How to stop masturbating 3

If I told you to delete all the pornographic files on your phone, clear your browsing history, block certain websites, and gave you a list of things to do today to break the habit, we both know that alone probably wouldn’t work. You may have done those things many times before, only to find yourself downloading or searching for the same content again. I’ve come to realise that the way into addiction is often easy, but the way out is hard. The entrance is usually wide open, but freedom requires intentional effort.

Simply deleting files or avoiding certain content often deals with the surface, not the root. Roots are what keep things alive, whether good or bad, and if you truly want lasting freedom, you have to be willing to dig deeper. That takes honesty, patience, and hard work. As a Christian counsellor, I believe one of the strongest places to begin is with prayer and fasting. You have to deal with it spiritually and also do the practical steps. It’s pointless to just delete a video only to download it again in less than 2hours.

Many people who are bound and struggling to find freedom face two major problems, ignorance and spiritual laziness. Ignorance says, “Don’t read,” or “Don’t watch videos about how to be free.” A person can spend hours watching Netflix, scrolling on social media, or consuming all kinds of content, yet never pick up a single book that addresses the very struggle they’re facing, not even the Bible. Some people have never read any scripture to help them with this. You’ll do almost anything except intentionally focus on what can help bring healing.

Ignorance also tells you that the problem will eventually disappear on its own. My love, it won’t. If nothing changes, nothing changes. Spiritual laziness sounds different. It says, “I’ll pray about it later,”but your has become two years. “I’ll fast about it one day,” but that day is probably gonna be at the day of judgement. If you can set time aside to fast for a job, a breakthrough, or an opportunity, why not also fast for your freedom? We often say, “Pray for me,” and there’s nothing wrong with asking others to pray. But what if they forget? Why not pray for yourself first, and then invite others to stand with you in prayer?

In Matthew 17:19–21, after the disciples failed to cast out a demon, they asked Jesus privately, “Why couldn’t we drive it out?” Jesus explained that “this kind does not go out except by prayer and fasting.” Some battles are too heavy to fight them in the flesh. There is a kind of battle. A kind of spirits. Those ones require another level of sacrifice. They require spiritual discipline. There are bondages that will not break until you fast and pray prayer. Please use this strategy. It works.

Because there are many strategies I would like to share with you, and I’ll be writing about a different topic next week, I’ll leave you with a practical list of things you can start doing today. First, consider having an accountability partner. Walking this journey alone is difficult, and having someone to check in on you can make a real difference. Unfortunately, I cannot personally be an accountability partner at the moment outside of a counselling relationship. Choose someone who has integrity not a gossip who will tell the nations lol

Also, read books that address this struggle. If you’d like recommendations, you’re welcome to email me and I’ll gladly suggest a few. Watch sermons on YouTube that teach about purity, freedom, and renewing the mind. Begin reading your Bible systematically, not occasionally. As you fill your mind with God’s Word, you leave less room for thoughts that feed lust. Scripture renews the mind. Keep away from Mills & Boon novels and all those books you like that narrate sexual sin.

Another important step is to stop isolating yourself. Sexual sin often thrives in secrecy and isolation. People don’t usually masturbate in the middle of a busy street, except ai I dunno, they are crazy. They go to private rooms and hidden places. The same is often true of fornication and adultery they do it in secrecy. In hiding. If you notice the temptation beginning while you’re alone, don’t stay there hoping it will pass. Get up immediately. Go where other people are. Take a walk. Sit in the living room. Visit a friend. Call someone even a video call if necessary.

Change your environment before the temptation grows stronger. There are many practical ways to protect yourself, and sometimes the simplest decision to leave the room. Joseph left that lady. He ran. If he stayed there, he’d have ended up changing his mind Athi “Okay okay just one time! It must never happen again.” That one time would’ve ended up being a daily thing. You have to stop the temptation before it becomes an action.

Please also stop sexting. Those conversations that begin with, “If you were here…” or “What are you wearing?” are not as innocent as they “seem.” Some Christian couples are so relieved that they are not fornicating, yet they spend hours sexting and stirring up sexual desire in one another. My brother, my sister… it’s still leading you into sin. The Bible says, 2 Timothy 2:22, “Flee also youthful lusts.” It doesn’t say negotiate with them. It says flee. Run.

“You have cute lips ?” My sister… commot. 😂 You know that the man of God will start feeling feelinnnzz. Before you know it, “I can’t wait for our wedding night” turns into a detailed discussion of everything you plan to do on that night. At that point, your body has already joined the conversation, it’s participating with. Then both of you end up masturbating while proudly telling yourselves, “At least we’re keeping ourselves pure.” No, you’re simply feeding the same fire from a different angle.

Please dress wisely during your video calls too. If you’re courting, don’t be on video calls with cleavage on full display while the brother is sitting there shirtless, saying he’s “just feeling hot.” Hot indeed. 😂 Don’t unnecessarily tempt each other. You already know what attracts the other person. You are both unmarried, the call lasts three hours in very inappropriate dressing , and now everyone is wondering why temptation suddenly appeared. It didn’t suddenly appear, you invited it in. Infact you video called it.

Protect your eyes as well. The eye is a gate into the soul. Sometimes one careless glance at a sisters bum bum can stay in your mind far longer than you expected, one full month you’re still thinking of her. Guard what you watch, what you scroll through, and what you stare at. If you know something awakens lust in you, don’t entertain it. Protect your heart by protecting your eyes. Keep your courtship pure. Be each other’s keeper, not each other’s stumbling block. God honours purity, and your future marriage will benefit from the boundaries you choose today.

Let me stop here for today so that you can teeenk about these things. We’ll meet again on Friday, by God’s grace, and wrap this series up. God bless you.

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