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Naming your child 🤱🏽

My favourite people! God bless you. Have you ever met someone with a really funny or weird name? Then you come across someone else with a unique name. Some have biblical names and some have “Zimbabwean” names. Thank God my parents didn’t try to be funny when naming me.

I once heard of a man called Promotion. I mean, yes being promoted is a good thing, but should that really be your name? In my village, there was someone named Builder. Great concept, I suppose maybe they hoped he would build the family but as a name? I don’t think so. But at the end of the day, we can’t blame the child. Why? Because it’s the parents who name the child.

We often laugh at Zimbabwean names, but some American names also don’t pass the mark. Someone might name their child East, East of what, exactly? Then there are names like Blue or Pink. Sometimes it feels like a party of random words, and when you try to make literal sense of them, there’s just… nothing there. Again, parents name the child. I know someone called Sikhathele , it means “we are tired.” And another named Senzeni, meaning “what have we done?” Now imagine growing up with names like that. It’s no surprise some of these kids end up getting bullied in school. You will understand in a moment why I’m saying all this. I’m not trying to be funny at all.

When Mary became pregnant, she was given a name for the child. When Elizabeth conceived, both she and Zechariah were also given a specific name for their son. God didn’t leave it up to them even though I’m sure there were many beautiful names they might have chosen on their own. So why did God insist on naming them? Because a name is not just a label , its identity. And beyond that, it carries deep spiritual significance. That’s why, when you’re birthing a vision, a calling, or a purpose, you need to ask God what He wants it to be called. He already has a name for it. Don’t just name it based on your feelings or circumstances ask Him. Because the name matters.

And He was given a name above every other name. That means there’s also a name suitable for your church, your ministry, your vision. You can’t just wake up and decide to name your church some funky name. My apostle always jokes saying things “Sibongile Flying to Heaven Ministries.” It sounds funny, but you will be shocked some names people claim God gave them. Be careful. Be careful not to birth a God-given vision and then name it in the flesh. I want to share something with you that happened to me a while ago…

In a dream, I encountered a spirit. We had such a fierce fight. At one point, I asked, “Why are you fighting me?” The spirit responded, “Arimaka, I must destroy you.” I was confused who is Arimaka? My name is Vanessa. But the spirit repeated it, three times: “Arimaka… Arimaka… Arimaka.” Then she said, “You don’t even know who you’re called in the spirit.” And as I started to gain victory over her in the dream, all she could say was, “Arima… Arima….” The meaning of the name is devoted one.

The moment I woke up, the first thing I did was Google the meaning of that name. And in that moment, I discovered something profound: everyone has a spiritual name. Some people are called poverty. Some are called delay. Some are called wealth. Some are called favour.

Why did Jacob need a name change? Why did God change Abram to Abraham? Sarai to Sarah? What’s the big deal? Because names have spiritual implications. As you birth that vision ask God, “What is the name?” As you write that book, ask Him, “What should the title be?” As you raise your children name them wisely. Don’t go and carry demonic spirits into your home.

Every name is an identity. It will either attract things or repel them. will either open doors or close them. It matters what you name your child. It matters what you name your vision. It matters what name you carry in the spirit.

“But immediately, he drew his hand back, and out came his brother; and she said, “Look how you have broken out of the womb!” So, he was named Perez, the one who breaks through.”
‭‭Genesis‬ ‭38‬:‭29‬ ‭TPT‬‬

See you tomorrow. ❤️

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Giving birth 🤱🏽

Sending you holy hugs!❤️❤️❤️

I just opened this blog after two weeks away, and I couldn’t help but smile. I truly missed it, missed writing, missed reflecting, and even missed simply browsing through. We all have something we’re passionate about, something that fuels us from the inside out. For me, writing is more than just a passion, it’s part of my purpose . People often ask me, “What inspired you to write this?”

My answer is: God.

