Can God show you your spouse?🤔

Good morning, people of God! Happy Wednesday! I trust we’re all doing well and surviving the week by the grace of God… and maybe a little bit of coffee too. I’m slowly becoming the little ol’tea lady because what in the five cups is thissssss?

Sooooo today, I want us to have a very interesting conversation because whew, I’ve been hearing people talk about this topic a lot lately. Not necessarily “on the streets” but in conversations here and there, and honestly… it’s a discussion worth having. Can God show you your spouse? And if He does… what exactly are you supposed to do after that? Because some of us hear one “hello” and suddenly we are planning wedding colours by Thursday. Abegiiii 😭

Like… if God shows you someone, do you approach them immediately? Do you start praying from a distance? Do you wait? Do you tell them? Do you act mysterious? Or do you pretend you never heard anything because you’re scared of embarrassment? And also… how do you know it’s actually God and not just because the person is fine and can quote Jeremiah 29:11 with confidence? This is my personal judgement on this issue, you are free to debate it.

Okay, so personally, I do believe that God can show you your spouse. At the same time, I don’t necessarily believe in the whole “one soulmate for one person” idea like there is only one human being on earth designed for you and if you miss them, it’s over. I would cry 6hrs straight because what do you mean l missed my soul mate?

I believe there can be multiple people who align with your journey, your values, your purpose, and the life God is calling you into. So yes, God can show you someone, one of the people who fits that purpose but that doesn’t mean you now have to date all of them in the name of “l want to see if we are a fit.” I think part of why I believe God can do that comes from the story of Adam and Eve. When Adam saw Eve, there was a knowing. He immediately recognised her as someone connected to him. Now, I’m not a man, but a lot of men say they just know when they meet a woman they want to build a life with. Like, “Yeah… this is my wife.” I think women can experience that sense of knowing too.

So can God reveal someone to you? Absolutely. I believe He can. Again, you’re free to argue. Why would God show me a location to stay in, a church to go to and not show me my spouse? I’d desperately need Him to because my eye don blur. But now here’s where things become tricky… because some people will say, “God showed me my husband,” or “God showed me my wife.” Okay. Beautiful. But what happens if that person does not like you? What if they don’t know you, don’t notice you, or don’t even see you in that way?

Let’s get deliverance today. Remember all I’m saying is from a place of LOVE. Thats the bandage for those who may bleed from this. So now we have two different scenarios here.

It’s one thing for you to believe God has shown you your spouse and the other person has the same conviction too. That’s a completely different situation. When both people are aligned, both are praying, both have peace, both are intentional, beautiful, I love it & l want that for all of us. At that point, it becomes something you both pursue. But it’s a totally different scenario when you believe God showed you someone… and the other person does not feel the same way at all.

I need us to understand something very important once again there is not just one person for you. Like I said before, there are many people who can align with your purpose, values, and journey. Even when Abraham’s servant went to look for a wife for Isaac, he did not say, “Lord, show me Rebekah specifically.” No. He prayed according to character, kindness, and alignment. He said, essentially, “The woman who does ABC… let her be the one.” Rebekah, through her character and nature, fit into that prayer. Realistically speaking, if another woman with the same qualities had come, she also could have fit the assignment.

So sometimes we become too mystical and forget that wisdom, character, willingness, and mutual choice matter too. I don’t want us to be naive & ignorant to some truths. Some people will say, “God told me that’s my husband” or “That’s my wife,” and then proceed to wait TEN YEARS for somebody who has shown absolutely no interest. No conversation. No confirmation. No pursuit. Nothing. Wake up. 😭 I’m actually setting an alarm for some of you. Wake up.

I once heard a story about a woman who believed a certain man was her husband. Eventually, the man got married to someone else and had children. And she was STILL waiting, saying, “No, God told me.”My sister. Are you secretly hoping the man divorces his wife? Leaves his children? Breaks his family apart just to come and fulfil your “word”? And do we genuinely think God would orchestrate confusion and destruction like that? At some point, we have to separate discernment from obsession.

I think if someone truly believes God showed them a person, the healthiest response is not obsession, force, or waiting forever. It’s peace. You pray, you use wisdom, you allow things to unfold naturally, and you also accept reality when reality speaks. It’s also very important for us to believe that if God truly showed us something, then He is fully capable of working it out. Obviously, there still has to be willingness, effort, and alignment on both sides, like I already said.

I really want to speak lovingly to people who have waited five years, seven years, even longer… still believing for someone who has clearly moved on, is engaged, is getting married, or has built a life elsewhere. Allow yourself to move on. Otherwise, you’ll eventually find yourself in a place where you broke your own heart by refusing to accept reality. “You know what the lepers said. shall we sit here until we die?” Please don’t sit emotionally attached to a fantasy until you die. This is exactly why I keep saying: kill the idea that there is only one person for you.

I’m not encouraging entertaining every option under the sun because that can also become dangerous and open doors to confusion. Sometimes what starts as “I think God showed me someone” slowly turns into unhealthy attachment. An attachment that becomes stubborn even when there’s advice, there’s evidence, there’s proof. You can literally SEE that this man is not pursuing you. You can SEE this woman does not see you that way but because you attached spirituality to it, you refuse to let go.

I’m gonna hug you tightly as I say this, God is not going to force someone to marry you because you’re a good person. God is not going to force someone to like you because you live a holy life. Sometimes I think we unconsciously fall into this mindset of “performance for blessings.” Like
“I’ve been fasting.”
“I’ve been praying.”
“I’ve been serving in church.”
“I’ve been pure.” And because of that, we expect God to reward us with a specific person but marriage is not a trophy for spiritual performance.

Now yes, there are situations where prayer changes things. Sometimes there really is spiritual warfare. Sometimes people do grow, heal, and become aligned. That can happen but if you have prayed, fasted, surrendered, and trusted God, you should also have peace knowing that if this person is not the one, God is still able to bring another..

For some people, friendship can easily create confusion. Especially friendships between men and women. You can become emotionally close, start talking every day, laughing, sharing deep things… and suddenly your mind starts creating wedding invitations. You even know who you won’t invite. Please invite me o. I’ve been writing to you going to 3 years now, I deserve a drumstick at your wedding.

Sometimes someone is kind to you and that kindness is not romantic interest. Christians are supposed to be kind. Some people are simply living by the fruit of the Spirit. Social media makes this even worse because now someone likes your stories three times and suddenly you’re on Pinterest , “show me rings.” 🤣🤣 your heartbreak is stewing.

Learn that not every emotional connection is romantic. Not every one who is your ideal spouse is your real spouse. Not every kind person is your spouse. Whew ..this conversation is getting interesting. We definitely need a part two tomorrow because wow. Gah gah gah. I still love you all okay? Make a cup of coffee and be soothed in Jesus Name!

Let me do altar call & win souls!

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