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Chilled Thursday

dealing with

People.

There are times when we’re not in our best moods. At times, we can be selfish, carry a sense of entitlement, or even act rudely. Sometimes, stubbornness gets the best of us. The truth is, everyone has been wrong at some point in their lives.

As long as you’re on this earth, you’ll always be surrounded by people—whether you love them or not. Even in death, unless you’re buried in some remote place or cremated, you’ll still find yourself among others in a graveyard—the only difference is, they won’t stress you out anymore! The reality is, we all have to learn to deal with people, just as they learn to deal with us. The idea of isolating ourselves and living in our own little world is just wishful thinking—like it or not, this is a people’s world.

While all this is true, it’s equally true that you shouldn’t deal with everyone—because that’s not wisdom. Not everyone belongs in your life. Some of the people you have around you today shouldn’t be there, and some of the people you cut off may have actually been meant to stay.

When you understand the value of people, you won’t just open your heart and space to anyone. I’ve had some of the most heartbreaking experiences simply because I allowed the wrong people into my life—people who hadn’t earned their place.

Oh yes, people must earn their place in your heart. It’s not about emotions or sentiments—it’s about proven reliability and trust!

Someone once said, “You met someone three days ago and you’re already saying ‘MY LOVE.’” And honestly, that’s us! We open our hearts too quickly to everyone and everything—then we wonder why disappointment keeps knocking at our door.

Let’s be real—some tenants in your heart need immediate eviction. Don’t draft a notice, don’t give them a grace period—just evict! Trust me, I’ve learned this the hard way. I used to welcome people with open arms, only to realize (through pain, of course) that not everyone deserves that access.

Take your time to study people. Observe that new friend. That new guy. That new girl. You’ll never know someone 100%, but with time, people reveal whether they are worth even a small hut in your heart. Above all, be the good person first before expecting it from others.

“Do nothing out of selfish ambition or vain conceit. Rather, in humility value others above yourselves.” (Philippians 2:3)

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Worship Wednesday

Hey Family! It’s WORSHIP WEDNESDAY!

So, what’s on your playlist? Personally, I’ve been surviving “Delay” by Minister Theophilus Sunday. And let me tell you—you need to be spiritually, emotionally, and physically FIT to even attempt to sing those lyrics. This song is not for the faint-hearted; it’s for the die-hards who have fully submitted their Wi-Fi connection to heaven.

It reminds me of when people straight-up refused to sing “Refiner” because they had been through the real refiner’s fire and were NOT trying to speed up their sanctification process again. Some lyrics will really have you questioning your life choices, because what do you mean “whatever You want, Lord”?! Are you sure you’re ready for whatever? If you still know deep down that you’re in your Jonah era, my dhiye, please stick to something lighter—maybe a children’s choir singing “Jesus Loves Me.” Let’s not call fire we’re not ready for.

Now, on Worship Wednesdays, I love to dance! And when it comes to praise, my go-to is always Mr M & Revelation. My friend sent me their music three years ago, and honestly? I’ve been their unpaid brand ambassador ever since! Of course, I have to read the lyrics while I dance. King David might have met his match because I WILL DANCE.

My mom had a secret weapon for spring cleaning—gospel music. The moment she hit play on Deborah Fraser or Rebecca Malope, we just KNEW… we were about to sofffferrr.

That’s not just “wipe the table” kind of cleaning. Oh no, no, no! That’s “remove the curtains, clear the entire display, scrub the walls, wash the gate, and maybe even repaint the house” kind of cleaning. You’d start by sweeping, but before you know it, you’re outside cleaning the gate like you work for a cleaning company.

And the crazy part? Gospel music actually makes you clean better. Something about those harmonies makes you wipe in circles like you’re polishing the floors of heaven. Suddenly, you’re deep-cleaning things nobody even asked you to clean.

At some point, I was so inspired I thought, “You know what? Maybe I should be a gospel musician too.” I even recorded an entire album … that nobody on this planet will EVER hear. Not even my future husband. In fact, if the world is ending and my album is the only thing that can save humanity, well… let’s just say I’ll miss you all. Bye bye Mampintsha

So tell me—what’s YOUR Worship Wednesday vibe? Are you cautiously avoiding the “Refiner” playlist? 🌸

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Protecting the dream

Hey fam! I almost forgot about today’s blog—yho! All morning, I had this nagging feeling like I was forgetting something, but my brain just refused to cooperate. I mean, I cannot have a failing memory at my tender age. What is this? Early-onset chicken mind? Never my dhiye .

Some of you are even worse, you’ll turn the whole house upside down looking for your phone… while it’s literally in your hand. Tragic. I may be forgetful, but at least I haven’t reached that level (yet). Anyway, let’s pick up where we left off yesterday before I forget what I was supposed to say next!

One woman is a baby thief, the other is a heartbroken mother who wakes up to find a lifeless child beside her. I can’t help but wonder how she felt in that moment—shock, confusion, sheer horror. She must have stared at both babies, trying to make sense of it all. I imagine the thief had even swapped their clothes, making the switch so seamless that unless you looked closely, you’d never suspect a thing. The deception was calculated.