Every gift is meant to produce a harvest. Every talent, every skill should yield fruit should change lives, beginning with your own. That’s what this space is about: impact, inspiration, and living a yielded life.

Welcome to Yielded Blogs.

I don’t know how many of you attended the Ownership Conference whether on-site or online but let me just say this: it was life-changing. One of the best conferences I’ve ever experienced in my entire life. Can we take a moment to acknowledge the impact the men of God had on us? Now, pause and imagine for a second… what if they had never discovered their purpose? What if they had ignored the call, silenced the gift, or walked away from the process?

More than 10,000 people attended that conference. That’s more than 10,000 destinies that could have been disadvantaged if those men had not aligned with God’s will. That’s how serious this is. That’s how urgent purpose is. So again, I say to you: Discover purpose early. Let’s talk about giving birth. The men of God spoke to us powerfully about travailing, the painful, intense, often lonely process of pushing through in prayer, in obedience, in surrender. But here’s a question. When you finally give birth… then what?

So, I’ve never given birth naturally, yet. I will soon… when I get married, of course, soon 😊 But this I know for sure: the journey doesn’t end with giving birth. If anything, that’s where the real journey begins. Whatever you give birth to becomes 100% your responsibility. Normal mothers don’t give birth and then walk away. They don’t leave their newborns at the hospital and expect doctors to raise them. ( l said normal ones. Not those who throw babies in rivers or dustbins, God help them.)

When a woman gives birth, the baby is immediately placed on her chest. Why? To connect. It’s a sacred moment, an exchange of love, identity, and responsibility. It’s the same in the spirit. You must give birth to something that’s connected to your spirit. But oh… how I’ve seen people walk away from their own vision . They start something they swore “God told me to do this” and a few months in, they dump it. Then they say, “God told me to leave it.”

God? Really?

Does God start things randomly, impulsively, just for fun? No, He is intentional. So if you travailed, if you pushed through to bring something into existence, why would you walk away from it the moment things get tough? Yes, you birthed a good marriage but now there’s conflict, and suddenly you’re ready to turn your back on your spouse and children?

Did you not travail for this? Here’s the problem: People give birth and forget the pain of travail. Today, I just wanted to show up and say this to you:

👉🏽 When you give birth, connect with your child.

👉🏽 Love the child.

👉🏽 Let it become part of your life.

Even if the baby cries… he’s still yours. Even if the vision struggles… it’s still yours. Even if the journey gets heavy… stay connected. Because in the day of adversity, when pressure hits, it’s your connection that will keep you from jumping ship. I do some work at an orphanage, and let me tell you, some of those kids have parents who are alive and well, living comfortably. But they gave birth and forgot their children.

God is counting on you. He entrusted you with something. Be responsible for what you’ve birthed. It does not end at just travailing and giving birth.

I love you.

See you tomorrow. 💛

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🌺Tabitha

Hello family! 🌸 First of all, I’d like to thank everyone who took the time to check up on me. I’m doing well now praise the Lord! 🙌 Thank you for all your love, care, and prayers.

We’re continuing with our study on women in Scripture, and very soon I’ll be creating a study plan in PDF format which I’ll upload on my website. It will be a resource to help you study deeper into the Word and grow in knowledge and understanding. Today, we’re looking at Tabitha, also known as Dorcas. And if you’re thinking, “Who’s that?” well, you’re just about to find out! 😉

“There was a believer in Joppa named Tabitha (which in Greek is Dorcas). She was always doing kind things for others and helping the poor.”

Acts of the Apostles‬ ‭9‬:‭36‬ ‭NLT‬‬

In the book of Acts, we find the story of Tabitha (Dorcas). It’s such a short story, yet so rich in meaning. The very first things we learn about her are her name and her impact. She wasn’t just Tabitha by name , she was Tabitha, known for kindness. She was Tabitha, known for helping the poor.

