Making friends

Hey Yielded People!!

Before I dive into today’s blog, I just want to encourage you, work on your gift, your talent, and your skill. Whether you’re an artist, a musician, a writer, a nail tech, or anything in between, keep sharpening your craft. It may not seem like much right now, but if you stay consistent and committed, you’ll become so good at it that it will open doors you never imagined.

Your gift will bring you before kings, but to be honest kings don’t entertain mediocrity. David wasn’t just anointed; he was excellent. He didn’t just play the harp; he played it well. There might’ve been a whole group out there called The Harp Players, but David stood out because he carried both skill and anointing. Kings don’t make time for noise. So work on it, refine, improve, practice, and grow. God gave you something for a reason. Honour it with your effort. I keep writing here because I’m also working on mine, go on and work on yours. Let’s go!

The topic of friendship is actually quite sensitive because many have ended up in pits like Joseph, simply because they were surrounded by the wrong people. In a world full of relationships, cutting yourself off completely is not the solution. Saying “I don’t need anyone” may sound bold, but truthfully, it’s a disadvantage. We do need people whether we admit it or not. If you truly didn’t, you could survive in a zoo…but you wouldn’t last a day. You’d actually start calling or texting people before the end of the day. Friendship is of God. Did you know that God Himself has friends? Abraham was called a friend of God. Even me 😂 I’m actually serious.

We need friends for companionship, plain and simple. God designed us to do life with people. We need likeminded, equally yoked individuals who can challenge us, teach us, laugh with us, watch movies together, pick out outfits, reflect on the past, dream about the future, and most importantly, pray and dive into the Word with us. There’s so much joy and growth that can happen in genuine friendships.

The Bible says, “A man who has friends must himself be friendly” (Proverbs 18:24). That means there’s an energy, a posture, a vibe you carry that either attracts or repels people. Some people wonder why they’re always alone but if you’re cold, rude, and walking around with a constant poker face, what kind of atmosphere are you creating?Friendship isn’t just about wanting too many people around it’s also about being someone others want to be around. So before you say, “no one wants to be my friend,” ask yourself, “am I showing myself friendly?”

Some people are naturally friendly, and that’s beautiful but the danger lies in befriending everyone. That right there is a very serious issue. Not everyone is meant to be in your inner circle. Even God, who is love Himself, didn’t call everyone His friend. He specifically called Abraham His friend yet there were thousands of people alive at the time. Why? Because true friendship has parameters. Boundaries. Standards.

If we are not equally yoked, bye! Forget Shem! Friendship shouldn’t be based on vibes alone. You’ve got to know yourself first before you can choose good friends. If you don’t know who you are or what you stand for, you’ll end up attaching yourself to people who have no business being in your life.Be careful of making friends based on faces. “Oh, she’s so cute, I just love her vibe my new bestie!” Or, “He’s my male bestie,” but that male bestie is actually scouting you like prey and doesn’t even know Jesus. You’ll keep ending up in friendship heartbreaks because you didn’t ask God to choose your circle for you.

The whole street cannot be your friend, eh! You will cry. Ask God to help you meet the ones who truly fit those who align with your life’s purpose and vice versa. You don’t need a hundred friends. You just need a few good and GODLY ones. Yes, they may be good to you, but are they godly? Do they live by the Word or by the world? By whose standards do they move, Jesus or trending influencers? If it’s not Christ-centered, you have to ask yourself: is this connection helping or hindering me?

“Oh, but we’ve been friends for 15 years!” That means nothing if the friendship is unequally yoked. Longevity does not equal alignment. This is serious because your heart is involved. And from the heart flow the issues of life. Many of the choices you’ll make, you’ll first consult with friends. Imagine moving through life with people who secretly resent you, who backstab or mislead you… and you’re busy celebrating them, not knowing they’re carrying knives behind their backs. Btw, sometimes YOU are the bad friend. ☺️

Pray. Ask God to handpick your friends. You need people but you need God-sent people. Friends who build, sharpen, protect, pray with you, and keep you rooted in truth. Choose wisely. There’s so much I wanna say but let’s continue tomorrow. Remember what I told you yesterday, don’t take unnecessary rest or naps, get to work!

Sharp! 🩷

I will obviously post my mom today 😂