Category: The Yielded Believer

Let’s continue from yesterday’s blog, where we began discussing how to not only build but also nurture the kingdom visions God has entrusted to us. I shared four points in that post, and today, I’ll be adding four more. I pray these words continue to inspire and empower you as you pursue His purpose.

I’ve come to understand that whether you’re building an organisation, a ministry (which I’m still learning about), or even a business you must pray. Prayer isn’t optional for the believer; it’s essential. Scripture says, “Men ought always to pray and not faint” that’s not a suggestion, it’s a divine instruction.

One of the issues I’ve noticed is that many people are quick to send out prayer requests, but they don’t pray themselves. They rely on others to stand in the gap while they remain silent. But here’s the truth: what if the person you sent that prayer request to forgets? What if they get busy? Will you let your destiny hang in the balance because you refused to open your mouth and declare life over what you’re building?

You need to pray over your work. Pray into the future. Speak things like, “Lord, even next year shall be good,” because the words you release in prayer are prophetic bricks. Without prayer, even the strongest-looking structure will start to fall apart. The winds will come, and without that spiritual foundation, the whole thing may be blown away.In this kingdom, I don’t know of anything that has truly lasted without prayer.

Number Six: Get Knowledge.

We’re living in a time where some people see a book and immediately switch off. The moment reading is involved, they choose ignorance and that’s a dangerous mindset. Learning should never stop. Every day we’re picking up new information some of it foolish, if we’re honest so why not intentionally learn the things that will shape and prepare you for what God is calling you to build?

How can you expect to build something well when you know nothing about it? Imagine hiring a construction company to build your house, and when they arrive they say, “We don’t actually know how to build… we didn’t study for this, but trust us, let’s all hope for a good outcome.” Would you proceed? Of course not. Why? Because you’re investing too much to let your vision fall into the hands of the unqualified.

It’s the same with your kingdom assignment. You must invest in knowledge. Study the Word. Learn from others. Enroll in courses. Read books. I’ve finished certain courses, yet I keep going back to learn more because I understand that a strong structure requires a well-informed mind. Empty heads don’t build lasting things. And that’s not an insult it’s a reality. No one wants to build with or under someone who doesn’t know what they’re doing. If you have to go back to school, do it. Get the knowledge you need to build well.

The same hours you spend endlessly scrolling on your phone you could be using just two of those to complete an online course. There are 2-hour courses out there packed with wisdom and strategy that could sharpen your vision. Even in the Bible, there are short books you can study deeply in a short amount of time books that carry life-changing revelation. We have to be honest: no one will take a vision seriously if it’s fuelled by nothing but excitement and enthusiasm, yet completely lacking in information. Passion without knowledge is a shaky foundation. People invest in prepared visionaries those who’ve taken time to learn, study, and grow. Don’t just be fired up… be equipped.

Number Seven: Choose Your Companions Wisely.

I honestly can’t stress this enough, your own companions can destroy what you’re trying to build. I’ve seen it happen. Marriages have crumbled simply because one spouse started listening to the wrong friends and stopped co-building their home. Some friendships were meant to stay in primary school, high school, or wherever you left them and that’s okay.

You don’t need to feel guilty for separating from people who can’t walk with you into your next. You’re about to birth and build something so you need people who not only believe in you but are also willing to support you if and when the need arises.

Some of you are wondering why your building isn’t progressing, yet a hidden hand in your circle keeps pulling out bricks. So you think you’re moving at a great speed only to be back to square one. A hand is removing bricks. Someone close to you is quietly discouraging others from supporting your vision. Saying things like, “I told her this was impossible, but she insists , let’s just watch her fail.” And then you defend them with, “But we’ve been friends for 21 years!”

Listen: Years of friendship don’t prove the quality of friendship. Stop hanging around people who discourage, belittle, or sabotage your dreams. You do not need them in your building process. Choose wisely, your destiny depends on it. Many people discouraged us from continuing with MPG. Some even thought it would come to nothing but we are still here because we decided to step away. And if you want to be sure who is really for you? Ask God. Pray the dangerous prayer, He answers those quickly.

I don’t want to overload you with too much information so let’s pause here for today. We’ll continue tomorrow. I truly hope you’re learning something valuable and that you’ll take these lessons and apply them to your own journey. I love you, and I genuinely can’t wait to see what you’re building. Keep going, and keep growing! 🌸

Sooooooooo today is a spezhial day! It’s the 4th anniversary of The Midnight Prayer Group 💃🥹. Praise the Lord!! One of the biggest lessons I’ve learned while leading MPG is this: make sure the vision is truly from God.

When a vision comes from Him, He sustains it. He protects it sometimes from people, from the enemy, and often times even from you. I’ve seen powerful visions that weren’t born of God, and because of that, they had to be supported by human effort just to survive. That’s exhausting. You end up carrying what God never asked you to, constantly doing what He would’ve done had it actually been His assignment. So here’s my advice: Don’t start unless it’s from God. And don’t move unless He says go.