That makes me pause and ask: What am I known for? What are you known for? Apart from where you work or the title you hold, is there a testimony of your character? Think about it: when people talk about you, the mention of your name carries weight. They describe your attitude, your heart, and the way you made them feel.

Because let’s be honest, at funerals, people lie. They say nice things to comfort the family, but often they’re not the truth. Sometimes all they can mention is where the person was employed: “Oh, James worked at Absa.” But what kind of person was he? When they see that he wasn’t a good person they start to tell people about a James that is totally different from the one everyone knew.

With Tabitha it was different. She was remembered for her impact on the community. She was not ignorant of people’s struggles she cared enough to step in. She used what she had to help those around her. How many situations could you have solved, but didn’t? How many people could you have helped, but instead said, “Someone else will do it. I’m not the only person in the world!” How many lives could’ve been lighter with you in the picture, but instead, they remained heavy? And when they cried out to God, God was like , “But l put Vanessa in your life for that reason.”

While we’re still on this, let me highlight something important. One-sided kindness is the reason why many kind people eventually stop. Some people only know how to take, and they never reciprocate. As we study the life of Tabitha, you’ll realise that reciprocated kindness matters. All the people who consistently show up for you may eventually grow tired if you’ve never even taken time to do something in return.

My mom is often a victim of this. She will go all out for people, but on the other side, there’s nothing just empty space. If you live like that, not remembering those who helped you, it’s only a matter of time before you find yourself living a very lonely life. Kindness doesn’t mean people should tolerate anything. If you cannot reciprocate it, you may never experience it again.

Ask yourself: What has been done for me? How can I show the same kindness to that person? How can I show my gratitude to God for all He has done for me? Think about these things. Don’t wear people out of their kindness toward you. Instead, cultivate a principle of give and take, take and give. That’s the heart of true community.

The very next verse tells us that this wonderful woman, Tabitha, became ill and sadly, it ended in death. Her body was washed, prepared for burial, and laid in an upper room. And you may ask, “But why would that happen to such a kind person?” Maybe you thought only wicked people end up in hospital. But that’s not how life works. At some point, we will all face death unless, of course, we rapture on the 24th! 😂 All the best with that, my darling.

But listen: Tabitha, with all her goodness and generosity, still got sick. I want to pull us out of the entitlement mentality where we throw tantrums at God saying, “But I’m a good person, why am I going through this?” Don’t forget Jesus was the best person who ever lived, yet He also suffered.

Being good does not exempt us from the troubles of life. I know many good people who are in pain right now. Some have died. Some can’t even put food on the table. Some don’t know how they’ll make it to the end of this year. And yet, they are kind, selfless, and loving. You may say, “But I’m a Christian!” Yes even so, life can still get hard. And often we compare: “Why me? Why not my aunt? She’s not nice, yet she’s living her best life.” But again, life doesn’t always work that way.

Our good deeds are precious, and they matter, but they don’t guarantee a trouble-free journey. Tabitha was kind, yet she still fell sick. And I’m sure people prayed, pleaded, and reminded God of all her kindness but still, she died. Sometimes, what happens to the wicked also happens to the good. But that doesn’t mean we should stop doing good.

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Have a blessed day further and above all, be kind. 🌸

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Reflection Friday

Have you ever woken up just not feeling well? That’s me today. My whole body aches, and like Samson I thought, “I’ll just get up and shake myself as usual.” But it didn’t go as planned. Please keep me in your prayers, pray for me as often as you can. I need them more than you may think. I am planning something different with our Special Edition Thursdays, so let me cook.

Today, I’d like us to pause and reflect on fruitfulness. What does it really look like? How fruitful are you right now, and how fruitful do you desire to be?

I’ve realized that the very first step to true fruitfulness is abiding in Christ. He said, “Those who abide in Me shall bear much fruit.” That made me stop and ask myself: Am I truly abiding? What fruits can I point to in my life? What impact am I having in my family, in the lives of those around me? When people look at me, do they see fruitfulness so evident that they cannot help but see Christ through me?