What kind of sleep was this woman sleeping that she didn’t even wake up to check on her child? What kind of deep slumber makes you so unaware that you don’t hear a thing? It’s almost unbelievable. But then again, many of us are just like that—spiritually asleep.

1 Kings 3:20 (NIV):So she got up in the middle of the night and took my son from my side while I your servant was asleep. She put him by her breast and put her dead son by my breast.

We don’t pray. We don’t fast. We don’t study the Word. And the enemy takes full advantage of our slumber, stealing what rightfully belongs to us. Some of us don’t realize just how much our spiritual laziness is costing us. You were once sharp, full of wisdom, but now? Nothing you say reflects that anymore. Did you really think you could just relax and not pay the price? Wake up!

It’s funny how we always blame the other woman—the thief. But think about it… if the real mother had been awake, if she had checked on her baby, she would have caught the thief in the act. At least the other woman woke up, even if it was to steal.

My dear, witches are up every night. Yes, Satanists and demons don’t sleep—they are busy stealing, killing, and destroying. But you, the believer, are the one still pulling your blankets over your head, thinking, Ah, all is well. Let me tell you—all is NOT well!

There are transactions happening while you sleep! With your baby! With your life! With your destiny! With your future! With your gifts and talents! With your family! With your money! With your health!

WAKE UP!

How do you safeguard your dreams? You stay vigilant. You watch and pray. You fast. You meditate on the Word of God day and night. You know when to rest and when to get up and fight in prayer! If you don’t, you’ll be the one left holding a dead baby—a lifeless dream. And let me tell you something—dead babies don’t grow. Dead babies must be buried. If you’re not careful, you won’t just lose your dream; you’ll be forced to bury it, sealing a chapter that was never meant to close.

So, what will it be? Will you wake up and fight, or will you sleep your destiny away?

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Exchanged Dreams

Happy new week, family. 🌼

Last week, we explored the story of the two prostitutes caught in a dispute over a baby. I’d like us to continue from there. The Bible presents this account in a way that even the simplest mind can grasp, yet its message carries profound spiritual truth. Dream theft and exchange are very real. If you think otherwise, it may be time to wake up from slumber.

There are those who, having destroyed their own dreams, seek to steal from others. Have you ever heard of someone who ruined their own marriage, only to go after another person’s husband?

Eh, let me tool.

Actually, I won’t stay silent—let’s talk about it. You mismanage your business, then turn around and steal someone else’s clients. You sabotage your own career and reputation, then go after another person’s because you refuse to face the consequences of your actions.

The woman in this story was careless with her baby—she rolled over the child in her sleep. This means she was slumbering on the job, neglecting her role as a mother. She forgot the weight of her new responsibility, failed to remain vigilant, and never checked on what she had birthed. When she finally woke up and realized what had happened, she didn’t grieve or take accountability. Instead, she sought a substitute and took it. And what was the substitute? Someone else’s baby. May no one ever use your dream as a substitute! 

She never cared about how the other woman would feel. If you think people care after stealing from you, you’re mistaken. She was so determined to claim what wasn’t hers that she even went to court to fight for it—knowing full well she was lying!

“Then the other woman said, ‘No! The living one is my son; the dead one is yours.’ But the first one insisted, ‘No! The dead one is yours; the living one is mine.’ And so they argued before the king.” (1 Kings 3:22)

She knew she was in the wrong, yet she still tried to manipulate the system to gain possession of what did not belong to her. To what extent will the enemy go to steal what is yours? Any extent! Don’t assume that just because you confront him, he will back down—he is relentless, stubborn, and highly manipulative. It takes the King to see the truth and declare judgment!

Let’s continue tomorrow as we dive into how to guard our dreams. We will explore what the other woman could have done to protect her baby and how we, too, can safeguard what God has entrusted to us. I hope this series has blessed you as much as it has blessed me. I love you, and I pray you have a great week ahead! 🌸🌸🌸

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Reflection Friday

Greetings bredreeeeeennnnn! You have come to the end of the week and it’s time to reflect. Today’s blog will not be long, I just want us to look at how we spent our emotions this week. Emotions are spent. Every time you pour love into someone, everything you react to, everything that pulls out emotions out of you, is something that can make or break you. Actually, the type of emotion you show reveals the condition of your heart. For example, if you suddenly break down and cry, a normal person will assume that you’re heartbroken.

Not everything requires a reaction from you. I learned that somethings need you to chill out. I’m not talking about nonchalant people. Guard your emotions in a way that not everything makes you upset, not everyone makes you fall in love, not every thing makes you respond and react. Many of us react to almost everything and that’s why we never have emotional stability. There’s always so much noise in your heart. This makes life very difficult because life flows from the condition of your heart.

How did you spend your emotions this week? Would you repeat the same thing next week? Or do you want to change a couple of things? Remember, you have the power to control your emotions by marrying emotional intelligence with logic. Sometimes you walk away and say NOTHING. Sometimes you respond and say something but NOT IMPULSIVELY. Don’t hold back laughter but hold back anger. Don’t hold back your smile, hold back the bitterness. And yes, sometimes you don’t have to hold back the tears , you should just be careful who you cry before.

Your emotional tank leaks each time you allow a sharp object close to it. 🌸

Sending you hugs. Have a great weekend! ❤️