Can God show you your spouse 2 ..

Interestingly enough, yesterday’s topic had almost a hundred reads in just one day. I received so many messages from people on Instagram, from people on WhatsApp, and many also commented on the blog. I suppose maybe that topic really resonated with a lot of people, and many genuinely wanted answers concerning it. Let’s bring more balance to the conversation today and trust that God will help and guide us all, in Jesus’ name.

So, let’s get into it: Can God really show you a spouse?We said yes. God absolutely can. Throughout Scripture, we see God involved in relationships, marriages, and divine direction. God is not silent concerning the major areas of our lives, and marriage is one of them. I took some time to study people in the Bible who got married, whether by the leading of the Spirit or simply through the ordinary process of marriage because there are also people in Scripture who simply got married, you do know that Lot was married yes? But we hear nothing of his marriage being the leading of God although he was a righteous man..Selah

When the Bible speaks about Rebekah, it says that the servant prayed a very specific prayer “Lord, let the young woman who gives me water and also gives water to my camels be the one.” Many women were coming to the well. You will see many damsels and many handsomes. Eh. God has beautiful children I’m telling you. Guys this servant arrived at the well at the exact time the women were coming out to draw water. So even right time matters otherwise he could have missed her completely.

Timing my people. So we seek God’s guidance even in the journey itself, even in timing. The Bible says Rebekah fit into that prayer because she did exactly what the servant had prayed for. I wanted to encourage people that you can still make those kinds of prayers today. Obviously, we no longer go to wells where women draw water, but there are still places where men and women of God are found.

Something else is important here. The servant observed Rebekah to determine whether the Lord had truly answered his prayer. So yes, the timing aligned. Yes, the woman did what he prayed for but now he wanted confirmation. He wanted to observe carefully whether this woman truly matched what he had prayed for. There is also a role for confirmation and observation. You want to pay attention to how a person speaks, how they treat people, how they carry themselves, their character, their spirit, and the fruit of their life.

Another thing, people of God, is that this servant did not arrive at the well and start “networking” romantically with every woman there. Can God lead you to your spouse? Yes. Can there possibly be more than one person in the world you could be compatible with? Maybe. But personally? I really don’t believe in talking to everybody at the same time because what exactly is going on there? Are we finding a spouse or hosting Joyous Celebration auditions?

The servant spoke to ONE woman. Meanwhile, the Bible literally says many women were coming out to the well. Many! Meaning options existed. Fine women existed. Beautiful, lovely personalities, glowing skin everything was there. Fine babes everywhere. Good gents all around but he remained focused. He was a man on a mission. A specific mission. Abraham told him to find “a wife” for Isaac not a wife and a side chick because guess what? The many people you entertain as you date potentially become a door for adultery later. It’s fine if you don’t believe me.

Some of you have reached that well and suddenly developed spiritual confusion. While talking to Rebekah, your eyes are already on the next woman carrying water. “Hmm… but this one also fears the Lord.” Then another one passes, “Wow… even this one prays like this!” Women you too. You cannot be speaking to five people, ten people, twenty people at the same time and still expect clarity. Ah-ah. Relax. Focus. Foooocuss.

When they finally got to the home, the servant explained to the family exactly why he had come. So he didn’t “kidnap” her, or take her to Isaac before doing the right thing. Do things the right way. Stop cutting corners. There’s no scripture that speaks about sleeping over at each other’s houses but let me leave you alone.

Now the Bible says that when the servant began explaining to Rebekah’s family why he had come, he said something very interesting in Genesis 24. He basically says, “If the family refuses to let her come, then I am released from this oath.” Because yes, the Lord may lead you. Yes, you may have confirmations you even dreamt of your wedding. She gave you water. She gave the camels water. He said this and that. She’s from Abraham’s family. The timing aligned. Fine. But if the family says no or if the person says no then that is still their choice.

People of God, God has given human beings free will. Someone can genuinely say, “I actually do not like you.” And that is okay. Rebekah’s family could have refused completely, and the servant would not have forced them. Imagine him standing there shouting, “But can’t you SEE the confirmation?!” No. He understood that people still have a choice.

Some people become very scary with this topic. “God showed me you’re my wife.” Meanwhile the person is hiding behind church chairs after service trying to avoid you. She is literally running from you. You cannot force your prophetic dream onto somebody who genuinely does not want you. Leave room for the possibility that even if God led you toward someone, that person still has the ability to say yes or no.

Some people ask, “But then why would God lead me there?” Well, think about salvation. Christ already died for the world, but people still have the choice whether to receive Him or reject Him. God leads, God reveals, God gives direction but human beings still respond with their own will. Her family was like, “Can she stay ten more days?” Meanwhile Rebekah was already mentally packed and ready to go. Sis said, “Nope, I’m going.” Honestly, I understand her completely. If it were me, I’d probably say, “Please escort me to my husband immediately.” While they are discussing I’m already waiting with the camels outside. Anyway, jokes aside.

The beautiful thing is that everything was still done properly. The process was honourable. There was agreement. There was family involvement. There were gifts given. Lobola was basically entering the chat (my uncle loves lobola negotiations btw). Eh. It’s his favourite event I think. Please don’t start saying, “God led me to you, therefore I will not pay dowry.” Ah-ah. My brother in Christ, you will pay. God bless you, but you will pay.

So yes, God can absolutely lead you to your spouse. But like I said yesterday, I want us to bring balance. The person can say no. And the person can also say yes. Okay see you tomorrow as we wrap up. You will marry don’t worry darling lol. Place your hand on your chest and say, “l will marry and l will marry well.” Amen.

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