“So listen to me, you young men. You’d better take my words seriously! Control your sexual urges and guard your hearts against lust. Don’t let your passions get out of hand and don’t lock your eyes onto a beautiful woman. Why would you want to even get close to temptation and seduction, to have an affair with her? She has pierced the souls of multitudes of men— many mighty ones have fallen and have been brought down by her.”
Proverbs 7:24-26 TPT
A significant number of statistics highlight the extent to which people consume sexual content daily from children to adults. A child who understands how to navigate the internet can easily fall prey to explicit videos and images. Teenagers are drowning in pornography like stones sinking into deep waters. Adults, on the other hand, can take their cravings further by acting them out. And while children may not have the opportunity to engage in sexual encounters, adults often can. Even within the church, many people are battling these issues in silence. The question then becomes. How do we address this problem effectively?
By God’s grace, several people have opened up to me about this struggle, and I can tell you many of them are exhausted. I often hear, “I’ve tried everything… Are you sure people can actually live a sexually pure life?”
My answer is simple: Yes, it is absolutely possible.
The world will insist that sexual purity is unrealistic or unattainable. I recently came across an article where a lady claimed she challenged herself to masturbate daily “for scientific discovery.” But we know that what she engaged in was not scientific exploration it was a deeply spiritual activity. She just wasn’t aware and that’s how the devil likes it, you not knowing the effects of what you’re doing. And she didn’t just discover “science”; she opened the door to spiritual darkness. I believe there is a reason I am focusing on this topic this week. Someone needs help, and they will receive it but through knowledge.
According to the book of Proverbs, sexual desire can be controlled that is what Scripture calls self-control. Why is this important? Because when you allow your desires to rule you, you begin digging an early grave for yourself. Many lives have been destroyed simply because people connected themselves to the wrong individuals.
The world has become so spiritually distorted and messsssed up that people don’t even realise they are lying with serpents entering dangerous, demonic, or soul-draining bonds without knowing it. That is why Proverbs warns us clearly, “Do not let your passions run wild. If you do, your soul will be pierced.”
Even the mighty have fallen in this area. The text reminds us not to say, “I am strong; I can never fall.” King David, a man after God’s own heart, a warrior, a leader, anointed and chosen , still fell. If such a man could be brought down by unrestrained desire, then none of us are automatically exempt. We must remain alert, disciplined, and submitted to the Spirit.
I’ve heard many people say they are “celibate,” yet they still engage in masturbation. But listen family, there is no Scripture that calls us to celibacy. None. Why? Because celibacy, as a concept, allows loopholes. It creates space for exceptions. It can make you believe you are fine as long as you’re not engaging with another person and that, right there, is the enemy’s strategy. Scripture does not command us to be celibate; it commands us to be holy.
It calls us to stay away from all forms of sexual impurity whether involving another person or not. So yes, here is the answer to a question you didn’t ask lol, you are not called to celibacy; you are called to holiness. Solomon warns us not even to go near the paths of seduction and temptation. That is where many people stumble. They rely on their own strength , the same strength that has failed them repeatedly. If your strength has not kept you pure all year, then why are you still refusing to set boundaries?
Holiness requires intentionality. It requires distance from triggers, not confidence in broken self-discipline. The issue is not desire alone it is the refusal to guard yourself. So just as a driver must control the steering wheel, you must control your desires. You would never allow a car to move without steering, because the steering determines the direction of the vehicle. If you turn it toward Alberton, that’s exactly where you will end up. If you fail to control it, you risk an accident and those accidents are the very things many of us keep repenting for. The same thing you’re sorry for on Monday , I’m telling you for free, you will be sorry for it again on Friday IF you don’t practise self control.
But I am saying to you, there is a way out, and it begins with the desire to discipline yourself. Proverbs warns us not to let our passions get out of hand. If you do, you will fall. Your “steering” must be directed toward holiness. If not, you will eventually collide with something destructive and you never know whether there will be anyone available to help you recover, or whether you’ll remain stuck there for a long time. Of which many are stuck in something they started at 18. It’s been yearsssss, that’s what the devil wants!
I’m using this metaphor so you can understand that lack of control leads to danger. If you ignore boundaries, you’ll drive through the red lights and the “red robot” is the Holy Spirit saying, Stop right there. But if things get too out of hand, you may not even hear His warning anymore. You’ll drive straight into a ditch, and the truth is, ditches are lonely places. Just like many of you are struggling quietly with no one to talk to. You don’t have to tell me. I’m simply giving you a way out. If this applies to you, take it and use it.
Today I came to tell you to get your hands back on the steering wheel. If you truly listen to everything I will share here, you will come out of this. But you must read to understand not just to add yourself to my reader statistics. I don’t want numbers; I want transformation. I want you to gain the knowledge that empowers real change. We are journeying through the book of Proverbs, and we will stay here for a while, so invite someone who needs this.
Remember what Apostle Paul says: “Flee from every appearance of evil.” So take this step with me today, go and delete that website, block it completely. Something in you will whisper, “Just one last time.” NO! The last time was already the last time. Are you serious about change or not? I’m not here to negotiate with you about deleting it , I am telling you to. Your life, your purity, your destiny are on the line. I cannot afford to soften the tone. Sometimes we need to hear the truth as hard as it is.
See you tomorrow.
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One reply on “Control your sexual desires”
Absolutely love how you unpacked holiness and teaching us about celibacy, as someone who’s been trying to be in the journey of holiness, this has provided clarity and guidance to set boundaries and not succumb to any loopholes. Thank you for this