Category: The Yielded Believer

“Three days later this woman also had a baby. We were alone; there were only two of us in the house. “But her baby died during the night when she rolled over on it. Then she got up in the night and took my son from beside me while I was asleep. She laid her dead child in my arms and took mine to sleep beside her.”
‭‭1 Kings‬ ‭3‬:‭18‬-‭20‬ ‭NLT‬‬

Ever heard of stolen dreams? It’s right there in the Bible. Two women had babies, but one woman, through carelessness, suffocated her own child. Yes, people often squeeze the life out of their own dreams. They mismanage their businesses, destroy their marriages, or kill their ministries. And when the consequences catch up with them, they turn to steal someone else’s dream to console themselves. The Bible says this woman lay on top of her child, and the child died. But instead of facing the consequences of her actions, she looked to the side, saw someone else with a similar dream, and stole it pretending like nothing ever happened.

Let’s take a moment to look at how people can steal your dreams. Do you think everyone around you genuinely wants to see you succeed? Think again. Some are fine with your success, until they lose what’s in their hands. Then, they come for yours. The issue is, “l don’t want to be the one without. I’d rather steal.” This is why you must be careful about who you allow into your circle. You could be sharing your space, your plans, or even your life with someone who’s actually a thief in disguise.

Why are we often encouraged to keep quiet about our goals and dreams? Because their magnitude can provoke envy or jealousy. The truth is, everyone has a dream, but not everyone’s dream is alive. In the story, both women had children, but one child was dead. A dead child cannot grow, cannot be nursed, and cannot be nurtured. What do you do with a dead child? You bury it. But this woman refused to be the one with a buried dream. Instead, she decided to take the living child and give her dead dream to someone else.

By the way, this wasn’t a negotiated or discussed transaction , it was outright theft. And do you think they’ll discuss it with you when they come for your dream? No, my dhiyeeee. They steal. They swap. They cover it up. Look at when this happened – at night. This tells us there was a time when the other woman was asleep, completely relaxed and unaware of what was happening around her. Because of that, she couldn’t defend her dream or protect her child. What is the enemy waiting for? A moment when you’re less guarded. A time when you are asleep. The Bible says, “While men slept, the enemy came and …” He waits for the moment when you are chilled, thinking, “Wow, everything is going well; let me rest.” And while you pull up the sheets, someone else is getting ready to grab what’s yours.

Some of you are living with a dead dream today because, in your unguarded moment, yours was stolen. You woke up with something that wasn’t yours, but you didn’t notice. You need to guard your dreams. You got married, and now you’re relaxed? You’ve stopped praying because you think everything is fine? My dear, your dream, your baby is only safe because someone hasn’t yet decided to come and take it. Or maybe they have, they are just waiting for the night. I’m not wishing anything bad on you, but I am warning you of what could happen if you sleep. You snooze, you actually lose.

You have a child, but you don’t pray over them? All you do is feed them and send them to school, yet you fail to teach them the Bible or how to pray? Do you realize there are satanists in schools? If you’re not vigilant, you will lose your dream.You got a job, and now you don’t tithe anymore because life seems good? You don’t realise how big the hands getting ready to snatch what is yours are. The problem with believers is that after the blessing, they slumber. They chill, take a rest, and stop being watchful. But that is the time to be most vigilant! Let’s continue with this topic and believe for justice. You must get your dream back!

Enjoy the rest of your day. Remember, guard your dreams.

Hey Family,

Welcome to a brand-new week! May this be the week you step boldly into pursuing that God-given dream. May it be the week you find the courage to become the best version of yourself. I am always praying for you, praying that you continue to yield to the leading of the Holy Spirit. My dear yielded people, know that you are loved deeply. Let’s make this week extraordinary!

Borrowed Dreams. Last week, we touched on the idea of borrowed dreams and how we sometimes adopt other people’s dreams and try to make them our own. Often, it is because we are afraid to face the reality of our own lives, so we copy and paste someone else’s path, hoping to achieve the same results they are getting. But in doing so, we forget one critical truth: we are all uniquely gifted, with distinct callings and purposes.

So ,

Whose dream have you borrowed?

Whose life are you living or trying to live?

Whose purpose are you following?

Whose life are you mimicking?

Borrowed dreams are like wearing a mask and you’ve hidden your true self behind a face that doesn’t belong to you. The good news is, you can take the mask off and reclaim your identity. However, the challenging part is that those who have only ever known the masked version of you may struggle to recognise the real you.We often borrow other people’s dreams when we don’t think much of ourselves. In truth, borrowed dreams are often a sign of low self-esteem.

So, what is low self-esteem?

Low self-esteem is a negative perception of oneself. It’s when you feel inadequate, unworthy, or incapable. It manifests in self-doubt, comparing yourself to others, and the inability to see your God-given value and purpose. It often leads to mimicking others because you don’t believe your own path is good enough. The antidote? Begin to see yourself through God’s eyes as fearfully and wonderfully made (Psalm 139:14), loved beyond measure, and equipped with unique gifts and a purpose that no one else can fulfil.

While some people borrow dreams by simply copying and pasting, others do so by assuming that what worked for someone else will automatically work for them.When I ventured into biblical counselling, many people approached me to learn how I did it. I was happy to share, but I always emphasized the importance of discerning whether they were truly called to it. Just because it seems like a good career doesn’t mean it’s s your God-ordained path.