Number two: you need to be strong.

And true strength comes from knowing your God. If you don’t know Him and you’re not even trying to know Him you will fall when trials come. I remember a time when leading MPG became so tough, I knelt on the floor, opened my hands, and said, “Lord, I hand this group back to You. Please give it the assignment to someone else. I don’t want it anymore.” Guess what? God didn’t change the situation. He didn’t remove the burden. He gave me strength.

That same evening, I was back on the prayer call, leading with fire, joy, and so much strength. There will be days when it feels like God left you in the field alone that He’s watching from afar. Those are the days when you need to be strong. I don’t know any weak leaders. Leaders have weaknesses, yes but true leaders, especially in the Kingdom, are strong. They have to be. Because the devil doesn’t play easy he always goes the extra mile.

Number three: CONSISTENCY!

At MPG, we have prayer calls every Monday and Wednesday come rain, snow, or sunshine. There is a system in place that holds whether there are 2, 20, or 50 people. That’s what consistency looks like.

You’ve probably heard that consistency is key. Well, it’s not just the key it’s also the builder. Where there’s consistency, there’s construction something is being built. And if you keep at it, brick by brick, day by day, showing up again and again, you can build something that reaches the sky. Consistency when you’re excited. Consistency when you’re numb. It’s not based on feelings it’s rooted in discipline and intentionality.

Because here’s the truth: you can’t build and then decide to chill. On the days you don’t show up to tend your building, guess who does? The devil. “While men slept, the enemy came and sowed tares.” (Matthew 13:25) He didn’t sow them while they were awake they would’ve rebuked him. He waited until they slacked off.Brethren, consistency will give you speed and results. Don’t sleep on it.

Number four: Beware of the flesh.

Read this one twice abeg! You cannot do a God-thing in the flesh. You just can’t.The reality is, because you’re human, the flesh will try to creep in, it will. But you must constantly subject it to the Spirit. And this doesn’t happen by accident. It requires intentional, daily surrender.

Let me beg you again. If you carry out a divine assignment in the flesh, you will stain the entire work with your own weaknesses, emotions, and vulnerabilities. There will be moments when anger rises, when frustration brews, when you’re tempted to clap back or quit. There’s a tug-of-war between Spirit and flesh in those moments and the Spirit man must win.What about temptations? What about heart issues, bitterness, pride, insecurity?They will come. And if you respond in the flesh, you risk not only destroying what you’re building, but also wounding those building with you and harming those in the building.

The flesh says “ME”, The Spirit says “US.”The flesh wants to see you fall. The Spirit wants to see you rise and rise stronger. Flesh is a thorn. The Spirit is a soothing balm. All these things are important to learn and apply in order for us to build lasting and impactful kingdom organisations and ministries. Anyhooo, let’s continue tomorrow as l teach you things I’ve learnt in the 4 years of MPG! I love you and I’m excited about the 5th year! I know Yielded will also grow in the same manner!

I hope you learnt something. ❤️

Happy new week everyone! I pray that the Lord will give you a mindblowing testimony this week!

There’s something that destroys relationships, it is a silent killer and often not addressed as much as many other things. It’s called entitlement. What is entitlement?

The entitlement mentality is a belief or attitude that one believes he/she deserves special treatment, privileges, or rewards often without corresponding effort, responsibility, or merit. People with an entitlement mentality might think others owe them things like respect, success, or support, just because of who they are or what they’ve been through. (Selah)

Interestingly, at one point or another, we’ve all entertained an entitlement mentality. Whether we admit it or not, there was a time we felt we deserved something and were completely thrown off when we didn’t get it. Some people carry expectations into spaces where they’ve made no investment. They want reward without the work, blessings without obedience, essentially, they want freebies. And truth be told, the most entitled often have done the least to earn what they’re demanding. Then there’s the “grace entitlement” mindset among Christians. We act like we’re owed grace, living carelessly and then turning to God with bold demands: “You said You’re gracious, so give me grace!” Eh! That’s not how grace works.

Let’s talk about friendships. There are friends who feel so entitled to you, they start believing that normal rules and boundaries don’t apply to them. Ma’am, you’re wrong. Sir, you’re very wrong. Let’s put it this way: if I walk into Pick n Pay and my friend owns the store, does that automatically mean I get bread for free? If they offer, sure. But do I just load up a trolley and walk out saying, “It’s fine, I know the owner”? Absolutely not. That’s not friendship, that’s entitlement. Oh, shall I shake the table a little bit more?

