “Yes” and they’re walking into doors you were meant to enter. So the question is: Why do you do that to yourself? There’s literally nothing good you ever say about yourself and then you wonder why nobody calls you for opportunities anymore? It’s because they took your word for it.

Some people even underperform on purpose just so they don’t outshine others. My dear, that is not humility. That is self-sabotage. It’s time to change that vocabulary you taught yourself. The school of negativity awards you a masters degree for all the silly things you say. All those, “I am not fit for this,” “I’m not good enough,” “I have failed before so I will fail again” statements. Some of us even say those things to God like Gideon did.

Stop. (My voice is firm at this point) 😂

Sometimes self-sabotage dresses up as fake humility but eventually, it will undress itself, and you’ll see just how much damage you’ve done… with your own mouth.

Listen carefully, UNLEARN THIS HABIT.

I’ll see you tomorrow, bring a friend 🩷

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The Yielded Believer

The Comforter

I don’t know about you, but most of my life, I’ve needed a Comforter. There have been seasons where I cried myself to sleep, woke up with red, swollen eyes and a heart so heavy it felt like it would sink me. Seasons where no explanation would do. Not to friends. Not even to myself. Seasons where silence and tears was the only language I had. Where even speaking about it felt exhausting. In those moments… all I needed was God. And I thank God for the Holy Spirit. My Comforter, my Helper, the One who sees when no one else does.

I remember the story of Hagar, crying in the wilderness with her baby. Abandoned, lost, overwhelmed. But God saw her. God comforted her. And many of us can actually relate. Because I’ve sat with people broken, hurting, confused and reminded them: the healing they’re looking for often begins with comfort. Not answers. Not solutions. Just the steady, quiet presence of God.

God knows we are fragile. He formed us from dust. He knows how quickly we can be overwhelmed. How easily our hearts bruise. And Jesus knowing this, didn’t ignore it. He didn’t return to heaven and leave us to navigate this life alone. He said, ‘I will ask the Father, and He will give you another Comforter.’ (John 14:16)

Listen… If comfort wasn’t necessary, the Holy Spirit wouldn’t have been sent in that name. But God knew we would need Him, deeply. And today, He still sends comfort. He still sees. He still stays.”

What have you been carrying on your shoulders lately? What’s been weighing you down so heavily that even breathing feels like a task? Do you need comfort? Let me tell you something I’ve come to know: The Holy Spirit gives the best hugs. By faith, I’ve wrapped my arms around Him, right there in my room and every time, I’ve felt lighter. Stronger. Seen. Refuse to live with an orphan spirit when the Comforter is present. He sees you. He sees what you’re facing. He’s heard every sigh. He knows the fear that grips your heart in the quiet of the night and the uncertainty that clouds your thoughts during the day. He’s aware of the questions you’re too tired to ask and the dreams you’re too scared to hope for. And even in all that, He still whispers:

“Let Me comfort you.”

“Whenever my busy thoughts were out of control, the soothing comfort of your presence calmed me down and overwhelmed me with delight.”

‭‭Psalms‬ ‭94‬:‭19‬ ‭TPT‬‬