This same mindset is why we see so many counterfeit churches today. Someone observes a successful ministry, like that of Apostle Felix, and assumes, that if he can do it, so can I.They forget that God’s s call is not a one-size-fits-all approach.Think about it: how many faces are there on earth? Can you use my passport to travel? Of course not. If you try, you will be arrested for impersonation and identity theft. Similarly, when you attempt to live someone else’s s life or purpose, you are stepping out of alignment with your own identity and calling.

It’s crucial to take time to discover what you can and cannot do. Knowing your strengths, gifts, and limitations is a vital guide to understanding your God-given purpose. Only then can you walk authentically and confidently in the path prepared just for you. You can’t be everything. It means you have failed to be one thing, which is yourself.
In families, it’s not uncommon for people to try to impose their dreams on you. For example, if an uncle wanted to be a pilot but didn’t t succeed, he might insist, “Go and become a pilot.” But have they checked that dream with God? Likely not. Instead, they’re handing you their unfulfilled dream, hoping to live it out through you.

While advice and career guidance can be helpful, the most important step is seeking God’s direction for your life. Only He knows the plans He has for you (Jeremiah 29:11) and the unique purpose He created you to fulfil. So, let me ask you: do you have a dream? Your own dreamnot a copy, paste, or photocopy of someone else’s aspirations. Not something you borrowed because you don’t believe in yourself.

If not, take the time to identify it today. Seek God’s guidance and trust Him to reveal the vision He has for you. You were created for a purpose, and your own dreams are rooted in His plan – is waiting to be discovered.

Tomorrow we will discuss how people borrow your dream without you knowing. For now, take the mask off and return the borrowed dream.

It also isn’t always ugly either.

Happy Friday my Yielded people! I am so grateful to the Lord today because I am healed! I had quite a week but God has healed me and restored my health.

How’re you?

How’s your heart? How’s your mind? I know you just read through quickly but pause for a moment and answer the questions. How’s life lately? You know, sometimes we avoid answering because we hate confrontation but it is necessary to come face to face with these things so that we can find a way forward.

I’ve realised that many of us have never been truly validated in how we feel, and because of that, we tend to shy away from expressing our emotions. Maybe no one ever said to you, “I’m proud of you,” or “You’ve done well.” Perhaps you’ve never heard the words “I love you” spoken genuinely, with no strings attached. As a result, your natural response to such words might be,

I’m sure you don’t really mean that.”

We’ve carried this mentality for the 20-plus years we’ve lived—or however old you are—and because it’s been with us for so long, we start to believe it’s right. But the length of time spent believing something wrong doesn’t make it right. Being abused for 5 years doesn’t make abuse a good thing. In the same way, you can’t hold on to a mindset of negativity forever because guess what? It can be changed. Mindsets can shift, but only if you’re willing to let them.

Anyway, it’s Reflection Friday, and I’ve got an exercise I want us to do together. But before we dive into that, I need a quick favor. Help me out by sharing my counseling links with your friends! Tell them, “Hey, no need to commit suicide, put the rat poison away. It’s called rat poison because it’s for rats and you’re not one. I know a Christian counsellor.” Seriously though, let them know they can find hope and healing.

Here’s the link below—share it like you’re spreading gossip (the good kind)! Oh, and kindly remind them to read the service info carefully before booking. Let’s save lives , one session at a time!

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Here’s today’s exercise. Remember, this is entirely for YOU. Choosing not to do it is also your decision. But sometimes, you are the best person to speak to yourself. Take some time and complete this exercise with your whole heart.

“May the Lord smile on you and be gracious to you.”
‭‭Numbers‬ ‭6‬:‭25‬ ‭NLT‬‬

Hey family!

I trust we’re all doing well! I’m resting, lol—I knew I needed to because my body was doing the most. I’ve learned it’s foolish not to rest because even God Himself rested. Who sets a better standard than God? Sleep when you need to. Put away that laptop; you don’t need it at 3 a.m. Don’t harm your body in the name of “I’m a hard worker.” Yesterday, my best friend said, “Your body is a temple, and you need it for territorial influence.”

While the concept of work is of God, since creation, Adam was created and given an assignment to tend to (work on) the garden, rest is also very important. Toil is work under a curse and I believe many of us are toiling and we think it’s wise to do so. “I have to, I have bills to pay.” Yes, but you need your body to operate on earth. Spirits don’t go to work at FNB or wherever you work. Once you die, you’re illegal on earth. Even if you’re a soul winner, even if you’re a pastor, if your body is overworked it’ll be overwhelmed and it’ll eventually report it to you and if you ignore it, it will leave the scene. Your body can abandon you.

BTW, this blog is not for those who rest more than they work. Your body is also begging you to get busy with studies or some work. I’m addressing those who don’t even take a few mins to sleep because they want to be busy bodies. Please get it from me on this very lovely Thursday or you will learn the hard way. What happened to me these past couple of days ehnn? I kept telling myself “I will do better.” Today I’m soooo tempted to just do 3 things that I know will take up most of my day BUT guess what, I’m chilling. I’m laying down , reading my bible because my dhiyeeee, I can’t keeee myself.

This is a good time to meditate on your dreams. What have l done since the year begun? What are my next steps? Start dreaming again. Think of how far you wanna go, design your company in your head, sometimes fantasising triggers the creative part of our minds . It doesn’t cost anything to think. That’s all I’m doing today. Studying the word and thinking. Everything else? No. Wisdom says I can do all things but I can’t do all of them in one day. Work well under pressure but if it’s like that daily? You’re slaving away. Rome wasn’t built in a day.

Here’s a book you can read today ;