Your pastor may have been called by God to shepherd and serve you, but that doesn’t mean he’s obligated to answer your call every time you ring. Sometimes the man of God is praying, resting, or simply unavailable, and yet you get so offended when he doesn’t respond. But let’s be honest when your own family calls you at 3 a.m., you don’t always pick up either! This entitlement mindset has silently ruined so many beautiful relationships and opportunities. It’s a silent killer. And the tricky part? Some people never say it out loud, but deep down, they believe they deserve the front seat even if everyone else is standing.

“People must.” “Indoda (a man) must.” “A woman must.” These phrases reveal a dangerous mindset, one where we’ve crafted our own expectations and demand that others live up to them, no matter what. It’s an illusion of control rooted in entitlement. Left unchecked, this attitude breeds resentment, bitterness, and even hatred. Oh yes! It might wear the mask of “I know my worth,” but what’s really being said is, “You owe me something I’m not sure what, but you owe me.” That’s not confidence; that’s selfishness.

Philippians 2:3 says, “Do nothing out of selfish ambition or vain conceit. Rather, in humility value others above yourselves.”

No one is obligated to do what you should be doing for yourself not even your parents. Placing demands on people that come from your own unmet responsibilities can push them away, not bring them closer. Don’t let entitlement cost you the very relationships God gave you to steward with love and grace. I know this post may offend some people but it’s fine, healing is there in Christ.

Don’t create your own expectations and expect people to just jump in and flow with you. Life doesn’t work that way. And if you’ve been dealing with people like that, I want you to know it’s not that you’re not doing your best. The problem is, your best isn’t their best, and until you give them what they think they deserve, they’ll keep rejecting you. Some people want to be pleased, but they have zero regard for what it actually costs to please them.

Don’t wear yourself out trying to meet impossible standards. The truth is, you can’t serve everyone the way they want to be served all the time. It’s not sustainable and it’s not your job. Those who know the kitchen shouldn’t be throwing tantrums about being hungry. I’ll say this again: entitlement mentality will rob you of good, good people. The kind-hearted, the generous, the patient ones; entitlement pushes them away. Why? Because nobody “SHOULD” do anything for you unless you’re paying them, lol. People MAY help you, love you, support you and that shift in language will save you a lot of heartache in life. Learn to see kindness as a gift, not a right. Gratitude opens doors, but entitlement? It shuts and even puts a lock on them.

Have a great day! ❤️

I’ve often struggled to celebrate my own achievements. No matter how hard I work or how significant the accomplishment, I tend to brush it off like it’s nothing. I could pass a difficult exam and barely acknowledge it, but the moment something goes wrong, I’m the first to criticise myself.Now, don’t get me wrong I’m deeply grateful to God for everything. My issue isn’t a lack of gratitude; it’s a lack of self-appreciation. l will tell you why it’s important to celebrate yourself . Keep reading!

Low self-esteem often stems from two sources: what others have told you and what you’ve told yourself. It’s shaped by external standards and internal expectations what people define as success and what we believe is enough.

David declared, “I praise You because I am fearfully and wonderfully made” (Psalm 139:14). His praise was in place, but the real challenge for many of us isn’t praising God it’s believing what He says about us. If I struggle to see myself as fearfully and wonderfully made, then even in my gratitude, I may still undermine my worth.

When you look at your accomplishments and dismiss them as insignificant, you’re not just being “humble” , you’re downplaying God’s hand in your life. Every victory, every completed task, is evidence of His grace and strength in you. So, take a moment. What did you accomplish this week? What task did you complete? Say this with me: “I praise You, Lord, because I managed to accomplish this! I am a star!”

If we truly saw ourselves the way God sees us, depression wouldn’t stand a chance. It wouldn’t even get the chance to knock on your door. So why do you constantly diminish yourself? Why do you believe there’s nothing beautiful about you? Who told you that you were naked? I want you to pause and reflect on this past week. What have you accomplished? What have you pushed through? Now, I want you to praise God for it and I want you to celebrate yourself.

It’s not wrong to treat yourself. My niece taught me this: loving and spoiling yourself is okay. Don’t feel guilty for enjoying a caramel ice cream after a long day (caramel is my favourite, by the way!). Don’t feel bad about buying yourself those shoes just maybe not every week, because, well, wisdom.

And for the love of God, stop rejecting compliments! If someone tells you, “You’re beautiful!” don’t respond with, “Ah really? Haha, that’s not true. A monkey like me?” If I catch you saying that…!

Remember, your confidence is only as strong as your perception of yourself. And no, I’m not talking about pride. Some people think rejecting compliments makes them humble , not so, my lord! (lol). You’ve just gotten used to rejecting good things, and somehow, you believe that’s the right thing to do. But it’s not.

“But I didn’t do anything this week!”

Yes, you did. You lived. You pushed through. You didn’t give up. There’s always something worth acknowledging. Anyway, I’m currently thinking about caramel ice cream, so I have nothing else to write. See you on Monday.

🩷🌸And hey, you’re beautiful! You’re handsome! 🌸🩷