How fruitful have you been this week?

What did you achieve? Remember, we are called to be fruitful and to multiply. That talent, that skill, that gift in your hands, it was never meant to remain hidden. It’s meant to bring impact to your generation.

You have to occupy the space God has given you and give it your very best. No one supports a vision you yourself are not willing to defend. So let me ask you: What’s your vision? You can’t expect people to support something you haven’t even defined. Impact is the result of fruitfulness it’s what you’ve done with what God entrusted to you. Unless you want to remain a champion only in your own house, you must strive to be fruitful. Do you have a business? Start advertising. Start thinking empire. Start using that gift.

Sometimes fruitfulness is not about money. It’s about who you’ve blessed with what you carry. Maybe being fruitful for you looks like going into communities and teaching for free. If you can do hair, teach someone less privileged. If you do makeup, find someone in your neighborhood who is unemployed and willing to learn. It won’t kill you to do it for free ; it will create impact, and your legacy begins right there.

Selah.

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Worship Wednesday

Praise the Lord!

This morning while I was still asleep, a sermon was playing in the background. As I woke up to check the date, I clearly heard the words: “You don’t praise like you used to.” I knew that was God speaking.

I remembered how I used to lock myself in my room almost every day, just to dance and praise Him. Now, I only do it once or twice a week. And it struck me, God really delights in our praise! Those dancing moves that may not look good to anyone else, He rejoices over them. Those shouts of joy, lifted hands, and clapping, they all matter to Him. Don’t forget how the walls of Jericho fell, not through battle, but through a shout of praise. That must’ve had a significance in the spirit!

So today I repent. I ask myself and I ask you how is your praise and worship? Is it still the same as it once was? God desires us to remain authentic and consistent in our praise. Shall we wrap up this week’s topic… before we put on our dancing shoes? 💃🙌

“Then Jesus stood up again and said to the woman, “Where are your accusers? Didn’t even one of them condemn you?” “No, Lord,” she said. And Jesus said, “Neither do I. Go and sin no more.” ‬‬

John‬ ‭8‬:‭10‬-‭11‬ ‭NLT‬‬

God knows exactly how to handle the pressures we face in this world, the noise, the condemnation, the abuse, the mess we sometimes find ourselves in (whether we caused it or not). And here’s the good news: He knows how to pull us out. That alone is a reason to praise Him! To remember: I could have died, I could have lost my mind, I could have gone through so much… BUT GOD STEPPED IN!

That’s the phrase right there. But God stepped in.

When I remember what the Lord has done, I can boldly declare: “I will never go back anymore.” Shall we use that song to worship today? 🎶 I don’t know exactly what He saved you from, but I know this. He didn’t just save me from the fangs of Satan. He saved me from myself. I was a danger to my own life, but He showed me the safer, better way of living. Where Are Your Accusers?

Where is the heartbreak? Where is the pain? Where is the sickness? Where are the very things that once looked like they would finish you?Someone may say, “But I still see the issue in my life.” Yet I tell you this the issue has brought you to Jesus. And who is this Jesus? He is Lord over all.

He still says:

  • Go and sin no more.
  • Go and worry no more.
  • Go and cry no more.
  • Go and fear no more.

As you go, go in praise because everything that was meant to end you has been turned around! Remember Joseph’s words to his brothers: “You meant it for evil, but God meant it for good.” (Genesis 50:20) They had no idea that God could flip the entire plot! Think about the woman caught in adultery what a turnaround she experienced. From a near-death moment to a brand-new life! And maybe I wasn’t that woman, but I had my own mess too. Yet God saved me. Like the prodigal son, He brought me back home, clothed me in beautiful garments, and said: “Let’s celebrate, my daughter has come back!”

So today, let us praise and worship remembering where we’ve come from and how far God has brought us. He is WORTHY! 🙌🔥

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